habits of being

Tips For a More Productive Session

1. Tidy up your desk/work area. Believe me, it’s so much easier to concentrate once your surroundings are clean and smell nice.

2. Wash your teeth and face before every study session. It will make you feel clean and more awake.

3. Keep a big bottle of water near you and stay hidrated throughout the whole session.

4. Set a few goals (not very many) to accomplish in your session. Do that in order to set a purpuse, but don’t be overoptimistic, it’s bettr to focus on your priorities.

5. Put on something that you feel comfortable in. Whatever it is, a onezie, pyjamas, tracksuit bottoms, anything that doesn’t bother you and helps you focus on work.

6. Take 20 minute breaks every one or two hours (depending on your stress level)

7. If you tend to play with/pull your hair, try to keep it up in a hairstyle that keeps it out of the way. Just figure out the best way to keep your hair out of your head (haha) for the longest time possible.

I hope this helps/helped you guys. Have a nice day!! ´・ᴗ・`

When something bothered me, I didn’t talk with anyone about it. I thought it over all by myself, came to a conclusion, and took action alone. Not that I really felt lonely. I thought that’s just the way things are. Human beings, in the final analysis, have to survive on their own.
—  Haruki Murakami, Sputnik Sweetheart
Your right to ship what you want doesn’t supersede someone else’s right to express their discomfort with your shipping habits.

Part of being a responsible member of fandom means understanding that people may have issue with your media consumption. Especially when your chosen ship is triggering to others. It doesn’t matter if it’s a coping mechanism; it doesn’t matter if you do your best to hammer whatever you think are the problematic elements out of it, people still have the right to express, on their personal blogs, how uncomfortable your ship makes them. 

You cannot shout down people expressing their discomfort with fandom trends as “spreading drama” or “encouraging hate.” You cannot uncritically advocate that people blindly and silently accept every fandom trend, trope, and ship without saying anything about. 

I’m not talking about sending hate to creators; not only is that useless, but it makes things more personal than necessary. But people have the right to express their discomfort with fictional pairings and fandom trends without every shipper responding with an essay as to why they’re being personally attacked. Responsibility is a two way street; yes, people have the responsibility to avoid content that upsets them, but shippers of problematic ships have a responsibility to not normalize a culture of blind acquiescence, or hound people for posting untagged opinions about your ship. They have a responsibility to understand that what they’re doing may make people uncomfortable and not throw a tantrum when someone points out their problematic ship is problematic. 

You cannot silence people who are triggered by your ship. 

You cannot create a culture where any impersonal dissent is immediately shouted down under the guise of “not spreading drama”. 

You cannot create a culture where people’s fictional pairings matter more than people’s right to express their discomfort with fictional pairings. 

Most importantly, you need to be okay with the fact that people are going to find your ship unsavory. Your right to ship what you want doesn’t supersede someone else’s right to express their discomfort with your shipping habits.

The tired joke “I knit so I don’t kill people” has lost its sting, but not the core of truth that made it funny. When total strangers notice my knitting, there’s a fifty percent chance they’ll say it’s pretty–but they haven’t got the patience to do it themselves. There’s a one hundred percent chance that I will reply that I knit constantly because I have no patience.
—  Franklin Habit

Oh this is nothing, just Seungkwan worshiping Hansol’s thigh 😆😆😆

I really love how VerKwan is so comfortable with this kind of skinship, and it’s so clear that it’s just so natural to them!!! In all honesty, I really think that Boo was actually absent mindedly caressing Hansol’s thigh and playing with his hand in here, like when you do something subconsciously out of HABIT (we all know that being touchy-feely has always been the true nature of VerKwan since fetus days), instead of doing it for a show or fan service 😆😍💜

Along The Boardwalk

Drabbles

Summary: They always said Kim Taehyung had a you-shaped hole in his heart.
Pairing: Taehyung | Reader
Genre: Fluff + light Smut, Skater Boy AU
Word Count: 12,819
Author’s Note: Inspired by those Taehyung left version concept photos and mainly sparked by a conversation I was having with @an-exotic-writer so naturally I drafted this as a token of my love and no I am definitely not writing this because talking to Missy certainly does not give me heart problems whatchu mean. I’m also tagging @kimvtae because we were screaming about the concept of a skater boy Tae together.

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You’ve always had a very peculiar habit of being drawn towards the things you couldn’t even imagine yourself doing—although you could argue that’s exactly why you found yourself naturally gravitating towards them in the first place. Unlike most people, who might have been taken by an envious desire to take on certain challenges and obstacles that were most likely out of their league, you found a natural peace chasing after something you couldn’t quite obtain yourself.

Maybe it was your own self-awareness or the fact that you never felt confident enough to branch out towards something that was so clearly on the opposite end of the spectrum from what you were normally use to. You’ve always just been content watching other people take on their passions while you remained on the sidelines with your own hopes and dreams and aspirations. It always excited you to see people participating in their interests—so much so that friends would always humor you that it was always the people rather than the activity they were indulging in that drew you in towards them.

That’s probably why you accepted your best friend’s invitation to leave your apartment for once and drive down to the pier, taking refuge across one of the many skateparks that planted themselves across the oceanfront, beyond the cool sand and ocean breeze of spring. Jeon Jungkook always reprimanded you for rarely having the time to come out and see him perform his new spins and flips, which is probably why he seems much more animated than usual at the prospect of finally getting to show off these new skills to you.

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I need some help.

I have a friend who is trying hard to learn and understand gender and sexuality outside the realm of being cis and straight.
She’s learning pretty fast, but the thing that she is having trouble grasping is the difference between bisexuality and pansexuality.
I can’t quite figure out how to explain it to her in a way she understands and I am wondering if someone can tell me how they would explain it and see if it makes more sense for her?

Reliable Sources

Komiði sæl og blessuð, vinir,

I simply can not emphasize this enough. I post a lot of information on my blog, and, if that tells any story, it is to say that I am not always correct. With that being said, I encourage community input. You should always challenge everything you are told; you should question the reality that is posed to you. 

Now, before I go too far astray, I spend hours on end making sure that my sources are reliable, and that I have considered various possibilities and perspectives. Despite this, however, I often receive refutation. I have no problem with this, at all

Yet, it troubles me when my lengthy posts, often with fifteen or more footnotes making use of five or more books written by various Ph.D. holding scholars, are refuted with no sources to back the refutal. Even worse, many of the ‘sources’ I see in these refutals are not reliable places for information (in other words, they do not cite their sources).

With the growth of the internet into the jötunn that is has become, I find it unfortunate that people continue to allow ‘bad’ information to circulate. I find it troublesome that hard work is refused simply because the reliable sources that have been used do not agree with the internet-hersay that this jötunn promotes. 

It is true that even my sources do not represent some ‘absolute truth’ on these subjects, but we must realize that, especially in a field like history, there is no such thing as an obtainable ‘absolute truth.’ I can be refuted - No, I must be refuted. This is about our habits moving forward. This is about how we do not know the difference between information and knowledge

You simply can not deny something on the basis of something you ‘heard’ on the internet. Where did that information come from? From what context does it stem? Who wrote this? What basis does this have? I ask myself these questions often. In fact, I often include a footnote to point out the ambiguity of a given claim or statement. 

Yes, it takes much more work and effort to make sure that a source in reliable. Yes, I know, it is a pain and chore. I do it every single time I make a post onto the internet. Yet, it is your responsibility. At the very least, know not to spread unreliable information and, perhaps more importantly, know how to recognize it. So what makes a source reliable? 

Three elements are the most important, although there are many that apply: authorship, publisher, and information used.


Authorship:

There are actually many, many books and articles that participate in the spreading of unreliable information. Many articles, especially those with click-bait titles, are simply fantasizing a small portion of historical information, romanticizing it for the sake of clicks and ratings. Their goals do not lie in educating people, but rather getting people interested and clicking.

To tell if an author is reliable, make sure that an article, for example, lists an author in the first place. There is actually a surprisingly large amount of articles circulating the internet without authors listed. Those are bad news.

Books, although they have been published, are not guaranteed to be reliable. In fact, there are many books published by authors not necessarily qualified to stand as an authority on a given subject. Always check the author. Look into their background and their credentials. Make sure a book on history is by a person who has professionally studied that history, or a closely related field.

Publisher:

Is the published a university press (i.e. University of California Press) or a popular press (i.e. Penguin)? I have used Penguin books, but the authors are also holders of at least one Ph.D. on a related subject. Jesse L. Byock, for example, earned his tenure before he began to publish in ‘popular presses.’ Plenty of professors publish here to engage with people that are not in academic circles. 

Yet, the reason the publisher is important is because a university press includes other scholars who check the academic credibility of a book before publishing it. A popular press, however, does not have this ‘security check.’ Essentially anyone can publish anything through a popular press.

Information used:

This may seem vague, but it is perhaps the most important. When I post my Viking History lessons, for example, I include footnotes and citations to primary (from or near the period) and secondary (by scholars with Ph.Ds) sources. I currently do not even have my B.A., however, I use my information very carefully. I am not the most reliable source, but I am also not a bad source to most standards.

The sources used by a given author are important because they are the foundation of their argument. If no information is cited, it is not a good source. If unreliable sources (.com, .org, click-bait article, a pin, a Facebook post, etc.) are used to formulate their claim, then that author is not reliable.

Reliable information is the same as reliable sources. The books used are by sound authors and the primary sources are provided by sound translators. Reliable sources include, but are not limited to:

  • Books by an author with a relevant Ph.D.
  • Books published by a university press
  • Articles falling under the same conditions as above
  • Primary sources translated by reliable authors
  • ‘.edu’ websites (although this must be used carefully)

All I can say, after having made this most much longer than anticipated, is that you must check the reliability of a source or claim before using it. It troubles me to see people continuing to spread information without any basis. I know that not everyone will use citations in the same way that I do, but I would like to see people make the effort to show where their information comes from. 

I will refuse to accept any refutal that is not backed by reliable information, and I refuse to acknowledge any argument made without a responsible foundation.

Challenge the information you read or hear, but challenge it with equally reliable information. Do not challenge someone’s hard work with some pin you came across on Pinterest that doesn’t tell you where that information even came from.

I hope that some of you will take these words into consideration.

Þakka ykkur fyrir.

someone asked me about you yesterday.
if we had talked. if i had heard from you. if we had been okay.
your name sounded so out of place as it settled. i had forgotten the feeling in my chest the mention of you gave me until it slapped me in the face. my throat tightened up as i told them the air between us has stayed still. still and quiet.

i check on you from time to time. just to settle my anxiety. i try not to make a habit out of it. being reminded of someone who was once so prominent in my life, that has now disappeared, is a feeling i try to avoid. seeing you exist without me, feeling myself exist without you, makes me question if i cross your mind half as much as you do to me.

i convince myself that i’ve been okay, that i’ve been acting the same way before you left, coping the same way. but in little moments, i find myself realizing ‘happy’ isn’t something i feel like i know anymore. i’ve been settled in this constant state of sadness for so damn long i couldn’t even tell someone what it’s like to feel content with your world. i would laugh in someone’s face if they asked me if i was happy.
i wish i knew.
i wish i knew.

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I have a very bad habit of not even being half-way thru a complex WIP and then starting ANOTHER illustration, ugh…

Most likely gonna do a couple more illustrations based on this SU AU, I wanna practice my landscapes and perspective drawing by designing the gem empire for this AU. Meanwhile wanted to draw a better version of Black and White’s outfits, especially White’s armor >:3c

First illustration is based off this song, second is a bust of the same character and third is a scene of my AU fic.

You know what I just realized?

I’m an introvert in real life and an extrovert online.