I love these #IAmNotACostume posts around Halloween but sadly so many of them do not include us.
We are Romani, not “gypsies”, and NOT A COSTUME!!

Besides the obvious appropriation issue here, the term “gypsy” itself is derogatory and A SLUR used to describe people of Romani ethnicity.
Any “gypsy” costume, or misuse of the word to sound wordly, bohemian-looking, or trendy, perpetuates stereotypes of Roma as being nothing but strange and mysterious thieves, fortune tellers, or beggars.
Antiziganist laws and violence are alive and thriving at an alarming rate in Europe, so it makes zero sense to me how people in the States have such romanticized misconceptions about us.

Long story short, don’t you dare make our ethnicity a costume this Halloween!!!!!!

Amazing - Part 2

Pairing: Jensen x Reader

Word Count: 3,430

Summary: Jensen and the reader do not get along. After months of driving each other crazy, what happens when Jensen has finally had enough?

Part 1

“What’s up, shorty!” You hear when you pick up your phone.

“Shut up, Jared. I’m not that short!”

“Ok. We can call you vertically challenged if that makes you feel better.” He says chuckling.

“I hate you.” You say laughing.

“Soooo. Watcha gonna be?” He says playfully.

“I need more information.” You say sighing.

“For my party, Y/N! Don’t play dumb.”

“Ohhh. Yeah, I’m not dressing up.”

“What?! There’s no way you’ll be allowed in if you don’t have a costume.”

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16 Days of Outlander - Day #14 The Search

I love the beginning of this episode and I love the end… and then there’s the middle.

Favorite Line: “You’re missing your leg.” Poor Ian feels so useless and hopeless after everything that happened during the raid that was actually an ambush. He had to watch Jamie get taken away by the Red Coats while he could do nothing. He was injured and needed assistance to even make it back to Lallybroch. Claire is determined to find and free Jamie and he wants to help but he can’t because - as Claire so blatantly points out - “You’re missing your leg.” His determined “I’ll fashion another one” is just one of the many reasons I love Ian Murray. The Frasers don’t have a monopoly on being stubborn. Of course, after he’s had time to calm down, rest, and think, he does the best thing he could do - contacts Murtagh. 

Favorite Minor Character: Jenny Murray. Ian may not be able to go, but Jenny won’t let anything stop her including having given birth only days before. What I love most about Jenny in this episode is that she’s clearly made up her mind to go before Ian has even put up his fight with Claire - as she’s talking with Mrs. Crook while they’re bringing Ian into the house she’s giving the woman instructions about milking the goat and mixing it with honey to feed Maggie while she’s gone. Also, the image of Jenny marching out of the house with pistols tucked into the front and back of her skirts just screams “don’t mess with Jenny Fraser Murray.” (And she interrupts Claire’s monologue/voice over which I find hilarious)

Favorite “That’s not in the book” Part: Claire recycling Mrs. Graham’s fortune. The book doesn’t go into specific instances of what Claire and Murtagh do while they’re looking for Jamie so we don’t actually see Claire in action per se. But I love that for the show Claire is just repeating Mrs. Graham’s palm reading fortune - and this particular woman’s responses were one of the lighter moments of the episode for me. 

Favorite Jamie and Claire Moment: Jamie’s ring. I don’t have the deleted scenes for any of the episodes (except the extended version of The Reckoning) because of how the season various based on medium (I downloaded mine through iTunes which inexplicably has the deleted scenes for the first half of the season but not the second). So I don’t have that deleted scene of Claire watching Jamie dress in the morning. Even with it, I’m not sure I wouldn’t still pick this moment where Claire glances at Jamie’s ring to remind herself of why it’s so important for her to put herself out there and face such public humiliation and ridicule - not one for performing in public myself, I sympathize and after watching Murtagh get laughed at and jeered so many times, I’d be way more reluctant than Claire. Also, love that despite the fact that people keep throwing food at him and jeering him, Murtagh continues to dance because of his love for and determination to find Jamie. 

Honorable Mention for Favorite Music Moment: the first traveling montage. The first montage of Claire and Murtagh traveling, singing, and dancing works really well and the music that goes with the various landscapes and village scenes is beautiful, it’s upbeat and hopeful, and yet conveys some of the tediousness of what they face in criss crossing the countryside. (Then the gypsies get involved and the episode loses its way a bit until she and Murtagh find Dougal)

Favorite Performance: Duncan Lacroix as Murtagh Fitzgibbons Fraser. This episode belongs to Lacroix and Murtagh. As Jamie told Claire back on their wedding night, still waters run deep and in this episode we find out just how deep. With his entrance Murtagh shows how far he’s willing to go to save Jamie - slitting the throat of an English soldier (he is committing the very crime for which Jamie has a price on his head which I find an interesting touch). Murtagh will kill, will humble himself, will ride the length and breadth of the country and go back to the beginning again for as long as it takes to find Jamie. Just don’t accuse him of not caring about Jamie. The scene where Murtagh enlightens Claire to his love for Ellen MacKenzie and just how much Jamie means to him is one of the best in the season (And the extended version of the scene is even more heartbreaking. Given the altered timeline of the show, we know that Claire is already pregnant at this point in the story and it’s likely Claire knows/suspects. I like to think that - having traveled with Claire for a while now - Murtagh also suspects that little truth especially because of the extended version of the scene) 

Favorite Location: seaside camp. They’ve gone as far as they can go and it’s time to turn back and start at the beginning but they certainly did pick a gorgeous place to make camp before they do. Murtagh’s comment about being able to see the America’s just makes it that much better. It’s also the place where Claire switches back into her dress instead of wearing her gypsy/performer’s costume. They go back to their original tactic and drop the song. But also, much of the tension between Murtagh and Claire has gone at this point - they really are starting fresh.

Favorite Book-to-Screen Adaptation: Dougal’s proposal. So they changed a bit of this scene as far as how and why Geillis comes up and functions in the conversation because of how they handled Geillis back in The Devil’s Mark - which is a change I appreciate more there than here - but anytime Claire and Dougal face off with one another like this, I can’t help but love it both on the page and on the screen. They’re so well balanced between respect and distrust, both able to hit the nail on the head leaving the other unable to deny the ugly truth - for Claire, it’s Dougal’s desire for Lallybroch; for Dougal, it’s the lengths Jamie would see her go to in order to protect herself from Black Jack Randall (and here too, I like to think that Claire knows she’s carrying Jamie’s child and that she agrees to marry Dougal if they can’t save Jamie because part of her can’t wait to tell him about the child and show that even if she did marry him, Lallybroch would go to the child and not to him or the MacKenzies - or at least that’s my understanding of the law, but it might not be right for the time and place). 

Favorite Scene, Favorite Costume, Favorite Music Moment, Honorable Mention for Favorite Minor Character: gathering the MacKenzies to rescue Jamie from Wentworth. Willie! I love that Willie is the first to speak up and volunteer to try and save Jamie. He’s come a long way from his first days with the rent party and facing down the priest with his Father Bain inspired Catechism. When he was on the outs with Dougal’s closest friends after telling Colum about Dougal’s collecting for the Jacobites, it was Jamie (and Murtagh) who helped defuse the tension and stood up for him and what he’d done. Him acknowledging the truth of what Claire says - that Jamie would help any of the others out of a similar bind - is part of what shames/guilts/inspires Rupert and Angus into agreeing to come along too. The music of this scene and as Claire and company ride into view of Wentworth - and carrying into the credits - is full of their determination in the face of impossible odds (and I love it). Also, that blanket/shawl of Claire’s is my favorite costume bit of the episode (I’m not a huge fan of her performer’s outfit though I do like the way they did her hair while she was wearing it). 

crepes-are-tasty  asked:

I KNOW people in Japan don't wear kimonos to school. It's uniforms over there. I KNOW that it's not everyday wear; it's for special occasions and festivals and things. It USED to be everyday wear. I probably should've used an example like a sari or dashiki but I mentioned kimonos because the point is that they have no big religious significance to get! It's about white People being celebrated for being cultured while POC are shamed for doing the same things

Literally no kid is going to get “celebrated” for wearing a kimono to school white or otherwise.  What magical land do you live in?

The reactions are either going to be “Oh cool!” “WTF?” or “Whatever” no matter if the kid is Japanese or Whitey McWhitebread.  

And the kimono is a bad example for more than the fact that it is not everyday- wear.  Japanese people have REPEATEDLY said that they appreciate foreigners trying traditional Japanese clothing:

Cultural appropriation is the misuse of a culturally or religiously significant item or symbol in a way which lead to it being cheapened, degraded, or misrepresented. 

Actual examples include: 

  • Non-indigenous people playing “dress up” as Native Americans or using war bonnets as “fashion.” 
  • Using the deities of a closed religion outside their appropriate context.
  • Hipsters putting Hamsas on mass market t-shirts. 
  • “Gypsy” costumes. (not to even mention the ethnic slur issue)
  • The whole “Navajo” Urban Outfitters debacle.
  • I would argue that you could reasonably include bindis used as “hipster” fashion accessories.
  • Really anything that makes a “fashion statement” of a culturally significant or sacred practice (ie: something that, to the culture it came from, is MORE than just a piece of clothing or jewelry) or uses a practice or symbol it in a willfully misinformed or mocking way.

Another post on the subject.

And another.

Some more.

Here is one responded to by Japanese and Japanese Americans specifically about a white little girl in a kimono.

-Bnei Anusim Mod


Various jewelry and headgarbs for Meg’s Don Juan “Gypsy Girl” costume:

1. Layla Harrison, West End,
2. Paloma Garcia Lee, US tour,
3. Karin Seyfried, Vienna,
4. Candela Zapata, Buenos Aires,
5. Brianne Kelly Morgan, Los Angeles,
6. Eleanor Waite, World Tour,
7. Sabrina Harper, Hamburg,
8. Hinako Sakuraoka, Hamburg,
9. Jennifer Wagstaffe, Copenhagen.


The Phantom Costumes I’ve Made! (For anon)

There is of course my very first foray into Phantom costuming, the Meg Masquerade, which we will acknowledge but never speak of.

1. Meg Gypsy: The Halloween following that particular project, I made the Meg Gypsy costume, which was my most expensive and elaborate costume to date (It’s been really difficult mustering the energy to chase all the trims and fabrics for two months then have to come home and put it all together) But I will never stop being proud of this costume, especially after the disaster of the year before, I wasn’t sure if I could do it while drowning in homework.

2. Degas (Broadway): After the Meg Gypsy, I wanted to take it easier on the next project as far as material hunting went, so I chose the Degas where I knew exactly where I could find accurate fabrics, etc. But I also wanted to take the time to focus on and sharpen my tailoring work.

3. Wishing Cloak: A commissioned Wishing Cloak! Lots of fun on this one!

4. Dressing Gown (x2): I’ve been commissioned to make two Broadway replica Dressing Gowns, and am working on a third right now. Still haven’t gotten around to my own… I’d say more about this, but I’m a little burnt out on Dressing Gowns right now. Dressing Gowns are my jam though and I’m infinitely proud of mine. :P

5. The Phantom’s Cape: A labor of love. But this ended up being one of the best replicas I’ve ever made. It’s hard for me to feel 100% happy with anything I make, because I’ll always know about the things I could have done better, but as far as this cape goes, I just feel like everything, from the velvet collar to the appliques, to the gunmetal lining, just came together just right.

6. Serafimo Cap: I had some left over fabric, a lot of trims and some extra time on my hands, so I made this. The trim on the bow however, was $20 a yard (SHIT I KNOW RIGHT?)

7. Meg Masquerade Hat: Made back when I was still working on the costume, from trims that were bought for the costume but never used.

anonymous asked:

What is your take on people claiming a wide array of Halloween costumes (gypsies, Native Americans, sexy nurses, geishas, and just about any feminized version of a typically male costume, for example) are offensive? I'll be honest. My knee-jerk response is something like, "But wearing Native American-inspired feather hairpieces makes me feel pretty. I LIKE the over-the-top girly outfits. So what if I want to be a cop in a skirt?!" Just b/c it's my knee-jerk response doesn't mean it's right, ofc.

This is going to be long because this shit’s complicated.

First, just recognizing that your knee-jerk response isn’t necessarily correct is excellent. A lot of people would use the phrase, “common sense” instead of “knee jerk response” and move on having determined that they were in the right. Knowing that you might be wrong despite not knowing why is a life skill that some never develop.

Second, “g****” is a slur. This is complicated by the dominant culture in America not actually having significant negative feelings about the group in question but it is still loaded with deeply negative connotations to the people to whom it applies.

Third, I don’t personally have any issue with wearing a cop costume with a skirt. I’m not sure who does, but I’d be interested to hear their arguments. 

But wearing the garments or ceremonial dress of another culture does have its issues. I live in Montana where a significant portion of the population is Native American Indian. That culture persists here despite a literal genocide that was waged by my ancestors against their ancestors. And then there’s the continued racism (recently a /high school football coach/ was reported for shouting at a team from a reservation the phrase “prairie n*****.”) 

All of that is to say, the dominant American culture attempted to destroy hundreds of cultures that were spread across America, and we succeeded in destroying the majority of them. Some people would like to destroy the ones that remain. 

This is the far extreme of how a dominant culture can act. Members of the marginalized culture either are killed or are asked to abandon everything that makes them different. People who argue that we didn’t do that to Native Americans are demonstrably wrong.

This is not unusual historically. That does not make it not disgusting. But I think it’s important to recognize that the people who participated in this practice didn’t see it as wrong. They may even have seen it as righteous.

There are also much more subtle, much less harmful ways to harm a marginalized culture. One of those ways is to ask members of that culture to conform to dominant and arbitrary cultural norms (wearing business suits or traditionally western clothes) in order to interface with our society (which we do, though we do it less now than we used to.) 

Another subtle way to harm a marginalized culture (without even knowing you’re doing it) is by picking out tiny bits of that culture and removing them from their context because they’re please us (whether that’s because they’re edgy or attractive or funny or monetizeable) but without any respect for or knowledge of the culture they come from.

To me, the furthest extreme of that is wearing the religious ceremonial garb of a culture against which my cultural ancestors perpetrated a literal genocide. 

It’s amazing that we don’t always see it that way, but that is the blindness of culture.

Now, cultural appropriation (which is what this is called) is also a necessary part of how cultures communicate and adapt. There was a time that Irish Americans were considered sub-human by many dominant-culture Americans and the process of incorporating that marginalized culture into ours (while allowing it to preserve some of its uniqueness) was full of racism and hatred and appropriation and forced marginalization. But the outcome is a culture where the Irish culture is respected and many people are very proud of their Irish heritage. 

But it is not a culture that has become 100% Irish, or that allowed Irish people to hold on to 100% of their culture. Indeed, I would say a majority of that culture was lost in the US. Certainly there are very few Americans who still speak Irish, for example. Indeed, I would guess that most Americans don’t even know that Irish is a language.

But the adoption and tolerance of other cultures in America (though always a battle and often a bloody one) is what has made America so wonderful. This country cannot be a pile of thousands of isolated cultures. Common ground must be found, and the dominant culture is necessarily going to change less than non-dominant cultures. 

Today is The Day of the Dead, a Mexican holiday that calls for people to celebrate the dead. I am going to go downtown to watch a Day of the Dead parade in which 95% of the participants will be white. This is absolutely cultural appropriation, but it is also cultural appreciation. There is respect and a feeling of cultural equality that goes into saying, “Yes, this is something that is external to my culture, but it resonates with me. It is something I wish my culture did, and this existing ceremony has a history that I appreciate and I want to engage with.”

Now, lots of people will tell you that that’s not acceptable, especially as we inevitably pick and choose which parts of a ceremony or holiday we are most comfortable with. And maybe they’re right. But I really want the dominant American culture to blend more with Mexican culture and to appreciate and participate in Mexican culture, especially as anti-Mexican racism is at an all-time high in America. We cannot breed tolerance without cultural exchange. 

Some will say that any appropriation is bad. That it is necessarily a kind of theft. I understand that viewpoint, but am more of the perspective that rites, ideas, holidays, fashion, food, music, language…these things can and must be shared between cultures in order to breed understanding and tolerance and can do much more harm than good. It is mostly when we intentionally separate the cultural creation from the culture, as a way to remove the power of the members of that culture, that appropriation becomes inherently harmful. It’s worth saying that we constantly do this to Black American culture. The dominant culture loves Black culture in America, but it is also terrified of Black people. So we take the bits we like because it makes us feel cool, but fight tooth-and-nail to continue to marginalize Black people. 

Harmful appropriation often seems OK to us largely because people in the dominant culture have a hard time realizing they are in the dominant culture. It’s difficult to feel that, and so a Native headdress just seems like a funny, fun thing to wear. Like a cartoon character or a person’s profession. But a culture is a much more beautiful and wonderful and complicated thing than that. They should be treated with care, especially by those of us who, by virtue of our birth into a dominant culture, have far more power than we realize.