guys and girls being friends

Listen I’m bi as Heck and as much as I love girls, I also love boys? Boys are amazing and pure and liking boys is a wonderful feeling? I never see a lot of posts talking about cute boys so

Some Boy Aesthetics™ I’m in love with include:

Their tired grins? Have you seen a cute boy grin when he’s tired? Life Changing

Sleeves rolled up to forearms is all good and Well but also when they have Sweater Paws in their hoodies or jumpers? Makes the tallest of them seem so smol? I’m lov?

When they run their hand through their hair and it sticks up in places and it looks So Good

Collar Bones

Soft pudgy stomachs they absolutely make me melt

When ya boy gets flustered A++ Bonus points if he giggles Boys giggling is Everything

Protect platonic male/female friendships at all costs.

Write them. Read about them. Demand them. Decide the Harry and Sally law of “all male/female friendships will become romantic” is a bunch of bull and kick it to the curb.

Screw the guy getting with his girl best friend being the end of every romantic comedy. Have the guy go to his friend for advice. Have the girl tell him when he fucks up. Have them sitting on the porch when the sun sets, talking about their day. Have them hug and laugh, and shout for joy, and never feel pressured to bring them in for that expected kiss.

Not all soulmates are romantic. We should stop acting like it.

the reason why kraglin says “yeah… i was thinking about like a pretty necklace, or a nice hat, you know. something to make the other girls go ‘ooh that’s nice’” to nebula in gotg vol2 is because he knows she’s a lesbian and was just trying to help her get a date

*Who’s Your Crush?* Peter Parker x Reader

Summary: You overhear that Peter has a crush. The question is: who? (Fluff/Maybe some angst)

Word Count: 1512

Notes: This is probably hella cheesy, but honestly, what else did you expect from me?

Status: Unedited.

Originally posted by irenelair

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My Opinion On Swan Queen

I personally ship Captain Swan, not Swan Queen.

Before I get any accusations, I’m clearing this up now- I am straight, and I am not homophobic. I love LGBT ships (Dorothy and Ruby are adorable) and I have quite a few LGBT ships in other fandoms.

But… I don’t like Swan Queen. I feel like girls (and guys) can’t be close friends anymore without being shipped. I love the idea of them being besties and something cool like that, but Regina, she, well, I think Emma depends on someone she knows is going to do everything in her interest. Regina has gone behind her back to do things for her/Henry, but Emma doesn’t like that at all. She’s got issues with it, and Killian helps her with that. 

Yeah, he’s screwed up, but so has Regina. But Emma doesn’t seem to see her like that, and I don’t see it as anything more than best friends.

When I was five, and romance didn’t exist, I was a boy, and I was friends with a girl, and it didn’t matter, because why would it? We did everything together a normal couple of friends would do together, until we grew a little more and went on to different schools and didn’t see each other anymore.

So then I was eight. I was still a boy, and I was friends with a different girl now. She was confident and clever and bold, and we played games together during the lunch hour and went to each others houses after school.

“You fancy her,” the other children would say. I’d frown, say of course I didn’t, and why would I? We were friends, and that’s all. So we ignored the comments and carried on as we were, until her mother wouldn’t let me go to her birthday parties, because I’d be the only boy, and that would be “inappropriate”.

We didn’t stay in touch after school. I cried, when she didn’t respond to my letters - because I didn’t understand. Years of friendship: did it mean nothing to her? And then I’d remember her mother, and I’d realise what the problem was. I was a boy, and she was a girl. That was all there was to it.

So then I was twelve, I was friends with boys because I was a boy, and I only wanted someone to spend time with at lunch. But according to them, every girl I spoke to was a friend-with-benefits, and eventually I drifted away from them because I wasn’t interested in talking about sports and sex and risk-taking like they seemed to be. Instead, I talked to girls.

So then I was fifteen, and my friendship group was entirely female. I got called gay, a lad, a player, and all sorts of other things by almost everyone: boys and girls alike - but I ignored them. I liked being friends with girls, so what was the problem? Live and let live, I thought.

So one day I invited a friend over to the fair in town with me, and she came, and we enjoyed the day together without any hassle at all. Going back to school, however, changed that.

“Did you hear they fucked behind the public toilets,” people were saying. “They went on a date together.”

I said that wasn’t true - I didn’t have feelings for her that way.

“But you obviously fancy her,” they replied.

“No,” I told them, truthfully. “I don’t.”

Shortly afterwards, the girls I was friends with all organised a party, which I wasn’t invited to.

“It’s a sleepover,” they said. “Girl stuff.”

“Oh,” I said. “Okay. Girl stuff.”

They used that expression a lot over the next few years. Trips to the cinema - going out together… And eventually I realised that I was an outsider. They didn’t tell me things anymore. I wasn’t let in on their secrets, and if I ever asked, I’d be told I wouldn’t understand - and it was inappropriate I should ask.

So I stopped asking, and my friends drifted further and further away. I never understood why I was an outsider, until I saw a picture of them at the prom I didn’t bother going to, because I knew I would have no one to go with. There were my friends in the pretty dresses I’d helped them choose, with a guy in the centre of the picture, in a smart suit and slicked back hair. That would have been me, if I’d gone. And it always will be.

And then I realised why I could never be as close with them as they are with each other. I’m a guy. And they are girls. It’s as simple as that. Guys never understood me being friends with girls, but that was fine, because the girls were okay with it. But on the day the girls stopped seeing me as just a person they could be friends with, everything changed.

And so here I am. I’m eighteen. I am not gay, actually: nor am I romantically interested in any of my friends. What I do know is, that we’re about to go on a group holiday together, and I’ve been told not to even come into the corridor outside their room whilst they’re getting changed, in case the door swings open and I “see something I shouldn’t” - as if I’d actually care, or be the kind of guy who watched for that sort of thing. And I’ve realised it doesn’t matter how nice I am, no girl is ever going to see me as an equal. I will always be a guy, to them. And they will always be a girl.

And guys and girls can never be “just friends”, right? There always has to be something more. Whether I want it or not, there always has to be that potential.

“Going on holiday with three ladies are you?” the ticket seller asked me. “Fair enough…”

And I said nothing, because I was sick of saying “not in that way”. I was tired of telling people that I wasn’t interested in the girls I was friends with. I was bored of trying to be seen as just a friend in their eyes, too. And if even they couldn’t see me as an equal, how could anyone else ever believe me, when I told them boys and girls could just be friends?

So don’t tell them my gender doesn’t isolate me. Because it does. And don’t complain to me about being in the friend zone. Because I’ve been fighting to get there all my life.

anonymous asked:

wait why do you die a little every time some says that vex might be pikes crush lmao?

mostly cause of this

“She dreamed of home and about a certain someone. Another reason she chose to leave is the desire for the one she really loves (which was hinted at in one of the games). Maybe one day she will tell him, if she ever finds the courage. These lyrics perfectly represent the aching a heart can have for someone you know is all wrong for you.” -Pike’s Spotify Playlist (x)

I love the headcanon of wlw!pike and the art and stories and gifsets and everything that comes out of it. but the general tendency to ignore that pike’s crush uses he/him pronouns generally rubs me the wrong way? it’s such a little detail and I know there are plenty of people who just don’t know because they weren’t watching when the first batch of playlists came out but like. idk it’s always felt like people are ignoring her preferences to ship her with someone else

which isn’t to say it’s a bad ship! pike and vex have had so many cute little shipper goggles moments. and y’all know I’ve made stuff for them; you can check my tag and I’ve got fic and aesthetics and whatever. but the assertion that That One Crush is vex just like. really bugs me. idk how else to put it

were any other wlw kinda messed up a bit by the movie Mean Girls?

like the spot-on depiction of Straight Girl Culture’s eager interest in having a gay guy friend while being disgusted by lesbianism - but in the movie that disgust is never really challenged, criticized, or changed. 

Damian is harassed, but gets to reclaim his dignity (by, for example, throwing a shoe back at his bully). He gets to be in on the joke (“too gay to function”). But meanwhile, much suspense is built into the film about some terrible secret Regina is holding over Janis’ head - a secret so horrible, so slanderous, Janis goes into hysterics every time Damian is on the verge of spilling it to Cady: Regina believes Janis is a lesbian, told the whole school so, and now Janis is an outcast.

(Gretchen snarling “dyke” is the first time I’d ever heard that word.) 

When Regina jokes that jumping into a huge pile of girls is Janis’ dream come true, the auditorium - filled of girls who have admitted feeling victimized by Regina, who are on the verge of disowning her - burst out laughing. Janis is ultimately liberated only by turning the idea of her attraction to women into a joke. 

There’s this undercurrent of “remember girls, lesbians are nasty!!” The devil’s in the details. (Speaking of which, we do at one point actually see two girls kissing - at a Halloween party, cheered on by guys, while Cady looks on in shock.)

tl;dr: disclaimer to straight girls and gay boys, i do think Mean Girls is a funny movie and i still watch it. but it did not do much to dissipate my internalized lesbophobia 

The reason why people tend to end up shipping characters who are set up as close friends rather than romantic partners -or- The Zootopia Problem

Back when Zootopia came out, people were very excited to have two main characters that were male and female who were not forced into a romantic relationship at the end of the film. This is big, not just becuase it’s Disney(who is all about forced romantic relationships, even if some of them are well written and cute) but becuase we hardly ever get this. Most movie that have a male and female so much as look at each other will have them end up dating by the end, even if it makes no sense. Just look at recent examples like Jurassic World, Guardians of the Galaxy, Dr. Strange. Even likeable romances like the ones in Arrival, Fantastic Beasts, and Gravity and The Lego Movie. They all have romantic connotations and none of them have any real basis. They just happen becuase of course they do. 

But see, while people prone to shipping do like those ships, they are cute of course, and they are a good base to expand upon, they HAVE to be expanded upon. The relationship as it is in cannon is never really explored properly becuase they screenwriters have to go from acquaintances to lovers in an two hours and that’s just not easy. It comes across as rushed, forced, and messy. They don’t seem to really get to know each other before it’s all kisses and (often) sex. There is nothing but a shadow of a relationship and we as fans have to make that into what we want it to be, a good, well written romantic relationship. And while expanding on cannon is almost the whole point of fandom, it gets hard when the creators hardly give you anything to work with. 

So, when we do get two characters that are just shown in the movie as friends, it seems like its easier for screenwriters to write a deep, meaningful relationship. They don’t have to rush into the romance, which isn’t how real relationships work anyway, so they can take time building a good, strong connection between them. There is no end goal to have them desperately in love by the end so the relationship can progress naturally. 

And that’s where Zootopia comes into play. Judy and nick’s relationship is incredibly written, they start off at odds, but since they don’t have to fall in love they have time to get to know each other, talk about their problems and the movie uses the time that might be dedicated to forced romance to actual relationship building. And it really is awesome to see two characters not have to fall in love. 

So why don’t the fans accept that at face value? Why do ships between these types of characters explode in popularity the way they do? 

Well, its because of how the relationship was written. As I said, because the writers never had to force in romantic scenes and instead had time to focus on real, close friendship, they inadvertently build the perfect basis for an amazing romantic relationship. In real life relationships are built on friendship, and the people in question are just best friends that are also dating. We NEVER get that in established canon relationships. There just isn’t time for it, and the writers know that becuase boy meets girl they don’t have to make time for it. They can just shove in kisses and some faux bonding and call it a day. And for shippers, that just isn’t enough. 

But when you plop down a pre-built, deep, close and impactful relationship like Judy and Nick, well how can you expect us NOT to ship it? People are drawn to the romantic possibilities becuase they are real and possible and make sense. We don’t have to make it up on the fly or headcannon in some actual bonding. It’s all there!! So when people who are close like that and have that kind of relationship kiss and fall in love, it feels real. It feels possible and natural. 

And in the end that’s what people want. That’s the friends to lovers trope we want. And since we almost never get it, when we do we tend to go overboard. 

Also, that’s not to say that all deep movie friendships should turn romantic. There really is something to be said of girls and guys just being friends. It’s important to show that kind of thing happening so that people normalize it in real life. (Ex. one of my best friends rn is a gay guy and whenever we hang out people assume we are dating even though we aren’t. And when I say we aren’t I have to SPECIFY that he is gay to get them to actually believe that I’m telling the truth. That kind of stuff needs to stop.) Girls and Guys CAN just be friends. 

It’s just that, in media and in real life, a close friendship is the base of any good romantic relationship. And it’s as rare to get that in media as it is to get a guy and a girl just being friends. 

anonymous asked:

How's being single working for you lexi? Fucked any new guys lately after your boyfriend left you? You were an abusive girl friend

Being single is so much fun 😊 thanks for asking! Yea ive fucked a lot of guys 😉 oh and now you wanna call me abusive? Ok 😂 im really not but thanks 😋

Me: I’m bisexual but I have decided not to date men for the time being.
Friend: Why not?
Me: Idk men can be kinda shitty sometimes.
Friend: So can girls.
Me: Plus, I’ve already dated a guy. That fulfills my bi requirements, I don’t need to date any more.
Friend: You’ve dated a girl too.
Me: But this way I can leave some guys for the straight girls! I’m being altruistic!
Friend: Are you sure you’re not just a lesbian?
Me: What?? umMm nooo

anonymous asked:

people shipping dodie and dan, or phil and hazel, or dnp with whoever, just shows the problem. in our society, if a male and female are remotely friendly, people will just assume there is some romantic connotation associated with it and it frustrates me to no end. like, here's a concept: a guy and a girl being 100% platonic friends.

yeah. also it’s so infuriating to see the difference between people shipping dnp with guys and people shipping them with girls. with guys it’s all jokes and What Ifs, whereas with girls people immediately think it’s real and then others start sending abuse to the girl in question even though all she did was like speak to dan and phil two times at a party

blackotaku97  asked:

I know this is bad to say, but fairy tail has become so freaking bad that I'm literally only sticking around for my ships. So with that being said, I was wondering what are your opinions on the big 4. For me, aside from Jerza and Gajevy, the other two make no sense. Nalu is based on accidental boob grabs and no real romantic chemistry, and Gruvia is just a stalker horror film (I like Juvia and I Iike Gray; just not together). So what are your thoughts?

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Masterlist

Updated July 6th 2017
TEXTS

Seokjin:
Hide & Seek
Gifts
Popping out babies
I’m here
Shoulder kink
Just tears for now
Savage little bitches
Charming

Yoongi:
Arguments
Holiday blues
Hate
Perfect
Popping out babies
I’m here
Just tears for now
Minbooty
Savage little bitches
Babysitters
Charming

Hoseok:
Hate
Hide & Seek
Appreciation
Just tears for now
How do I baby?

Namjoon:
Anxiety attacks
Arguments 
Hate
Why the fuck u lying
The club
Chicken wings
Just tears for now

Jimin:
Holiday blues
Pokemon go??
Don’t run
Hoemones
Just tears for now
How do I baby?

Taehyung:
Gifts
Roommate
Chicken wings
Just tears for now
Taeters
Jail

Jungook:
Pokemon go?? 
What the f**k do you want to make up?!
Chicken wings
Just tears for now 
Huhhh
Babysitters

Sis series:
Jungkook //Taehyung// Jimin// Namjoon// Hoseok// Yoongi// Seokjin

REACTIONS

Seokjin:
Their girl friend chewing gum and trying to blow a bubble
Their best friend having a crush another member.
Their girlfriend falling asleep on their shoulder/lap.
their girl friend biting them out of nowhere
Overhearing or reading a diary of you confessing your love for them but they weren’t supposed to find out yet
When they leave their girl friend alone in the mall for a little while and come back to see she bought a dog
You being infertile after  trying for so long.
Their little sister cursing
You fangirling about Home run by GOT7
Their girlfriend being taller
You being clumsier than Rap Monster
When you beat them in Mario kart
Their girlfriend having an extremely handsome best friend and they get jealous and insecure
You dancing Mr Chu and they walk inSeokjin, Hoseok and Jungkook react to: Their little sis gets rejected by the guy she loves
Their gf drops something down her shirt in front of the rest of BTS
Yoongi having a twin brother
Their girlfriend playfully asking for kisses

Yoongi:
Their girlfriend taking a picture with their guy best friend and them being jealous
Their girl friend chewing gum and trying to blow a bubble
Their girlfriend plays with children
Their girl friend cuts her hair
their girl friend biting them out of nowhere
Overhearing or reading a diary of you confessing your love for them but they weren’t supposed to find out yet
Them not being your bias
Their best friend getting  cat called
You being infertile after  trying for so long.
Their little sister cursing
Their girlfriend being a rap god
Their girlfriend being taller
You being clumsier than Rap Monster
Their girlfriend having an extremely handsome best friend and they get jealous and insecure
You being  a scaredy cat
You dancing Mr Chu and they walk in
You falling asleep waiting for them
You self-harm
You being pregnant after already having a kid
He comes home to you signing Snow flower by Park Hyo Shin
Liking a girl but having trouble talking to her because her Korean isn’t very good pt.2
You being on your period and they’re awkward
You being a little childish
 Finding out their girlfriend is a lingerie model.
Their girlfriend playfully asking for kisses


Hoseok:
Their girl friend chewing gum and trying to blow a bubble
Their bff speaking to them in spanish 
Their girl friend cuts her hair
their girl friend biting them out of nowhere
Overhearing or reading a diary of you confessing your love for them but they weren’t supposed to find out yet
Going to their best friends house and seeing them trying to do a girl group dance but they suck a dancing
When they leave their girl friend alone in the mall for a little while and come back to see she bought a dog
You being infertile after  trying for so long.
Their gf who is a really bad cook making food for them.
Their girlfriend being a rap god
Showing your weak side
Their girlfriend being taller
You having frizzy hair
Liking a girl but having trouble talking to her because her korean isnt very good
Their little sis gets rejected by the guy she loves
Their gf drops something down her shirt in front of the rest of BTS
 You being a little childish
Their girlfriend playfully asking for kisses

Namjoon:
Their bff speaking to them in spanish
Their s/o being nervous because of the airplane flight.
Their girl friend cuts her hair
their girl friend biting them out of nowhere
When they leave their girl friend alone in the mall for a little while and come back to see she bought a dog
Their best friend getting  cat called
Their little sister cursing
Their gf who is a really bad cook making food for them.
Their bff getting an F on their math exam
Their girlfriend being a rap god
Their girlfriend being taller
You being  a scaredy cat
Liking a girl but having trouble talking to her because her korean isnt very good
 You being a little childish
Their girlfriend squeezing their boobs onto anything

Jimin:

Their girlfriend taking a picture with their guy best friend and them being jealous
Their best friend having a crush another member.
Their girlfriend falling asleep on their shoulder/lap.
Their girlfriend plays with children
Their s/o being nervous because of the airplane flight.
Their girl friend cuts her hair
their girl friend biting them out of nowhere
Being mommed  by their older girl friend.
Going to their best friends house and seeing them trying to do a girl group dance but they suck a dancing
Them not being your bias
Showing your weak side
Their girlfriend being taller
You being clumsier than Rap Monster
Their girlfriend fangirling about Suga *-*
You being  a scaredy cat
Liking a girl but having trouble talking to her because her korean isnt very good
You self-harm
 You being on your period and they’re awkward
 Their gf drops something down her shirt in front of the rest of BTS
Their friend liking them and being awkward when they’re near them
Friends with benefits
Finding out their girlfriend is a lingerie model.
Their girlfriend squeezing their boobs onto anything

Taehyung:

Their girlfriend taking a picture with their guy best friend and them being jealous
Their best friend having a crush another member.
Their girlfriend falling asleep on their shoulder/lap.
their girl friend biting them out of nowhere
Being mommed  by their older girl friend.
Them not being your bias
You being infertile after  trying for so long.
Their bff getting an F on their math exam
You fangirling about Home run by GOT7
Their girlfriend being taller
When you beat them in Mario kart
Their girlfriend fangirling about Suga *-*
You having frizzy hair
Liking a girl but having trouble talking to her because her Korean isn’t very good pt.2
 Their friend liking them and being awkward when they’re near them
 Friends with benefits
Finding out their girlfriend is a lingerie model.

Jungkook:
Their girlfriend falling asleep on their shoulder/lap.
Their girlfriend plays with children
Their bff speaking to them in spanish
Their s/o being nervous because of the airplane flight.
their girl friend biting them out of nowhere
Being mommed  by their older girl friend.
Going to their best friends house and seeing them trying to do a girl group dance but they suck a dancing
Their little sister cursing
Their gf who is a really bad cook making food for them.
Their bff getting an F on their math exam
You fangirling about Home run by GOT7
Showing your weak side
Their girlfriend being taller
When you beat them in Mario kart
Their girlfriend fangirling about Suga *-*
You dancing Mr Chu and they walk in
Liking a girl but having trouble talking to her because her Korean isn’t very good pt.2
Their little sis gets rejected by the guy she loves
 You being on your period and they’re awkward
Their friend liking them and being awkward when they’re near them
 Friends with benefits
Their girlfriend squeezing their boobs onto anything

SNAPS

Seokjin:
Smexy stuff
Dumped

Yoongi:
Where I want you
Smexy stuff
Sick

Hoseok:
Date me?
Nudes

Namjoon:
Dumped
Baby girl

Jimin:
I’m shook

Taehyung:
Who dat boi?!?!

Jungkook:
Who dat boi?!?!
Hot dogs
Hope the fuck you do

DRABBLES

Seokjin:
Food or sex
Like that?

Yoongi:
Take care
Cake, food and condoms

Hoseok:
Surprise parties

Namjoon:
Bra master
Ugly shoes

Jimin:
Busan boys
Late night adventures
Please

Taehyung:
Stop trying
Remember
Pay back

Jungkook:
Meme lovers
Keys, presents and Iron man
Busan boys
Hyungs

MOST TO LEAST & OTHERS

Jealous of One Direction
U fucking thought
IDEK
SQUIRTING 
Fuck Minjinbiased
Bts MTL to kiss you on the first date
Karate Grandpa
Bts mtl Likely to get angry
Jin’s hair