UK-only petition: for the UK to mirror the Irish Gender Recognition Act and allow trans people to self-define their legal gender

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You will not believe how fast I signed this, oh my word.

Transgender people in the UK are forced to pay to prove their identity to a Gender Recognition Panel. This process is humiliating, outdated and unnecessary. We urge the government to introduce an act equivalent to the Irish Gender Recognition Act, and allow trans* people to self-define their gender.

Having your gender recognised by the Gender Recognition Panel requires trans* people to go to pointless expense - whether requiring them to pay administration fees (and having to go through the lengthy and underfunded NHS gender transition system) or paying to attend a private clinic to receive the required evidence as well as paying to be seen by the panel.

Furthermore: no provisions are made for non-binary gender identities.

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Did you know that as of March 2015 only 3,906 Gender Recognition Certificates (GRCs) had been issued since the Gender Recognition Act of 2005, compared to the 8,760 patients currently being treated by gender identity clinics in the UK? Did you know that there are possibly about 56,000 trans people in the UK? Did you know that it takes years and a non-refundable £140 to apply for a GRC (though actual costs are more like £1,000), and they might decide your gender isn’t real enough to be your legal gender, and trans people are more likely to be unemployed or on low income, receiving inadequate physical and mental health care, etc.? If you’re trans but have no GRC, if anyone needs to see your birth certificate you are involuntarily outed, which is discriminatory and sometimes outright dangerous.

This change to the Gender Recognition Act 2005 is sorely needed. The current system is actively harmful. It is unnecessarily expensive, time-wasting, and judgemental.

We’re at 275 signatures as I type this, and we need 10,000 signatures to get a response from Parliament. If we make it to 100,000 it might actually get debated in Parliament.

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Sign it sign it! I don’t care if you’re trans, help your trans friends and the trans friends you’ve not met yet! Help your unborn trans children!

Reblob it whether you’re in the UK or not! Share it with your mum! Leave flyers on lampposts! Attach a sandwich board to your cat promoting this petition!

IMAGINE how you’ll feel if you ever meet Laverne Cox and you did not sign this petition.

hugintheraven asked:

(you posted about this last night) Are queer spaces usually not safe for people of faith? At least in the US, I have a hard time imagining there's anywhere that /isn't/ safe for people of faith. (Speaking generally, of course. I know there's plenty of places that aren't safe for people of the wrong faith, but that wasn't what I think you were talking about)

(Referencing this post by kosherqueer.)

So I’m going to split this answer up into addressing two points - and keep in mind that I am speaking from my own experiences here and I don’t want anyone to assume this has been true for everyone.

Not safe for people of faith 

I’ve noticed that a lot of the queer spaces in which I’ve been involved have been very strongly secular - and of course there isn’t anything wrong with that. As a member of a minority faith, I encourage it (otherwise anything religious starts to take on a majority religion feel - see next point) and I also know that a lot of the people in those spaces have been hurt and excluded because of the faith groups in which they grew up. But there are often a lot of assumptions being made that everyone in these spaces are secular or atheists and so people and that all religions and faiths are harmful to queer people and this leads to a lot of cruel and mocking comments about what religion and how religion is inherently intolerant and brainwashing and that people of faith are sheep and stupid, etc.

I actually have a friend (who may be reading this and will be left unnamed unless they tell me they want their URL here) who stopped volunteering for a local queer rights organization partly because a volunteer coordinator was so loudly anti-religion and so dismissive of anyone religious that he made them feel unwelcome. felt unwelcome as well but because he was higher up in the organization than I was (I was just an intern), I didn’t feel comfortable speaking up past a certain point.

Overall, a lot of people would vocally blame religious people and religion for intolerance and homophobia in society and while this is certainly a problem in a lot of religious contexts, the conversation began to sound less like “there are a lot of faith groups that use religion to justify homophobia and that’s disgusting” and more like “religion is outdated and the root of all intolerance in society and we should get rid of all of it and teach the gullible religious people that they’re wrong.”

Often I felt as if people were trying to convert me from my religion and my culture which was just too religious to fit neatly into their religious/homophobe - secular/queer dichotomy.

Not safe for people of the wrong faith

As a Jew, and so as a member of a minority faith, this cropped up in three ways. One, people assumed that everything they had found wrong in mainstream Christianity applied people of all religions. If someone had been victimized by a Christian community because they were queer, they would often turn their (obviously understandable) anger and derision towards people of other religions as well. For example, while the Christian interpretation of the sin of Sodom has traditionally been gay sex (hence “sodomy”), the Jewish interpretation has traditionally been that the sin was being inhospitable to guests and strangers - but people would refer to the Christian interpretation as if all religious people held that opinion of sin.

Two, even among queer people of faith, my own religion was dismissed or minimized with Christianity being the reference point. For example, I was invited by (that same) local queer rights organization to join an outreach program managed by queer people faith targeting faith communities as allies. I was the only non-Christian there. Not only was the entire meeting overwhelmingly Christian referenced but the opening prayer was actually and literally in Jesus’ name.

Other religions weren’t represented at all and when I brought up reaching out to mosques and Muslim queers, the facilitator actually said that she didn’t think she’d find anyone to connect with in the Muslim community, the assumption being that religious Muslims were necessarily homophobic - the same sort of assumptions that many of the non-religious people in the organization held toward all people of faith.

Needless to say, I did not return to this program.

Three, prejudices like Islamophobia and anti-Semitism exist just as strongly in queer communities as they do anywhere else and left unaddressed they become poisonous. Being secular and “enlightened” and “hating all religions” does not keep people from being bigoted towards persons of minority faiths.

So you can see the predicament this left me and other queer people of faith who looked for a safe space for one aspect of themselves only to find another aspect of themselves deemed unacceptable.

TLDR:

Secular queers can get pretty nasty and unwelcoming to queer people of faith and make all sorts of assumptions about queer people of minority faiths (Jewish, Muslim, etc.) that leave safe spaces not so safe at all.

  • harley quinn:*shares an apartment with poison ivy*
  • fanboys:HEHEHE LESBIANS, NICEEEE B) DOUBLE THE BOOBIES B) DO U GALS SCISSOR AND CAN I WATCH?!?!? HEHE
  • jason todd:*straight up tells a male character he thinks he’s hot, talks about how he enjoys being fingered/fisted, refers to various men as “cute”, “dreamy”, and having “game”, reads romance novels whose main characters directly and obviously correlate with himself and another man he's previously flirted with*
  • fanboys:he’s straight :/ he’s just joking :/ joking every time :/ why do you have to make everything gay :/ biased :/ did you steal these panels from other websites because there’s no way YOU, a GIRL, read comics :/ you are a girl right only [straight cis] girls believe this :/ he is just making fun of the other characters :/ what do you mean he's a feminist and has attacked people for using homophobic slurs before :/ he fucked bruce wayne's girlfriend (ra's al ghul's daughter) (damian wayne's mother) (who cares about her name all that matters is her relationship to men) so it's impossible for him to be gay :/ what is bisexual btw :/ the only gay dc character is alan scott god do you even read comics :/

anonymous asked:

I understand the WANT to flirt, but if you are asexual isn't flirting misleading to those around you. Furthermore, while I agree that flirting isn't a sexual contract, I also think that it is mean to purposely misleadi people(I define as misleading with full knowledge, regardless of it being the aim or not) is cruel, especially if you are an attractive person flirting with some in an orientation that is attracted to your sex. I don't think asexuals should be banned, but make it clear, you are 1.

“How dare you be attractive, talk to me, be nice to me, but not have sex with me” is what I got from this message. Go cry about it somewhere else, nobody owes you shit.

I don’t care how much somebody has been flirting with you, they aren’t promising you sex. Flirting isn’t even inherently sexual, flirting can be an expression of romantic interest, or flirting can just be a playful fun way to interact with other people. But really, the point is, I don’t care what their orientation is; people don’t owe you sex. End of discussion.

~ Nash

(I’m choosing to have a good laugh at the last sentence of this ask because I feel like it sums up the absurdity of the entire thing, just “I don’t think asexuals should be banned”, amazing, what a message)

PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT

If you are Bi or Trans or Pan or Ace or Demi or Non-Binary or Gender-fluid or Agender or Pangender or Bigender or Trigender or any gender identity/sexuality that is seen as “fake” or “made-up”. You are valid. Your identity is valid. You are important. I hope you know this =^u^=.

solitics asked:

Btw MOGAI isn't the one being used by pedophiles, it's GSM. Lots of people consciously use MOGAI instead of GSM because of the gross conatations

Is that true?  I think I’ve been told both.  I’d think at a certain point you’d have to stop abandoning terms just because people who don’t belong in them are co-opting them, and instead become vigilant about calling them out, but it’s not my place to enforce that obviously.

It’s kinda strange how if a bunch of people have a computer and 90% of them work satisfactorily but 10% experience bugs that make the experience faulty or much less enjoyable the 90% isn’t like “don’t change the coding/system because it works for me!” If the system is faulty the system gets upgraded so everyone’s able to use the system.

So why doesn’t the same thinking apply to gender and sexuality.

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These are the screencaps I took of the blog of the person who is setting up the MOGAI social network called Skittlr.

What IS NOT going on: The blogger is not stating that people with paraphilias are part of the MOGAI community by themselves or outright defending the actions of child molesters.

What IS going on: the blogger uses the acronym GSM knowing full well the implications it holds, and lumps the kink/paraphilia community with the MOGAI community by using it, which I and many others find harmful. On top of that, they refuse to include romantic minorities in the already
harmful acronym.
While they do not outright support abusers and those who act on harmful paraphilias, they have repeatedly defended pedophiles saying that “they can’t help what they’re attracted to” and “there is a difference between pedophiles and child molesters.” Because of these statements a lot of people are beginning to doubt how safe the new social network Skittlr will be for minors.

HELL YES

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UK Petition: Allow transgender people to self-define their legal gender

Transgender people in the UK are forced to pay to prove their identity to a Gender Recognition Panel. This process is humiliating, outdated and unnecessary. We urge the government to introduce an act equivalent to the Irish Gender Recognition Act, and allow trans* people to self-define their gender.

This took about 2 hours. I love you all. Please keep going.

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High School Aces: We’re Looking For Your Stories!

We’re still looking for 50-300 word submissions from high school students to be included in our school resource kits and workshops!

These submissions can be reflections of your high school experience, a story from your coming out to parents/peers, an experience where your orientation was validated/invalidated in the classroom, how you felt when you discovered the asexual spectrum, how other aspects of your identity lend to others validating/invalidating you, how your ace identity intersects with other experiences or identities of yours, or any other topic you choose.

We are specifically looking for submissions from secondary/high school students (or your locality’s equivalent), as well as any other aces younger than 19; however, we are also open to submissions from any other ace, as long as those submissions relate to secondary/high school and/or your experience being younger than 19.

You may remain anonymous, may request that you are credited by name, and/or may request that you are credited as a student at a given school or in a given city. Your submission may be printed and distributed, may be hosted online in various formats, and may be read and/or projected in presentations and workshops unless otherwise requested; however, we will only credit and/or mention you with the name, pseudonym, or other identifier that you give us permission to use.

To submit, send us a message with your entry through Tumblr, or email us with your story at contact@asexualoutreach.org. You may also email us with any questions you have in this process.

Submissions are due by July 26th, 2015.

EMERGENCY COMMISSIONS

uh hello i am a young dfab nb trans person who unfortunately just found out that their parents won’t be funding any of their transition, including my name change which has to be done before im 18 of it becomes Literally Impossible for me to do after that.
for this reason, i need to get at least $160 before (the government arent very happy with trans people changing their name and for that reason keeps details deliberately hazy in terms of fees) october in order to be able to complete it before my 18th birthday. im also looking for extra money to help with getting testosterone, but that’s not my biggest concern at the moment

HERE is my commission info (tw for blood in some of the examples)
if you don’t want a commission but have some spare change, it would be amazing if you could donate to me at ephixel@gmail.com via paypal

if you could signal boost this at all that would be totally amazing!! thank you for taking the time to read this

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If you haven’t heard: we’re still taking pre-orders for the second print run of Lesbians 101, but time is running out! Pre-ordering is open until May 8th, and after that, you’ll have to wait for the next time, sorry! 

And more good news: even if you miss the window or just want to have the entire book in PDF-format, you can nab that any time you want!

What’s the hell is this book, anyway? Lesbians 101 is a full-color, 16 page magazine-sized comic book packed with light-hearted education based on the most common set of questions lesbians frequently get. A few lesson examples include: “Why Do All Lesbians Look The Same,” “Why Do Lesbians Hate Men,” and “Isn’t Lesbianism Just A Phase?” The material is safe for all ages, but use your discretion – there is discussion on sex and illustrations of sex toys.

Thanks for your support in creating and sharing this book! 

Regarding the word “queer”

We’ve gotten a few questions recently about the word “queer” and who it applies to. Rather than answer each of these questions separately, I figured I’d make a post addressing the topic.

Isn’t the word “queer” offensive?

It can be. The word queer has a negative history. I’m going to be talking about use of it by those who choose to reclaim the word. Reclaiming offensive words or slurs is taking a word that has been used to hurt a community and saying “no, this word belongs to us now and you can’t use it against us anymore”. Reclaiming slurs is popular in marginalized communities! But it’s important for people outside of those communities to recognize that they are not allowed to participate in reclaiming words (ie, if you are not black, you should not use the n-word).

But who can use the word “queer”?

Anybody within the queer community is welcome to identify as queer. It is a broad term and does not apply to one single orientation or gender identity, but instead applies to the community as a whole.

Okay, but how do we know if we’re part of the queer community?

Think about the queer community as being synonymous with the LGBTQIA+ community or the GSM community (gender and sexual minorities). Essentially in a heteronormative and binarist society, those of us who fall outside of the “norm” are considered the minority, and this minority is what comprises the queer community.

What does this mean if I’m asexual?

And, to the bottom line of what some of these questions were asking: Yes, if you are asexual, you are part of that community. You are part of the A in the LGBTQIA+ acronym. You are a sexual minority. And, yes, you are part of the queer community, and can identify as queer.

But ______ said asexual people cannot identify as queer!

Not everybody agrees on this matter. And part of the problem is that, even within the community, there are people who do not accept each other. Just as there are people in the community who are biphobic or transphobic, there are people who are acephobic or anti-ace. And they will try to police who is and is not part of the queer community, and draw lines in the sand saying that certain identities are not queer. But if you know me, you know I don’t believe in that kind of identity policing, and I believe that the queer community should be inclusive of all those who do not fit society’s heteronormative ideal.

What if I don’t want to identify as queer?

You don’t have to! That’s perfectly fine. You choose what terms you want to identify as, and I’m not here to tell you that you have to identify as queer. I’m just saying that you have the option, and you may identify as queer if you would like to.

If you have any additional questions on the matter, have something you think I should add to this post, or even if you just want to share your own insight on this topic, feel free to let me know.

~ Nash