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Have you heard about the safety pin movement? People are wearing clothespins to show others that they do not stand with hate. It is a sign of safety.

The #gsa at my school is wearing safety pins to show that we are coming together to stand up to hate. I chose these titles specifically (they are so appropriate) and our school colors are purple and gold.

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i say “i’m bisexual”
but all you see is me holding hands with my girlfriend
and you suddenly can’t hear me over “i didn’t know you were a lesbian"
I say, “i’m bisexual”
but my coming out goes unheard
over you telling me, “it’s just a phase, you’ll pick a side eventually"
I say, “i’m bisexual”
but you can’t hear me over 
“oh, honey, you’re just confused, you’re too young to know for sure”
I say, “i am bisexual”
but you hear
“i am greedy”
“i am indecisive”
“i am wishy-washy”
I am bisexual
and I am so fucking tired
of your stereotypes
and your assumptions
I am bisexual
and I am valid
—  Unknown

I hate how some communities and factions of  tumblr make it seem like there is a great war between lesbians and bisexual women or between gnc women and trans men. It is simply not true. 

 Earlier this year I and two friends of mine started the first gsa (not really, it is only for lgbt people) at my school. And guess what? We all respect each other and have become close friends during this process even though I am a gnc bisexual girl, the secretery is a gay girl and the president is a trans boy. 

Weird. Almost like lgbt people can get along and respect each other regardless of identity. Of course a bisexual girl can be lesbophobic and a lesbian can be biphobic. Of course cis people can be transphobic and of course a trans man can be disrecpectful towards gnc women. But that's not the point. The point is we learn from each other and apologize if we make mistakes. And what better place to learn than at a gsa/lgbt club? 

Genderfluid Problems in School

1. Only a small group of people use your proper name and pronouns (if you changed your name or pronouns)

2. Everyone questions why you dress feminine on some days, masculine on others, ect. 

3. “That’s not a real thing” 

4. “ It’s a phase” 

5. “You’ll get  over it soon” 

6. Going out feeling masculine/feminine/both/neither then feeling the complete opposite latter

7. Feeling like you don’t “pass” 75% of the time

8. Not being able to get ready and look the way you feel without breaking into tears

9. “You don’t understand what if feels to be dysphoric, you’re not trans”

10. Cringing when a teacher says your birth name or your pronouns

Today was the day we passed out the notes from our “Positivity Week”! I got to see all of them and they were to/from all grades 9-12 and from many different groups within the school. There were also a lot of adults in the building that had notes sent to them–including the office secretary!

Pictured above are the notes I personally received.

This was something our school really needed. All of the adults, and students, were very supportive and they have asked that we do it again in the future. More than one person asked about having this type of event every month.

I have been really negative lately. It has been difficult to go into work and be the sunshiny teacher I am meant to be, but this has helped. Students need an outlet for positivity and sometimes we need to provide that outlet for them.

It’s moments like this where being an advocate pays off. My school now has a gender neutral bathroom open, and even though I’m a senior and won’t get a lot of use out of it, I know that I’m helping students in the future. Even though it’s a single stall sort of deal, since we didn’t have money to build a whole new bathroom it’s still progress. I hope that more people advocate all over so that future generations don’t have to.