What do I tell my kids?
So, this is a question I anticipate getting in regards to Raven at some point and a question I’ve heard repeated by small minded straight people throughout the last few years.
“What do I tell my kids about: gay couples, lesbian couples, sexuality and sexual preference in general, LGBT people?”
Let me first say that the easiest way to “explain” LGBT relationships to your child is to treat them like relationships and not like a dirty sex thing. You don’t ask the question of how you explain the relationship of the straight parents next door because they prefer a different sexual positions than you. Do you? You’re not asking “How can I explain that Ted and Linda are into butt stuff?” to your child, are you?
You know what is, in my experience, the best way to explain same sex relationships to your child? Having amazing LGBT people in your life so your child can see first hand that love is love. Will they have questions? Absolutely. But your job as a parent is to field those questions. In doing so you might bump into a few of your own prejudices. This is a great time to examine them.
Because they way I look at it you have two options: either you can prepare your child for different possibilities so that they know whomever they turn out to be, they’re not weird - they’re the same person they were yesterday, just in love. Or you can continue to only tech your child what’s the most comfortable for you, ignore all other possibilities, and pray that they don’t end up developing self hate and neuroses the first time they figure out they don’t match the mold you set out for them.
Kids will ask questions. It’s your choice how you answer.
And being as that is, after all, what Princeless is about (less from a sexuality standpoint and more from a gender roles standpoint) it seemed like the pages of our book were as good a place as any to touch on things we thought were important here. So…if you’ve been following Make Yourself, you know that in the last two issues we met Benna (Bedelia’s dwarf cousin) and her wife Gretta. In issue 3, which came out this week, Adrienne is on an adventure with Benna and she strikes up one such conversation.
It’s not particularly spoilery, but if you need to come back after you’ve caught up, that’s fine. Pages from the story below.
And I think it’s the best I can do to put into comics that sentiment that I keep coming back to: Love is love. That’s how I explain it. It’s as easy as “some girls fall in love with boys, some girls fall in love with boys, some girls fall in love with both. Some people don’t even want to be in love.” You don’t have to explain sex to your kid any more than you do when you talk about heterosexual relationships.
Now, when you decide to discuss sex with your kid, we will not be covering that in Princeless, but I’m sure you can find other resources.
Let us know what you think. And trust me. Your kids understand more than you think.