Always believe in yourself.
No matter who´s around you being negative or thrusting negative energy at you,
totally block it off.
Because whatever you believe,
you become
—  Michael Jackson

Well, today is the one-year anniversary of me watching Farscape (adjusted for time differences because it was def June 1 in the US), and idk it feels like it’s worth mentioning because it changed my life or something?

This is the thing: When you hit 28 or 30, everything begins to divide. You can see very clearly two kinds of people. On one side, people who have used their 20s to learn and grow, to find … themselves and their dreams, people who know what works and what doesn’t, who have pushed through to become real live adults. Then there’s the other kind, who are hanging onto college, or high school even, with all their might. They’ve stayed in jobs they hate, because they’re too scared to get another one. They’ve stayed with men or women who are good but not great, because they don’t want to be lonely. They mean to develop intimate friendships, they mean to stop drinking like life is one big frat party. But they don’t do those things, so they live in an extended adolescence, no closer to adulthood than when they graduated. Don’t be like that. Don’t get stuck. Move, travel, take a class, take a risk. There is a season for wildness and a season for settledness, and this is neither. This season is about becoming. Don’t lose yourself at happy hour, but don’t lose yourself on the corporate ladder either. Stop every once in a while and go out to coffee or climb in bed with your journal.

Ask yourself some good questions like: “Am I proud of the life I’m living? What have I tried this month? Do the people I’m spending time with give me life, or make me feel small? Is there any brokenness in my life that’s keeping me from moving forward?”

Now is your time. Walk closely with people you love, and with people who believe. Life is a grand adventure. Don’t get stuck in the past, and don’t try to fast-forward yourself into a future you haven’t yet earned. Give today all the love and intensity and courage you can, and keep traveling honestly along life’s path.

—  Relevant magazine

anonymous asked:

What do you think is the most important rule or lesson to know when growing the fuck up?

That the majority of “growing up” is just pointless rules created by societal expectations that don’t really affect your ability to be a part of society. You don’t need to stop sleeping with a stuffed animal. You don’t need to date by a certain age. You don’t need to change your wardrobe or your car or your house. You can still eat dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets, because, let’s face it, they’re delicious and will always taste better than their round cousins. 

Yes, I run a blog that teaches you skills and tricks involved with “growing up,” but these are here whenever you need them. There’s no specific age you need to know everything by and there’s not going to be a test that decides whether or not you’re an adult. Things take time and everyone does things at their own pace and you need to drown out these bullshit rules and focus on what you need to get by.

And remember, “growing up” is a process. It doesn’t happen all at once, and, really, it never stops happening.