So, what if, instead of thinking about solving your whole life, you just think about adding additional good things. One at a time. Just let your pile of good things grow.
—  Rainbow Rowell ,  Attachments
Sometimes growing up isn’t what we thought it would be. It is almost never pretty. It is mostly about learning that you are to rely and count on yourself first. It is about understanding that the things you dislike about yourself aren’t definitive and the first steps towards change are acceptance and resolve. It is about accepting that the world isn’t black or white, and neither are people. It’s about not being overwhelmed by the things you don’t know or can’t do. It is about finding a way. It is about discovering what you love and hate and look for in others and in yourself. It is about coping with loneliness and abandonement. It is about handling feelings bigger than yourself. It’s neverending. It’s tiring. It’s what gets you from point A to point B. It’s what lets you look back on what you’ve done. Growing up isn’t what we thought it would be.
—  titaina, about growing up