Are you offended when you hear someone cursing, does the sound of someone cussing cause you to feel anger or disgust? Why does what someone else say bother you so much? Did you know that people who cuss are seen as more honest and trustworthy than those who don’t?
Of course there are a lot of people who wouldn’t trust someone who cusses, those who wouldn’t want to be around a person who uses foul language. There are people who see cussing as a sign of low intellect, as a sign of poor grammar. There are people who would claim it is bad manners to cuss, or that it is an act of disobedience to God.
What I find interesting is that the majority of these people also curse, they just use different words for the act. After all, cursing is more than just words, it’s an action, an event, something which is used as an expletive. For instance, someone may hit their finger with a hammer and exclaim out loud; one person may say something like, “Damn it!” while another person may say “Darn it!” but both carry the same intent. Whether you use a cuss word or a cute variation of a cuss word, a more accepted version of a cuss word still carries the same intent as the cuss word; saying something like, “He’s such a butthole!” is stating the same intent as saying, “He is such an asshole!”
What is the difference between the two intentions? One is honest and the other is dishonest, can you figure out which one is honest and which is dishonest? If you believe that the cute version is the honest version, you would be wrong. The honest version of the intent is actually saying the word itself, the intent is to curse either way but the person who says damn is being honest int their intent; while the person who says darn is being dishonest in their intent, they are attempting to cover up the fact that they are cursing. They are presenting a fake cuss word in favor of using the real thing in order to keep from being offensive to someone who might not like the honesty of using the actual cuss word, they are not being true to their intent. Worse yet, they are ignorant of their dishonesty and see it as being honest just because they are using a more socially accepted version of a curse word; they feel righteous in their cussing just because they aren’t using cuss words, ignoring that their intent is the same but their actions are dishonest.
There is absolutely no evidence to support that someone who cusses is less intelligent, has a smaller vocabulary, or has poor grammar skills; in fact there are many intelligent people who use curse words, some of the popular literature uses curse words. William Shakespeare was very creative in the use of cursing in his works, he had a very intelligent manner of cussing someone without using curse words; however the insult and intent was the same, and would be found equally offensive to the person who understands what he said to them. If I were to say to you, “Your head is full of shit!” then you may be very offended not only by my cussing but also because I just cussed you; but if I were to say to you, “Your cranial cavity is thoroughly saturated with fecal matter!” then you may not even understand what I just said to you. The intent is the same, either way I am telling you that your head is full of shit; either way I am cursing at you, and if you understood the intelligent curse then you would be equally offended as if I just told you plainly.
Does God judge the words or the intent, do you really believe that God would be alright with the intent of cussing if you don’t use curse words? It is my understanding that God judges the intent of the heart, so then wouldn’t God be equally offended by, “Gosh darn it!” as he would by “God damn it!” after all, both phrases have the same intent; gosh is merely a substitute word for God in that context, just as darn is a substitute word for damn. Don’t even get me started on sins, so many Christians sin daily according the bible, especially the Old Testament, without even realizing they are sinning; the hypocrisy is that they believe their sins are forgiven, no matter how many times they sin, but your sins aren’t forgiven, even if you only do it once. Wouldn’t God rather you be honest in your intentions rather than attempting to cover them up? After all, isn’t God about truth and honesty? So then why would you think that lying to yourself and others about your intentions would be pleasing to God?
I have seen it posted on facebook several times, people offended by someone who cusses in one status update and posts a bible verse in another; passive aggressively attacking the behaviors of someone else in order to justify their self righteous behavior. They are attempting to make themselves appear holy and above those who cuss, yet in the bible it states that all are sinners and fall short of the glory of God; not to mention all of the examples of God using sinners in the bible to do the work of God, I find it hard to believe that holy men didn’t have the intention of cursing evil. So who are these people trying to pleasing to, God or man? I believe that if God finds cursing offensive, then he would find all forms of cursing offensive; whether it is cute or strong, but I also believe that sins are forgiven.
So it seems that the only way to not be offensive in the intent is to not cuss in any form or fashion, to not even think of any variation of cuss word; which many may find very difficult, whether they curse in an honest or dishonest fashion. But I would trust someone who exclaims, “Fuck that hurts!” over someone who says, “That freaking hurts!” because at least they are being honest in their intent. Someone who is trying to cover up one thing will try to cover up another, someone who lies to themselves will also lie to another, someone who is not honest even with themselves is not trustworthy in my book. If you are offended by this article, then perhaps it is because you do not value honesty and truth, perhaps you find offense because you believe the lies which society tells you to believe, perhaps you believe the lies of your preacher, perhaps you choose to lie to yourself and desire to believe that you are honest even though your actions and intentions are dishonest; but no matter what you choose to believe, the offense belongs to you, you own that behavior.
Personally, I find words like hate to be much more offensive than any other cuss word, and I know many hate filled Christians who want to impose their beliefs on everyone around them. The Klu Klux Klan claims to be a Christian organization, they claim to be about White Pride; yet their hate leads them to do evil acts like hanging people of different races, and burning crosses. I hear people all the time who say they hate something or someone, hate is a very strong word, an absolute; having hatred for someone or something is a vile emotion, it is an evil thing to have against someone or something. There would probably be several people who hate this message, people who would consider themselves holy; and that is something I find offensive, that people could be so hateful of truth.