Shout out to the aro and aces who are confused. Who stick with the label for the time being. I’m proud of every single one of you. You have your whole lives to figure things out and it’s okay if you’re still unsure.
Asexual/Aromantic Spectrum witches and wizards? Yes please.
Luna Lovegood is pansexual and aromantic. She figured this out when she heard the terms from one of her mother’s best friend, who works in muggle academia as a Gender and Sexuality professor. The words felt so right.
Seamus Finnegan’s grey-ace interest in sex fluctuates with the time of the year, his diet, his relationships, and how many things he’s blown up in the past week.
Percy Weasley doesn’t learn the word for it until he’s in his thirties, but he’s always had a hard time assigning sexual meaning to people he doesn’t know deeply. It never quite made sense to him when his male friends treated women they didn’t know as sexual objects. When he hears the term demisexual, it clicks that perhaps they weren’t joking.
Padma Patil always thought her sister’s preoccupation with sex and romance was a waste of time. Her parents always told her this would fade with time….it never did. She was asexual and (mostly) aromantic at fourteen, and remained confident in her identity throughout her teen years and adulthood. Her happiness wasn’t tied up wit romance or sex.
People used to ask Hagrid if he imagined himself dating, marrying: he always said yes, but found himself uninterested in the real thing. Madame Rosmerta found this out the hard way - she didn’t take the breakup well, but dealt with it privately while she supported Hagrid through his aromantic wanderings until he settled on an identity. He likes the term “lithromantic,” although he mispronounces it as, “litho-romatic.” Hermione privately thinks that sounds like the name of a friendly robot from a cartoon, but loves that he’s happy knowing that about himself.
Charlie Weasley’s asexual aromantic identity was almost a relief. Now he can spend his whole life with dragons.
The most attractive thing about the labels for the asexual and aromantic spectrum for Cho Chang was that people who thought deeply about them, and maybe tried them out, seemed so much in tune with their romantic and sexual feelings, when most of the people around her seemed so confused and all over the place. When she put it together that she was grey-asexual, suddenly the erratic nature of her relationships with very sexual boys made more sense, and gave her more control in her relationships to articulate desire and therelackof.
Yeah you, that grey-ace right there reading this. You’re amazing, you’re absolutely wonderful and bring so much light to the world!
I know it can be hard to accept yourself and your identity but i also know that you wont always feel this way! One day you’ll be confident or even proud of your identity! One day you’ll be able to think “this is the way i am” and mean it in a positive way!
Im so proud of you for getting so far already , you’re doing such a good job! I believe in you! I believe that you can make it!
Here’s to the gray romantic and/or gray sexual people, to those who only feel attraction sometimes or in really specific circumstances. Your on and off relationship with attraction is completely genuine and you’re a lovely person. I hope that great things come your way.
Japanese a-spec people are so cool! Japanese aces and aros are amazing, Japanese demis are pure awesome, Japanese grey-aces and grey-aros are the greatest, and everyone else who is Japanese and on the a-spectrum is perfect in every single way! We’re incredibly proud of Japanese a-spec people; you’re all the coolest and we’re proud to have people like you in our communities!
I’m making a sexual/romantic orientation definition masterpost -including the ace spectrum! Send in definitions (even if they seems obvious) to me, and I’ll put them in. Any contibutions are helpful, and put in as many as you can.
shoutout to aromantic people
shoutout to bigender people
shoutout to demigender people
shoutout to pangender people
shoutout to polygender people
shoutout to intersex people
shoutout to polysexual people
shoutout to polyamorous people
shoutout to grey-asexual people
shoutout to greyromantic people
shoutout to lithromantic people
shoutout to quoiromantic people
shoutout to questioning people
shoutout to heteroflexible people
shoutout to homoflexible people
shoutout to people whose romantic orientation doesn’t line up with their sexual orientation
shoutout to lgbt+ poc
shoutout to lgbt+ muslims
shoutout to disabled lgbt+ people
shoutout to mentally-ill lgbt+ people