A Manifesto for Introverts

1. There’s a word for “people who are in their heads too much”: thinkers.

2. Solitude is a catalyst for innovation.

3. The next generation of quiet kids can and must be raised to know their own strengths.

4. Sometimes it helps to be a pretend extrovert. There will always be time to be quiet later.

5. But in the long run, staying true to your temperament is key to finding work you love and work that matters.

6. One genuine new relationship is worth a fistful of business cards.

7. It’s OK to cross the street to avoid making small talk.

8. “Quiet leadership” is not an oxymoron.

9. Love is essential; gregariousness is optional.

10. “In a gentle way, you can shake the world.” -Mahatma Gandhi

—  “Quiet” by Susan Cain

-Sim Request for @simsaresavage-

he asked for a korean female young adult, with tumblr-esque style. honestly, all she needs now is a blk. water bottle or a fiji bottle tBH. I also didn’t hold back on cc with this one I apologize LOL.

• name: Kaiko Rouya (thanks to Rachel aka BJ aka @get-in-loser for helping me with the name!)

• traits: bro, dance machine & self assured (plus gregarious from friend of the world aspiration)

• cc: hat | hair (backyard stuff but if anyone knows a bgc link tell me so I can update) | eyebrows | waterline | eyes | skin [1] & [2] | nosemask | blush | mouth corners | lips | hairline | hands | nails | choker | croptop | jeans (I couldn’t find them but they can be replaced by similar ones!) | shoes

TOU: none. you can use her as a base, make her star in sim pornos, anything. just don’t claim.


private dl.

lil note: you might notice that the sims have either really small feet or huge ones, that’s because I have a height mod installed. so you may need to adjust that.

“I love Mike. I was always terrified of Mike when I first met him. He’s got this sort of, like real sort of, interesting presence about him and you know, he doesn’t come across as the most sort of warm and gregarious guy, and yet he’s got a bigger heart than most people I’ve ever met and I was very happy to get to work with him and to know him.“

–  Joel Edgerton discussing his "Midnight Special” and “Loving” co-star Michael Shannon

“Wait, Guardian. One more thing. One more thing about Tevis. You’d think Hunters like to be alone. And we do - we’ll take the treks, long patrols, all of that. But that’s with the knowledge that the Tower has our backs. The lone wolf operates outside the structure of a pack, not without the structure entirely, and that distinction is important.

“You’d think Warlocks like to be alone too, but truth in fact it’s impossible for a Warlock to be alone. Ever. They’ve always got those thoughts, those voices of people they met the day before or the week before, even if they don’t have actual voices in their head from some dusty artifact. Warlocks cannot be alone.

“Titans like to be alone. It fits with their ideas about honor, about one lone person with their gun and their back to a really big wall. Titans are gregarious, but they think being alone is cool, and they feel good when they do it.

“Weird stuff happens when Hunters are that alone. I mean hey, look at Eris.

"Tevis got into a bad spot, and I blame no one for that. But I bet, at the end, he was very lonely.

"Keep that in mind, Hunter. Vanguard can always be found.”


Spotted Hyena by Johan Westerbrink
Via Flickr:
Spotted hyenas may kill as many as 95% of the animals they eat,while striped hyenas are largely scavengers. Generally, hyenas are known to drive off larger predators, like lions, from their kills, despite having a reputation in popular culture for being cowardly. Hyenas are primarily nocturnal animals, but sometimes venture from their lairs in the early-morning hours. With the exception of the highly social spotted hyena, hyenas are generally not gregarious animals, though they may live in family groups and congregate at kills

this is for @theliftisoutoforder who wanted me to persuade her to watch the 1995 version of Persuasion starring Amanda Root and Ciaran Hinds even though she has seen and loved the 2007 version starring the (very beautiful) Rupert Penry-Jones and Sally Hawkins.

  • Amanda Root as Anne Elliot is one of my favorite pieces of Austen casting ever. Anne isn’t the easiest role to play because all her qualities are internalized and she isn’t gregarious or witty or sparkling. You have to get to know Anne before you love her; she’s very quiet and reserved so there is the danger of playing her so she seems boring or sullen or uninteresting or flat and Amanda never falls into that. Her version of Anne is extremely lovely and faithful to the book. She really captures Anne’s intelligence, her integrity, her kindness and her good breeding. She also makes you understand the depth of Anne’s feelings without ever making Anne melodramatic or over the top (which is absolutely what you cannot do with Anne because she is so. not that.) Not easy to do.
  • it has one of the best physical transformations i have ever seen in a movie! really! by that I mean that she starts off the movie quite plain (you believe everyone when they say she’s lost her bloom unlike teen rom-coms that cast a gorgeous girl and pretend she’s ugly) but very slowly as Anne becomes happier and you get to know her better she becomes prettier. it’s amazing really because it’s very subtle (lighting and camera angles and better clothes help) and they don’t really do anything drastic but the difference in her appearance from the beginning to the end is like night and day. that sounds like a shallow observation but it’s not because it’s like…she becomes as beautiful as she actually is by the end. it doesn’t feel false or pandering. it’s just a joy to see.
  • the supporting characters are beautifully cast and played and they all feel real. imo there’s a tendency in period pieces to make the side characters more caricature-like so that the leads stand out by contrast but everyone gets fair treatment in here even the ridiculous characters. like mary. mary is ridiculous but she shouldn’t be played ridiculously, like the performance is a joke. sophie thompson plays her in this version (emma thompson’s sister!) and she’s spectacular. All of Mary’s flaws come across completely and her ridiculousness feels bone deep as opposed to Mary in the 2007 version whose ridiculousness feels limited to the ridiculous way she talks. (like the film makers were like ‘this character is RIDICULOUS and our audience must know that so how about you talk funny!’ which is. stupid.) 
  • this movie is very realistic. there is this tendency (that i understand and do not understand at the same time) to insist that jane austen books exist to sweep you off your feet and satisfy all of your inner romantic longings and in a sense she does because she writes beautiful love stories and excellent romance but also. her books are about people and human nature and the way people manifest that human nature in society and it’s often funny and awkward and painful and it’s always extremely realistic. her social situations feel so true to life because she understands how people work and their limitations and failings. scenes like box hill (as painful as that is) or the netherfield ball or the scene in northanger abbey where catherine is at the opera work so well because we’ve all lived through them. they’re truthful. so they are never limited to juuuust the love story. they never exist solely so that meaningful looks can be exchanged or the hero can stare at the heroine across the room and we can all melt. (which by the way does happen in most jane austen stories and i do love a good meaningful gaze but it shouldn’t just be about that. the scene shouldn’t be geared towards that and because it never is with jane austen it actually makes the romance better?? more truthful? it’s a great paradox actually) i’m rambling but my point with this adaptation is that it remembers that. you don’t feel that it’s catering to your sentimentality, framing everything for that one shot that’s going to melt your heart or that one line that’s significant. everything happens more organically including the romance because it’s a better adaptation. 
  • it’s a beautiful movie but it takes some time to get into. it’s subtle and by that I don’t mean it has muted piano music and lingering shots of the sun setting. i mean it’s not made to be aesthetically pleasing in every shot all the time. you have to be a little bit patient. it will get more beautiful as time goes on! it will be worth it! but you have to give it a chance. which is actually really fitting because I feel like that’s kind of the point of persuasion and kind of the point of Anne. She’s completely ignored by her family and the joy of the story is that she’s finally appreciated by someone who understands the value that she has. well that’s one of the points of persuasion. like all jane austen it’s layered and there’s a lot going on. XD

I hope this helped persuade you! I tried not to spend too much time comparing it to its 2007 counterpart as that’s unfair (and also because I don’t hate that version) but if I had to choose between the two I would choose 1995 in a heartbeat! It’s a really excellent movie and I highly recommend it!

Also I just found this out but you can rent it on amazon for $3.99!! YAY!!!

A little Kazakh pow wow in the wilds of western #Mongolia. We were visiting families in their gers over a period of two weeks. What an exciting way to learn about a culture. The kids were just as curious about us as we were about them. Like all kids, some were gregarious and couldn’t wait to hang with the world travelers. Others were somewhat shy and would hang on the periphery of the discussion with their parents. These kids had been a little bit of both. After awhile, we didn’t hold their attention and they started discussing something of great importance. I wonder what it was. (at Mongolia)

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i had dinner at my friend’s! she just bought a house (her too!) and invited a bunch of friends for a little house warming party, and I was a little worried - I know her because we roomed in the same boarding house, and then both moved out to the same neighbourhood and kept hanging out. So I don’t know any of her other friends from work, or her boyfriend’s friends, etc, which she all invited too…

… but turns out I got along with them super well? which was cool. they all work in the same field, which is totally different from mine, but we’re all around the same age and at the same, idk, stage of our lives? None of them are in school, a few are house hunting, one is two months pregnant, we all have similar interests, etc. so it was really easy to connect.

They’re all early childhood educators, which is probably why they have the same kind of gregarious personality, but within minutes I was talking with the group as if I’d always been part of it even though my former roommate was the only one I knew before.

it felt good, to hang out with people so similar to me, personality-wise. it almost never happens! I always feel so intimidated by people, especially if they knew each other before or they have something in common I don’t share, and there, nope, not at all.

Whistling up a Wind

If you did not read my Carried on the Wind post first, go back and read it now. This post is an extension of the wind-based magick I previously have written about.

Yet another magickal act you can accomplish in the realm of air is “whistling up a wind.”

To whistle up a wind is to oneself embody wind. We are beings between worlds; our feet firmly on the ground, our heads in the clouds, our hearts ablaze, rivers running through our veins. Yet to embody wind we must embrace the levity within ourselves first. But we must also understand wind is not only that one thing, it is multifaceted.

Wind is joyous, it cavorts across grassy hills, whips between buildings, twists and turns and whirls around leaves. Wind is light hearted, gregarious. Wind is also fitful and moody and fickle. Wind can be destructive and wrathful. The same wind that creates gentle breezes creates tornados. The same wind that carries light drizzles carries floods. Wind is tricksome too. A sudden bit of wind lifting a skirt or upending an umbrella? The strange propensity for a tornado to seemingly aim for a house and completely skip another? These are two sides of the same thing. Wind is unpredictable.

Yet wind, even when it is at it’s most destructive, is always mirthful. You must abandon the weight of the world to dance with a breeze, you must become as gregarious as the gusty wind to dance with dust devils. You must be completely in the moment and abandon all else. Be wary still though, wind is fickle in nature and one moment may be with you and the next against. Match the mood of the wind and move with its changes.

Think of yourself less as a master of a slave and more of a conductor or better yet a pied piper. You can “control” it for a time, but it is easier to lead it willingly through its nature, to channel it in a way. It is most like a person steering a half-trained horse, sometimes it seems you are in control and the second you think that you’re not and it is. If you’re playing, conducting, piping, whistling the right way then the wind cannot help but go along - not because it must but because it wants to. Make a friend and an ally of the wind spirits if you plan on making a habit of this kind of work, it makes the “with it” moments last longer.

You may dance with the wind. You may whistle the wind. You may call up the wind. You may pipe it up. You may blow it up. There are many ways to accomplish this. The main categories would be using your body and it’s motions, using your voice and breath, and using a wind instrument. None is better than the other, they all work.

Before you begin, spend time in your chosen spot for this type of work. Ideally it will be open and windy so a high point like the top of a hill is ideal.  On a blustery breezy day, go up there and offer to the wind wights. Fresh baked bread, so warm it steams is the ideal. I say this because while fire, water, and earth can swallow up whole offerings, air is different. Smoke, smells, flower petals, and powdered things work the best to give to the wind. Once you get the feel for the wights and can unite yourself in mind, breathing, and body with the wind,  then you should proceed.

If you want to pipe to the wind through an instrument, you can create a whistle from alder wood or willow. This is a magickal tool and so you should treat its construction accordingly. This is best done in spring when the sap rises and you can loosen the bark from a small branch by whacking on it with another stick. You remove a section of bark, carve underneath a resonating chamber, and then replace the bark with a whistle like slit. You can tune it by taking away wood or adding beeswax if you take too much. This tool is exceptional for wind magick but is not a lasting tool. Believe it or not, this actually helps the magick in this case. A breeze is fleeting. If you choose a more permanent pipe option like making pan pipes or a flute, vary your song and become good at improvisation. The song should be gone with the wind, never to be heard again. This will give you the best results because then the song then becomes a further offering to the wind wights.

If you want to physically whistle up a wind, it is  actually slightly more difficult. You sort of need to get a feel for yourself and how you fit into the wind. Nearly anyone can make a flute or a whistle; but singing and whistling are natural talents that require some aptitude in them or a lot of trial and error.

I can whistle and sing; however, that doesn’t mean I can do much that pleases the wind musicically. I’ve tried, but the best way I can whistle up a wind it is by purposely NOT whistling but instead making sounds that mimic the wind itself. It looks like whistling, but sounds like wind blowing. I’d honestly consider it more like breathing work than musical. In this form of whistling up a wind, mimic the wind’s every sound until you overtake the sounds and then preempt them.

You can also dance with body and arms to the wind. This likely won’t call the wind on its own, but it will surely please the wind wights to have a dance partner. Pair it with wind instrument music and you very well could dance up a gale. But again, that’s a different thing entirely.

Nosferatu's Cock

you’re blackjack;

emetic daydreams;
bile and 

Foresooth! Fourscore and sixpence!
you brought a gun to a seance
polished, loaded, cocked
way too hot on the biscuit,
itching to get off,
you fumbled your fresh flesh fetish
faltered and 
missed the shot

awoke in a storm drain hard as a rock

now your mind is a sock
hypnotic sez:

You already know this is good, now you’re just showing off.

I didn’t like the last line.

Obscure but I could come up with an interpretation so I think it’s alright. The middle stanza is the best one.

anonymous asked:

Compare his ease when doing the hilarious Insider interview with Cillian to any and all interviews he does for 50 when Dakota is mentioned. The difference in his demeanor and answers is night and day. He's so clearly trying to avoid saying anything that might be construed as scandalous that it keeps him from being his full witty, humorous, gregarious self. Some might see this as dislike for Dakota and 50, but I see it as protecting Dakota and protecting himself. Damie is real.


Presenting My Entry For @simlyliving’s Bachelorette Challenge:

Shayla Quartz!

Gender: Non-binary
Pronouns: They/Them
Sexuality: Pansexual

Traits: Gregarious, Goofball, Childish, Outgoing
Aspiration: Friend of the World
Hobbies: Shayla enjoys hanging out with their friends and creating comedy sketches to perform at their local bar. They also enjoy swimming, baking, and pulling the occasional prank!

Town of Residence: Windenburg

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