So you have the ambition. You have all the answers. All you lack is the discipline.
Unsurprisingly, this is a problem most people have, so don’t worry, you’re not alone.
Tell me, do you have a concrete goal? Or is it something vague like, “Rule the world”, or “get rich” or “become famous”?
Usually those who lack discipline have a habit of getting ahead of themselves and they end up having all these fantastic goals without any knowledge of how to achieve them. They have big ambitions, but no clear plans, no visible steps, and no foundation to start their life on. It’s the equivalent of standing on one side of the river and being able to see the other side, but having no method of making it across.
It’s good to have a starting point, and know what you want in the end. But the path to earning what you desire isn’t pre-made for you. It’s up to you to lay every brick and measure everything out. In your life, you’re the architect, you’re the engineer, you’re the investor, you’re everything.
So the how do you get some discipline? It’s simple: You need to know how you’re going to do something, before you set out to do it.
Step 1: Get Motivated
Make a list. And make sure you handwrite it. Two columns. Think about everything you have a problem with, all your interests and passions, and everything you have ever wanted in one column. In the other column, spend as much time as you need to come up with solutions to each issue/goal. Don’t write one side, without the other.
Spend a couple days looking at that list. Make it into a poster, use it as your phone background, it doesn’t matter as long as you make sure you see it every day until you feel something. I’m saying that incredibly vaguely because people are fueled by different emotions. For me, it was rage.
Every morning, I stared at that list of everything I’d ever wanted, every little problem that made my life miserable and I got furious. To see what my life revolved around so callously written on paper, and feeling so close yet so far, that drove me insane. My anger made my passion double, and nothing fuels discipline more than passion.
Step 2: Plan
Once you’ve gotten yourself suitably motivated to take charge of your life, don’t waste any time. Start by creating a plan. Now that you know what you want to do, figure out how to do it.
Create a timeline for the next year and then a looser version for the next ten years. It can sound daunting, but when you fall off track at some point (and I can guarantee, you will) you’re going to need something to point you in the right direction.
For your detailed, one year plan, make sure your goals are distributed into two categories: Short term and Long term.
For your short term goals, list everything you want to achieve in that year and how exactly you’re going to do it.
For example, if you want to lose weight, I don’t just want to see you write down “lose weight”. Tell me how. Tell me how much. Tell me by when. “Lose five pounds by October by going to the gym 4 days a week”, or “Cut down on eating X food so I can lose 5 pounds by October”, etc. Be specific.
For your long term goals, pick 3 things you want in general. The first thing should be something you can achieve in that year, and it should be the focus of your entire year. The second thing is something you don’t necessarily need, but it makes you happy anyways (like spending more time on a hobby, or saving money for a new designer bag, etc.). The third thing should be something that stays fairly consistent in every single ‘year-plan’ you have. Ultimately, it’s either your most important desire, or very close to it.
These long term goals will help you put together your 10 year plan, and create a better sense of direction in your life.
Step 3: Prioritize
Learn to prioritize these tasks and goals. Don’t go to sleep until you’ve felt like you’ve completed all your tasks for the day. Don’t give in to distractions and the illusion of “well-deserved fun”. Sure, going clubbing may seem fun on Saturday, but it won’t be fun on Sunday night when you’re frantically writing a paper that’s due in two hours. There’s always time for fun later, there’s always another concert and another football game and another party. But some things have a greater impact on your life than just one night of “fun”.
I’m not saying become some kind of a workaholic. There’s always a time and a place for everything. If you try to follow your plan without any distractions or any fun, you’re going to get bored and then you’re start to hate your plan and your life and then it gets messy. Avoid all that by knowing when you’ve earned a break. It’s very important to discern when you can afford to step away from work to have fun with your friends and when going out is just going to distract you from an important deadline.
Step 4: Act
Now, don’t just write these goals down and shove them in a dusty file on your desk. Keep them within arms reach. Look at them frequently. What I like to do is every morning, I write down a short term goal I have for that week/day/month and one of my long-term goals in my planner. It’s just a little reminder and keeps me focused throughout the day. I don’t feel like my day is complete or productive until I’ve had some progress on either the long term or short term goal.
Also, keep in mind that while planning is a great thing to do, don’t expect yourself to stick to every single detail of the plan. Life happens, and there are certain things you cannot control (although it wouldn’t hurt to try). Don’t be too hard on yourself if you find yourself unable to complete one of your goals for the day/week/month. It happens to everyone, we’re all human. What you need to focus on is the big picture and move on. Don’t waste precious time wallowing in past mistakes. Time doesn’t wait for anyone, least of all for you.
Step 5: Commit
Discipline doesn’t come from just being motivated or having a plan. It comes from consistency. Form productive habits, start efficient routines, and stick to them. For example, if you want to become a writer, make sure you write something, however small it is, everyday. One sentence, one paragraph, one page, the amount doesn’t matter. It’s important to understand that something, however small, is better than nothing. This constant dedication to your work will help you move one step closer to your goals.
The more you force yourself to stay in line when faced with temptation, the easier it will be every other time you are faced with the same challenge further down the line. Everyone forms habits. Just make sure they’re the right ones and you’d be shocked at how much your life could change.
Everything you need to become disciplined is inside of you. Everyone has the willpower and motivation. It’s just some people know what to do with it.
Just remember: Get motivated. Plan. Prioritize. Act. Commit
I look at you every single day and I don’t understand a thing about you. Why do I keep running into you? I met you in the Dalek Asylum. There was a girl in a shipwreck and she died saving my life, and she was you. Victorian London. There was a governess who was really a barmaid, and we fought the Great Intelligence together. She died and it was my fault, and she was you. What are you, eh? Are you a trick, a trap?
When Taylor calls it’s really awesome because she’s full of so much wisdom. And I didn’t realize until I started becoming really close friends with her… that the way she speaks - she speaks so eloquently - it’s like when you’re talking to her it feels like you’re witnessing a song being created. I mean she speaks in such beautiful words the way she cleverly weaves them together to make a sentence. It makes things so clear for me. She gives me the best advice on my relationships, on my life, on my career. She’s just a really great person. […]
She inspires me to be a better person and when I get to that level, hopefully, one day, I will always think “WWTD” - What Would Taylor Do. I would love to be as nice and kind to every single person I meet as she is. When I see her always she is such a sweet person, she was raised very properly and I just think she’s a gem and I’m so grateful to call her my friend.
Todrick Hall, when asked what it’s like when Taylor calls, and on being her friend
When the universe blesses you with the opportunity to prosper, rejection is not the answer. Everything must be aligning for you, your hard work and dreams are coming together for you. The universe is acknowledging every little thing you have achieved. Don’t fear opportunities, accept every single one with a smile on your face and twinkle in your eye. You are greatness.
i saw for your pharmacy au that keith has anxiety, and i do too and when i was working as a cashier over the summer my two modes when customers got nasty were rage and panic, and i was wondering if keith ever gets panicked when customers are assholes or if he just gets angry
i want to say it depends on the situation. i’m not even gonna attempt to lie, i’m 100% projecting every single one of my issues onto keith in my au. like, all of them. sorry keefer u now have anxiety and depression and selective mutism and adhd and
but anyway yeah it depends?? like, if the customer is being aggressive or an asshole in general, he’ll get shaky and angry, and talking becomes nearly impossible. let’s be honest here keith doesn’t have the best grip on his temper in canon so it’s basically the same in my au lol BUT if it’s something else like, he messes up a transaction or whatever, he starts to panic, the cold sweats, shaking, heavy heart, nausea, inability to speak, dissociation, the whole thing. my poor BOY
You know what? Fuck it. I’m sick of sitting passively by, listening to people ask “how do you know if you’ve never tried?” and tell me that no-one cares while you sit there with a shit-eating grin and say “this is a great debate we should do this more often”. A debate? My sexuality is a debate?! Fuck you. Telling me that I bring up great points when I’m giving you facts and you ask stupid fucking questions that I hear all the time is not a debate. It’s a chore.
And how DARE you? How dare you say to me that I need to be fixed, that I can be cured if only I could “find the right somebody”. “How do you know if you’ve never tried?” you ask me as though I haven’t tried. You assume I haven’t?
I destroyed great friendships because I tried to convince myself I had a crush on them. I tore myself apart in so many ways because I tried to tell myself that there was someone out there just for me. My life has been a living hell because I TRIED. Every goddamn fucking day, I’ve tried. And then you ask why I’m angry??
Fuck you. Of course I’m angry!! I’ve been sold this idea of love and romance and sex being the be all and end all of the universe every goddamn day of my life. Every single fucking thing I’ve watched, read, listened to - about him or about her. About how True Love saves the day. How they only live happily ever after when they’re married and riding off into the sunset staring longingly into each other’s eyes. And then I’m forced to endure sex scenes and romances that are so out of place that it jars me out of the narrative so utterly and completely while everyone else applauds and nods and agrees “Yes, they are so in love”. Then they point at a background character who hasn’t even got a goDDAMN FUCKING NAME and tell me “Look! There’s your representation! Be happy!!!” all the while writing fanfiction about that character passionately fucking another character because #OTP #loveislove
FUCK. YOU. Of course I’m going to be absolutely fucking livid! You give me representation and then take it away all in the same breath! I watch as characters who are asexual are cured of their medical condition and suddenly they are not asexual anymore! I watch as characters that have never expressed any interest in romance - who have been around 60, 70, over 100 fucking years!!! - are paired off in heterosexual relationships (as though there aren’t enough of them around). Characters who are made canonically asexual and then a couple of years later, a new writer doesn’t agree with that and rewrites the entire canon so the audience can relate to them more (as though they weren’t a fan favourite already). Characters who are made the butt of jokes, characters who are placed in the same bracket as incest, characters who we are very clearly meant to hate.
And if the canon doesn’t fuck them over, the fandom sure fucking does.
Pages and pages and pages of fanart and fanfiction all dedicated to shipping my representation with other characters, while I’m shoved aside and told “it doesn’t matter. It’s not a big deal, there’s no need to yell”.
No need to yell? And yet you’ll start entire so-called ‘fandom wars’ over Shiro/Keith and Keith/Lance? You’ll yell and get angry and start a riot when gay characters are made straight and I’m not allowed to do the same for asexual characters? How DARE you.
How very fucking dare you?
I am made to endure and put up with all this shit and then - on top of all of that - then you have the audacity to tell us we are not welcome in your safe spaces, that we don’t exist, that we’re seeking attention (because bringing attention to a sexuality is such a bad thing, right?). I have to sit and listen to you as you describe us as aliens - as emotionless, unfeeling robots. You tell us we are as far removed from human as you can get. I have been told that I’m not right, I’m broken, I’ll never be understood and nor should I be. I spent years telling myself those very same things before I even came across the word asexual, piling on depression and anxiety and loneliness. I don’t need someone who doesn’t even take the time to try to understand to tell me that I must have a medical condition or that I was sexually abused as a child or that I just need to “give it a chance”. I don’t need people telling me that “it sucks” that I’m aroace, that I’m “not normal”, or asking me what I’ll do when I’m old and have no-one to look after me. I don’t need it. I don’t.
I’m already told all this in a hundred thousand different ways every day when I walk outside and see a billboard featuring another ‘sex sells’ advert. Every day, when I watch TV and see yet another out of place romance. Every day, when I walk into a shop and a love song is playing over the speakers.
“How do you know if you’ve never tried?” How do YOU know?
I’ve had people ask me “isn’t it lonely?” They ask me how I’ll ever feel fulfilled if I never experience love and when I point at my friends, they laugh and say “no, I mean romantically” as if the way I love isn’t valid. Why is romance so much more fulfilling than platonic? “It just is,” they’ll reply as though that explains everything. It doesn’t.
They tell me how love is so amazing and great and then in the next sentence moan about their significant other or cry about how heartbroken, how depressed they are because their boyfriend/girlfriend broke up with them. “I’ll never love anyone ever again, I guess that makes me asexual” they say as they chat up their next partner and I grit my teeth and smile and nod because I’ll never understand so how can I judge?
So fuck you. I’m not going to just sit here and let you tell me that my representation doesn’t matter. Not when it took me 17 years to finally find asexuality. Not when it took others far longer. And definitely not when some go their whole life feeling broken or force themselves to do things they don’t want to just to try to fit in. We exist whether you understand us or not and we need our representation too.
“(Right) Last year I had a fight with my closest friend. We met almost every day, but we started to cancel our plans often as we both got busier. One day I got angry and said, ‘Hey, let’s stop planning to hang out if we don’t mean it.’ I think this made my friend upset and we didn’t talk to each other even once after that. I cried every day as if I was going through a breakup, and I even changed my phone number I had had for ten years. Out of pride, I thought, ‘You’re nothing to me,’ and didn’t contact her. I also felt a lot of regrets. Because for a year and a half, I thought about that friend every single day. Last week, I couldn’t take it any longer, so I ended up calling her.” “What did you say?” “(Right) Instead of something like, ‘Hey,’ the first words that came out were, ‘I hate you. I’m gonna hate you for the rest of my life.’ So she said, ‘I’m also going to hate you for the rest of my life. Have a great life.’ I got so angry I asked, ‘Things are going well, huh?’ and she answered, ‘No, I’m just getting by… but it seems like you’ve been doing well.’ I found out that she was also having a difficult time, but to her, it seemed like I was doing well, so it made her angrier. Then when I asked, ‘Why didn’t you call me?’ she started crying… With just those few words, our relationship that had been so bad for over a year was mended. Thinking back on it, it’s pretty funny. She was like family, yet our relationship nearly fell apart. And we were able to fix it so easily.”
“Yesterday she said, ‘Talking with you on KakaoTalk makes me feel like things have finally gone back to normal.’”
“(오른쪽) 작년에 제일 친했던 친구와 싸웠어요. 매일같이 만나던 친구였는데 서로 바빠지다 보니 약속을 잡아도 깨지는 경우가 허다해졌거든요. 하루는 제가 화가나서 ‘야 이제 쉽게 약속 잡지 말자.’라고 했는데 그 친구도 기분이 상했는지 정말 한 번도 연락을 안 하는 거예요. 마치 실연 당한 것처럼 맨날 울고 10년 된 번호까지 바꿨어요. 저도 오기가 생겨서 ‘니가 뭐라고.’라는 생각으로 연락하지 않았죠. 서운함도 컸어요. 저는 1년 반이 지날 동안 정말 하루도 빠지지 않고 그 친구가 생각이 났거든요. 결국 저번 주에 제가 결국 못 참고 전화를 했어요.” “전화해서 뭐라고 하셨나요?” “(오른쪽) 그냥 ‘안녕’ 이런 말이 나오지 않고 ‘너 미워. 나 평생 너 미워하면서 살거야.’하는 말이 먼저 나오더라고요. 그러니까 그 친구가 ‘너도 나 미워하면서 살아. 재밌게 잘 지내고.’라고 하더라고요. 화가 너무 나서 ‘그래서 잘 지내니?’하고 물으니까 ‘아니, 난 그럭저럭… 넌 잘 지내는 것 같더라.’ 하더라고요. 알고보니 그 친구도 무척 힘들었는데 제가 괜찮아 보여서 더 화가 났나 봐요. 그래서 ‘그럼 너 왜 연락 안 했어?’하고 물으니 울더라고요… 그렇게 말 한마디에 1년 넘게 좋지 않았던 관계가 다시 풀렸어요. 지나고나니 참 웃겨요. 가족 같이 친한 친구였는데 고작 그런 이유로 싸웠다는 사실이요. 이렇게 쉽게 풀릴 수 있었다는 것도요.”
“어제는 걔가 ‘너랑 톡하고 있으니까 이제서야 일상으로 돌아온 것 같다.’라고 하더라고요.”
Vet School Difficulties and Accomplishments by the Year
How the eff do you study all these arteries and nerves and muscles??? How do I study for this? Should I join all 15 clubs or nah? Why am I studying harder than undergrad/college but getting worse grades???How can I remember all these people/classmates?? Why do I feel like I won’t be able to pass or be good enough? Depression. Not sure how to juggle exams, friends, family, studying, and mental health. Feeling like there is information overload X 4. Like you are constantly drowning. How do you not drown? 4 tests IN ONE WEEK? WHAT THE EFF.
I survived 4 exams in one week! I recognized an organ during histology today! I didn’t die during my anatomy practical! I remembered a classmate’s name today! I touched a live dog today!
-Difficulties: How in the absolute WORLD is there MORE information this year?? Tell me how this is possible!?!? So many parasites, bacteria, viruses, and pathology to know. Vet school isn’t novel any more, and you are YEARSSSS away from clinics.
-Accomplishments: Can now juggle watching Netflix, talking to your friends, and studying all at the same time. Know almost everyone in class- where they sit, and one or two quirky facts about them. Figured out that grades really aren’t everything.
-Difficulties: Have never been more apathetic.
-Accomplishments: Have never been more apathetic.
4th year (clincs):
-Difficulties: So you’ve been studying for 3 years and you know NOTHING. NOTHING! Where the eff is everything? How do I fill in this paperwork? How do I say this to a client? What is the dose for this medication? Why am I peed on every two seconds?? Why do I not know this? I don’t know how to answer this question by the owner what do I do?? So am I going to get comfortable on the last day of each rotation and then switch and feel like an idiot EVERY SINGLE TIME? Why does this feel so inefficient? OMG my attending vet just asked me a question… PANIC!!! Why does every rotation have so many different ways to do things? Why do I feel like I’m not good enough or I don’t belong here??
When will I have time to eat and sleep and be a human being????
Realizing you can’t save every life.
-Accomplishments: Getting hugged by a client. Being told “you’re going to make a great vet.” Performing surgery. Being able to eat lunch. Somehow surviving every rotation even though you know zero things. Saving a life or two. Getting a day off and enjoying life. Getting a question right. Passing the national board exam (NAVLE). Becoming a doctor of veterinary medicine!
Your personal life attracts a lot of tabloid attention. Is it liberating to open up as you did on “The Heart Wants What It Wants” or do you ever think about censoring yourself, knowing the scrutiny it’ll invite? — No, and it was such a relief for me. It would be so unrealistic for me to be in pain and then release a song where I’m like, “Life is awesome and this is great!” “The Heart Wants What It Wants,” and even the music video, was therapeutic. I felt free. I felt like a huge weight was lifted off of me. That’s basically what pushed me to create Revival. It was a feeling where I was like, “This is what great music is. It’s sharing your story.” I can’t care anymore that people are going to twist my words or talk about it. Everybody said every single thing they could say about me. I can’t let that affect me from making the music I want to make, even if it is personal.
This moment is so unbearably beautiful, it keeps pressing the air out of my lungs while my heart seems to stop for a moment every single time I see these few seconds in game. They express so much how Yen is, a constantly caring woman for her beloved, on the other hand she always trusts them to achieve great things where others would see an impossible task in. She was trying so hard to find Ciri, that she didn’t care for her own reputation, for her own health, her own life. She stood in front of Geralt when he got attacked because of her actions, she took whole guilt for it, no matter the consequences. And that’s how a true lover acts, yes, a true mother acts.
hey! i've been wanting to speak fluent japanese ever since i was 10 (i'm 14) and i plan to live there but i don't know where to start. there are no lessons near my area and my mom does not trust any online courses. i've tried researching some books but i'm scared they won't be enough if i want to speak fluent. do you have any suggestions? (i'm willing to try out any books that YOU think will help) hope you have a great day!
1) I’m sorry your mother doesn’t trust online resources, because there are so many great, reliable and above all free options. Just in case she changes her mind, @japanesetranslated, who self-studies and has never used a textbook, has this list of suggestions. Another great list of online resources is this one by @mujistudies.
2) If online isn’t possible, I suggest the Genki textbooks, available on Amazon. There are various other series, but that’s the one I’d recommend for a young learner. The books have CDs.
3) Here’s my answer as a language teacher, because this applies to any language. You can’t speak without speaking. Of course. If you don’t have lessons in your area and can’t use online resources, well, talk to yourself. Talk to your dog. Talk aloud. Pretend you’re narrating a documentary about your own life in Japanese and verbalize every single thing you do and think. That is, in your own room, not in public. (^-^)
Record yourself, listen, identify your mistakes, respond to yourself. Hey, at least you’ll be in good company, huh? :)
Rent or buy Studio Ghibli DVDs with Japanese soundtracks and shadow their dialogues. (While listening, try to repeat aloud – to “shadow” – what you hear as quickly as you hear it.)
Be patient. Don’t give up. It takes a long time. Good luck!
‘ you’re using birth control, right? ’ ‘ it’s just that he’s so athletic that birth control becomes like one of those plastic barbecue covers in a hurricane. ’ ‘ i didn’t wanna know that. ’ ‘ what is all the screaming about? ’ ‘ have you finally agreed to be in our third? because, you know, we’ve discussed this. ’ ‘ what? this is not the time! ’ ‘ i was the bomb diggity as a baby! i mean i was like break-dancing at eight months old. ’ ‘ get out! seriously? ’ ‘ he’s got too many d.u.i.’s to take himself, so i guess i got to take him. ’ ‘ they’re going to be here in a few minutes, so i need you to be on your best behavior. ’ ‘ no f-bombs, p-bombs. actually, no b through s bombs. no bombs. ’ ‘ please put on some pants. ’ ‘ everything you say sounds really creepy when you’re not wearing pants. ’ ‘ your hair looks nice. ’ ‘ mm, this coffee is smoldering. ’ ‘ so creepy. ’ ‘ i think he’s testing me. i think he’s seeing if i could be a mom. ’ ‘ put some some pants… or at least some really high socks. ’ ‘ i just wanted to make sure that there wasn’t some important piece of information that i totally missed. ’ ‘ actually, can you explain what you mean very clearly? ’ ‘ it’s been months of nonstop sex. ’ ‘ i’m not listening to you. ’ ‘ i’m just saying, look, do you think she wants something more than sex? ’ ‘ do you think she’s finally becoming a girl? cause i can’t handle that, man. ’ ‘ do you think i’ve become too dependent on a hot lava massage? ’ ‘ i’m gonna be there in just a second, okay? ’ ‘ i’m not going to sit here and bond with you about this, alright? ’ ‘ i gotta go babysit my boss. ’ ‘ i’m coming with a date. ’ ‘ she’s smart and mature and she knows about art and famous artists like banksy and the guy who did the obama poster and, you know, like, chalk outline guy. ’ ‘ that’s stupid. ’ ‘ your eyes are so brown. they look like poop. ’ ‘ be honest with me, do my eyes look like poo? ’ ‘ i’m just trying to give you an opportunity to lie to me. just trying to be polite. ’ ‘ actually, the ancient egyptians made pasta by flattening the dough with their feet. cool, huh? ’ ‘ why do you have so many bras? ’ ‘ i just want you to know that, um, you can ask me anything. ’ ‘ are you in love with my dad? ’ ‘ do you two ever dry-lump?? ’ ‘ is sexting cool? ’ ‘ have you done a 99? ’ ‘ have you ever given anyone plow chops? ’ ‘ how do you make love to a person animal-style? ’ ‘ do you wanna learn how to play bridge? ’ ‘ i’ve been doing some thinking and i think it’s time that i take you on a real date. ’ ‘ you’re asking me out on a date? ’ ‘ it’ll be our first real date! italy on ice is a celebration of all things italian, featuring ice dancing’s biggest and brightest italian stars. ’ ‘ i can’t go right now. it’s a really bad time, okay? i’m sorry, just take someone else. ’ ‘ i don’t think you should be rushing into these things. ’ ‘ i know, that sucked. i’m sorry. ’ ‘ just choose someone who makes you laugh. ’ ‘ oh my god, oh my god. i love them so, so, so much. they’re so hot. ’ ‘ i want to rub my face on his face! ’ ‘ just to be clear, i am dialing another woman to go see italy on ice right now. ’ ‘ this room can not take anymore hormones. ’ ‘ it’s almost too much juxtaposition for me. you know what i mean? it’s like right at the line of juxtaposition, but i think i’m gonna let it slide. ’ ‘ what it be girl? what you got going on, ma? it’s the freakin’ weekend. ’ ‘ did you just call me “girl”? ’ ‘ are you wearing something sexy? ’ ‘ oh, you got jeans on, baby, are they tight? ’ ‘ um, my jeans are a little loose. i buy them big. ’ ‘ oh, them jeans sound sexy. ’ ‘ everything alright? you wanna hang out more? ’ ‘ you taking care of that tushy for me? ’ ‘ i’m not doing, like, squats or anything. i’m trying to eat less donuts. ’ ‘ you still keeping it tight? ’ ‘ you’re an idiot. ’ ‘ this is a really good example of people who should not be making love. ’ ‘ you don’t understand. i love him so, so, so much. ’ ‘ he’s so hot, i’m gonna die! ’ ‘ he is way too old for you. i live with him. he’s dirty and weird. ’ ‘ it’s not well ventilated in there! ’ ‘ oh yeah, baby, a yard sale! oh, i feel so alive! ’ ‘ ah, i got a charley horse. oh, god. ’ ‘ i’m going to roll in his dirty clothes. ’ ‘ he came over and asked me out and i really can’t go on a date with him right now. ’ ‘ listen to me, alright! listen to me! alright, you little brat! you just need to be quiet! ’ ‘ you just need to be quiet because i need my friend to focus on me right now! ’ ‘ what are you doing? you know how much this means to me. ’ ‘ don’t let your dysfunction rub off on her. ’ ‘ i am going to be a terrible mother! ’ ‘ i’m going to be just like my mother. ’ ‘ you’re gonna be a great mom. you’re gonna be a fashionable mom. ’ ‘ if you do have sex, make sure you always use protection because, even if he says it’s tantric and you know better, you’re just gonna end up pregnant anyways! ’ ‘ what? are you pregnant? ’ ‘ we have to wait for the test results, but i’m late. ’ ‘ you got her pregnant? ’ ‘ okay, i’m not ready to be a godparent. don’t ask. ’ ‘ i’m not ready to be an uncle! ’ ‘ are you sure that you’re okay about this? cause i’m freaking out by the fact that you’re not freaking out. ’ ‘ i’m oddly calm about the whole thing. ’ ‘ maybe this isn’t exactly my five-year plan, but maybe this is fate. maybe i hit the jackpot. maybe this is the universe telling me that i’ll never find someone better than them. ’ ‘ your life’s like gossip girl… only everyone is old and poor. ’ ‘ you’re an amazing person and you’re going to do and be so many things in this life. ’ ‘ maybe you’ll be a mom, and maybe– maybe not. but i will support you no matter what. ’ ‘ congradulations! you’re dating a girl with basic table manners. ’ ‘ i’m so excited to be on this journey with you. i mean, your boobs are gonna be unbelievably enormous. ’ ‘ i hate her. ’ ‘ you don’t hate her. you don’t know her well enough to hate her. ’ ‘ you’re the skank with a skank face. ’ ‘ don’t make me chase you! ’ ‘ she doesn’t even know what netscape is… she thinks of ice cube as mainly an actor. ’ ‘ she fell in love with you for some unknown reason. ’ ‘ i might as well call you bridge to terabithia because you make children cry. ’ ‘ i will not apologize for my powerful sperm! ’ ‘ you, go stall her – try not to get her pregnant! ’ ‘ i know that you think you’re in love with me right now, but i promise you, you’re gonna find someone better. ’ ‘ i can be a bit of an anchor. i’ve been known to drag women down. ’ ‘ honestly, help me. i don’t know what to do. ’ ‘ i haven’t loved somebody the way you loved me in a very long time and i miss that feeling. ’ ‘ that feeling you have is good, it’s just misplaced. it’s better than being numb your whole life. you end up doing such weird things. ’ ‘ you know what? just stay in there. it’s not that great out here. stay in there as long as you can. ’ ‘ i can’t come out. i’m too embarrassed. ’ ‘ we are literally the most embarrassing people on the planet. ’ ‘ you don’t have to be embarrassed around us. ’ ‘ sometimes i talk louder to blind people. ’ ‘ i’ve peed in every pool i’ve been into. every single one. ’ ‘ i originally grew these bangs because i hate my forehead. ’ ‘ i still think it’s funny when a guy puts tennis balls under his shirt and pretends it’s boobs… they look like little boobs. ’ ‘ i do so many stupid things. you don’t even know. ’ ‘ there is a god! i’ve got my period! it’s so amazing! ’ ‘ welcome to our home. would you like a drink? ’ ‘ i’m kind of over you now. ’ ‘ bye! you’re a mess! ’ ‘ i’m not having kids until i’m 80. ’ ‘ now we can just go back to the way things were. ’ ‘ no more stupid mistakes, right? ’ ‘ i never knew that italy was so much more than pizza. it’s so much more! ’ ‘ the reenactment of pompeii really stays with you. ’
I'm worried I'm not cut out for being a vet... My grades are pretty great and I'm in an honors program, but I'm worried I won't be able to remember all the things I need to for vet school or that I'll mess up surgeries. I really want to be a vet though... Did you ever worry you couldn't do it?
Only every single day of my life until I actually had the degree in my hand. Unfortunately veterinary school is all about cramming and purging. You learn as much as you can for a test and then a good deal of the info is forgotten because it just isn’t important.
I remember absolutely nothing about large animal medicine, but that’s because I don’t do it. You will remember everything you need for your specific veterinary niche. Other things that you don’t need often like drug dosages, unusual medical procedures, etc. can be looked up and it isn’t a big deal.
I hate to break it to you, but you will mess up surgeries. Everyone does. I have been very lucky that my mess ups were fixable, sometimes that isn’t the case. I don’t care how long you are a vet, you will make mistakes. It sucks and it is awful but that’s part of being human. Anybody who tells you they have never made a mistake at their job is lying to you.
Also, remember that vet school is there because, well, you need to go to school to learn to be a vet. Looking ahead is hard to sometimes because you don’t have the basic tools to even comprehend what it is you don’t know yet. Concentrate on your grades but also on doing fun things and living an interesting life and you’ll be fine.
(Okay so a little warning first. This will probably get a bit long and cheesy but I might a bit drunk and full of delicious food and cake, so I’m sorry in advance.)
First of all, I’ve celebrated my 26th birthday yesterday and I have to admit birthdays are always a bit tricky for me. I usually have some kind of personal crisis ‘cause I just keep thinking about how my life is not where I wanted it to be and my head is just all over the place. This year thanks to a bunch of people here my birthday was actually really great. So I wanna thank once again to anyone who send me good wishes and even wrote me a fic and created a gifset and a moodboard for me. Every single word, every single thing meant the world to me, so thank you again.
Also, I’ve been on this site for around 7 years (god, that makes me feel old) but this is the first time that I’ve actually been a part of a fandom and properly interacted with people in it. We have our moments but most of the time I’m having a great time here. I’m in awe with all you talented people (fics, gifs, videos, graphics, art, moodboards, anything really) and with all the funny and smart things you write. I wish I could speak individually with every single one of you but I’m a bit awkward when it comes to interacting with people, so mostly I’m just admiring from a far and expressing my excitement in my tags and posts. Those that I do talk with, you’re true sweetheart and I love you to bits <3 All the others, I’m looking forward to talking to you in the future.
Following this rambling is an alphabetical list of blogs I love seeing on my dash. I admire you and I love you and you make my days brighter. I probably forgot a few of them, so sorry for that. Also, I’m always looking forward to meeting new people/blogs, so this list might get longer in the future. Thanks for reading this mess and now go and follow these awesome people <3
“Nino really needed some rest, huh?” Marinette looks over
her shoulder at Nino and Adrien, who are both curled up against each other and
snoring in the back seat of the car.
“Yeah, he’s had some pretty crazy shifts lately. I barely
get to see him awake anymore.” Alya laughs somewhat sadly. “He works late and
sleeps late, I leave early and end up asleep before he gets in. You know how it
Alya’s tried not to make a big fuss over Nino’s working
hours because she knows that he’s doing a job he loves and excels at. But she
will admit that it’s difficult for her to not see him as much as she used to.
She misses Wednesday Spaghetti Nights on the sofa watching old horror movies
with awful special effects and she misses making pancakes at midnight on
Breakfast for Dinner Fridays. She misses going on dates and she misses lazy
Sundays just hanging out in pyjamas with hot chocolate.
They’ve have talked about it a couple times and Nino hates
their reduced time together as much as Alya does. The difference is that he
also loves his job, and Alya is not about to try to tear him away from it just
because she misses him. Besides, it’s not like she never sees him, it’s just that she sees him less than she’s used to
“Alya, you know it’s okay to miss him, right?” Marinette has
been watching Alya chew on her lip and furrow her eyebrows for the last couple
minutes. She knows exactly what Alya is thinking. “You don’t need to feel bad
about it. Your feelings are what they are, you can’t help it.”
At the back of the car Nino stirs slightly, moving so that
his head lolls just above Adrien’s shoulder as his hat falls off his head. Alya
looks at him fondly in the rear-view mirror and a small smile creeps onto her
“Okay then, Miss Relationship Guru,” Alya smirks at
Marinette. “How about we talk about your love life instead of my petty issues?
A certain someone has totally got it bad for you!” Alya cackles as she watches
Marinette’s face turn beet red in embarrassment.
“Nobody has anything bad for me, Al! Don’t make that kind of
stuff up.” Marinette squeaks, sinking into her seat. She’s just glad that
Adrien is a heavy sleeper and will (thankfully) hear none of this.
“Come on, Mari. I thought he was meant to be the oblivious
one here, not you! The boy has been dropping so many hints and you have thus
far failed to see every single one!”
Marinette shakes her head vehemently. Alya’s been saying
this for years and trying to convince her that Adrien likes her back. Marinette
knows he doesn’t. If he did in fact like her, wouldn’t he attempt to ask her
out or at least drop some more obvious hints? God knows she’s been so obvious
at times that she might as well wave a massive flag saying ‘hey there, just so
you know I am a little bit in love with you so would you please love me back?’
in his face. With sparkles. And all-caps writing. In neon colours. Actually,
scratch that. Flashing neon colours.
I just want to say a few things, Taylor. Actually, I don’t even know how to start. There’s too many things. You can’t even imagine what have you done for me. You’ve helped me a lot and I can’t thank you enough for it. It’s like you’ve been always with me when I had hard times. You hold my hand and gave me a cause to be happy. When people just said that I’m useless, I’ll never be where I wanted to be or I’ll never get what I want in life, you acted like a sister and protect me. I know that it’s more than a Fan/Singer thing. It’s like two sisters are talking about mean people. Advices you gave me, songs you wrote and every single word you said… I know, they’re from heart. When I hear your voice, it feels like home, wherever I am. When I don’t know what am I doing with my life, you remind me that I’m living for being happy and being kind to people. You learned me that how does it feel when you’re loved and I’m so greatful for that. It doesn’t matter if you don’t know me because you do or not, I know that you’ll be there for me when I need you. Just remember that you are loved.