greater service

anonymous asked:

hi! what do you think about people with their sun sign in their 12th house?

I think it is important to give them space. Sun in the 12th is in their own inner world and sometimes people have to accept they’re not a part of that inner world…the 12th house is traditionally ruled by a higher octave planet (neptune) and so this house deals with states of consciousness that are collective and transpersonal, it’s through solitude and service of greater purposes that sun in the 12th finds transcendental awareness, otherwise they’ll always feel lost, distant..like they’re just floating through this place we call reality

Sugar Baby Basics: 4 Things Every Aspiring Sugar Baby Should Know

To any and every man or woman who is aspiring to be a SB – I hope this article finds you before your first SD does. Why?

Because apart from the know-how in picking the right SDs, the techniques of negotiating allowance, and the little tips and tricks to controlling the relationship to progress your way – there are the fundamentals to sugar dating that lie at the very base of all of that.

And these are the things that every SB absolutely needs to know.

Learn it. Memorize it. Internalize it. And don’t forget it, no matter who you meet down the sugar road.

#1. Men Think You’re More Attractive Than You Think You Are 

If you’re a somewhat decent-looking girl, you probably have an assessment of your looks that you are right now comparing to the looks of so-and-so model or so-and-so gorgeous acquaintance, etc. By comparison, you don’t feel so hot.

Well, guess what?

Most sugar daddies don’t spend their days flipping through the pages of Cosmo. They’re also too busy with work to go frolicking around with models all day. The simple fact that you’re a young, cute girl makes you beautiful. Add to this the fact that you’re a young, cute girl who is having dinner with them and interested in what they say, makes you the most gorgeous girl they know.

In addition, you have to remember that men are human. And all humans are susceptible to a herd mentality: We believe what other people believe. That is why, in America, as the media broadcasts images of models and underweight actresses, we believe thin is a epitome of beauty. In Mauritania, however, girls force-feed themselves to attain the ideal fatness their men like.

What all this means for you is that men will judge your beauty by how other people judge your beauty. And the primary way he can do that is by observing how attractive you seem to believe yourself to be.

Have an unshakeable belief in your own attractiveness, and he’ll believe it too.

#2. Do NOT Equate your Physical Beauty with your Worth

Many SBs fall into this trap when they’re figuring out how much they should ask for allowance. Some make the mistaken assumption that the allowance should be equivalent to your level of physical beauty. This is bullshit.

By determining your allowance amount by your physical attractiveness, you’re leaving out the majority of what you offer.

Every girl possesses certain, non-physical qualities that are worth much more than her physical beauty and most often, those characteristics are what SDs are looking for. You might not be America’s next top model, but are you witty enough to make him laugh? Are you thoughtful enough to know just when to say the right thing? Are you appreciative enough to make him feel like the amazing man who’s made your life happier and easier?

All these qualities of yours are priceless. He knows it.  Make sure you do too.

#3. The Difference Between a Sweetheart and a Pushover

People like sweethearts. Sweetness is wonderful. Sweetness can also be powerful. It can help you diffuse arguments, mask criticisms, and get out of undesirable situations.

But sweetness needs to have a backbone. It needs to able to laugh in his face when he makes a moronic request. It needs to be able to let him know that he’s being a douche when he’s crossed the line. Do it sweetly, of course, but DO IT.

Men will try to push you just to see if they can. This “pushing the envelope” game is also popular with dogs and children.  Whomever you’re dealing with – remember that the boundaries need to be set early.

If you’re a sweet pushover, there is no greater service you can do for yourself than to practice saying, “no.” Say it with a smile. Follow it up nicely with something else you’d like to happen instead. Keep your sweetness, but learn to mix it up with a little spice and a little sour when called for.

#4. Most Importantly: You’re Worth a Helluva Lot More Than Whatever He’s Giving You

Ever heard the saying, “People spend their youth trying to make money and spend their money trying to buy youth?”

It’s uncanny how this saying sort of explains the entirety of the sugar relationship.

But anyway, I’ve brought this up so that you don’t forget something mighty important: you may not have money, but you have youth. Guess which one is actually attainable.

My point is, don’t ever let yourself get intimidated by his wealth or successes. Don’t let your life be dominated by what he wants from you.

You’re young and you have something worth much more than what he can ever offer you: you have a future. And a future full of possibilities has an allure greater than a past full of successes.

You have something far more valuable than what your SD can offer you. Don’t forget that.

Let Me Touch Your Fire (1)

Pairing: Bucky X Mutant!Reader

Words: 616

Warnings: Aaaaaaaangst. And just a hint of hope…

Summary: You’re a mutant who was experimented on by Stryker. He changed your mutation so instead of feeling others’ emotions and transferring emotions to them, you can now only transfer emotions and you feel nothing. 

A/N: Sorry everyone. But I do love me some angst every once in awhile. I think this might be a multipart fic so let me know if you want to be tagged.

Permanent Tag List: @meganlane84 @mizzzpink @bringmetheemobands @kimistry27 @fireandicewillsuffice @vacam79 @amrita31199 @badassbaker @feelmyroarrrr

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anonymous asked:

A relatively minor thing that caught my eye (or ear, I guess) in 29 was the way Damien treated Frank. I guess Damien's just in a frame of mind that unless they have some certain significance in his life (i.e. Chloe, Mark, Joan, Ellie, etc.) people in general mean literally nothing to him. He kept talking down to Frank, making references to his military experience. I thought that was interesting to see him totally talking down to Frank, and (1/2)

(2/2) I was so mad because Frank has done more good with his life than Damien ever could in a million years.

Yep, I honestly hated writing those bits of dialogue for Damien because hasn’t Frank suffered enough? But Frank is everything that Damien isn’t and Damien recognizes that - he’s strong and loyal with a real moral compass and he was also part of something bigger than himself. And, in Damien’s eyes, something very conformist and by-the-book. Damien can’t understand wanting to follow orders and put your life on the line for a greater purpose. 

anonymous asked:

Any advice for MilSOs?

Thank you my dear sweet anon, this is an important facet of military culture and customs.

First off, it is and never will be “our rank.“ It is the spouse who is actually in the service’s rank. You are a civilian, you outrank NOBODY. Trying to use your spouse’s rank makes you a horrible person, its essentially career blackmail, and more than a little petty.

Also a note for those officers and senior enlisted who let their wives pull rank on service members: YOU ARE WRONG. You are essentially debased to the role of enforcer of your spouses petty revenges.

Next, if you are in the relationship for finances or benefits you are wrong, manipulative, and again a horrible person. You and the service member deserve better than that train wreck of an emotional roller coaster, especially over a few paychecks and some tricare.

Next, do not get married just before basic, just after basic, just before or after a training school, or just before or after a deployment. It may be a rose colored glasses effect due to the forced separation. Also as a side note to that the problems you had before any of the above experiences will still be there, along with a passel of new problems and stresses that will have come to light during that away time. These stressers are often to much for a newer relationship to handle and even loving couples have fallen apart.

Next, do not marry due to pressure from anyone, do not marry a stripper or other sex workers, I have never once heard of it ending well. Not saying it can’t work but its not likely, jealousy is an ugly mistress, and when your loved one makes a living provocatively it is hard not to hold a resentment.

Do not marry anyone because the sex is good. Don’t get me wrong, sex is an important part of any spousal relationship, it just should NEVER be the foundation of one. Now service members and milso’s both need to be open and attentive to their spouses physical needs in this area. While sex should never be scheduled or allowed to become rote or boring it, should happen fairly regularly in a serious relationship. Never go beyond your comfort zone because that can also add to a resentment between partners. It has been my experience that spouses who are regularly fulfilled tend not to stray, and if they do, then they were always going to and there is more or less little that could have been done to stop it.

Now it is important to remember that communication is the cornerstone of any relationship. If you have an issue, a frustration, a resentment, a jealousy, ect it needs to be brought up as soon as possible in a private setting. If it doesn’t get off your chest, like a wound you allow to get infected, it gets worse til finally it goes septic and you loose the limb. All because you couldn’t say a few words.

Next it is important to realize that the whole “me or them” argument never ends well. Your spouse hopefully loves you, but you are asking them to choose between love and comrades, friends, duty, ect… and that is a difficult choice to make. Either way the service member suffers, and every time I can think of it has ended up with the service member leaving the service and soon after loosing the relationship. Destroying two very important aspects of the service member’s purpose and their very lives.

Another important communication issue is jealously, and I have seen many good, healthy, loving relationships torn apart by jealously and the paranoid distrust that it creates.

Avoid assuming. It most often creates a hostile work environment for your spouse at home, which places a much greater stress on the service member, since they are already in a high stress environment at work. Going home to another war zone leaves the service member with no outlet, and this only increases any animosities of frustrations between spouses and often adversely affects the service member’s work environment as well. Causing them to lash out and making all involved parties dig their heals in and turning your relationship into a “me vs them” mentality, instead of a loving healthy one. Turning normal conversations that are not important in and of themselves into last stands and ultimatums, making your relationship a civil war,

I would suggest trying to cool down in whatever way works best for you before going on the offensive. Often times you will find that after calming down and taking a minute to think that the issue wasn’t all that big and you would have said damaging things that would chip away at the foundation of your relationship, so give it a bit before you go nuclear ok?

Deployments are HUGE they will take the service member away for months or even years at a time depending on the branch and job of the service member. Both parties need to understand that life is hard apart for both parties, and communication through letters, emails, and phone calls when possible is important. It keeps both of you in each others lives and thoughts, keeping both parties connected, communicating, and ultimately growing.

Sometimes one or both partners have fallen out of practice in their relationship. Allowing situational complacency to allow them to take their partner for granted, or even purposefully neglected. You or your partner can only be on the loosing side for so long before they become sick of trying.  

I also know countless military couples that deeply loved each other but let it slip or pushed each other away because of PTSD or other personal issues. And in the end most wished that they could, turn back the clock and start over.

THE QUALIFICATIONS OF A TRUE MASON:


Every true Mason has come into the realization that there is but one Lodge - that is, the Universe - and but one Brotherhood, composed of everything that moves or exists in any of the planes of Nature. He realizes that the Temple of Solomon is really the Temple of the Solar Man -Sol-Om-On - the King of the Universe manifesting through his three primordial builders. He realizes that his vow of brotherhood and fraternity is universal, and that mineral, plant, animal, and man are all included in the true Masonic Craft. His duty as an elder brother to all the kingdoms of Nature beneath him is well understood by the true Craftsman, who would rather die than fail in this, his great obligation. He has dedicated his life upon the altar of his God and is willing and glad to serve the lesser through the powers he has gained from the greater. The mystic Mason, in building the eyes that see behind the apparent ritual, recognizes the oneness of life manifesting through the diversity of form. The true disciple of ancient Masonry has given up forever the worship of personalities. With his greater insight, he realizes that all forms and their position in material affairs are of no importance to him compared to the life which is evolving within. Those who allow appearances or worldly expressions to deter them from their self-appointed tasks are failures in Masonry, for Masonry is an abstract science of spiritual unfoldment. Material prosperity is not the measure of soul growth. The true Mason realizes that behind these diverse forms there is one connected Life Principle, the spark of God in all living things. It is this Life which he considers when measuring the worth of a brother. It is to this Life that he appeals for a recognition of spiritual Unity. He realizes that it is the discovery of this spark of Unity which makes him a conscious member of the Cosmic Lodge. Most of all, he must learn to understand that this divine spark shines out as brightly from the body of a foe as it does from t he dearest friend. The true Mason has learned to be divinely impersonal in thought, action, and desire. The true Mason is not creed-bound. He realizes with the divine illumination of his lodge that as Mason his religion must be universal: Christ, Buddha or Mohammed, the name means little, for he recognizes only the light and not the bearer. He worships at every shrine, bows before every altar, whether in temple, mosque or cathedral, realizing with his truer understanding the oneness of all spiritual truth. All true Masons know that they only are heathen who, having great ideals, do not live up to them. Th ey know that all religions are but one story told in divers ways for peoples whose ideals differ but whose great purpose is in harmony with Masonic ideals. North, east, south and west stretch the diversities of human thought, and while the ideals of man apparently differ, when all is said and the crystallization of form with its false concepts is swept away, one basic truth remains: all existing things are Temple Builders, laboring for a single end. No true Mason can be narrow, for his Lodge is the divine expression of all broadness. There is no place for little minds in a great work. The true Mason must develop the powers of observation. He must seek eternally in all the manifestations of Nature for the things which he has lost because he failed to work for them. He must become a student of human nature and see in those around him the unfolding and varying expressions of one connected spiritual Intelligence. The great spiritual ritual of his lodge is enacted before him in every action of his fellow man. The entire Masonic initiation is an open secret, for anyone can see it played ou t on the city street corners as well as in the untracked wilderness. The Mason has sworn that every day he will extract from life its message for him and build it into the temple of his God. He seeks to learn the things which will make him of greater service in the Divine Plan, a better instrument in the hands of the Great Architect, who is laboring eternally to unfold life through the medium of living things. The Mason realizes, moreover, tha t his vows, taken of his own free will and accord, give him th e divine opportunity of being a living tool in the hands of a Master Workman. The true Master Mason enters his lodge with one thought uppermost in his mind: “How can I, as an individual, be of greater use in the Universal Plan? What can I do to be worthy to comprehend the mysteries which are unfolded here? How can I build the eyes to see the things which are concealed from those who lack spiritual understanding?” The true Mason is supremely unselfish in every expression and application of the powers that have been entrusted to him. No true Brother seeks anything for himself, but uns elfishly labors for the good of all. No person who assumes a spiritual obligation for what he can get out of it is worthy of applying for the position even of water-carrier. The true Light can come only to those who, asking nothing, gladly give all to it. The true brother of the Craft, while constantly striving to improve himself, mentally, physically, and spiritually through the days of his life, never makes his own desires the goal for his works. He has a duty and that duty is to fit into the plans of another. He must be ready at any hour of the day or night to drop his own ideals at the call of the Builder. The work must be done and he has dedicated his life to the service of those who know the bonds of neither time nor space. He must be ready at any moment’s notice and his life should be turned into preparing himself for that call which may come when he least expects it. The Master Mason knows that those most useful to the Plan are those who have gained the most from the practical experiences of life. It is not what goes on within the tiled lodge which is the basis of his greatness, but rather the way in which he meets the problems of daily life. The true Masonic student is known by his brotherly actions and common sense. Every Mason knows that a broken vow brings with it a terrible penalty. Let him also realize that failure to live mentally, spiritually, and morally up to one’s highest ideals constitutes the greatest of all broken oaths. When a Mason swears that he will devote his life to the building of his Father’s house and then defiles his living temple through the perversion of mental power, emotional force, and active energy, he is breaking a vow which imposes not hours but ages of misery. If he is worthy to be a M ason, he must be great enough to restrain the lower side of his own nature which is daily murdering his Grand Master. He must realize that a misdirected life is a broken vow and that daily service, purification, and the constructive application of energy is a living invocation which builds within and draws to him the power of the Creator. His life is the only prayer acceptable in the eyes of the Most High. An impure life is a broken trust; a destructive action is a living curse; a narrow mind is a strang le-cord around the throat of God. All true Masons know that their work is not secret, but they realize that it must remain unknown to all who do not live the true Masonic life. Yet if the so-called secrets of Freemasonry were shouted from the housetops, the Fraternity would be absolutely safe; for certain spiritual qualities are necessary before the real Masonic secrets can be understood by the brethren themselves. Hence it is that the alleged “exposures” of Freemasonry, printed by the thousands and tens of thousands since 1730 down to the present hour, cannot injure the Fraternity. They reveal merely the outward forms and ceremonies of Freemasonry. Only those who have been weighed in the balance and found to be true, upright, and square have prepared themselves by their own growth to appreciate the inner meanings of their Craft. To the rest of their brethren within or without the lodge their sacred rituals must remain, as Shakespeare might have said, “Words, words, words.” Within the Mason’s own being is concealed the Power, which, blazing forth from his purified being, constitutes the Builder’s Word. His life is the sole password which admits him to the true Masonic Lodge. His spiritual urge is the sprig of acacia which, through the darkness of ignorance, still proves that the spiritual fire is alight. Within himself he must build those qualities which will make possible his true understanding of the Craft. He can show the world only forms which mean nothing; the life within is forever concealed until the eye of Spirit reveals it. The Master Mason realizes charity to be one of the greatest traits which the Elder Brothers have unfolded, which means not only properly regulated charity of the purse but charity in thought and action. He realizes that all the workmen are not on the same step, but wherever each may be, he is doing the best he can according to his light. Each is laboring with the tools that he has, and he, as a Master Mason, does not spend his time in criticizing but in helping them to improve their tools. Instead of blaming poor tools, let us always blame ourselves for having them. The Master Mason does not find fault; he does not criticize nor does he complain, but with malice towards none and charity towards all he seeks to be worthy of his Father’s trust. In silence he labors, with compassion he suffers, and if the builders strike him as he seeks to work with them, his last word will be a prayer for them. The greater the Mason, the more advanced in his Craft, the more fatherly he grows, the walls of his Lodge broadening out until all living things are sheltered and guarded within the blue folds of his cape. From laboring with the few he seeks to assist all, realizing with his broader understanding the weaknesses of others but the strength of right. A Mason is not proud of his position. He is not puffed up by his honor, but with a sinking heart is eternally ashamed of his own place, realizing that it is far below the standard of his Craft. The farther he goes, the more he realizes that he is standing on slippery places and if he allows himself for one moment to lose his simplicity and humility, a fall is inevitable. A true Mason never feels himself worthy of his Craft. A student may stand on the top of Fool’s Mountain self-satisfied in his position , but the true Brother is always noted for his simplicity. A Mason cannot be ordained or elected by ballot. He is evolved through ages of self-purification and spiritual transmutation. There are thousands of Masons who are brethren in name only, for their failure to exemplify the ideals of their Craft makes them unresponsive to the teachings and purpose of Freemasonry. The Masonic life forms the first key of the Temple and without this key, none of the doors can be opened. When this fact is better realized and lived, Freemasonry will awake, and speak the Word s o long withheld. The speculative Craft will then become operative, and the Ancient Wisdom so long concealed will rise from the ruins of its temple as the greatest spiritual truth yet revealed to man. The true Master Mason recognizes the value of seeking for truth wherever he can find it. It makes no difference if it be in the enemy’s camp; if it be truth, he will go there gladly to secure it. The Masonic Lodge is universal; therefore all true Masons will seek through the extremities of creation for their Light. The true brother of the Craft knows and applies one great paradox. He must search for the high things in lowly places and find the lowly things in high places. The Mason who feels holier than his fellow man has raised a barrier around himself through which no light can pass, for the one who in truth is the greatest is the servant of all. Many brethren make a great mistake in building a wall around their secrets, for they succeed only in shutting out their own light. Their divine opportunity is at hand. The time has come when the world needs the Ancient Wisdom as never before. Let the Mason stand forth and by living the doctrines which he preaches show to his brother man the glory of his work. He holds the keys to truth; let him unlock the door, and with his life and not his words preach the doctrine which he has so long professed. The Fatherhood of God and the Brotherhood of Man were united in the completion of the Eternal Temple, the Great Work, for which all things came into being and through which all shall glorify their Creator.

—  Manly P. Hall

anonymous asked:

In all honestly I like how Hori is doing romance in bnha. I mean yeah it was predictable but it feels more natural? Like deku and uraraka don't automatically blush at each other or that other cheesy shoujo shit. Plus how he made it so that uraraka acknowledges her feelings but decides to focus on becoming a hero is sick! Personally I think it would do her a greater service if he now writes her getting over deku, which actually seems plausible with his writing 1/

Tododeku is my fav but even if Hori makes dekuraka canon, I won’t be mad because I think he’s doing it really well! Or at least I think so. I’ve seen so much anime I’m so burnt out on romantic subplots that anything with some decency is an automatic godsend ya feel 2/2

i.. don’t completely agree with you to be honest I found uraraka suddenly being all blushy over deku was really.. out of nowhere and too sudden? I don’t think she really acknowledged her feelings too, more like she put them aside to focus on heroing. but that is refreshing to see in a shonen manga, I agree with you about that!! :’)
and you’re right it’s definitely not the worst romance in anime/manga lol especially shounen (Have You Heard About n..a…nats..u.. no….ta…i…za….i……..) 

Peter after Dunkirk

Aka a history nerd uses history to explain what happened next

Okay, Peter is a really interesting one. He bothered me for awhile because he didn’t make sense to me for the longest time.

Peter survives the war and Peter probably went on to work in code breaking at Bletchley.

Okay, so Peter is supposed to be 19 in Dunkirk. And when I read that, it didn’t make sense to me. He would have been 18 when the war broke out, and clearly the Dawsons are a very service/greater-good oriented family (See: Older bro being in RAF and also immediate jumping to help at Dunkirk) so it bugged me why Peter then hadn’t enlisted yet. But then it became obvious that he had to be doing something that was more important than fighting on the ground. Due to his age, and also the firmly upper-middle class status of the Dawsons, this means Peter was likely in university. 

So if Peter was in university, you get the sense that he would have stopped to enlist if it was something that wasn’t war-critical. Languages, history, literature; not war-critical. So it had to be something like engineering or medical. Medical is out because he asks Collins for medical advice when George (my sweet son) is injured. Engineering is also largely out because the Royal Engineers would have grabbed willing students and provided them with accelerated training to get them out in the field faster. But what if it was math? 

First, So Mr Dawson is apparently a banker. This roots the importance of math firmly in Peter’s daily life. Second, math was considered war-critical because it was being used in code breaking efforts by MI5. The British government recruited tens of mathematicians for code breaking during the war, so women who excelled in math and the top boys in university for math were scooped and sent to Bletchley. 

This falls in line with Peter logically, but would also expand on the film’s narrative that Peter has largely become disillusioned with the front lines and ‘heroic soldier’ aspect of the war. From the soldier who ultimately killed George, to Collins who couldn’t help George, Peter’s silence to Alex’s “We let you all down, didn’t we?” speaks volumes. Peter would have jumped at the chance to help the war effort on a grander scale removed from the people who ultimately let him down. 

Farrier - Alex - Tommy pt. 2 - Collins

The Behaviors of a Real INTJ

Given the sheer amount of mistypes online there are for INTJs – real, fictional, celebrity, or otherwise (I’m frankly tired of every Tom, Dick, and Harriet being classified as an INTJ, especially if there’s an ounce of “villain” in them) – I’m going to talk about, and give you examples of, an actual INTJ villain for contrast purposes. Remove the “evil” actions and his thinking process remains Ni/Te/Fi/Se, which is what makes him an INTJ. If another character/individual doesn’t approach life with a similar cognitive process he/she isn’t an INTJ.

The character is Cardinal Richelieu from the BBC’s The Musketeers. (Yes, again. I spoke of him several days ago, but more evidence came to mind since then.) He does many things, many underhanded, even evil things, but it’s all in the “greater service of France” – a higher concept, in which he sees himself as a “servant” to the nation with a higher calling; everything else is sacrificed to this vision he has for France, as a global power, forever focused on generating desired positive futuristic outcomes (Ni).

Everything he does, every decision he makes, is calculated – and above all, LOGICALLY EFFICIENT. It’s Te. Real Te. Not the fake Te that a lot of so-called INTJ villains are accused of having, actual Te-motivations.

Let me give you a single example (though he approaches the entire season’s run of episodes with this kind of reasoning, every single time).

In one episode, a forward-thinking female courtier is making waves at court for her radical thinking – she wants women educated. She thinks marriage is rubbish. She sees what she wants and takes it.

The cardinal sees no real problem with this, though he makes some snide remarks along the way, because what does he care about her opinions or how her morals differ from his (tert-Fi)? Oh, no, what he sees is a vast amount of money he cannot get his hands on, which would build King Louis the fleet he’s always whining that he doesn’t have – a financial incentive to attack this woman, with tangible, real-world applicable results that get them somewhere. Take her down, get his hands on her money, use it to build ships to defend France and keep the short-sighted, spoiled king thinking he’s the greatest thing on earth, so he can continue running France in the future.

So he looks around for a logical method to achieve this. Knowing the superstitions of the time, he uses heresy to do it – she’s controversial; she has women in and out of her rooms often – why, what if she’s molesting the poor things, and there’s witchcraft involved? Burn her – burn her, and she forfeits that gigantic estate and all that lovely money, which he could put to better use, to France.

That’s Te logic. Observable facts that generate practical, useful resources.

After a near-death experience forces him to confront his mortality, and because Richelieu’s getting what he wanted anyway – Athos convinces him to let her live (”I’m not a cruel man – what do you propose?” – ie, give me a logical reason to spare her life!). Athos proposes something he’s amenable to – she can go off, and live on a small pension somewhere and teach, so long as she doesn’t tell anyone what he did, in getting all that lovely money away from her. She tattles, she dies. Fine, both parties can work with that.

That’s proper Te villain logic. It’s not evil for the sake of being evil, it’s not to generate chaos for its own sake (like an EXTP villain might), it’s not to create emotional angst in someone else (bad Fe), nor motivated solely by some vision without any practical logic or application behind it – it’s to accomplish something (Te) in the service of a higher vision (Ni).

The cardinal believes, genuinely believes, and in some cases is correct, that no one – NO ONE – can run France more efficiently than he can, so he SHOULD be the one in charge. Many of his justifications include “serving France,” “serving the interests of France,” France’s future as a major European power, France’s inevitable destiny, France’s impending conflicts with Spain, looking to the future, finding a singular vision, and carrying it out – Ni; accompanied by Te motives: money, power, getting things done, financial benefits, running the government, making wise political and business moves. He even admits that he has no interest in becoming Pope, despite its immense power, influence, and wealth, so he could care less that he’s just lost that possibility – he has a cause (France) already that he cares about (Fi) more!

Naturally, not every INTJ – villain, hero, or otherwise – is going to be this terrific in the case of bold, observable cognition, but to be classified AS an INTJ, you need some of that – some of those motives, some of that confidence in running things, some of that detached, working Te on display servicing a greater vision.

Inferior Se kicks in with the cardinal never doing his own dirty work – he doesn’t like to put himself at physical risk, any situation where he must improvise in his environment leaves him at a loss, and his stupidest moment involves trying to assassinate the queen on the king’s whim (shaky opportunistic and short-sighted inferior Se), which opens him up to discovery and puts him in full-on panic mode as he foresees his situation crumbling. HOWEVER… I should also mention that this decision isn’t without Te-reasoning either; the queen is barren, so she’s worthless in terms of protecting France’s future with multiple heirs. Why shouldn’t he replace her with someone who can have children, since France’s royal family needs them to stabilize the throne?

Another wonderful example of an INTJ whose thought process is much like this for comparisons (one who isn’t a villain, technically) is Thomas Cromwell in Wolf Hall. Many of the same traits manifest throughout the miniseries – someone asks him a loaded question, Cromwell replies with the detached financial / political facts of the situation, in a calm manner; he is a laid back but amazingly efficient man in office, who finds it semi-easy to run the government in a way that continually keeps the future in mind and England’s better interests at the forefront, and shows easy futuristic planning (his ideas about Mary, his incredibly insightful perceptions into Katharine of Aragon before Henry VIII sees her as a threat, warning his son not to look at superficial motives but instead focus on what is “really going on,” etc) in addition to Te skills (financial benefits, weighing the profit margins of war with France, making ideas into a reality through hard work, diligence, and focus, giving factual answers when asked for an opinion, and finding ways to increase the king’s coffers).

He is, once again, like Richelieu, due to his foresight and naturally efficient Te the “best man for the job.”

THAT is an INTJ.

- ENFP Mod

The first service one owes to others in the fellowship consists in listening to them. Just as love to God begins with listening to His Word, so the beginning of love for the brethren is learning to listen to them . . . So it is His work that we do for our brother when we learn to listen to him . . . Listening can be of a greater service than speaking.
—  Dietrich Bonhoeffer

On this day - 29 September - in 1829, the Metropolitan Police Force for London (the Met) was formed, based out of Scotland Yard. The 1000 constables were known as “Bobbies”, in the name of Home Secretary Robert Peel, founder of the force - or less affectionately as “Peelers”. Though initially unpopular their existence had a dramatic effect on crime in the city and by 1857 all cities in the UK were obliged to form their own police forces. 

The Met, on formation, created the world’s first modern police force, with Peel’s ‘Peelian Principles’ defining the ethical conduct of police officers. The officers photographed above walked the streets of Manchester during the 1840s, it’s one of the earliest photographs of Greater Manchester Police Force.

THE EVE OF MARY TUDOR’S CORONATION:

On the 30th of September 1553, Mary Tudor emerged from the Tower to begin her procession through London. Her journey began at 3’o clock in the afternoon. She was greeted with cheers from the thousands of people lining to see their new monarch. With her were her sister and her stepmother, the Ladies Elizabeth and Anne of Cleves, and her cousin, Margaret Douglas, the Countess of Lennox. The Queen’s messenger came out first, followed by trumpeters, esquires of the body, the new Knights of the Bath who’d been invested the day before, heralds, bannerets, members of the Royal Council, Garter knights, and the rest of the nobility. These numbered about five hundred. The nobles were dressed for the occasion, wearing gold and silver, and on their mounts too “which caused great admiration, not more by the richness of the substance than by the novelty and elegance of the device.”

The ambassadors were also dressed for the occasion, and lined up behind the nobles; each of them were accompanied by a lord of the Privy Council. (The French ambassador for example rode alongside Paget, the Imperial Ambassador was accompanied by Lord Clinton. Renard and others rode with Lord Cobham). Other foreigners included the merchants, the Italian ones for example wore “suits of black velvet lined, beautifully trimmed with many points of gold and garnished all around with embroidery of more than a palm in width.” Spanish cavaliers (four in total) followed “attired in cloaks of mulberry colored velvet lined with cloth of silver, with a very fine fringe of gold all about.” Then came the heraldic symbols being carried by her courtiers. The Earl of Sussex, the chief server, carried her hat and cloak then “two ancient knights with old-fashioned hats, powdered on their heads, disguised,” which recalled the people of their country’s old glory when they held Normandy and Guienne. The Chancellor, the Lord Mayor carried the golden scepter, and finally the Earl of Arundel who carried Mary’s sword.

And then came the person for whom they were all cheering and were eager to see, the Queen-to-be herself, Mary Tudor. Coming out in a chariot “open on all sides save for the canopy, entirely covered with gold and horses trapped with gold.”

Linda Porter in her biography of Mary, writes that “she was a small but unmistakably superb figure”. Mary wore a “Gown of purple velvet, furred with powdered ermines, having on her head a caul of cloth of tinsel, beset with pearl and stone, and above the same upon her head a round circlet of gold, beset so richly with precious stone that the value thereof was inestimable.”

Purple was the color of royalty. Mary was the first female King in English history. She knew the power of imagery, so she made sure that her coronation was something that people would always remember. And on the eve of her coronation she spared no expense. One of the things that must also be said about this rich display of imagery is how the queen wanted to present herself to the people. Women in power were still an oddity. Even though her maternal grandmother, the indomitable Isabella Trastamara, had been a Queen in her own right in Castile; England never had such experience. The closest thing to a Queen Regnant they had had been in Matilda FitzEmpress and that ended in disaster. For many years her image was carried through the mud and it wasn’t until she was relegated to the position of King’s mother, and religious matron that she finally got the respect from her English peers. Mary was threading on very dangerous grounds. She knew that if she rode on horseback, as many kings had done before her, she would open the door to more criticism. So she opted for a middle path. One where she would be relegated to the image of queen consort, wearing her hair loose to symbolize her virginity, and ride on litters or carriages, but also one where she would make it clear that she was sovereign of her reign and her authority could not be challenged. Opting for color purple reaffirmed this.

Behind the Queen was her ladies, the Marchioness of Exeter, the Duchess of Norfolk, the Countess of Arudnel, among others which included her sister and stepmother. They were granted a special place, and as members of the royal family (especially Elizabeth) they were treated with great respect. Elizabeth’s new clothes were courtesy of her sister, she had sent her a lot of gifts and gowns so she could pick and choose what she wanted. She and Anne of Cleves both wore cloth of silver that matched the silver trappings of their carriage. Mary had not seen her sister in a long time and she probably wanted to re-establish the bond the two sisters had shared when Bess was a kid, but time –as the motto that Mary would adopt- would reveal to the new Queen, that there was no going back.

As her progress passed through many streets, she was greeted with pageants, salutations (one where a girl dressed as a woman was held up by two men sitting up in a chair so she could greet the queen), and acrobatics.

“The procession paused at Fenchchurh Street to see a costly pageant presented by the Genoese merchants –a triumphal arch inscribed with verses celebrating Mary’s accession, flanked by four great giants. At Gracechurch corner the Hanseatic merchants had set up an artificial mount and a little fountain spouting wine; by some mechanism a man “flew down from the top of the pageant as she rode by.” The most elaborate and flattering of the representations was that of the Florentines, who saluted Mary as “liberator of her country,” and pointedly compared her to the Hebrew heroine Judith who by beheading the tyrant Holofernes delivered her people from the threat of slavery. Holorfernes they meant Dudley, whose beheaded was still a recent memory. Mary was also compared to Pallas Athena, and an inscription told how her fame was so great it reached the stars … At the conduit in Cornhill was “a very pretty pageant made very gorgeously” in which three little girls dressed as women took the parts of Grace, Virtue and Nature. Grace wore a crown and carried a scepter, and when Mary rode by all three children “kneeled down, and everyone of them sang certain verses of gratifying the queen.”” (Erickson)

Once she reached St. Paul’s churchyard, she was greeted with more spectacle. Sir John Heywood who had praised her in the past, sat under a vine and delivered an oration in Latin and English that celebrated her upcoming coronation. There were also a choir of men and boys that sang for her, and then a pageant where children carried burning tapers “made of most sweet perfumes.”

After these ended, Mary called all her councilors and addressed them in a solemn manner:

“Sinking on her knees before them, she spoke at length of her coming to the throne, of the duties of kings and queens, her intention to acquit herself of the task God had been pleased to lay on her to His greater glory and service, to the public good and all her subjects’ benefit. She had entrusted her affairs and person, she said, to them, and wished to adjure them to do their duty as they were bound by their oaths; and she appealed especially to her Lord High Chancellor [Gardiner[, reminding him that he had the right of administration of justice on his conscience. Her councilors were so deeply moved that not a single one refrained from tears. No one knew how to answer, amazed as they were by this humble and lowly discourse, so unlike anything ever heard before in England, and by the queen’s great goodness and integrity.”

This was a great contrast to their previous masters who had been extremely strict and straight forward. Mary was all of these things, but she also knew how to put a show, having learned from experience and observing many great women in their position behave with dignity and grace (most notoriously her mother, and no doubt the stories she must’ve heard from her about her grandmother Isabella, and her late governess, the Countess of Salisbury). She had been preparing for this role all her life. As Leanda de Lisle writes in her latest biography on the Tudors, she was “a warrior queen, established by God, by blood and by law” and she wasn’t going to disappoint. While she appeared merciful on the outside, she would prove to be just as firm as her ancestors.

Sources:

·         The Myth of Bloody Mary by Linda Porter

·         Tudor. Passion. Manipulation. Murder: The Story of England’s Most Notorious Royal Family by Leanda de Lisle

·         On this day in Tudor History by Claire Ridgway

·         Bloody Mary by Carolly Erickson

·         Mary Tudor: England’s First Queen by Anna Whitelock

Sir Tim Berners-Lee invented the World Wide Web in 1989.

Sir Tim Berners-Lee is a British computer scientist. He was born in London, and his parents were early computer scientists, working on one of the earliest computers.

Growing up, Sir Tim was interested in trains and had a model railway in his bedroom. He recalls:

“I made some electronic gadgets to control the trains. Then I ended up getting more interested in electronics than trains. Later on, when I was in college I made a computer out of an old television set.”

After graduating from Oxford University, Berners-Lee became a software engineer at CERN, the large particle physics laboratory near Geneva, Switzerland. Scientists come from all over the world to use its accelerators, but Sir Tim noticed that they were having difficulty sharing information.

“In those days, there was different information on different computers, but you had to log on to different computers to get at it. Also, sometimes you had to learn a different program on each computer. Often it was just easier to go and ask people when they were having coffee…”, Tim says.

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Okay, Listen. Jace Wayland has been getting a lot of unnecessary hate lately. So, I decided to clear up some of the hate that’s coming his way. (I am talking about show!jace, and not book!jace).


“Robert and Maryse treat Jace better than Alec and Isabelle! And he’s completely aware and fine with that!”

It’s not Jace’s fault if Robert and Maryse are strict with his siblings. He’s not benefiting from their negligence.

Also, Jace doesn’t always agree with how they treat his siblings. Example:

  • He defended Isabelle when Maryse insulted her for her relationship with the Seelies.
  • And he doesn’t agree with Maryse’s decision to make Alec “babysit” Clary (and for the right reasons). [Jace to Alec: “You’re the acting head of this Institute. If there’s a diplomatic mission, you should go.”]

So, Maryse and Robert may treat Jace differently than Alec and Isabelle, but that doesn’t mean Jace is satisfied with the way they’re being treated. If you are upset about alec and izzy’s childhood abuse, blame their parents, not their brother.

“Jace is soo mean to Alec!! He doesn’t care about him.”

Jace loves Alec with his whole heart, but that doesn’t mean they get along 24/7. There are scenes where Alec is mean to Jace and vice versa. And the simplest and most obvious reason to this is, they’re siblings. Siblings fight and argue all the time with one other. When the argument gets heated, they yell out mean things that they will eventually regret. (that’s one type of relationships that siblings have.)

I am NOT saying it’s okay for them to say those things to each other!

It was uncalled for, but necessary since these scenes help the viewer understand their characters. These “conflict” scenes determine how much their characters will grow throughout the episodes/seasons.

So, stop acting like Jace is using every opportunity to criticize/yell at Alec; they both said things they shouldn’t have.
(Not to mention outbursts such as in ep 5 are signs of Jace’s mental illness and traumatic past.)

“Jace only cares about clary and prioritizes her over Alec!!”

Seriously, the Alec vs Clary argument? how refreshing.

Jace had lost his (biological) parents. When Clary desperately asks him to help find her mother, Jace sees himself in her. He doesn’t want what happened to him, to happen to Clary. He can’t let someone else’s parent get murdered by the Circle again. This was Jace’s motive for helping her (not to popular belief that he just wanted to get laid… that is not the type of person Jace is.)

Alec doesn’t know what losing a parent forever feels like, but Jace does. So, Jace ignores Alec’s logical reasoning to not help Clary, and decides to trust his gut.

Stop saying “how could Jace believe Clary after he found out that Valentine is her father?? And trust that her memories are “forgotten”?? He’s such a bad shadowhunter!! He should have known better!!” If Jace hadn’t followed his gut with Clary and actually abandoned her, she probably would have been found by the Circle, and tortured for not knowing where the Cup was. Jace following his instinct is a GOOD thing.

Stop saying that Jace doesn’t care about Alec as much as he does Clary! Jace would literally die for Alec. This entire post kind of shows everything I want to say. Stop comparing between Jace’s love for Alec and Jace’s love for Clary. They’re two separate kinds of love, and he is capable of loving/caring about two people at the same time.

"Jace is insensitive about Alec’s (romantic) feelings for him.”

In episode 5, Jace knew Alec was ashamed of his romantic feelings for him. Jace knew Alec was worried that what happened at magnus’s might have affected their relationship somehow. That’s why he reminded Alec that he loved him. He reassures Alec that they’re parabatai and that he’ll always trust him.

In episode 9, Jace (tries to) acknowledge those feelings. Jace just wanted to keep Alec pinned down long enough for Meliorn and Clary to escape. Then, he decided to talk some sense into Alec.

Jace thought if Alec finally admits that he was in love with him, then maybe Alec would be feel less trapped or impulsive. (and maybe, he’d realize that torturing a Seelie isn’t justice.) But that approach backfired when Alec decided to physically fight Jace. (Keep in mind, Jace never wanted to fight Alec.) Jace didn’t mention Alec’s (romantic) feelings after they were done fighting. because he knew Alec was dealing with a lot more than just repressed feelings. He approached him like he always did, by reminding him that they’re parabatai.

There was no insensitivity involved.

"Jace was forced to apologize and didn’t really mean his “apology”.”

This is after Izzy arranged the “bachelor party” in order to have Alec and Jace talk to each other. Jace and Alec started the conversation by saying they didn’t have anything to say to one another and Jace was about to leave. He could have left and went on to his business; no one was forcing him to stay. But he decided he was going to talk to Alec.

[Jace: I know it seems like I’ve been making a lot of crazy choices lately. And I know you think that I was only thinking about myself… and Clary, and I wasn’t thinking about the consequences to anyone else. All I can say is, I’ve been going through a lot. But I only ever did what I thought was right, Alec. But I never wanted to hurt you. I’m sorry.]

Alec accepted Jace’s apology. Not everything has to be in a grand gesture!  
Saying sorry, and explaining why he’s sorry, is a big move in itself.

"Jace risked Isabelle’s life for Clary!! He should have been a responsible brother and talked her out of it!!”

No, he did not! Both Isabelle and Jace made their choice to rescue Meliorn! So, they both acted on what they believed was right. Isabelle even blamed herself for everything that was happening and Jace insisted it wasn’t her fault.  Isabelle didn’t even blame Jace when he hid from Alec/the Clave; she knew he was doing the right thing.

  • Ep 10 [Alec: Jace stole the Cup. Izzy, did you know about this? My God, did you help him? The Cup is the only thing that can get you out of this. Isabelle: Jace is doing what he thinks is right]
  • Ep 11 [Isabelle: Everyone has a choice, Alec. I made mine. Let me just get through this without losing my self-respect.]

Also, I would like to point out Jace never knew about Izzy’s trial until after they found Jocelyn in episode 11. Literally, he did not know that Lydia had Isabelle on trial for high treason.

So, not only did he find out that his father was Valentine and Clary was his sister, he had to find out that Isabelle could have been stripped of her runes and banished because the Clave wanted the Cup. So, the night gets worse by the minute. Then Alec intentionally hits Jace with the “I’m going to see my sister” line that visibly causes Jace pain.

The self-loathing and self-doubting escalates from there. This is where you see Jace break. This is where you see him question who he is. This is why even after Clary reassures him that they’ll "make sense” of their situation in Ep 12, he replies: “I don’t know who I am anymore.”

“Jace never suffered from mental/emotional abuse. And even if he did, that doesn’t excuse his behavior!”

Jace shows clear signs of emotional/mental abuse when he talks about the falcon story, that scene where michael "trains” Jace and talks to him about Clary:

[Michael: But I’ve been watching you. When she suggested that she and Luke go to scout Renwick’s…
Jace: Well, she was right. You said so yourself, I needed to train.
Michael: Nothing would have stopped the Jace I know from going on a mission, even as a child. I see how attached you are to her, but this kind of thing… doesn’t always make you stronger.
Jace: Shadowhunters have relationships.
Michael: Yes, of course. When we find someone, it’s for life. But we’re also warriors, born to serve. And some of us are meant to render greater services than others. I thought you were one of those. Getting involved too deeply with any woman will only weaken your resolve.
Jace: So you’re saying I can’t be with Clary?
Michael: I’m saying it wasn’t what I expected of you.]

and throughout the show if you pay close attention.  (also, Jace clearly never emotionally healed from losing his (abusive) father and that shows when they are reunited.) Jace Wayland actually thought that disciplining involved watching a beloved animal be killed. He shrugged it off as “emotions cloud judgement." 

He was so shocked when Clary told him about the first rule of being mundane, because all his life he’s been taught the opposite.

This whole post shows that Jace indeed has signs and symptoms of bpd ( borderline personality disorder). Do not talk about Jace’s behavior if you’re unfamiliar with bpd. Stop blaming Jace for things that are out of his control.

"but [insert character] has bpd, and they never did what Jace did.”

Mental illness differs for everyone. Not every character gets a chance to show symptoms/signs of their illnesses/disorders. But when they do, people are quick to compare behaviors side by side, and that is wrong and gross. So plain and simple, don’t compare people who have bpd with one another, because you do not have all the facts about their lives and their challenges.

“Jace went with Valentine at the end because he believes he belongs with him.”

Jace ran off to find Valentine and kill him. He went to Camille’s apartment to fight Valentine and save his family/friends. Valentine threatened to kill everyone he loved, and Jace couldn’t live with himself if anything happened to them. He looked at Alec and Isabelle before deciding he’s going to sacrifice himself. I’m not even analyzing anything, this is literally what happened.

“If I go with you, promise me you won’t hurt them.” is an actual line Jace Wayland/Lightwood actually said!!!

Jace would have never joined Valentine if his friends and family weren’t in immediate danger.

Also @nightfallgoddess​  talks about the abusive relationship of Jace and Valentine in this post.

"Jace is homophobic!!”

the writers did not write jace as a supportive and loving parabatai towards Alec for you to twist him into something he’s not. therefore, this sentence is just as hateful as it is stupid, don’t make comments like this.

“Jace wayland is a straight white boy.”

the only correct thing said here, is that jace is white. the show never addresses Jace’s sexuality. if it’s not addressed by the show, straight!jace is just a headcanon. Stop assuming every character, whose sexuality’s not addressed, is straight.

I know this sentence is harmless but people use it as a way to prove that jace doesn’t face any problems whatsoever. They use it as though his life is perfect.

“BUT JACE —”

listen I’m gonna save you a lot of time by saying that all the characters have flaws. They have weaknesses and strengths. Do NOT expect them to be right all the time! Do not expect them to be wrong all the time!

Jace Wayland is a character who is emotionally broken, who had an abusive childhood, and who struggles with his inner demons.

You are wrong if you’re going to criticize Jace for behaviors that are clearly linked to mental illness/emotional abuse. You are wrong if you’re going to twist Jace’s “not so pretty” symptoms as abusive behavior. You are wrong if you think Jace Wayland is not a mentally/emotionally abused victim.

Stop demonizing him. It’s not an argument, it’s not a debate. Don’t do it.


If I made a mistake, please tell me!
@nightfallgoddess​​ thank you so much for your help!

Consent and Slavery in Akielos and Vere

A somewhat scattered discussion of the fact that both are heroes come from cultures where consent is barely even a thing.

Please note that I am approaching this subject as a big fan of the books. I’m happy to engage with other fans, but if you strongly dislike the books, we really have nothing to say to each other. Also note, I’ve only read the trilogy once, and none of the short stories as yet! So I’m open to correction regarding plot points I’ve forgotten, quotes I’ve misremembered, etc.

Slavery

For all that we mostly see the horrors of slavery through Damen’s eyes in Vere, it seems to only be Akielos and the culturally similar Patras – the “good guys,” from Damen’s standpoint – that practice slavery as such. The Veretian court enforces the servitude of those given to them as slaves, but are obviously unaccustomed to them. This is even a plot point; Damen struggles to ensure good treatment for his countrymen, whose deeply-entrained obedience to all commands is wildly abused by the Veretians, who clearly find it a novelty.

The “pets” of Vere are technically not slaves at all, but contracted sex workers. The difference is academic in some cases—particularly that of Nicaise, who is far below any decent age of consent and has already been a pet for some time—but pets’ possession of their contracts does give them some control over their own fates. This is seen in action in the character of Ancel, a pet who seeks to ingratiate himself with men more powerful than his current master, in hopes of persuading one of them to take his contract, and thus move himself up in the world.

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