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Class - The Rebirth Of The Cool

What does having class even mean?
Seems like people think it’s about your education, zip code, job title or make/model of their car. I see people that try to come off as having class but will not even acknowledge the janitor that comes into their offices to empty the trash can. That’s snobbery not class. Class is easy to recognize but much harder to define. Similarly, the absence of class is easy to detect.


Definition of classy
a :  elegant, stylish a classy clientele a classy hotel
b :  having or reflecting high standards of personal behavior a classy guy a classy gesture
c :  admirably skillful and graceful 


Class is much more than being born with money or having the money to buy the most expensive clothes. Class and elegance is truly something that comes from within. Something that is priceless. You know when you are in the presence of a “great lady or sophisticated gentleman.” Class in my mind means having a certain knowledge of social grace and proper behavior. A lot of people today don’t follow those kind of old fashioned social norms anymore, and I think that’s why people with class and elegance truly stand out, because they are a bit old-fashioned/ retro.


The epitome of class

Cary Grant

I associate class and elegance to someone who is poised, well mannered/polite and well dressed (not necessarily expensive). Such person usually carries himself or herself with dignity, and their presence is never flashy or over bearing. It’s a kind of inner beauty that transcends social and economic standing. For example, I know plenty of people with no money that possess such qualities and vise versa. I’m more than convinced it’s in the way you were raised and the standards you have set for yourself. It’s a kind savoir-faire, and it’s always evident when such person interacts with others.
The question at the end of the day is, can you be a gentleman without possessing class, or can you have class without being a gentleman? The answer to that question is that you cannot be a gentleman without possessing class. It’s an essential trait which every gentleman has. The term having class is the equivalent to being a gentleman or a lady.

Idris Elba

People with class are…
- … always appropriately dressed for the occasion, it never looks like they tried too hard, and they add to the sense of context of any occasion, almost making any occasion into a festive event, whether going to the open market carrying the proper accessories, going to lunch on the town with friends, teaching in the classroom, or whatever.
- They know how to age gracefully without resorting to drastic measures to change their appearance to appear younger. They just move along naturally with their age and with the times, with the right hairdo, etc. Naturally that means a lot of maintenance, in terms of exercise and diet, but they think they’re worth it, their spouses, friends, colleagues etc are worth it, and that’s their essential mindset.
- They make you glad to be alive and grateful that they add such an aesthetic sense to your daily perceptions, like passing a tree in bloom or sitting in a garden, depending on whether you stand next to them waiting to cross the street or spend an afternoon with them. They just spark a happy feeling in you for just being next to them and inspire you to work on a little self-improvement on your part so you can contribute to others’ pleasure in the same way.

Valentino Garavani & Giancarlo Giammetti

Valentino says, “The importance of fashion is to make one dream a little, to soften one’s imperfections”. I totally agree with that, and a person with elegance and class, I’m truly convinced, is a person who makes you “dream a little”. In the same vein, an elegant person is a graceful person to be around, one who somehow makes your day a happy day after you have left this person. Maya Angelou once said - “People will forget what you said, People will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”


Finally, a person with class is one who isn’t scattered, he is focused in a zen kind of way in what is happening now, with you, who does one thing at a time and stays focused. It goes along with the idea of self-discipline and “a mindset” to always be at one’s best, to develop and improve spiritually.
“ My definition of ‘class; is that it is synonymous with 'quality’. It does not mean wealth, birth or position. It does mean that innate sensitivity to other people, that appreciation of the good, the decent and the fair, and that hunger for the beautiful and the appropriate that distinguishes an individual as a person one can be rewarded to know.”

Arrive as a King, leave as a Legend, but be remembered as Gentleman.

Being a CLASS ACT.
C is for calm, courteous and in control
People who have class carry themselves in a certain way. They stay calm under pressure and don’t lose their temper. They are respectful and use good manners. They don’t use crude language or criticise or complain in public. They don’t interrupt others.
L is for living by high standards
Class acts set goals in both their career and personal life. They are not afraid to step out of their comfort zone and push themselves beyond their limits to see how successful they can become.
A is for above it all
Class acts take the high road and refuse to stoop to the level of their adversaries. They don’t have to apologize for their unfortunate words because they know better than to give in to the heat of the moment.
S is for self-respect, and respect for others as well
They don’t gossip or say mean and petty things about others. They take every opportunity to make others feel good about themselves and appreciated.
S is for self-confidence without being arrogant
Class acts understand their abilities and are not afraid to use them. You can develop confidence, just like any muscle or character trait, if you are willing to work hard. Class acts also increase the confidence of others.

Sean Connery

A is for accountability
Class acts take responsibility for their actions and results, whether it’s a success or failure.
C is for compassion
Classy people understand that helping someone up will never pull you down. Compassion is a vital part of class acts. Compassion feels and whispers, "I’ll help.” Class acts really care.
T is for trust
Truthfulness and integrity are the basis for trust. Classy people are trustworthy and understand the importance of maintaining confidentiality. To me the most important five-letter word in business is T-R-U-S-T.


“People want to do business with you or become involved in your sphere of influence. They perceive you as successful and someone who can expand their possibilities. They trust you to act with responsibility, integrity and aplomb. Class acts tend to attract people who are at the top of their game.” That’s true in the game of life or sports. Class athletes have an edge over their opponents. Why? Their poise allows them to concentrate better. They exhibit better confidence to play to their potential. An added plus: Classy athletes usually have the crowd behind them.
So take a close look at your network of friends, co-workers, customers and so on. Are they class acts? Whether you realize it or not, they are a reflection of you. The good news is that you can change.

Make a decision to recreate yourself as a class act and see what kind of people you start attracting. Do fewer things, but do them better. Change your behavior for the better. Raise the quality of your attitude. When you have a higher level of personal standards, you get better treatment from everyone around you. 

CLASS, THE REBIRTH OF THE COOL

With relatively falls, I can see some things being swapped, like Ford in sweater town. I also can see Stan having a manliness crisis after Ford making a comment about their dad thinking some of the crafts he does with Granty are girly. And idk, I kinda replaced the Baba songs with a can of glitter in my head, like Stan calls them tiny stars and just adores them, and maybe bugging Ford with them is why Ford brings up their dad. And he learns it’s perfectly manly to stand up for yourself and your interests.

Plus it totally sets it up to have Stanley love Dipper’s birthmark because it’s like permanent “little stars”.

STUFF I LOVED ABOUT SUPERGIRL 301 – A LIST RETURNS, BY ME

WE’RE BACK FOLKS 😁

  • ❤️
  • see ya tomorrow, boss.
    • kara danvers uses “ya” and correct punctuation all at the same time. be still my heart
  • SO THAT HAPPENED.
  • okay, that aside. here we go.
  • lena luthor: the thirstiest girl in national city
    • everyone at that conference table: neat little folio in front of them. lena luthor: paper everywhere. what a delightful little mess.
      • (a delightful little mess in her eternity collar.)
    • (she’s probably going to date james. i’m excited.)
    • also this happened:
      • edge: ‘i’m buying catco’
      • me: LENA’S BUYING CATCO, PAL. 
      • tHiRtY mINuTeS lAtEr
      • lena: ‘i bought catco’
      • me: NO SHIT.
    • ‘that sentient bottle of cheap cologne.’ lena really does fit right in.
      • as per always, lena’s work computer arrangement pisses me the fuck off. you cannot actually do any work on a tablet, having it sitting on your desk like that with a keyboard is going to fuck up your back, and at a bare minimum YOU NEED TWO MONITORS TO DO SQUAT. sincerely, a person who regularly wishes for a third monitor at work.
    • ‘oh hey, i mean, i miss you.’
      • THIS AWKWARD LESBIAN FRIENDLESS NERD.
      • i cannot believe that it has been literal months and lena hasn’t like, scaled the side of kara’s apartment building and climbed in through the window to apologise.
      • ‘i’m here for you if you still want that.’ THE PHRASING OF THIS HURT ME.
    • paper the inside of my grave with lena stepping on a golf ball.
    • ‘people are gonna start talking.’ about lena lesbian luthor and you? dude, no they are not.
    • ‘you have all the charisma of a michael douglas movie from the 90s,’ says the girl who was born in 1993.
    • and look, you can write it as lena caring about independent and unbiased press all you want, show, but i remember:
    • lena bought catco for kara. the end.
    • and she built her a statue, just in case we weren’t super clear about how much lena loves both kara and supergirl.
      • which is actually an interesting counterpoint to everyone else being all ‘who cares about supergirl, i love kara danvers’
      • especially when like: ‘most importantly, she’s been a friend.’
        • I’M SORRY, KARA’S FACE AT THAT IS SOMETHING I WILL NEVER BE OVER.
    • at what point will lena just stop having public events in open and accessible spaces?
    • maybe at the point where SHE BOUGHT HER FRIEND AN ENTIRE MEDIA EMPIRE.
    • ‘supergirl got her man, and now we have to discuss ours.’ UM.
    • ‘so catco’s gone?’ ‘nooooooooo,’ nervous sweat breaks out across lena’s brow. this is it she thinks. my grand gesture. ‘i bought it.’ whew. nailed it.
    • ‘are you kidding?’ ‘pretty badass, right?’
      • HAS ANYONE EVER NEEDED VALIDATION MORE IN THEIR LIFE THAN LENA 25 YEAR OLD CEO OF TWO MULTINATIONAL CONGLOMERATES LUTHOR??????
      • (that belt she’s wearing is also um. um.)
    • ‘i’m just trying in my own small way to be more like supergirl.’ seriously. lena luthor: counter argument to the KARA DANVERS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT club. thank you for existing.
    • ‘i actually quit.’ oh my god i bought a media empire for you?!? ‘well unquit!’ oh my god????????? okay be calm be calm. ‘i can’t do this without you, i know nothing about running a media empire.’ whew. nailed it again, luthor. ‘you know more than i do, you studied under cat… i mean, i trust you’ yes, good solid reasons. ‘and how often do you get to work with your best friend?’ …fuck.
    • let me tell you, lena was glad edge showed up.
    • *cough*
    • (the line between ‘you’re a creep and i don’t like you hitting on me’ and ‘you’re a creep and i don’t like you hitting on me because i’m a lesbian’ is probably going to get really blurry this season.)
    • see ya tomorrow, boss.
    • ❤️
  • kara danvers can’t come to the phone right now
    • reader: i cried.
    • ‘supergirl, you’re the best.’
      • honestly, i’m just so… impressed? by how well they layered everything going on with kara. ‘supergirl’s been too busy to have a one on one conversation about the invasion.’ ya don’t fucking say?! kara clinging to the idea that supergirl is the best person she can be because supergirl is the one who made the decision to send mon-el away because detonating that iron diffuser was the right thing to do because because because because. it’s easier to be the person who did the right thing than it is to be the person who suffers the consequences, and sucks to be both, so why not just not be. 
      • ‘i’ll do my best.’ both times kara’s face was basically screaming I’M ALREADY DOING MY BEST AND MY BEST AIN’T SO GREAT.
        • sidebar: instead of inviting kara out to eat food, friends-of-kara, why don’t you see about getting the poor alien some therapy.
          • why is everyone except j’onn such dicks about this? sorry someone’s sadness is harshing your horderves search alex jfc?!?
            • i’m gonna bury this up here: i hate chyler’s haircut.
      • ‘you want me to write the article or grab a drink.’
        • funnily enough, this is the kara i know and love best. this isn’t new, this is kara, she’s just usually better at hiding it most of the time. given what the writers have had to say in interviews about what the theme of the season is, i am really interested to see where they go with this after supposedly wrapping things up cleanly at the end of this.
          • (i mean, last season i thought they were working at some kind of theme of isolation and we all know how that turned out, so what the fuck do i know.)
      • ‘you did what you had to do, and that was supergirl’s call, anyway, not yours, so.’
        • how often does kara tell herself that in the mirror each day?
        • (how often does lena???) 
      • ‘you have no internal injuries, you’re going to be okay.’ kara, honey.
      • ‘what makes me me, is supergirl. that’s who i am at my core.’ kara, honey.
      • ‘if i’m expected to put supergirl on hold, just to write this article for you, then maybe being a reporter isn’t a good idea […] i’m saying i have important things to do. not as a reporter, not as kara danvers.’ kara, honey.
        • james telling alex that kara quit: HONESTLY THE ONLY RATIONAL THING ANY ONE OF THEM DID THIS ENTIRE EPISODE.
      • ‘kara danvers sucks right now.’ kara, honey.
      • double barrel:
        • ‘supergirl is great. supergirl saved the world. so, if i could choose to be her, why would i ever choose to be the sad girl whose boyfriend is gone. i don’t like that girl alex.’ 
        • ‘but me, i couldn’t have lived with myself if i hadn’t. i will always make the decision i made. i am not a human.’
        • if i could choose. i will always.
          • these two statements back to back are a beautifully executed shift in internal paradigm. 👏
      • ‘i can’t help people if i’m broken.’ kara. honey.
      • ‘most importantly, she’s been a friend.’ lena being the reminder that supergirl’s goodness is her connection to people, be still my heart.
        • i’m gonna say it again: I WILL NEVER BE OVER KARA’S FACE IN THAT MOMENT.
      • ‘wake up.’ kara, honey.
        • (the one to herself, not the…
        • KARA’S MEREDITH GREY MOMENT OH MY GOD. SHOW, DON’T TAKE TIPS FROM SHONDA FUCKING RHIMES.) 
      • backtracking a bit: THE PARALLEL SHOT OF KARA DRIPPING WET AND LIFTING THE THING IN ANGUISH INSTEAD OF STANDING ON THE THING IN TRIUMPH.
        • i’m just. this is what i wanted from last season: kara knowing what being supergirl will cost her, and choosing it anyway. not because it’s the easy thing, because it’s blanket absolution for hard choices, but because it is the hard choices, even when it is the right one, the good one.
      • i love kara danvers. she’s my favourite person, and i wish her well with finding healthy coping mechanisms.
  • alura two: electric boogaloo
    • for a recast, erica durance really was a genuinely good choice and not just an excuse to bring back another legacy actor. if we can’t have benanti, i’d rather this than just never seeing alura again, that’s for sure. i’m pumped to see more of her.
    • also that intro hurt me in the good place. kara isn’t just dreaming about her mom and her dead boyfriend, she’s dreaming of being on kryton. she’s dreaming of everyone who died, and mon-el is one of them. the subtlety of where she’s at with this is actually a lot more than i’d have expected from this show after last season.
    • (there was also a moment where it looked like kara was going to kiss her mom, which was somewhat unexpected.)
    • since i’m already all over the place, i’m just gonna talk about demon alura here too, especially in the context of it being kara’s dream that merges into sam’s nightmare. WHAT DOES DEMON ALURA MEAN? IS SAM GOING TO RUIN THE PAST? IS THE PAST SECRETLY ALREADY A NIGHTMARE? PLEASE STOP RUINING KARA’S NICE MEMORIES OF HER FAMILY JFC THE GIRL HAS SUFFERED ENOUGH.
  • alex danvers: ‘your unrelenting seriousness is one of your best qualities’
    • LOOK TBH ILU ALEX BUT MOST OF YOUR SPEECH WAS REALLY UNCALLED FOR.
      • i can’t believe this plot thread has made me defend kara’s feelings for mon-el!?!?! hdu, show.
    • but then. ‘kara danvers is my favourite person. she’s saved me more times than supergirl ever could so just, think about that while you’re trying to get rid of her.’
      • AND THEN I CRIED. (i am so excited for this midvale episode, you can’t even imagine.)
    • meanwhile, maggie sawyer: NEITHER THE TIME NOT THE PLACE.
      • nope, this is actually about dean cain: ALEX, HONEY.
      • space dad: BEST DAD.
        • ALEX ASKING J’ONN TO WALK HER DOWN THE AISLE. STOP IT. MARRIAGE IS A SOCIAL CONSTRUCT DESIGNED TO ENFORCE– OH MY GOD I’M CRYING.
        • ‘don’t cry. if you cry, i’m gonna cry. and then everybody here’s gonna know we actually can cry. so.’ aksjdhasda.
        • alex is wearing kevlar and boots. so gay.
      • ‘you two are my favourite couple.’ WINN SHIPS IT.
      • ‘the biggest, gayest wedding that national city has ever seen.’
        • sure ya are.
  • press secretary cat grant
    • i read this fic a year and a half ago.
    • ‘the best press secretary since robert gibbs.’ an arbitrary benchmark, and poor jay carney.
    • kara misses cat :(
  • sam [whatever her last name is]
    • that was not a subtle introduction. and i see this is going to press all my mom feels, not just my ‘secret hidden powers’ feels, so you know. COOL.
  • random other stuffs:
    • kara stealing the keyboard was the most adorable.
    • general lane mention!
    • everyone’s makeup was so light in this ep there was freckles everywhere, what a gift.
    • kara’s ability to listen for individual heartbeats: OFFICIALLY CONFIRMED FINALLY.
    • kara’s ability to swim is actually just her flying through the water: MY HEADCANON OFFICIALLY VINDICATED.
    • kara leaving edge on a freighter was delightful.
    • was that ship in the water reign’s or mon-el’s? asking like i’m a person who actually cares about the plot.
    • i have no idea what the actual plot was this week, but there was a submarine! i love submarines!
TINY TONY PART 8

Peter is still not sure what exactly happened. He looks up again, but yep. Steve is an adult again. Just like nothing ever happened. Peter rubs over his forehead, he is for sure getting a headache, from all of this.

“You look a bit disappointed.“ Steve says then and he seems embarrassed. There is a blush all over his cheeks and he doesn’t really look anyone in the eye.

“Not disappointed…surprised.“ Peter says and shrugs. He is thankful that Phil took Clint and Natasha with them. He doesn’t need anymore upset Childs around him.

“Yeah same.“ Steve says and he fiddles a bit with the hem of his shirt. Its still the shirt he wore as a kid. A blue shirt with a tiny dinosaur on it. He also still wears the matching blue shorts. It should be a funny look, but Peter doesn’t feel like laughing at all.

”So what the hell just happened?“ Sam asks from his seat on the couch. Bucky is still on his lap and he still is crying. Peter doesn’t hear a single sound from him, but the tears don’t stop. Tony seems still so confused, that he doesn’t even cry.

”I’m not sure… I remember being a kid and…“ Steve stops at that and turns towards Bucky and Tony. Bucky looks hastily away and Tony’s underlip wobbles, before he puts his thumb into his mouth.

“Y-you are Stevie?“ Tony asks and he frowns at his own words. Peter doesn’t know what to tell him. That this all is just a curse or something unusual?

“Yes.“ Steve answers and he steps forward, but he still doesn’t touch Tony or Bucky.

“Do you remember everything?“ Peter asks this time and Steve looks up. He seems to think over that question for a moment and then nods carefully. He looks a bit haunted, actually. Peter feels a bit sorry for him.

“I can remember everything… I…Bucky you know you are my brother right?“ Steve says and Bucky jerks a bit at his words. He sniffles a bit and then nods.

“Yeah.“ Bucky croaks and Sam sats him down. Bucky comes closer and Steve goes down to his knees, to hug Bucky. It’s a very sweet moment and Peter could bet that Steve is crying, too. Nobody comments on it.

“Love you Stevie.“ Bucky whispers and then whimpers again. It breaks Peter’s heart.

“I love you, too Bucky. Doesn’t matter what age.“ Steve whispers back and Bucky nods at that. He doesn’t seem to understand why Steve is big again, but he tries to.

“S-so you are my big b-brother now?“ Bucky smiles through his tears and Steve kisses his wet cheek.

“Yeah. My turn to look after you.“ Steve answers and Bucky takes a deep breath.

“So actually we don’t know what happened to you, but I’m glad you are back.“ Sam says loudly and he goes over to them. Steve stands up, Bucky still in his arms and hugs Sam.

“Glad to be back. I mean it was fun being a child. I remember a lot of fun, but actually I like being an adult so much more.“ Steve shrugs and Bucky looks a bit sadly down at that.

“Come on man, you didn’t like it?“ Sam asks and claps Steve’s shoulder.

“I did. I mean my actual childhood was crap, so I liked this way more. But you know… I love being an adult.“ Steve says and somehow there seems to be a low light around him, when he says that. Peter blinks and it’s gone.

“Yeah I can understand that.“ Sam says and Peter looks at Tony again. Or he wants to look at Tony, but he is gone.

“Tony?!“ Peter knows how high his voice goes, but he doesn’t care. His baby boy is gone. Just like that. Peter hastily stands up and runs out of the room. He can hear the others are start searching, too.

“Bambino! Where are you?“ Peter yells through the hall. He stops and goes around another corner. He has an idea, where Tony could be. Peter reaches their floor and turns around.

”Babyboy?“ Peter asks, quieter this time and then he can hear it. Tony is crying again. Peter goes to his bedroom and see’s Eddy laying there. Means Tony is under the bed.

“Go ‘way!“ Tony yells and then sniffles.

“Oh baby. What’s wrong, hm? Please tell Daddy.“ Peter tries again and then he hears some shuffling. Tony doesn’t come out, but he doesn’t run away either.

“S-steve is big.“ Tony whispers then and Peter sighs sadly.

“I know baby. You are that upset about it?“ Peter asks and he tries to look under the bed. Tony is at the end, pressed against the wall.

“H-he doesn’t like me big.“ Tony starts sobbing again at that and Peter knew it would be something like that. He wishes he could help Tony with that and he just wants to hug his little one.

“I’m sure he likes you just as much!“ Peter says extra happily, but Tony just continues to cry. Peter sighs. He wouldn’t force Tony to come out of his hiding place.

“Tony?“

Even Peter jerks at the voice. He didn’t hear Steve entering the room. Steve still looks nervous and he is still dressed in his child clothes. Peter smiles. Since Steve looked so uncomfortable, Peter expected him to change, before looking for Tony.

“Y-yes?“ Tony sniffles again.

“I uhm… wanted to apologize Tony. I knew I was an ass…butt back when we were adults and as a kid at first, too. But I do like you Tony. You are one of my closest friends and I love you.“ Steve is blushing again and Peter almost feels bad for him. But he is happy that Tony could hear this.

It’s quiet for a while in the room. Then Tony takes a deep breath under the bed and starts giggling.

“Are you alright, bambino?“ Peter asks and then Tony comes finally out of his hiding spot. Tony looks happy enough now, even though his face is still red and wet with tears.

“Assbutt.“ Tony giggles and then holds his arms out. Peter raises his eyebrows, not at the word. Even though he would have to talk with Tony about that. No, Tony wants to be hold by Steve. Peter stops breathing.

“Language.“ Steve says, but he smiles wide, when he picks Tony up. Tony lays his head on Steve’s shoulder. He looks tired now.

“You have to stay with me.“ Tony whispers and then looks at Peter, who stands up, too. Peter searches for a pacifier and gives it to Tony, who happily accepts it.

“You know. Bucky will always be my little brother, but I’m pretty sure i can handle two little brothers.“ Steve says and he winks at Tony.

Peter is sure that if you look for pure happiness, you can see it right now in Tony’s eyes. Peter smiles, too. Tony deserves that so much. He always adored Captain America, so this could be a huge deal for him.

“Really? ‘m not too much t-trouble?“ Tony asks shyly and looks to Peter for help. Peter comes closer and takes Tony’s hand in his. Tony squeezes back.

“Only the good kind of trouble.“ Steve says and Tony yawns happily. He seems to be tired, so Peter takes him from Steve and goes over to Tony’s nursery. Steve follows them and he smiles, when Peter puts Tony down.

“It’s alright bambino. You can take a nap. We all will still be here, if you wake up.“ Peter whispers and Tony still tries to hold his eyes open. Just as stubborn as he was as an adult.

“Here Tony.“ Steve holds out Eddy. He must have picked it up, when he followed them. Peter smiles and gives the stuffed animal to Tony, who snuggles it.

“Y-you still keep Granty?“ Tony asks and rubs over his eyes. Steve laughs a bit.

“Of course! I cant sleep without Granty.“ Steve answers and Peter has to swallow his laugh. Steve blushes again, but doesn’t say more, so Peter bends over and kisses Tony’s forehead.

“Night baby boy.“ Peter whispers and finally Tony closes his eyes.

anonymous asked:

i love how y'all are trying to shade jalec but really you're low-key shading matt d's acting and ability to emote 🤔💁🏾

no actually my dear, this is all about the conspiracy because both granty gust and matty d just do the least possible in scenes they don’t care for and then turn around and bust their asses for things they care about (e.g., west-allen family moments / lightwood family moments san jalec, westallen / malec moments). gotta love these white men.

also the only defensive matt anons are from white people so get outta here with this emoji blackface 😩

Celebration 2017 Last Day Debrief

Writing from my phone again! Disregard typos!

We knew it would be a special day because Ghost Prince gifted us with this perfect circle Halo Rainbow over Paisley Park.

 There were no other clouds and it was not raining! Also Rainbow Children was playing as we walked inside! Thank you Fairy God Boyfriend!

Intro/Concert

Lovely reflections by Damaris :

“Weird is a word to define things we don’t understand.”

“If you tell me that I am weird that means I am not like you. Say thank you.” 💜🕊️

Concert was Tokyo 1990, one that is “in rotation” as it were but a TIME on a 30-40 feet tall screen. Precariously positioned body suit that defied the laws of physics and all. It thankfully stopped before the Question of You performance…😩

NPG & 3rdeyegirl Panel
(Shelby J, Donna Grantis, Adrian Crutchfield, Kip Blackshire)

Origin Stories:

Shelby sang background for Anthony Hamilton. While on break, she auditioned to sing with Larry Graham in Minneapolis. Didn’t realize it was at Paisley until she arrived. Gig was at 3121 in Vegas… she didn’t realize it was P’s club. Practicing at the club singing “Higher Ground”. A voice told her to keep singing the song again and again. Larry leaned over and told her “I think this is your audition.” P came “floating” down the aisle toward her dressed to the nines and she was in a baby phat jumpsuit! He asked her “Where have you been?!” She said “I’ve been working!” 😂 Went home to NC after the gig.

Got a call 3 days later to come back to Vegas…And to learn 11 songs. “What day? Like Friday?” “No tomorrow morning.”

First show with him NYE 2006. After the show he came to see her and asked her to be in his band. She of course accepted. As he was walking away he added “We start rehearsing for the Superbowl next week.”

Donna got an email from Josh Welton inviting her to jam with P. She googled him to make sure he was legit. He was, had a call with him and Hannah and was given 6-7 songs to learn. Got a one way ticket to Minni…Arrived and went straight to work jamming with Hannah, Ida and P. Stayed for a week… the Bambi and Screwdriver videos were filmed a week after they first started jamming.

They also did not know what 3rdeyegirl was for the longest…Is it P? Is it some abstract concept? Is it art? They didn’t know it was the name of their band until they were introduced that way on Jimmy Fallon, their first public performance.

Kip was friends with Morris Hayes. Invited to hang at Paisley while P and Carlos were jamming in 1999. Didn’t want to be in the way. Half heartdely shooting hoops. He hears a guitar clang and before he knows it P is standing in front of him with his hands out. He feels bad like “oops”…But P takes the basketball and hard checks him in the stomach with it. Really ready to play! 😂 Kip declined saying he wasn’t dressed for a game…And P invited him back the next day to play for real.

Next day Kip was singing in the bathroom absently. P heard and complimented him…And invited him to jam with P and Larry. He did…And P then invited him to sing on Uninvited from Rave. The rest is history.

Damaris - Modeled for 12 years previously. Got tweets saying someone’s artist wanted to work with her. Ignored the tweets…Then got a text…Then a call…It was P’s manager. Met backstage at a Welcome 2 America aftershow. She’d danced hard and P invited her to join his tour. She declined. He asked again a few weeks later and she accepted and joined him for the Welcome 2 Australia tour.

Adrian was in competition to staff his horn section with Phil Lassiter (sound vs movement). P joined both factions to form the NPG Hornz.

Other thoughts :

“Prince saw me before I saw myself.” - Damaris 💜🕊️

Prince Live
Robert “Cubby” Colby (81-89 Live sound engineer) David Z (Bobby’s bro…Sound engineer for P from the very beginning through the 80’s)

Cubby - P enjoyed teaching. One time Fink was having a bad time. P went slow teaching him…And did this, playing the part from the back of the piano (essentially playing the part perfectly upside down on the keys.)

David Z - On the early days he’d record himself humming on a recorder and then recreate the sound in the studio with instruments since he couldn’t read music.

On Little Red Corvette “I just did that to get on the radio”.

Early mistakes punched through to correct. Later he’d just say “I meant to do that.”

Paisley Park originally was to be a whole neighborhood. A kind of “live/work/play” model.

He was a dirty b ball player. Stepping on toes and things, but he was the fastest.

Cubby only took breaks when P did and didn’t take lunch with the rest of the staff to be on hand for P’s noodling. Every day, Cubby would bring a Pay Day candy bar to eat and would leave it in his console. A few days in the row, it went missing. He saw P eating it one day and says to him “Hey man that’s my Payday.” And P goes “Payday ain’t till Friday.”

On P making mistakes…

In a soundcheck and P was singing The Ladder. P’s voice cracked and Cubby laughed….Then tried to smother it. P stopped the whole band and said “I don’t know if you’re going to fart or throw up. Rehearsal is over.”

NPG Concert

I don’t know how to convey how INCREDIBLE this was. They started with Sexy MF, went into Love 2 the 9’s, dipped back to Uptown with Andre Cymone…back to Cream with Marva King, a third of SOTT, back to Money Don’t Matter Tonight, Call the Law (whatever y'all it’s a jam!), ARROGANCE FROM THE SYMBOL ALBUM, BILLY JACK BITCH, HOUSEQUAKE!!!! YALL I DANCED SO HARD I DIDNT CARE THAT I HAD RUNNING MAKEUP PROBABLY GO SEE THEM IF THEY TOUR!!!!!

Also to close it all, they piped in P singing over the live band playing. 2011 Madison Square Garden P led us through Kiss. Me and @stephaniejuhnay were ready to see him take the stage like “siiikkkkeeee” his voice was so present…

They then showed him doing the breakdown dance part on the screen…yaaaaaassss boyfriend!

Next they had him singing Purple Rain to us…And displayed him from that same show in a stylized way. Not a dry eye. It was beautiful.

There was a weird moment at the end where they tried to make it happy again with an instrumental, but it didn’t quite translate. Everyone was dazed and in their feelings with seeing him and hearing him in a way that made it feel like he was there….It was special and we didn’t want to lose that feeling….

Overall though. AMAZING close to an AMAZING experience!

Stay tuned for a final reflection! This entry is long enough!

I feel like we need great storytellers. It’s tough to be an actor or actress.  You have to have the hide of an elephant and the soul of a rose; and the great ones are few and far between.  And we need people who can get up there on stage or screen and tell stories and tell them powerfully and be very, very vulnerable; just open their hearts so that we can see the great stories and be moved and inspired in our lives.  So I’m very grateful for writers, actors, directors, storytellers of all kinds.
— 

Jennifer Grant, daughter of Dyan Cannon and Cary Grant

I just watched this interview with her and immediately thought of Tom Hiddleston.  I think her description fits him so well, all of it.  

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Thursday Night Guitar Shopping this week yielded several AWESOME deals on some very interesting used instruments.  But lets forego the “deals” and instead focus on the beauty…

Here is some of the beauty for sale at the Long & McQuade store in Mississauga (Toronto, Canada) this week:

  1. ES-195.  Beautiful!
  2. Two “Select” Telecasters.  Beautiful!
  3. Gold sparkle Starla.  Extra beautiful!
  4. Off on your way, hit the open road / There is magic at your fingers / For the Spirit ever lingers / Undemanding contact in your happy solitude.  BEAUTIFUL!
  5. That colour…that top…BEAUTIFUL!!!
  6. Les Paul Standard VOS.  Dusty.  But BEAUTIFUL! 
  7. That top…how shall I describe it?  I know:  beautiful!!
  8. Now THIS is truly spectacular.  VOS ES-175 single pickup.  almost 5000 bucks…but (you guessed it)… BEAUTIFUL! 

tagged by @magical-beans

rules: list 10 songs you’re currently vibing on and tag 10 people!

  1. take me - aly & aj
  2. walk on water - 30 seconds to mars
  3. what about us - pink
  4. hurricane - 30 seconds to mars 
  5. ready or not - the fugees
  6. million dollar man - lana del rey
  7. miss missing you - fall out boy
  8. electric avenue - eddy grant
  9. i dont wanna miss a thing - aerosmith
  10. sweat - the all american rejects

tagging: @dandelionisaks @theserpentgod @real-life-tina-belcher @cutenosewiggle and @ander-crisss

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Guitar shopping this week in Mississauga, Ontario, Canada - a suburb of Toronto and Canada’s 6th largest city (by population…).  These goodies were found at the Mississauga Long & McQuade store:

  1. Four fabulous Firebirds
  2. 1975 P-Bass (reasonably priced at ~$1700 CAD), but weighs at least 10 lbs!
  3. 1978 P-Bass close up
  4. I was in Windsor, Ontario (across the River from Detroit Michigan) last week and this old steam locomotive was so awesome!
  5. Custom Shop ES-Les Paul (see the f-holes!)
  6. Gold sparkle PRS Starla - on of two ordered for Donna Grantis, who used to teach guitar at this locations.  She took the one with the black pickguard and left this one behind.  See below for a taste of Donna’s playing.
  7. One of the last new “Select” Teles we are going to see - they have been discontinued.
  8.   I love this Les Paul with the thickness of an SG!
  9. Still surprisingly heavy though considering how thin it is!  

Donna is on the left (NOT playing a gold sparkle Starla though…) 

I totally get goosebumps at 2:42!  :D

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Southern White-faced Owl (Ptilopsis grantiby Arjan Haverkamp

Not your dead sea.

I can`t stand your lips
all your pretending and lies
then I look at your hips
and I know that
the glasses show your eyes.

Cannot pretend anymore
I just can`t
Just want to slam my hips
against yours
and drag you down to the floor
to you this I grant
I give you the key
to all my doors.
I`m your dead sea.

No.

Don`t want to do this
anymore.
My little bliss
shows that I`m too sore
and it`s just a bore
that I can`t take care
of my relationships
which are very near
- right down to the core.

Don`t want to be your dead sea
anymore.

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And every time I  post shots of my special order PRS Starla Hardtail, I also  have to menition my favourite Starla player, Donna Grantis of 3rd Eye Girl.

In the words of His Immortal Purpleness (at the 2 minute mark in this video), “Donna!  Help me out…Come on!”:

PRS…er, I mean… “PS”:  this performance gives me even more respect than I already had for Prince.  The band is f*cking rocking!  

PRS…er, I mean …  "PPS": Anyone know what kind of guitar he’s playing here?