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Signalling Value of Second Date Invitations

I just had a good okcupid date, and the boy in question gave me quite a good invitation to a second thing.  The right amount of interesting, the right amount of romantic, etc.  One possible reaction, the one I think TV wants me to have, is “that’s so personal”, and it being cheapened if he’d used it on too many other people.

This seems ridiculous to me.  Good second date ideas are hard to come by.  He’s spent an hour with me.  However amazing I may be, he can’t possibly know more right now than that I have potential.  Throwing out a high quality date idea after just one use would be inefficient.  

Additionally, while appropriately interesting and romantic, this date idea is not *especially* well suited to me.  It’s not bad, but it doesn’t contain any hint he holds an accurate model of me in his head and acts on it.  Which is still fine, on account of “he’s only known me for an hour.”  If he was doing better than educated guesses right now it would be creepy.

I nonetheless like getting invitations of this quality, because they indicate skill in flirting and dating. The baseline flirting skill for men in my social group is… not high.  I appreciate seeing a thing done well and it’s fun to be flirted with. Simply inviting me and having a specific plan for us is more agentiness than I usually see.  

I 👏 AM 👏 HERE 👏 FOR 👏 LOVING 👏 AND 👏 EMPOWERING 👏 FEMALE 👏FRIENDSHIPS 👏 SIGN 👏 ME 👏 THE 👏 FUCK 👏 UP

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Belatedly doing a little happy post, so that I will have produced something even if my writing mojo has currently… fucked completely off. (For real, if you see it, plz let me know where, because I would like to club it over the head and drag it back to my cave.)

So, here are a few pictures I took at the Tucson edition of the March for Science, yesterday. Because of prohibitive costs for barricades, insurance, etc., it was actually a rally rather than a march, but still, about 2500 people turned out to El Presidio in artistically decorated lab coats and homemade t-shirts, holding hand-drawn signs, little kids running around, dogs everywhere. It was 95 degrees in the middle of the day (that’s 35 C, for you non-Yankees), and people were still cheerily chatting and taking pictures of each other, going from booth to booth and learning about sustainable gardening, pledging to vote, meeting like-minded people. There were a few people out there primarily for the hate (not a few references to the Combover in Chief were present), but for the most part, people were just… nice. Maybe not the biggest event ever, but a nice one. Plus, a lady from the Sonoran Desert Museum gave me a free packet of seeds to plant to help sustain bees and butterflies. :)

pagets  asked:

semi angsty prompt where kara and alex really talk about the fact kara will out live the humans in her life (specifically cat), maybe alex see's cat without make up and it kinda hits her for the first time the significance of their age difference (that's never been her biggest concern about the relationship) and kara is just like "you think i don't know that?" and they have a really honest convo about it and what kara is really gonna have to face as time goes on

It’s rather short and not that angsty but I figured it would fit anyway. Thank you for this brillant prompt Darling ♥


Alex is wise beyond her years, despite her somewhat fierce temperament.

She rushes forward whenever the people she loves are in danger, thinking of a plan in a matter of seconds and putting it to execution right away and sometimes, it’s hard to follow her.
She’s a storm and she waltzes in and out but sometimes, sometimes she doesn’t.

Sometimes, she just takes a step back and she studies the world around her.

She takes in details no one else seems to notice and she’s become something of a walking library of facts, information and unalterable truths, ones she keeps to herself because it’s not important.

It never is, until some day, one of those truths she’s never voiced just explode in front of her.

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The Gift of Magic

The Gift

Ah, The Gift, that is what we call the magic arts for indeed its a gift (or a curse depending in your point of view). Those of us who can wield magic are either born with the mark of the Old Ones or receive it later on during our lives. Once you have the mark, you can start wielding magic. Magic powers depend greatly  in which Old One placed it’s mark on you, and in some rare cases you may find gifted individuals wielding more than one mark. No one knows from where the Old Ones come from and frankly no one really cares, but as their title might imply, they have been here for a very long, long time. Some believe the Old Ones give the gift of magic to mortals to see who will be worthy to take their place once their time is up, and if they fail to find a worthy successor the world will be consumed by the chaotic forces of magic. But that's just pure speculation.

The Old Ones

In truth, no one really gets the Old Ones. They just give the gift of magic to whoever they please without asking for anything in return and they rarely show themselves to others. Its as if they just do it to see what we would do with such power but I believe they do have an agenda but it is so bizarre that our feeble minds fail to wrap our heads around it. Anyways, my grandmother says that back in ancient times the Old Ones had a proper name, now they are only referred by their titles and it seems they prefer it that way.

The Lurker in the Dark: Grants powers of thievery, stealth, nethermancy and assassination.
The Whisperer in the Leafs: Grants powers of shapeshifting, speak with animals and control nature.
The Dreamer in the Deep: Grants powers of mind control, clairvoyance, fate manipulation, sleep, and illusion.
The Raven in the Field: Grants powers of combat enhancements.
The Fury in the Sky: Grants power over the elements.
The Mender in the Anvil: Grants powers of mending, creation, and transmutation.

Just as Good as You (Part Two to Just as Bas as Me)

Request: There needs to be a part two for just as bad as me just saying - @niawoods

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Do a part 2 to Just as bad as me!!!! -anon

Part 1

A/n: More parts have been requested for Take the trouble and make it double and the platonically series and this so


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anonymous asked:

Imagine Peggy having to manage the Commandos because Colonel Philips just cannot deal with them.

It’s not so much that Colonel Phillips can’t handle the Commandos as it is that they don’t want him to.

The decision to grant her field command is an easy one for him. She’s grieving and needs something to do, and so are they. And they respect her.

And she gives the best pep talks.

“All right, boys,” she says briskly, rolling up her map. “Objective: explosions. Make some things blow up. Important things. I expect you lot will be good at it. Any questions?”

“No ma'am,” grins Falsworth, saluting her. He looks like a child in a candy shop.

“Excellent,” she answers him with the tiniest of smiles. “Let’s have a go at it then, shall we?”