5. Last session of our leadership program today before our final presentations and graduation next month. One of the two (white male) presenters today went on and on about how men are discriminated against, too. He lost a gig training a group of women because he was a man!
That must have been horrible for you, I deadpanned.
It was! he said sincerely.
I didn’t punch him, so. Also, the cohort nominated me to be the graduation speaker. Now to pull together 100 leadership quotes and string them all together because today we were told it’s not content, it’s delivery.
Eyeroll dot gif.
4. 1600 Pennsylvania devastates me daily. The bullshit with press briefings is the icing on a horrible week (I see you, trans friends. I stand with you.) should have everyone out in the streets in front of the West Wing, screaming for transparency. But it won’t. Related, Pete Souza’s Instagram gives me life. His trolling game is incredibly on point whose first gig as WH photographer was for Reagan back in the day.
3. I got a headlamp for Christmas, and Wednesday morning was the first time temperatures and road/sidewalk conditions were such that I felt comfortable running outside and using it. Super good for safety and visibility. Super bad for my health in that I realized how many critters are right next to me as I run along those dark country roads. Critters with glittering demon eyes. Like when I turned my head to the left and the lamp caught the eyes of six deer waiting to devour my soul. No one hears you scream at 4:25 a.m. when you are running down a dark country road. You know, in case you were wondering.
2. I have said it before and I’ll say it again, we had a bit of a rocky start those many years ago but I am grateful daily for the man who is my BFF and partner. Couldn’t do what I do without him, couldn’t have made the shift to the current role without his full support. Like when you gchat him after saying you’d take next Friday off to hang with boys out of school to ask him to cover (again) because a meeting with the gov got schedule and he just says yes. I owe him about a billion times over for all the different leaps of faith. I’m so lucky to have him at my six, you guys.
1. We were supposed to get a ton of snow overnight, and I woke up to brown grass. Truthfully? Not even a little sad about it.
Have a good weekend, friends. Be excellent to each other.
Cara Reads Fifty Shades of Grey Chapter 14! In Chapter 14 of Fifty Shades of Grey it’s Anastasia’s college graduation and her commencement speaker is Christian and no one else seems to think that’s weird???
Go out in the world and f–k it up beautifully. Design clothes so hideous that they can't be worn ironically. Horrify us with new ideas. Outrage outdated critics. Use technology for transgression. Make me nervous.
Speecherooo: The Terrifying World of Public Speaking
Graduation: So my friend and I were so scared but so ready. Our speeches were done and perfectly revised. Now, we were just waiting to get up there. It’s CRUNCHTIME! Anticipation man, it screws you over. We walked the walk and sat the seat. Actually, we were going to sit onstage but they ran out of seats for us :(
Yada-yada *speeches from the principal..
Yada-yada *speeches from some unknown important person…
OMG, it’s my turn! Ms. Solomon goes up there and introduces me. It’s moving. I cry. I realize: Crap, I have to get up there. Pull your shiz together!
Okay so I attend the only public performing arts high school in Chicago. And we don’t have a graduation speaker yet and time is running out. Chance The Rapper is a big part of the Chicago art scene and he stays close to his community so we are trying to get him to speak at our graduation. So if you have a Twitter, please @ him with the hashtag #ChanceAtChiarts to maybe get his attention. Pleaseeeeeeee help me! It would mean the world to me and my senior class !!!
The other day, my friend shared this video on Facebook. As a person, I’m in love with anything inspirational. Anything that makes us feel happy, ok, reassured, grateful, and determined to just live life…I am a fan of.
So far, I’m finding my twenties to be the most challenging and most amazing time of my life. I find myself learning that life doesn’t always go the way you planned it, it’s the time you start realising who your real friends are and who actually wants to stay in your life. It’s a time when there are so many things we want to do and it becomes hard and stressful to focus on one. It’s also the time when you’re thrown so many opportunities such as travel, work, adventure, love, and you realise that life is pretty f*cking great.
Here is the fantastic speech by Tim Minchin -
Some favourites of mine, which will stick with me for a long time:
- “Be micro-ambitious. Put your head down and work with pride on whatever is in front of you. You never know where you might end up. Just be aware the next worthy pursuit will probably appear in your periphery, which is why you should be careful of long-term dreams. If you focus too far in front of you, you won’t see the shiny thing out the corner of your eye.”
- "Keep busy and aim to make someone else happy and you might find you get some as a side effect. We didn’t evolve to be constantly content.”
- "Teachers are the most admirable and important people in the world. You don’t have to do it forever but if you’re in doubt about what to do, be an amazing teacher. Just for your 20s, be a teacher…Even if you’re not a teacher, be a teacher. Share your ideas. Don’t take for granted your education. Rejoice in what you learn and spray it.”
- “Define yourself by what you love…We have a tendency to define ourselves in opposition to stuff…But try to also express your passion for things you love. Be demonstrative and generous in your praise of those you admire…Be pro stuff, not just anti stuff.”
- "Finally, don’t rush. You don’t need to know what you’re going to do with the rest of your life…don’t panic!”
- "There is only one sensible thing to do with this empty existence and that is fill it…life is best filled by learning as much as you can about as much as you can. Taking pride in whatever you’re doing. Having compassion, sharing ideas, running, being enthusiastic…”
Moral of the story?
All morals are given to you in the above video by Tim Minchin :)
You have the right to work only but never to its fruits; let not the fruits of action be your motive, nor your attachment be to inaction.
Proverb from the Bhagavad Gita quoted by our residency graduation speaker. To summarize: do your work for the love of your work, not for what may come afterwards, and don’t let that become an excuse not to do anything at all.
You know it’s funny, in high school and college, they [the older generation of teachers and motivational speakers at graduations, etc.] encourage us to ask questions, to speak up for what we believe in, to act instead of sitting around and tell us: just do something. But the more time I spend around adults, I constantly hear them ask of Millennials “why do you constantly have to question everything, why can’t you just accept what we tell you? Just sit down, shut up, and take what you’re given.”
I mean they actively believe we are entitled, lazy, and stupid and yet at the same time when we do try to speak up and act, they tell us to sit down and shut up and be happy with what we have. And I think that explains not only why a lot of Millennials are so confused about what we’re supposed to be doing (because we’re constantly getting mixed messages) but also why so many of us are angry and fed up and no longer willing to put up with anything the older generations tell us. And in turn, the older generation just keep getting angrier with us, especially when we ask them to do better by us. I mean, sometimes I just glance at the comments made by older people about younger ones, and there’s just so much hate. I mean, I know the whole old vs young is nothing new, but has it always been so toxic?