Handy dandy guide to surviving your idol breakup. Whether it’s members being added/subtracted or the group splitting in half.
It’s okay to be upset. You invested a lot of time and emotion into something you love and to have it suddenly change or fall apart really hurts. It’s okay to feel betrayed or even a little angry and it’s healthy to express that instead of bottling it all in. Ideally, share your feelings with someone who cares about you and will not belittle you for your emotions
Question everything. Keep yourself updated but take everything with a grain of salt. Wait until you have enough information to make an informed decision about who you choose to support. Some people will exploit the situation. Don’t jump to conclusions
Take a break. It’s okay to step away from your computer when it gets too much. Your ultimate priority is not your idols - it’s your own wellbeing. It’s okay to take a step back from fandom until things settle down. You are not more or less of a fan for choosing how you engage
Be productive and kind. Post messages of support instead of anger in the right places. Comfort other fans and spread some positivity around. The fandom needs it
Take them off the pedestal. Your idols are human, with their own goals, flaws, limits and rights. Respect their decisions. Don’t bash them or bash others on their behalf. Don’t spam their social media accounts. You don’t know their story. You don’t know what they’re thinking. Your rage does not help anyone
Things will get easier (sometimes). Change hurts. It may hurt for a long time. Nostalgia will always be a punch in the feels. But life will move on and it will become easier
Smile because it happened. Don’t let this destroy your love and appreciation for the group that once was. Don’t let this make you bitter. Don’t let this stop you from moving on