ENFPs set their sights high and their ambitions strong. This type is constantly being told by others to ‘be realistic,’ but it’s their unrealistic nature that helps them accomplish so many incredible feats in life. To be a good friend to an ENFP, make them feel as though you truly believe in their wildest ambitions and dreams. Emotional support is infinitely more important to this type than practical or instrumental support.
Hi, Im a prac student in a primary school. My supervising teachers are all saying to put my personality into my teaching more, but also not to be their friend - YOU ARE THEIR TEACHER. I don't know how to find the balance and the more they say it the more flat I feel. I'm an adrenaline junkie irl, and they think i'm MEEK ?? I feel like establishing who i am is too late in my prac, i can't just walk in with a new personality after weeks of getting use to each other. Do you have any advice?
this one is hard because i think that in teaching you DO have a personality. you’re not a robot!!! you’re not just a walking text book!
but at the same time you aren’t their friends. you are to maintain some sort of professionalism, whatever that means.
teaching involves growing, and being a teacher is growing into a teacher, you don’t just suddenly wake up and find your teaching identity. it comes through your teaching and experiences, it can’t be established beforehand. so don’t worry about it being too late - when you graduate and become newly qualified, you’ll still be figuring out how you work as a teacher, and part of that is based on who you are but also based on the students you have.
so don’t change you who are, figure out your environment and what works best for them and for you. all sorts of teachers have all sorts of ideas on what works for them, but what works for them might not work for you. i had this right b*tch of a mentor once and she was terrible at mentoring and quite frankly all the kids hated her too, because she saw her students as a job, not as actual people.
i don’t think that professionalism automatically means impersonal, at arms length but that doens’t mean that it’s heeey bff either. just being buddies and chums with your students doesn’t (always) work because that’s not your role, and they don’t need a weird old adult buddy either, they need an adult they can depend on while they’re trying to figure out their own lives. But that doesn’t mean that you can’t either “be yourself” or show some personality as well as be friendly or relaxed or caring or whatever with them. this is a fine line between the personal and “impersonal”.
dishing out discipline in a hard/strict manner does not come naturally to some people and that’s something that you will learn through your teaching and how to do it, and not look “meek”. they might be trying to tell you you might need to toughen up a bit. not all students will take advantage of teachers who they feel are “easy” or “meek” but some might and you don’t want to make life more difficult for you because you can’t just lay down the law sometimes. but again, that’s a growing pain you’ll just learn.
some reading that might help are:
The Call to Teach by David Hansen
What Makes a Good Teacher by William Hare
The Good Teacher by Alex Moore
Caring by Nel Noddings
“The Emotional Practice of Teaching” by Andy Hargreaves (in Teaching and Teacher Education, 14(8), 1998, 835-854)
“Teacher Vulnerability: understanding its moral and political roots” by Geert Kelchtermans (in Cambridge Journal of Education, 26:3, 307-323)
My chemistry teacher left and he gave everyone in my class these cheesy cards with chemistry puns on the front and personalised messages and if you don’t think that’s a good teacher I don’t know what is
When we teach a child to make good decisions, we benefit from a lifetime of good decisions. When we teach a child to love to learn, the amount of learning will become limitless. When we teach a child to deal with a changing world, she will never become obsolete. When we are brave enough to teach a child to question authority, even ours, we insulate ourselves from those who would use their authority to work against each of us. And when we give students the desire to make things, even choices, we create a world filled with makers.