good-friends

Dear fake friends...

I’m a good friend. No, actually I’m a fucking amazing friend, whenever you need a shoulder to cry on, I’m there. And when you tell me a secret, it stays a secret. But when you start treating our friendship like shit and ditch me repeatedly for someone else, I can be the coldest bitch you’ll ever know.

Sincerely,
A Good Friend.

Actually, to elaborate on romantic Wendip: I’m not bothered that people ship it, it’s not a blocked tag for me. The age difference wouldn’t matter in their twenties, and I don’t think it’s creepy or anything.

But I don’t think I could ever personally get behind it, because Dipper’s journey of coming to accept Wendy doesn’t like him romantically is actually so important to me.

Throughout the series, Dipper’s growing crush on Wendy is constantly paired with his fear of being rejected by her. He constructs elaborate plans to win her heart rather than just talking to her like a person to insulate himself against that fear. He eventually decides she’s not going to like him back and rather than confess his feelings, he decides to just never tell her. Can’t be rejected if you don’t put yourself out there, after all.

Then, he’s forced to confront that fear. And he does get rejected. Gently and lovingly, but it still hurts. Rejection always hurts. But then it’s over, and Dipper isn’t destroyed. His friendship with Wendy isn’t destroyed either. If anything, it’s stronger for not having this unspoken secret between them. And that friendship isn’t a crappy consolation prize, it’s a wonderful thing that has value in itself.

Even after Into The Bunker, which could easily be seen as a conclusion to the story, we see how Dipper’s feelings continue to change. We see he can’t just get over his romantic feelings towards Wendy right away, even if he knows there’s no future there. He needs time, and growth. 

And he gets that growth. When the apocalypse comes, he tells Gideon that he’s learned you can’t make someone else love you. And that’s okay. 

In a sea of stories where the boy wins the girl’s affections by being awesome and heroic and good, Dipper demonstrates that he’s awesome and heroic and good to Wendy and she still does not want to date him. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with him, and it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with her. This is such an important story to tell, especially to younger viewers.

This is Dipper’s coming-of-age arc, more important than the arc he has with Ford. He isn’t ushered into adulthood by getting the girl of his dreams, he’s ushered into adulthood by facing his fear of being rejected by her, coming to terms with it, and being stronger for it in the end.