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Just because it’s the path of least resistance, doesn’t mean it’s the wrong path.
Staying together is more important than how we stay together.

Natasha is the leader of the Avengers in many ways. […] In this movie, she has the most matured point of view of any of the characters. What fascinating about her is that she is a reformed villain, so she has an understanding of life in a way that other characters don’t. She has an empathy. She can see both sides in a way that not everyone else can. She is the middle ground of maturity. [Captain America Civil War Audio Commentary]

I hate the way we can’t just like or dislike things anymore. Everything has to be a debate. If you dislike a thing, you have to prove that it’s objectively bad, preferably by calling it whatever-ist or whatever-phobic. And if you like a thing, you better be prepared to defend that preference against people who’ll tell you it’s whatever-ist or whatever-phobic.

Screw that. I like things because I like them. I dislike things because I dislike them. I don’t have to justify anything if I don’t want to, and other people sure as hell don’t have to justify anything to me. It’s okay to like different things. That’s why the world is so full of stuff, so that there’s something in it for everyone.

Kids and Transgender People

Grown adults act like “kids won’t understand” what being transgender is, like they have an fucking concept of gender yet. I’m an ftm male, but I don’t wear my binder around my house because you should always give yourself a day or two with the binder off(good binding self-care) and I have some pretty big chesticals (34DDD) so it’s hard NOT to fucking notice them. My little foster brother (8 fucking years old) said, “Well she can always help.” Then he stopped mid thought and said, “He, I mean he can always help.” If a fucking 8 year old can consciously correct themselves and think about how I FEEL, then why the fuck can’t you? Your kids will understand and sometimes they may not always get that person’s gender right, nor will they always call them the correct pronouns, but they can fucking learn and be sentient.

Masculine Poses for Inquiring Trans Guys

Having spent my whole life posing to be “pretty” (from family portraits to Porn shoots), I found myself wanting to look more masculine in my personal photos. But how? I looked through Tumblr and all I really found were a bunch of man-butts – which wasn’t terrible, but also wasn’t what I was looking for. So I did my own research and made this post for anyone else who was wondering! 

Just an important note: this is not meant in any way to uphold gender roles. I just want to help people out who want to express themselves more masculinely in visual media or who are self-conscious of photos because they don’t want to look like a girl (i.e. me, and probably most pre T boys). Regardless of your sex, gender, race, orientation, origin, or class, you should be allowed to be yourself! I just wanted to point out some rules of conventional photography and posing that allow a person to present in a more “masculine” way :)

So, some things to remember when taking photos that will accentuate your masculinity:

  • Your eyes should follow the line of your nose.
  • A lot of photography has men squinting. Not sure why, but maybe they’re on to something?
  • Closed hands (a.k.a. fists or loose fists) are considered more masculine than open hands in photography. If your hands are open, keep your palms pointed down and try to shoot the tops of your hands. The sides of the hands are considered dainty and womanly.
  • When posing, try not to raise the shoulder you have pointed at the camera or tilt your head toward a raised shoulder. If you do a head tilt, tilt your shoulders in the same direction as your head. It sounds complicated, but there’s a picture of it below!
  • IT IS OKAY TO SMILE! If you feel like smiling makes you look too feminine or makes you look silly, try a smirk or a lustful look. Or just look serious I guess. IDK, I’m new to this too so :P In porn there’s this look they have us do called “fashion face.” You literally make no expression, you just stare at the camera like you have resting bitch face. If you’re not one for smiles, try it, you might like it! (I personally make an effort not to look angry or depressed in my photos, and I have always sucked at faces so that’s why I rambled here. Don’t hate me lol).
  • Try to accentuate your jawline – find a facial pose that makes the jawline look strong and present. Always keep your chin tilted up and toward the camera!

Here are some photos of different poses considered masculine in conventional art and photography (there is one that has more anime-style poses for those of you who like to cosplay or just like to be really cool!):

In the end, it’s important to remember that it will take time to grow into your body, and it will take time to learn how to command it, too. If you’re like me and have to wait a few more years before you can start T, but you still want the world to see you as you are, I’m sure this will help. I’ll be trying out some of these poses and uploading them here, and I’d love to see yours. I know my blog is small, and I’m no expert, but I really hope this reaches anyone who needs it.

Interviewer: How did we get to [the alternate reality] version of Altea. Because with Allura having been the Empress who sort of established all of this, did it start to go that way when she was in charge? …

Joaquim: I would say it did. Definitely. I think her father was struck down and she went on a, like, revenge-laden swath across the universe. 

Lauren: I think the way we looked at it was, what if they had done Allura’s suggestion, which is stay and fight, versus Alfor’s suggestion of send the lions away. And if they had, if anything had happened–If Allura had gotten the power to take down these Galra, then she would have just, I think, maintained doing that. Been like, this is what we need to do. 

Joaquim: She would have given into it, yea. She didn’t have the perspective that Alfor had.

…so what you’re telling me is that not only is Alternate Reality allura just as bad as zarkon uwu but that our reality allura is also just as bad as zarkon, she just didn’t get a chance to take over the universe because her father made her physically incapable of doing so

yeah okay, cool! gotcha! you just really, really, really hate allura