god of bad parenting

  • Can we appreciate the fact Hades offered Nico a room at his palace in the Underworld in case his son dies in battle, because he doesn’t want Nico to feel like he’s got nobody and that he’s got his Dad no matter what? That’s some special treatment there. Nico doesn’t even need to be judged or whatever to be placed in Elysium or any fields in the Underworld–he’ll go straight to the palace.
  • Can we appreciate the fact that Hades’ gift to Nico’s birthday was a French zombie–who was a professional racer–to be his son’s chauffeur that Nico can summon anytime and anywhere to take him literally any destination in the world?
  • Can we appreciate the fact that Hades protected and saved Nico (and Bianca) when Zeus wanted to kill his Italian children, because Zeus didn’t want any child of Hades to be the child of the prophecy (and lost his beloved Maria di Angelo in the process)?
  • Can we appreciate the fact that Hades wanted Nico to be an exception from all his children in the past, and wants Nico to be genuinely happy despite fate’s cruelty to any child of the Underworld?
  • Can we just appreciate this one last fact that Hades loves Nico so much and obviously his favourite child because he knows his son suffered the most than any demigod simply because Nico is his father’s son?

I’m sorry but,,
Nicky Hemmick found out that his aunt had died and that his cousins (one of which he barely knew) would be staying with his parents and just decided “nope that’s not a good idea, that’s not gonna go well” and then just?? Up and decided to leave his happy life and his loving boyfriend and return to a place that only had bad memories for him, and take care of these two grumpy ungrateful boys who aren’t much younger than himself?? Like he wasn’t even there just to be there either, he was there HELPING them and CARING for them?? Told them to take German because it would be easier for them to learn since he spoke it?? got them jobs?? Probably made them nice family dinners when he wasn’t working (and brought them take-out or pizza on evenings when he worked late) and asked them about their day and rented movies and bought them nice things even though he knew that 99% of the time they were just gonna be like “fuck off”????? He literally took these two kids that nobody wanted and said “no, listen, I want you, we’re gonna be a family now”?? And then just??? Got to work?? Loving them???
?????
?????????????
I love????
Nicky Hemmick????????

Seriously, if I ever have children...

I vow to show some fucking interest in what they love no matter what it is. If my kid is into comics, I’ll buy them all of them. If they’re into Dungeons and Dragons or some other roleplay stuff like that, i’ll fucking learn the rules to that thing. If my kid is into sports, then I’ll be at all the damn games. If they’re into fashion, then I’ll read some fucking magazines. Whatever they like, I’ll show them I fucking care
My parents continuously make me feel like my interests are dumb and they’ve always given me crap for it. I swear to god I’ll never make my children go through what I did.

Long AF post about BPD

So after years of suffering, I finally feel like my BPD is under control. I used to be so chaotic and I couldn’t function. I know there are plenty of BPD sufferers who feel the same, and who may not have access to therapy or medication, which sucks because its not our fault we’re suffering.
So just a post to my fellow borderlines, for the ones who can’t get the help they need or the ones still waiting.

1. It is beatable.
There are going to be days where you feel so out of touch with yourself and so helpless you think that you are beyond any help at all. I’ve been there so many times and take it from someone on the other side, you will be able to manage it one day. Its a long hard road but it is possible ❤

2. Be open and honest.
The first time I said the words borderline personality disorder out loud I felt ashamed, and guilty and embarrassed. Its a disorder that’s been stigmatized for too long and its such a shame, because the borderlines I know are the sweetest people I’ve met. The only way to break the stigma is by educating those around you and by talking about it openly.
You feel like shit and feel like your about to freak out? Tell someone.
Those moments of uncontrollable rage? Talk to them and explain, you’re angry right now and it may not be rational to them but you can’t hide it And its something you’re working on.
Splitting? Be open about it, explain you struggle to find a balance between god and bad and sometimes that means your best friends, parent or partners are going to be Satan to you for a while before going back to being angels sent from above. If you explain, it can help them understand and it could very well save your relationships with them.

3. Look up resources
Read about other peoples experiences, the mighty is a website that I’ve found helpful in finding comfort knowing I’m not the only one living with this. There are DBT and mindfulness worksheets that can help you, living with BPD means preparing tools to help cope so that when you split or freak or meltdown, you have something to go to to try and help you get back to standard.

4. Visit your GP
Sadly mental health is underestimated by health professionals, and because of that our symptoms are brushed aside as depression or bipolar, the more you go to the doctors and tell them what’s going on, the better chance you have of getting the help you need. Be it through therapy, medication or a combination. we live in a world where we have to push for help these days, it shouldn’t be that way but it is. If you feel your GP isn’t helpful, switch, keep seeing different doctors until you find one that you feel comfortable with.

5. Be kind to yourself.
Its not easy, and there’s are going to be bad days even when you feel like you can manage. Holding down a steady job, home and relationship is difficult. So don’t be hard on yourself if you have a setback.
You can fix whatever happens.
It might not be the way you want or think it will be but it is fixable.
There’s a lot of struggles living with BPD but there is beauty too.
Those moments that you feel so damn happy you could cry, over something anyone else just smiles at? Treasure it. You feel everything intensely, including joy. if that’s the one blessing we have its that we can experience such happiness and fulfillment when things go well it makes BPD almost not cruel.
Love yourself for who you are, there are negatives but there’s a positive waiting for you to focus on too.

Lastly, and its a serious one.
6. If you feel suicidal, please seek help.
I’ve stopped counting the times I’ve felt like killing myself, really. But out of all of them the times that have been easier are the ones with someone at my side, talking to me and being there.
Don’t suffer alone, you deserve more than that.
There are helplines, Facebook groups, friends, loved ones, total strangers out there that would help you if you reach out.
Go to your local A&E or emergency room and tell them you feel suicidal. Whatever state you are in I can guarantee that they prefer you a sobbing mess than a dead body.
There are 7 billion people on this earth, reach out, find comfort, cry on a shoulder and talk about it to someone.
We are a rare breed, and for better or worse we are here, alive, for a reason.
There’s always hope ❤

If you need any more advice, there are some great blogs here on tumblr, the mighty is pretty good too, and there are charities and helplines that offer advice too.
You’ve got this ❤❤❤

📱 TFLN Starters – 7/?? 📱

  • [text]: I was speaking french the whole night. Until i got arrested. Then I decided I should probably start speaking English.
  • [text]: He dreamed I was a serial killer and now he won’t let me touch knives
  • [text]: I asked her if she could eat some Doritos so when we made out it would taste awesome
  • [text]: I spy something regrettable…
  • [text]: I hate it when the guy who runs the chicken and waffles truck is convinced that I run a cult.
  • [text]: The night is not complete until I am drnk and speaking to inanimate objects
  • [text]: all i wanted to do was something grown up. like go to applebees and drink.
  • [text]: DONT TALK SHIT ABOUT LUNCHABLES
  • [text]: she makes me feel like im THAT guy in a the taylor swift song
  • [text]: Sometimes you have a glimmer of a heart and then I immediately remember you are dead inside.
  • [text]: No, I stopped taking my meds because I like crazy me better
  • [text]: Let’s play a little game called “Chill the Fuck Out”–you’re our first contestant
  • [text]: I found your bra. How you get it off the satellite dish is your problem.
  • [text]: I’ll have you know my trust issues and my daddy issues are two COMPLETELY different topics of conversation.
  • [text]: I wish I had some fucking Fairy God Parents, I want a kit kat so bad.
  • [text]: I’m trying to bond with my sister…Its like getting to know a person I never met that I don’t like
  • [text]: Simple revenge plan: break into his house and steal one shoe of every pair
  • [text]: I’m slightly possessive over the guacamole when i’m stoned.
  • [text]: I just ran into the woods like an idiot because ADVENTURE.
  • [text]: If we went to a costume party as Batman and Robin I would go as Robin, that’s how much you mean to me
  • [text]: Pounding your chest saying “me Tarzan” is not flirting or even talking
  • [text]: Dude, you just left me a 3 minute voicemail of pop rocks in your mouth. Im sitting right next to you
  • [text]: You need southern Jesus.
  • [text]: Peanut butter fills the cracks of my heart
  • [text]: FYI… At my funeral, it will be your job to throw yourself dramatically onto my casket.

I’m so irked that Marinette’s parents always take her being Ladybug so calmly in reveal fics. Or generally written as being so accepting right off the bat, like, just because they’re super nice in the show? They are understanding and nurturing, yes, I get that, but they are also her parents. Supporting Marinette through hardships like school, crushes, and class bullies is one thing; but offering support towards their 15 year old daughter constantly putting herself in real, physical danger should be something else entirely. 

It seems like a lot of people are just stuck on this idea that her parents are basically perfect, though this is partly the shows fault for hardly featuring them in any substantial scenes. Tom and Sabine are borderline one dimensional characters who desperately need more depth next season, and I can’t see that happening if all they’re going to do is pop up in scenes to play the ‘good parents.’ 

Also perfection is boring. I’m all in for Tom and Sabine being the best parents people could possibly be, but they’re still human, and I would actually question their parentage if right away they were completely accepting of their daughter being a super hero. I want them to be worried. I want them to be resistant. I would like for them to feel like real people who may or may not know what’s best for their daughter in this instance, because it’s such a difficult position to be put in. They shouldn’t be treated like gods that knows the right answer for everything, all the time. It’s okay for their family to struggle! One would even say it’s perfectly normal. Too often though I think people are falling into this trap that Tom and Sabine have to always be playing opposite of Gabriel to highlight how different their parenting styles are, and that they come out as the more supportive parent’s in comparison to Gabriel, but that’s the extent of it. They’re only portrayed this way to act as a foil, to highlight how much better Marinette has it than Adrien. The result is that Tom and Sabine never feel  real to me, because they’re not allowed to struggle with worry or make mistakes regarding their daughter. 

Dear Rika Sympathizers #2

And regarding V… I felt really awkward getting his good ending. Idk, something is off with him. He’s bad too. He hurted Rika. And the way he talked to her sometimes was…. yeah wow you won’t make her feel better you know ? He somehow abused of Rika’s love and I’m sorry but it’s like insidious poison, even if the person who’s infected doesn’t say she’s against it (because obviously she isn’t aware of it), it’s against her free will. V abused Rika in a moral way. In my way of thinking, V’s actions were nearly as bad as Rika’s. And V’s appologize made me awkward to, I know he was desesperate to fix things but it didn’t feel right. Idk.

This is something I’ve just read, and I’m fuming again. - I could’ve just reblogged it, but I don’t want to start a witch hunt on this right now… 

But… 

Excuse me??? 

He’s bad too. He hurted Rika. And the way he talked to her sometimes was…. yeah wow you won’t make her feel better you know ?

The point of this Route wasn’t to make an abuser feel better, the point was to make V feel better. To make him become more honest and fyi, honesty isn’t beautiful sometimes. Honesty can hurt. He has never said a bad word about her. He respected her until the end? He was simply honest and made a cut he should’ve made years ago?

Can you make up your mind? 

  • “I don’t like V because he’s been lying the whole time.” 
  • “I don’t like V because he’s been honest in his route.” 

Pick one, god damn it. 

He somehow abused of Rika’s love

What love are we talking about right now? There was no love. Both of them were obsessed with each other. Rika obsessed over V just as much as V over Rika. 
Was V or Rika the one who said they love the other one so much, they’d even stay if they were blinded or tortured? 
Are we playing the same game? 

V’s actions were nearly as bad as Rika’s.

Excuse me #2???? 
Making a mistake in your first relationship is nearly as bad as blinding, drugging and stabbing the one you “love”? 
Nearly as bad as manipulating, drugging, brainwashing and abusing a child who has up to that point, never done anything wrong in his entire life? A child that didn’t even know other children weren’t treated like dogs by their parents? 
Nearly as bad as drugging god knows how many innocent people and literally making them your slaves? 

Are you fucking trying to troll or are you seriously this stupid? Like even an 8 year old will tell you those two aren’t to compare. 

I know he was desesperate to fix things but it didn’t feel right

Make up your god damn mind. What the fuck is he supposed to do? Just let everything go the way it is? Let Rika continue destroying innocent lives? Keep lying to everyone, including himself? 
He’s actively trying to make a change? He’s active trying to fix the mess he made? He DOES fix the mess he made. What the fuck isn’t right about that?????? 

Help me not murder more shrimp

I am a big dummy and decided to trust petco guy about japanese algae eating shrimp being super cool with Betta fish.

(surprise: they aren’t)

So I woke up to a peeled and cooked shrimp hanging out at the bottom of the tank after I did a 25% water change.

Is there a way I can remove the other two without also shocking them into super dying?

Just Abused Kid Things

When friends make fun of you for things that were entirely caused by your abuse and you don’t wanna tell them to stop because then you’ll be the downer that brings up their abuse at every turn like “oh my god you smell so bad take a bath!!!” Yeah it’s not like my parents don’t let me bathe because it’s their bathroom and they think I’m contaminating it thanks Janice you really solved things

I’m tired of White liberal and leftist Westerners who equate homophobia in Western countries to homophobia in the rest of the world (out of fear of sounding racist?). It is not racist to say that Europe in the only continent where homosexuality is legal everywhere. It is not racist to say that most African countries criminalize homosexuality. It is not islamophobic to say that most countries that punish gay people by death are Muslim-majority. Don’t downplay people of colour’s experiences, you’re not helping.

Marvel Kings on their Thrones

Namor the King of Atlantis (AKA the King of Ablantis for his killer abs)

Magneto the King of Mutants (AKA the King of Bad Parenting: retcon be damned)

Loki King of Tricks and Lies (AKA King of annoying the crap out of Thor)

Doctor Doom King of Latveria (AKA King of Unnecessary Drama and Wine Drinking)

Black Bolt King of the Inhumans (AKA The Silent King… he doesnt say much.)

Thor King of Beautiful Flowing Golden Hair (AKA God of Thunder)

Odin King of Asgard (AKA King of Really Bad Parenting. I mean really bad.)

Black Panther King of Wakanda (AKA King of the Dead and Storm’s Exhusband)

Thanos King of Evil (AKA That freaking douchebag who never gets out of his space chair unless its to kill and murder people and planets)

Mister Sinister King of Creepy Weirdos Everywhere (AKA Dude is just freaky)

This started as a collection of Namor pictures when I noticed just how many panels there were of kings sitting down with the their legs wide open. (Manspreading much guys?)

I personally favor Doom. Guy always has a drink in his hand. 

Runner up is Namor of course. 

Tag your favorite King.

smariko  asked:

Mob boss Alec and just an ordinary guy (but still fabulous) Magnus.

oooh okay i can work with this

  • so you say magnus is an ordinary guy but like…… it’s magnus
  • magnus fucking bane is not capable of being an “ordinary guy”
  • so surprise! he works as a human rights lawyer
  • he also runs his own charity to help lgbt+ teens and young adults in the new york area find their feet
  • so you know, if anyone gets kicked out because of terrible parenting, magnus runs a hostel for them to stay at for as long as need be
  • and provides help for them to stay in school and sort out what they need to sort out and feel loved and appreciates and okay with being gay
  • (that’s absolutely a bus slogan somewhere)
  • so you know, sure… magnus is “ordinary”
  • and then there’s alec
  • alec who was born a lightwood, born maryse and robert’s son, and he wishes to god he could change that
  • because his parents are into some Bad Shit
  • they run a corporation that specialises in science and technology, but it’s really not the important thing to them
  • the important thing is the underhand deals and the competition they remove out of the way and having every inch of their territory under their control
  • and they tell alec it’s for the “greater good” because people don’t know what to do if left alone
  • sure the lightwood corp controls the drug trade, but at least they can control it - it’ll be there with or without us, and imagine how bad it would be without us, son?
  • alec doesn’t buy it for a minute, neither does izzy or jace, but they have no choice and no safe way out
  • and really, izzy is pretty happy working in the genetics lab and staying the hell away from the crime
  • and jace is pretty happy working in public relations for the company, and staying the hell away from the crime
  • it’s alec who has to get his hands dirty so they don’t have to, alec who arranges the deals and the trades and threatens those that won’t do as they’re told
  • because that’s what his parents want from him, so he does it
  • and he meets magnus at a charity benefit magnus is running for his charity and holy shit, does alec fall a bit in love right there, just listening to what magnus is trying to achieve
  • alec signs a really, really big donation away then and there, and leaves in anonymously
  • his parents go mental because what the hell are you doing giving that much away to that cause
  • “well, mom, dad, i’m gay, so actually this matters to me quite a bit. and if you have a problem with that, i suggest you deal with it”
  • (it’s magnus who inspires him to come out, with his confidence and his grace and his brilliance)
  • anyway magnus is just as smitten, and they start off slow, going for drinks, dinner, taking time here and there
  • and alec finds it harder and harder to resolve who he is and who magnus is with what he has to do
  • so one night when alec finally comes clean about his mob connections, magnus just smiles softly
  • “yeah, i know. i knew from the moment i met you. but you… seemed different. so i decided it didn’t matter”
  • alec falls in love right then and there
  • it’s magnus who convinces him to finally take that step and turn his family in, finish the family business and get them to go clean for good
  • they’re his parents but… it’s the right thing to do
  • they’ll cut a deal somehow, alec already knows that
  • long story short in a few months alec is no longer a mob boss, but is the head of a very successful cutting edge science & tech company
  • maryse and robert do indeed cut a deal and end up living their days out on some remote, tropical island with the money that alec gives them to get them out of their lives for good
  • they are very much not invited to his wedding a few years later
  • and that is the story of how alec is too righteous to be a mob boss, the end