Sometimes within the Christian faith and within the culture of the church, people can be very dismissive about how complex relationships are. Single people are told “just wait. It’ll happen when you least expect it” (side note: be sure to check out @jamiegraceh’s latest YouTube video on this topic. It’s funny and on point!), and couples are just told not to have sex until marriage.
While this is true and great biblical
wisdom to follow, we still need to be open about how confusing and awkward Christian dating/courtship can be. Yes, it is wise to be content where God has you if you desire marriage, but you also don’t have to avoid meeting someone new for fear it will fail. Yes, you need to focus more on God than on dating, but if you desire marriage someday, it is not a sin to think about the practicalities of a relationship that could lead to marriage.
This is not to criticize every unmarried person in the church, nor the people advising them. This is only to shine a light on how complex these issues run. This post was written to address this: yes, we are all waiting on the Lord (and this does not just apply to dating), but we cannot treat waiting on the Lord as a quick fix to keep from dealing with confusion, awkwardness, and troubles in our lives. Even when it comes to awkward conversations we don’t want to have and friendships where we don’t know where we stand. Even when it comes to the brother in Christ who is a good friend, but also spend lots of time talking to you, but then says that God told him you’re the not the one.
It gets awkward, confusing and it’s not easy. But there’s this:
God will strengthen you with his own great power so that you will not give up when troubles come, but you will be patient. - Colossians 1:11
Patience isn’t easy. Especially when you feel like you’re so close to not having to wait anymore, but still so far away. But God will strengthen you when the troubles come. He’ll strengthen you when awkwardness in dating/courting and relationships come. So hold onto Him in this, because He’s holding onto you. And He’s holding your love story too.
Written by @morganhnichols for #TheDevoCo
As He says also in Hosea:
“I will call them My people, who were not My people,
And her beloved, who was not beloved.”
“And it shall come to pass in the place where it was said to them,
‘You are not My people,’
There they shall be called sons of the living God.”
My identity: His Beloved.
Know this. Believe this. Treasure this.
One day I’m going to see Jesus and hug him so hard.
I dream of that day, seeing my saviour who loves me and I want to embrace him and thank him for everything he has done and continues to do for me every day.
If any man’s life were saved by another the joy and thankfulness that would fill his heart would be immeasurable.Dropping to his knees at the feet of this man. He would most likely pledge his life to him or earnestly ask what he could do for him in return. He even becomes a loyal friend of this life-saving man. We should have the same response to what Jesus did for us. He didn’t just save our lives. He saved our souls. This is where our joy comes from. This is why we can rejoice any day, in any situation. Even though we can never fully repay this is why we give thanks in all circumstances. This is why we’ve pledged our lives to Him. This is why we humbly worship Him.