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I keep seeing people make statements like “the LGBT community came together to fight homophobia and transphobia only!” So I made these, use them freely. If you want to make more (e.g. for aces/aros, or whatever) inbox me and I’ll send you the original to edit. 

If these look weird for you… they look weird for me too because Tumblr likes to force them to fit the screen. What you do is stick one in your post; click the little gear at the top right and change it from “rich text” to “HTML”; look for the bit that says “tmblr-full” and change it to just “tmblr”, and it should fix it. (I couldn’t do that because for some reason, it wouldn’t upload them if I put them inside a text post. SIGH) 

Descriptions/uses for these cards:

If what you are saying about community politics excludes intersex people:

[Worn vintage “go directly to jail” Monopoly card, edited to say “Your argument leaves out intersex people. Go directly to Google, do not pass go, do not collect $200.” Fine print at bottom warns, “If you do not include intersex people by your third turn, you must pay the $50 fine.”]

If you think intersex people are (by definition) some kind of trans people, OR if you think that intersex people only “count” if they were assigned the wrong gender at birth:

[Worn vintage “go directly to jail” Monopoly card, edited to say “You are confusing intersex with trans. Go directly to Google, do not pass go, do not collect $200.” Fine print at bottom warns, “If you do not learn what intersex means by your third turn, you must pay the $50 fine.”]

If you think intersex people are only part of the community if they “are trans or experience same-gender attraction”:

[Worn vintage “go directly to jail” Monopoly card, edited to say “You are misinformed about intersex people. Go directly to Google, do not pass go, do not collect $200.” Fine print at bottom warns, “If you do not learn what intersex means by your third turn, you must pay the $50 fine.”]

If you don’t believe in biphobia:

[Worn vintage “go directly to jail” Monopoly card, edited to say “You don’t believe biphobia exists. Go directly to Google, do not pass go, do not collect $200.” Fine print at bottom warns, “If you do not learn what biphobia means by your third turn, you must pay the $50 fine.”]

If you think bisexuals are only affected by homophobia, OR if you think bisexuals are “only oppressed if people think we’re gay”:

[Worn vintage “go directly to jail” Monopoly card, edited to say “You are confusing bi with gay/lesbian. Go directly to Google, do not pass go, do not collect $200.” Fine print at bottom warns, “If you do not learn about bi people by your third turn, you must pay the $50 fine.”]

If you think trans people are only oppressed because people think we’re gay:

[Worn vintage “go directly to jail” Monopoly card, edited to say “You are confusing trans with gay/lesbian. Go directly to Google, do not pass go, do not collect $200.” Fine print at bottom warns, “If you do not learn about trans people by your third turn, you must pay the $50 fine.”]

If you think nonbinary people are not really trans, or that it’s super hetero to be into nonbinary people or something:

[Worn vintage “go directly to jail” Monopoly card, edited to say “You are misinformed about what trans means. Go directly to Google, do not pass go, do not collect $200.” Fine print at bottom warns, “If you do not learn about trans people by your third turn, you must pay the $50 fine.”]

vasselheims  asked:

"Don't worry, Anders. I'll be back before you know it." Garrett had said these words to him the morning that he left, and though Anders desperately wanted to believe it, something still /gnawed/ at his stomach as he watched his lover ride off into the sunrise. Varric's letter was vague as to how long Hawke would be needed for. Anders keeps himself busy in the meantime, healing the sick and injured. But he takes an hour everyday to stare at the horizon and wonder. And then the letter comes.

nytimes.com
Qualifications are necessary sometimes. Anticipating and defusing opposing arguments has been a vital rhetorical strategy since at least the days of Aristotle. Satire and ridicule, when done well, are high art. But the idea is to provoke and persuade, not to soothe. And the best way to make an argument is to make it, straightforwardly, honestly, passionately, without regard to whether people will like you afterward.

Maud Newton on David Foster Wallace and the legacy of his postmodern semantic hijinks (viz. the internet). it’s a nice read. direct.

I’ve done a fair share of “like me” in my writing. also other stuff. (i’ve got more “fuck you” in store. but you know, maybe after the book…tee hee)

but there’s also the issue of feeling like most people, who are not writers etc., don’t necessarily read with the same sense of purpose, let alone rigor. they read for fun and likability. When Maud says, “Where the craving for admiration and approval predominates, intellectual rigor cannot thrive, if it survives at all.” it’s a nice declarative line, but it’s also wrong. People do stinkpieces on issues with a significant emotional quotient all the time, and no amount of diligence or intellectual rigor will necessarily yield an emotional truth. don’t believe me, ask the media power bachelors and bachelorettes. or a doting mother who raised a stern nerd. and in any case wouldn’t most people prefer to spend time with a likable person than a relentless debater? this is what my friends tell me at least. (and this is not to confuse faux-likability or whatever, which is a different and awful thing).

I could be wrong, or maybe I’m being evasive, but I’m not sure debating is a means to an end; it might just be something we like to do. a debate is more like an argument massage. and yes, i like a good rigorous one but the goal is just to feel good. get the endorphins going. I think Maud’s piece is awesome and appropriate for these days and times (I’m down to reign in the exclamation points), but the thesis should be a retreat from willy-nilly poorly executed fake charm and affectation. not charm itself. (plus, if you’re going to be direct then you might as well punch the too-smiley people in the mouth. if we wanna get “real talk” about it.).

 …but y'know, I <3 <3 <3 Maud, read her stuff, think she’s great, and in terms of writing on the netzies, I agree a direct approach can perhaps more easily get us on the same page. sometimes life does follow the instruction manual and we should all be familiar. so read with rigor, follow the directions, get on the bus and sit down. but then it’s all Big Road Trip To Likable City (yayyy!!! amirite?? yay!!?)

anyways, this is all a tricky preface before saying that my excuse is serious mommy issues. so i don’t know what everyone else’s problem is.