We all have those days. We all have those days where all we want to do is curl up in a ball and start crying. Normally people would say “Naw, don’t cry it’s not worth it,” or some other just absolute CRAP! I say go for it. LET IT OUT! I know that I spent years just crying because that was the only thing that actually helped me feel better. That’s just me, though. We’re all super different. Our minds work in different ways. We do different things and feel different things emotionally. But I know that for me, when I had a crappy day I would lay down, listen to my favorite music and just cry. There are other people I know that would write in their journal, would draw, would write, or find other outlets. Really the only outlet I had was crying and writing letters. I still really believe that crying is so powerful and it’s such an intense and intimate emotion and it allows us to really go away for a while.
I also had those times where my tears were just dry. I held it in for so long it was crazy. I had so many different phases from crying every day for literally going cold turkey and not crying for a month- WHICH WAS INSANE for me! Then one day I had a humongous breakdown, I’ll never forget it. That moment was when I realized I needed to stop holding all my emotions in. It actually took a really long time for that to sink in though. It doesn’t happen quickly.
I also had those feelings where I just NEEDED to cry. I was so stressed with everything going on but I just didn’t have time to give to myself to pause and breathe. Gosh that was actually one of the worst feelings for me.
I guess what I’m trying to say is when you’re sad, when you’re down in the dumps, when you’re trying to choke back tears…don’t. Because the longer you hold it in the worst it’s gonna be. But when you finally let it out…it’s going to make you feel SO much better.
Here are some of my crying tips if that’s not too weird
Find a quiet place where you can be by yourself for at least AT LEAST five minutes
Don’t try to be silent, but don’t go crazy. Just let them fall as they come.
Don’t block out your thoughts, think while you’re crying. You’ll find that your thoughts can actually be surprisingly deep when you’re at that level
Wash your face when you’re done, and then find a place where you can lay down or sit, and do something that makes you happy. For me, that’d be baking cupcakes. What would it be for you? It can be anything.
Change your clothes, do your hair, allow a change of environment
Smile. After I cry, I feel better and I find that I can oddly smile.
I say this all the time, but I won’t stop. Pick yourself back up. Tell yourself how STRONG you are- even if you don’t think it’s true. Say it anyway.
I hope I helped at least one person with this, guys. Love you.
This is one that I’ve had to learn and relearn and remind myself over and over again; endings are never really endings, goodbyes always leave room for something new and wonderful. Life is constantly moving and changing, and its easy to think that’s scary, but in fact it’s the most beautiful thing.
Complacency, staying in the same place for longer than is good is like building yourself a prison. We all deserve to be free, and with a little bit of bravery and a lot of faith we can enjoy that freedom that we all deserve.
What can you say goodbye to this week? What new hello would you love to welcome into your life?
I hate people? I love people? Make up your mind, Iman!
I have many mottos. ‘Let it be’ is a big one. So was “I hate people.” You know what? Yeah, sometimes I do. Sometimes I can’t stand being around humans because of their selfish and rude antics. Some people were just so ridiculous I couldn’t take it. Now let me make clear- I hate no one. What I hated was what society had become. I hate how oblivious, ignorant, selfish, mean, jealous, envious, etc. people have become. But lately, my moods, my feelings, my views, they have all been changing. Yes I still have those daily moments when I can’t stand to talk to anyone, but I think I can come out and say I love people. I was so unappreciative of all the good people. I have a terrible case of pessimism. I wouldn’t necessarily look at people’s flaws, I understood no one is perfect, but I would focus on the negative people. I didn’t realize how many truly beautiful people there are in the world. Yes, of course, there are going to be people who bring us down, but there are so many who can help us pull back out. I discovered this because of tumblr. Tumblr has always been a place of safety, I guess I can say. No one ever hated and I could vent as much as I wanted. But lately, after talking to so many different people, it made me realize that there are kind people still out there. There are people who you’ve never even met before that want to help you and make you happy. Seriously, this gave me so much faith back in humanity. So if I’ve talked to you on tumblr, through this account or another, during these past couple months, thank you, and I love you.
Wow I droned off into a completely different subject…oh well! I guess my point is that we need to take a moment to think and appreciate all the lovely people we have on this earth, not focus on the negative and the ones who get us down. They’re not worth being in our lives, I promise.
So recently I have not posted anything personal on here. It’s not because I’ve been neglecting this blog, in fact i thought about it every hour of every day. I just lost my inspiration and motivation for life and needed some time to work things out in my brain before I did anything.
That being said, there are some things I can say now. If anyone has read my personal posts, they know I’m really big on epiphanies, and learning about ourselves is my favorite thing, and discovering and learning life lessons make me feel wiser and better about myself. Well, in these past few weeks, I have had a few different epiphanies. These are my favorites and the ones that I think could help anyone in every situation.
I always used to say, “Everything that happens is for the best. Always.” But then I started to doubt myself. Like, how come things end badly when it’s for the best? How come there are evil and bad people? Well, that’s when my view changed. Everything that happens, it CAN be for the best. If we make it that way. It’s so easy for something bad to happen over and over and over again, and excuse my morbidity here- but we could be dead before making anything better. Before learning anything. So here’s what it came down to: Bad things happen. Terrible things happen. It’s naive (for me, personally) to think that everything is okay and for the best, but we CAN indeed make it for the best if we just learn from it. We may not learn from it now, or any time soon, it could be years from now, but we learn from our mistakes and learn and teach ourselves to make it better, so that we can be the best we can be. So keep that in mind. Everything that happens, use it as a lesson and a motivation to make things better in the future.
On THAT note, I had another epiphany. What is destiny? What is fate? Well, put easily, destiny is what we think it can be. Sound confusing? :) Think about it. It took me a long while until I understood it.
I miss these daily posts. I’ll try and update as much as I can, I promise.
Denise Donovan posted this story on Glow* a while back. It’s one of the things I have written down on my stickies on my desktop so that whenever I see it, I remember to feed my good wolf.
One evening an old Cherokee Indian told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, ‘My son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside us all.One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.’
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: ‘Which wolf wins?’