glee without cory

A few things I think need clarifying/debunking around the Glee PR situation:

1. There is no doubt that Darren is speaking tomorrow about Cory on Good Morning America either on Glee’s request or blessing, not because he himself wanted to as an individual (Do I need to explain why this is so?). The reality of this PR situation (a real PR situation) is that there do need to be voices from Glee coming out about this in the next few days - Darren is a good choice for a lot of reasons:

a. He is a major player in the Glee cast, a central voice

b. He already had press interviews scheduled for GML.

c. He was a good friend and colleague of Cory’s but by all known info and appearances, not a very best friend or partner (like Lea, Mark, even Chris) who may be in more intense grief.

d. He is great with press and is genuinely emotional and kind.

2. I don’t believe that Darren is suddenly the voice of Glee on this situation. I think he is a voice of the Glee cast representing on some level the sadness that they feel as a cast. There is still the issue of Glee the business and how they will proceed. Darren is not the spokesperson for this (I’m virtually certain). The Glee powers will likely have to have someone speak on this in the next week or two - RM, Brad, another high up person from Fox or Glee, who can address fan (and advertiser, LBR) concerns about Glee.

I’m cc'ing our resident PR expert girliesportsjunkie for her thoughts too.

blurintofocus said: Just to answer someone here below, feel free to share — I got contacted by the movie press team with “Darren is canceling all press appearances" for me that meant press day interview, and I assume also TV but I can’t say for sure.

Thanks Rae. FYI - It does look like TV is included, and here is what Rae was told.
a year without our hero

It seems like the fastest, and somehow slowest year, did we blink and suddenly July 13th is here, or did it slowly creep up behind us and painfully show up in our faces?  It is the most unkind reminder of a life cut too short, of a light dimmed too soon. 

I don’t think I’ve stopped saying goodbye to Cory, maybe I never will, although goodbye was too hard a word to bare, so I say goodnight.  Goodnight brings a hope of tomorrow, and though his body is gone in a physical sense, I think Cory is here, there, everywhere, in each of us, every day, how could he not be?

I can still remember every detail surrounding the moment I read that first headline…”Glee Star Cory Monteith found dead in Canada hotel room’.  I shut my laptop and tried to focus on anything else but that, and it seemed for a moment, that the world was joining me in doing the same.  For one moment there were no other headlines, no other news stories…for one moment the truth of that statement was too hard for anyone to handle.  Life moves forth, and the headlines continued to break, that moment gone forever, the simple comfort of still living in a world with Cory’s smile left our spirits that day, in the worst possible way.

Speculation began immediately about the cause of his death, we all saw it unfold and I don’t think that’s what I want to talk about today.  I think I want to say this, and only this: Addiction isn’t an easy thing to ask for help for, addiction hides in the darkest parts of your mind and rears it’s ugly head in the first second of vulnerability that you show.  If you have something in your life that is toxic and you keep falling victim to it, please ask for help, and if that doesn’t work, ask again…again…and again.  I did, I made a life change the day we lost our Cory, I truly believe he saved my life.

The members of Cory’s life began to speak, and each time our hearts collectively broke a little more, from Mark’s simple “no…” to his favorite hockey team, the Canucks posting a photo of him at a game, his loss was felt all over the world.  The tweet we all sort of waited for came in the form of a smiling photo, one Lea kept personally for the two of them, and a sweet thanks for the support she’d been given since his untimely death.  I haven’t been able to look at that tweet again for months, it’s still just not fair.  The tweets from his fans spoke just as loudly, there wasn’t a person who got to experience Cory’s light in some way, that wasn’t painfully affected by the darkness that we all felt on a day in the middle of summer, a day with lots of sunshine and warmth. 

We’ve heard songs from his cast mates, seen photo montages from his friends, we sat together somehow through the painful Goodbye episode to Finn Hudson on Glee.  We watched award shows honor our hero during times we’d usually look for his smiling face in the crowd, and we also experienced his loss ourselves, we cried for days, we tried to watch old episodes of Glee, we made mix CD’s with all of his songs to listen to in the car, we released balloons in his honor and had makeshift memorials ourselves.  We fell apart and somehow back together, along with those who knew him closely, perhaps because Cory’s heart invited everyone in, even if we never got to watch a movie with him, or walk through a crowded street laughing together, we felt like we had. 

So what do we do now, now that tomorrow marks a year without our Cory? We smile at the life he lived, we listen to the songs he sang, we watch the episodes of Glee that warm our heart with Finn Hudson, and the movies he made where we saw different sides of his incredible talent.  We cry, Lord knows I’ve been crying through writing this piece, and we try to be strong.  We unite together, be it physically or mentally, and we look up at the sky, we give him a smile, and we love.  We love in honor of the man who made us all want to be a better version of ourselves.  We just love.

I love you Cory, I miss you more than that, and I am incredibly thankful for the way that you existed, there will never be enough words to describe the impact that you had on my life.  

So I am having a really different reaction to Darren at the premiere than almost everyone on my dash, so I thought I’d share it.

I am happy to see him. I am happy to see him real, as he generally is. He wears his emotions in his eyes and its one of the reasons he’s so easy to connect to.

His presence is a comfort to me. I don’t feel like I need to comfort him. I never feel that because I’m not real to him. But he is real to me.

He looks dignified and dapper and sad and handsome.

He is great at what he does because he can connect so easily and he will. I’m not afraid of him crying. It will probably make me cry if he does but I’m also okay with that. 

I’m just happy he’s there and is one of the Glee cast who is chosen and has chosen to reach out to the world at this sad time.

I’m listening and thankful.

I think he looks incredibly beautiful.