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Dear Religious Parents of LGBT Children

I’m sorry if this is all over the place, but I want to get this out.

When your child tells you they are gay or transgender, don’t tell them that your god of worship makes no mistakes and that they have to be the gender they were born as, or be heterosexual.

If anything, you’re right that they makes no mistakes. Making your child transgender or gay was no mistake.

It’s a test.

It’s a test to see if you can love unconditionally.

It’s a test to see if you can still accept your child despite what they throw at you.

Love is the main message.

You can love your child, even if you disagree with what they do, but dont try and change them. They are the ones who have the world against them.

Gay people already have slurs thrown at them. Most already feel ashamed of what they are and who they love. I know I am.

Transgender people already have so much internalized hate because they weren’t the way they feel they were supposed to. They dont look the way they want. They dont sound the way they want. They hate every physical thing about themselves. I know I do.

Gay people cannot love without judgement. Transgender people can’t even exist without judgement.

So religious parents of LGBT children

Please do not fail this test that your god has challenged you with. You must try to love them, understand them, no matter how much this goes against everything you were taught.

Thank you for your time.

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Gender fluid teen tussles with Mom over right look

By Amy Dickinson

January 21 2015

Dear Amy: My 16-year-old daughter identifies as “gender fluid.” Sometimes she dresses traditionally feminine, and sometimes she dresses more traditionally masculine and asks her friends to refer to her as a “he.”

When she dresses masculine, she wears a breast binder under her clothing. Unfortunately she inherited my DDD figure, and her binder doesn’t fit her body well. When she wears it under a tight-fitting shirt, it looks awkward and definitely not masculine.

She is saving money to buy a better-fitting binder, but they’re expensive and I don’t have any extra money to put toward it. I’ve gently suggested that she add a sweatshirt when she wears it to school, but I think she thinks I’m being intolerant.

No matter how she decides to live her life, I feel like part of my job as her mother is to help her at least be presentable and appropriate, but how do I do that without sounding judgmental? If she wears a low-cut feminine shirt, I make her wear a tank top underneath, but she is much less amenable to suggestion when she dresses as a male.

Suggestions? — Helpful Mom

Dear Mom: I believe your daughter’s gender identification has created a red herring that makes this whole issue seem more complicated than it is.

Your child is 16.

And having a fashion fit.

Since time immemorial, mothers have been trying to influence their teens’ fashion choices — always in the interest of what is most tasteful, attractive, flattering or appropriate.

A teen’s reaction is to reject this well-intentioned advice and cast it as judgmental and disrespectful.

(Back in fashion’s Stone Age, this resulted in a certain teenage girl carrying her miniskirt to school in a brown paper bag and changing in the bathroom before school.)

Make whatever suggestion you want, knowing that it is your right to do so, and knowing that your child will probably reject it. If your teen’s fashion choices don’t violate an institutional dictum at school, then cover your eyes and let it go.