Hey Emma 💛 Do you have any advice for procrastination? I also have a hard time concentrating, what do you do (or think I could do) that would help with that?
Hi! I’ve had a few questions like this recently so I’m just going to answer this one and hopefully anyone who asked a similar question will see it! But on with the answer. I think there is a few different reasons why we procrastinate so I’m going to note those down and give a few tips for each. You can obviously apply any ideas that you like regardless of what section I’ve put them under!
1. You’ve got poor work/productivity habits. Generally you leave things until the last minute since you “work better under pressure”. (This is so me, omg.) You probably think you’ll do something after you’ve finished something else, and then never do. You get get distracted whenever you’re trying to study and will sit waiting to feel motivated but it never comes. For this I’d suggest:
create a productive work environment - choose a space where you will actually work without distractions, organise your study space, have everything you need in easy reach. Surround yourself with things you find motivating such as quotes!
write it out - write down a few manageable tasks that you need to do. Writing the actions they require will help you see what you should be doing to complete something, instead of just the overall task. One by one you’ll see yourself getting things done!
focus on 20-30 minute periods - generally we lose focus after a while so taking regular breaks can help give you chance to relax and refocus. Apps like Forest allow you to set a timer and will give you off your phone at the same time. Obviously if you’re being productive, don’t suddenly cut that off because it is “time for a break”.
use apps/browser extensions to cut out distractions - ones like RescueTime or StayFocusd will block you from checking certain sites.
find an accountability partner - pick someone who you can rely on to check on your regularly and see how your tasks are coming along. You can send them your to-do list and then every few hours you can update them with your progress. You won’t want to let them down.
use the two-minute rule - if something takes less than two minutes, do it. Don’t make an excuse, just do it. Tasks that are longer you can either delegate or defer. Here is a simple visualisation of what I mean.
record your progress - doing a simple “don’t break the chain” in your planner is a great way to see how productive you’re being and therefore get you more motivated to keep it up!
2. You’re feeling stressed and overwhelmed. Everything seems to be mounting up and nothing seems doable. You don’t know where or how to start. For this I’d suggest:
find some help - if you’re feeling like this, it is likely you need some help in some form or another. See if a family member, friend, classmate or teacher (or Google) can help or give you a starting point.
tell yourself that getting started is the first step - you don’t need to finish a task in a matter of minutes. Start doing something small. Maybe organise what you need, highlight the important bits of your assessment, or draft an essay plan. The secret to getting ahead is getting started!
divide and conquer - figure out what is the overall task that you need to do and split it into manageable parts. For instance with an essay the aim is to write it! Divide it into planning out what you want to write, any references you need, summarising a final draft and then writing each paragraph. By dividing bigger tasks into actionable parts you can reduce the obstacles and get through each part in a more timely manner.
reward yourself - create a reward system to celebrate completing a selection of tasks. By rewarding your progress you’ll build an incentive to work and reinforce productivity (great for your self-discipline!).
learn to forgive yourself - if you have an off day, that is okay! You can’t expect to see a huge change in a short amount of time. Remember to come back to it later and try again.
don’t over schedule - if you’re feeling pressure from the amount of work and then the added pressure of trying to stick to a time limit, you’re just going to go crazy. Set yourself flexible times to get something done instead of being heavily structured. Give yourself time for a break and the ability to change tasks.
stick with one task - it can be so tempting to multitask but try not to. Try to keep focus on the what you’re doing until it is done. If you struggle with that, you could write down anything useful that you randomly think about for another task, use a break-time to think about that other task or alternate between subjects/tasks every few hours.
3. You’re a perfectionist. You either don’t want to start something out of fear you won’t get it right or you can stuck on stuck on the small details. There is a pressure to achieve “perfection”. For this I’d suggest:
focus on getting started, instead of finishing - it is easy to get overwhelmed thinking about what something is supposed to be like finished if you’re a perfectionist. Take things one step at a time.
remember that your perfectionist tendencies aren’t actually improving your work or productivity but hindering you - you’re continually setting yourself unrealistic objects and (like me) probably feel let down by yourself if you don’t reach them. Be realistic and focus on getting it done!
accept mistakes - you’ve written something wrong, don’t panic! Cross it out with a single line and move on. Things happen and you have to accept it. You can’t rip up the page every time you do something wrong, even if it is so tempting.
put things in perspective - is what you’re beating yourself up about right now going to mean anything in a week, a month, a year? Be honest if it isn’t, is it really worth putting unnecessary pressure on yourself.
praise yourself through the process - try not to criticise yourself but recognise your progress.
4. You’re wanting to do something else. You find whatever you’re doing boring. You want it to be over with but don’t want to get started. The ultimate catch 22, right? For this I’d suggest:
remember that putting it off isn’t going to make it go away - if you leave it too long you’ll end up getting more stressed about it. Best to get it over with.
plan from the get-go - once you know something is coming up (e.g. a test, an assessment, etc) make notes on it! That could be questions, annotations, potential topics, citations, etc. By making the effort to spend time reading through, you’ll save your future self some stress. Especially if it’s a topic you have forgotten. That way your notes act as a reminder so you can get started.
set a finish time with a reward - tell yourself that if you finish something by ..am/pm and then you can do something else. Use your self-discipline to not go back on this. Set a realistic time and try to get it complete before. If you can think that you’re doing something fun once it is completed, you’ll be more motivated to get it done.
make a structure - for note-taking, it can be overwhelming looking at a textbook and thinking what you’re going to write out. Make a note-taking layout/colour code that works for you and that subject. Mine is here - it just give me an idea of how I’d lay everything instead of going in with no action plan.
try to make it fun - this could be using YouTube to learn or starting a study group. Use different methods for memorising information such as flashcards, mindmaps or study guides (like question/answer).
make the effort to refocus - if you’re finding something boring and you’re unfocused, walk away for 5 minutes, get a drink and come back. If you’re really struggling, change topics for a while. Find a point where you can finish and start doing something else that is productive.
listen to some music - generally music without lyrics are best for focusing. Spotify has a great playlist for studying called ‘focus’. However I find my regular music good for getting me a little more motivated and awake. I also like writing essays to music because I weirdly sort of type in the same rhythm. Funny study hack I’ve found that works for me haha!
I hope that is useful! I must have copied and pasted my whole answer like 5 times just incase my tab reloaded and I lost everything, luckily not! You should also check out this post for smaller motivation tips and tricks! xx
Just found out my youngest boy Martin has only been getting 2 notes on Tumblr.com and I’d like you all to go give him some notes so he doesn’t feel bad about himself anymore. His grades have been slipping.
I have always been the type who wants to fix things or make things right when my relationships go south. I don’t know how to let people go easily. I don’t know how to stop caring even when I should. You’ve pushed me to the point where I don’t even want to try anymore. I’m just so done.
I don’t care to fix us anymore. Let’s watch us burn into flames together.
Brett Talbot x Female!Reader Fandom: Teen Wolf Author: T💕 Request: “Can you writte a Brett smut wheres reader is a typical good and shy girl and Brett really wants to fuck her :’) and one day they are alone at readers hause ; and yeah, you know how it ends xD” Warnings: Language and smut 😋
“Alright, boys and girls, you all know the drill! Get your stuff out and get ready for some notes!” Coach droned. We all knew that he didn’t want to be here any more than any of us did. It was the same thing in class every single day. I got my stuff out and heard my phone buzz. I took it out, expecting a message from Scott McCall about pack business. But, it wasn’t Scott. It was Brett Talbot, my best friend.
Brett💓: You look good today.😋
I rolled my eyes and smile. My outfit wasn’t anything special. It was a black tank top, ripped jeans, and my all black converse.
Me: Thanks, Brett! 😊 Shouldn’t you be paying attention tho?
“Ms. Y/L/N? Do you want to read the passage from the book to the class?” Coach asked me. My ears got hot and my nerves got jumpy. “N-N-No, Sir.” I whispered. Finstock nodded, being aware of how shy I am. Someone else started reading and I tried to calm myself down. I hadn’t even realized that it took the entire class to calm my nerves. The bell rang and I came to the realization that I didn’t get any notes. “Shit.” I mumbled. “Woah-oh-oh! Such an ugly word from such a pretty mouth.” Brett walked to where I was packing my stuff. I sighed. “I know, I know, but I didn’t get any notes today. Brett, I don’t ever miss notes! What am I going to do?” Brett put his hand on my shoulder. “Don’t worry, babe, I’ll come over tonight and give you the notes and go over the lesson with you too.” “God, you are a life saver!” I hugged him. Brett squeezed my waist. “Alrighty then, go to class or you’re going to be late. I love you!” I waved and walked out the door. “I love you, too!”
I groaned when Y/N walked out of Coach’s room. I’m glad she didn’t catch me staring at her cleavage that was falling out of her tank top. I adjusted the bulge in the front of my basketball shorts. Y/N is my best friend, and she has been for the past ten years, but now I can’t help but want to be more than friends. The final bell rang and I ran to class; the only thing I could think of was how I was going to make “more than friends” work when I go over tonight.
As soon as the last bell rang I sped out to my car. I wanted to get to my house before Brett did. I got up to my room and threw my stuff on the bed with a huff. It was super hot in my room, so I put on some shorts and threw my hair up into a messy bun. I took my books out of my backpack and started reading the passage from class today. Five minutes later, there was a tapping coming from my window. I smiled and opened my window to let Brett in. “Why couldn’t you use the front door?” I stretched my hands over my head and groaned. Brett’s eyes moved to my stomach, where my tank top had rode up. “Um, maybe because that is no fun at all?” He smiled. “Well, as long as you have the notes, I don’t care how you get into my house.” I hugged Brett. Brett hugged me back, but he held on to me for a little bit longer than he usually does. “Okay, let’s get our homework done, yeah?” I sat on my bed and patted the empty space in front of me. Brett came to me and put his backpack on the bed. “Don’t put your shoes on my bed, Brett Talbot. I will screw you up.” Brett raised his voice. “Your gonna what?!” I leaned back. “I’m gonna screw you up.” “Oh. Okay, sorry.”
Holy shit! I definitely did NOT hear her say that last word. Y/N is seriously going to be the death of me.
Brett chuckled nervously. I shrugged it off. “So, what all did Coach talk about during class today?” I asked. Brett flipped to the page from class in his textbook. “The lesson was about the French Revolution. More specifically, the Tennis Court Oath.” I nodded and slid Brett’s notebook closer to me and finished copying notes for that section. “I love you, Y/N.” Brett said. “I love you, too, Brett.” I answered absent-mindedly. Brett took my pen out of my hand. He lifted my chin until I looked him in the eyes. “No, Y/N, I love you. I want to be with you. You have no idea what you do to me.” I couldn’t even find the right words to respond to Brett. “Brett…I don’t know what to say…” Brett leaned forward. His lips barely touched mine. “Say yes, Y/N. Say you’ll be with me.” “Yes, Brett. I’ll be with you.” I answered without even having to think about it. Brett closed the gap between our lips. I leaned back and pulled Brett down with me. Our books and other school stuff got pushed onto the floor. Brett’s hand moved to the front of my shorts. I broke the kiss. “Brett, I’m-I’m a virgin.” Brett gave me a sweet smile. “I’ll go slow, sweet girl.” “Promise?” “Promise.” Brett kissed me again. Brett helped me out of my shorts. I giggled a little bit. I pulled off my shirt, showing Brett my naked chest. Brett hissed and discarded his clothes faster than humanly possible. (HAHAHA) Brett pulled something out of his basketball shorts. A condom. “Awfully prepared for this, aren’t you, Talbot?” I quizzed. Brett blushed. “I-uh-well-you see…” I laughed and kissed his lips again, just to shut him up. Brett rolled the condom on. Brett put his finger on my clit. I started to moan instantly. Brett’s expert finger got me completely soaked in no time at all. “Are you ready, baby?” Brett asked. I bit my lip and nodded quickly. Brett pushed into me slowly. I squeezed my eyes shut and gripped his shoulder tightly. The sharp, tearing pain made my eyes well up with tears. Brett continued slowly until he was buried inside of my pussy completely. He stayed still for some time. “It’s okay for you to move now. I’m okay now.” I breathed. Brett pulled out some then slid back in. There was still some pain but it subsided after two of there strokes, and turned into pleasure. “How are you doing? Does it hurt?” Brett stroked my face with one of his hands. I moaned. “I’m fine. It feels good, Brett. Really good.” Brett laughed softly and sped up a little. My moans and his moans got slightly louder and louder. Thank god my parents aren’t home. I thought. With one particular thrust, Brett hit a spot inside of me that made me arch my back. “Holy fuck. I don’t know what you just did, but do it again.” A smirk appeared on Brett’s face and he duplicated his actions for the second time. An unfimiliar feeling started to form in my abdomen. It felt like a knot that was on the verge of exploding. “Brett, I’m–oh, god–” I panted. Brett groaned. “Me too, sweetheart, just a little longer.” Brett thrusted twice more and a feeling of euphoria washed over me. Brett pulled out and laid down beside me. “That was like nothing I’ve ever experienced in my life before.” I rested my hand on my forehead and caught my breath. “It’s better the second time, baby. Just saying.” Brett said. I smiled. “How about, in a few minutes, we test that?” “Deal.”