girlfriend tips

TIPS FOR SHOPPING FOR YOUR TRANS BOYFRIEND

Just some tips I’ve learned over the years to help with my boyfriend’s dysphoria

•vertical stripes (makes you seem taller)
•uneven patterns such as polka dots (hides any chest bumps)
•jackets, sweaters, or vests (layers hide curves. But be sure they’re not too long. Oversized clothes make you seem smaller. Hem should be no more than 2 inches below waist)
•graphic T shirt (make sure design is higher up on the chest to hide any chest bumps)
•pants (straight fitted. Go up a size. Try to get little to no breaks.)
•round or pointed toed shoes (square toed shoes make you seem shorter)
•hats, glasses, necklaces, bow ties, skinny ties (any accessories should be kept to the upper half of their body to draw the eye up and make them seem taller)
•binders (best binder brands I know of are Underworks, and Gc2b)
•shoelifts (amazon has really good cheap ones)
• shop online for smaller men’s clothes (rue21, Zara, American Eagle, Express Men, Asos, H&M)

How to Become His Dream Girl, Even if You’re Not (A Spoiled GF Guide)

so recently, within the past 2 months I have successfully become a spoiled gf, this (surprisingly) was a whole lot easier than I thought it would be, but using this technique (that I kind if made up) I broke it down into some simple steps :)

STEP ONE: Pick someone you wont mind spending a considerable amount of time with

- Realize that this isn’t a sugar daddy, this man wants to have a full on relationship with you, therefore you will be spending a large amount of time with him so you WILL HAVE TO DEAL WITH HIM. So just make sure that he is someone you can handle without wanting to strangle after 45 minutes.


STEP TWO: Charm the fuck out of him, then have him open up to you

- You have to make him want you, be alluring and kind. smile at him, laugh at his jokes, compliment him on shit that you might not even care about. Right now you are selling a prophecy, an introduction to a relationship. Make yourself sound as interesting as possible but leave him always wanting more, always have him talk about himself more than you talk about yourself. try to pick up on little things and get a read on his emotional status and how he chooses to react to certain situations, learn about him so you can mold yourself into his dream woman. Once he sees your “genuine” interest in him, he will start opening up to you and THIS is where you’ll really need to pay attention.


STEP THREE: Find out what intimate part of his life is missing

- THIS IS KEY LADIES AND GENTLEMAN!!! You will have to figure out what relationship related snippet is really missing. In my case my sugar boyfriend (ill call him T) was married for 10+ years and never really got what he wanted out of the marriage and was constantly lied to, but ended up staying on behalf of his 4 step kids. after getting divorced he dated a stripper who just used him for his money even though he supposedly had “genuine” feelings for her. After learning about his tragic love history I came to the conclusion that what he really needed out of a relationship was mutual affection and to feel valued. KEEP IN MIND, THIS STEP CAN TAKE A WHILE AND INCLUDES LOTS OF TRIAL AND ERROR. So after coming up with my hypothesis of the lack of value and affection, I decided to put it to the test and did 2 simple things in order to do so. first, while he was at work, I called him to see how his day was going. You would have thought I was god himself calling because he was so happy to hear from me and to hear that I was thinking about him and that I took the time out to call him and let him know that. Second, I cooked him dinner. One day while I was staying at his house I decided to surprise him with a very basic meal (frozen salmon fillets and sautéed bell peppers) and yet again, he was so happy and excited at the fact that I had done that for him. This is when I knew I was on the home stretch


STEP FOUR: Focus on the missing intimate piece, and make it your specialty

- This is what has him keep you around, doing the things that he needed but never got. don’t get me wrong, I’m not cooking this man dinner everyday, instead I switch it up and substitute certain actions. He loves affection, so when we’re sitting on the couch together ill lay my head on his lap, or hold his hand and stroke the side of his face. I’ve learned that simple shit like that makes him incredibly happy, which makes him incredibly generous.


STEP FIVE: Get Spoiled

- Now after giving him a taste of life with you in it, you need to give him a taste of how much your life costs. By now he’s showered you in nice dinners and gifts on the whim, but you’re here for the kill, you want a access to the finances and for him to get you whatever you want. For me, this was by far the easiest step out of all of them, I told him I wanted to go shopping and that I needed some stuff from Lush and Sephora (he had no idea what either of those places were) AND HERE IS WHERE YOU GET HIM. Make sure he sees how expensive it is just to be you, talk to him about your favorite products and what you need and use on the daily (hype them up in price too, like if you need foundation and you usually use L'Oréal, rave about the Gorgio Armani foundation instead) make it seem like your mere existence is expensive, by now this man wants to take care of you and wants to keep you in his life and therefore will do what it takes to keep you near and dear. Once he see’s how “hard” it is to be you, he will make it easier



At this point in my relationship with T, I am nearly moved into his house and have full usage of his ex-wife’s Lexus and his credit card, and tomorrow I get to meet his mother. Once you get on the right path of knowing what a man is missing in this life, you’ll be able to use that to your advantage and have him truly believe that you’re the woman of his dreams, even if you’re just a Faux Heaux :)

The scariest thing about distance is you don’t know if they’ll miss you or forget about you.
—  Nicholas Sparks

1. Don’t date a boy who cancels plans last minute. Especially if he’s canceling for someone else. You are not a second choice. You are not a third choice. You are a first choice or you are nothing to him.
Do you understand me, baby? You are worth so much more than that, don’t let him push you around.

2. If he’s rude to you, drop him. I don’t care how many times he says “just kidding” or “baby, I didn’t mean it” you keep your head up, your shoulders straight, your chin high and you demand to be treated as the goddess you are.

3. If he doesn’t hold your hand in front of his friends or wrap his arms around you when you’re with his family then he isn’t worth it. Date someone who can’t keep their hands off of you. Date someone who aches with the need to feel your skin on theirs.

4. Make sure he has goals, aspirations, dreams. Make sure he has a plan of some sort. If he doesn’t have any of those what are you guys supposed to talk about? What are your 2 AM conversations going to look like?

5. Find out his hobbies and interests and make sure they’re similar to yours. If you want to travel, date someone who will drop what they’re doing just to take you on a random adventure. You don’t want to be stuck with someone who’s idea of a good night is sitting on his futon with cheesy Dorito fingers while you watch him play video games.

6. If your brother doesn’t like him or if he rubs your sister the wrong way, trust their instinct. There’s probably a reason. I can guarantee you, darling, if you bring him home and we can see in his eyes that you light up his entire world than we will love him just as much as you do. 

7. Baby, if he ever lays a finger on you, you fucking leave him. Don’t think twice, don’t look back and don’t you dare accept his apology two days later. 

8. If you can’t trust him you shouldn’t be dating him. If you have to go through his phone to sleep better at night he’s not the one for you.

9. You’re going to fight, you’re going to argue, that is all part of a relationship. But baby, if he is contradicting everything you say solely for the sake of an argument, just walk away.

10. I’ve seen anger and rage in your grandfather’s eyes. I saw it everyday for 17 years, baby. If losing a football game makes him so mad as to not want to speak to you, than you are giving yourself to the wrong boy. He’s going to grow, and he’s going to get meaner, and he’s going to hurt you. Leave now.  

11. If his laugh doesn’t claw it’s way into your memory and his smile doesn’t make you feel like the entire universe is right in front of you than you are wasting your time.

—  11 Dating Tips I Wish My Mother Would Have Told Me 
Tinder tip 💸

We all know at this point that you cannot say you’re a sugar baby in your profile on these vanilla dating sites. This includes Tinder, Okcupid, Plenty of Fish, and any others you want to use. However, I didn’t even realize until recently that discussing an arrangement with a POT in your private messages on these sites is also bad. It’s another reason that all of your accounts keep getting suspended. If you discuss being a sugar baby with a man who isn’t receptive, he may report your account out of spite. Here’s how to make sure your account will stay around. Once you’ve matched with a POT, have your small talk on the site. Once you’ve chatted a bit, send him your phone number (one connected to a texting app of course) and ask him to text you. Once you’ve received a text, block him on the dating site so he can’t report your profile. Have all of the arrangement discussions over text, and if he becomes disgruntled he can’t report you. That’s the #1 reason profiles get deleted, and it’s been effective for me so far.

Christian Louboutin Masterpost

“People say I am the king of painful shoes. I don’t want to create painful shoes, but it is not my job to create something comfortable. I try to make high heels as comfortable as they can be, but my priority is design, beauty and sexiness. I’m not against them, but comfort is not my focus.”

The only man who has every really been honest about the extent of his downfall. This post is an update of an old post. Now, for some reason I picture Louboutins being every SB’s first go to pair of designer shoes. Why? Because they are sexy, gorgeous and the bottoms make any man want to bow down. That being said, they are the MOST painful pair of heels I have ever owned. So every little step to stretch/protect them has been worth it. 

How to Make Heels More Comfortable
As he said, louboutin’s will never be comfortable heels - they are not supposed to be. But, here are some tips and tricks you can use to make them a little less uncomfortable. Before we start, I have the So Kate that I wear to functions/dinners/events aka events where I can sit for long periods of time without looking out of place.

1. If your pair has a narrow front, you will need to stretch the leather. If you want to be a badass, then you can stuff your feet in and walk around for hours and eventually make them form - you will hate yourself. OR, you can use the extra help. Double up on some socks, stuff your feet in and shift all of your weight to the front of your feet. Using your blow dryer, apply high heat directly to the shoe. Make sure to relocate weight to the front of the shoe, the back will stretch as well! IF it stretches too much (that’s okay), then use fashion tape on the back to prevent sliding of your foot. I think it is better to stretch too much then not as all and with the tape, you’ll never notice the difference. 

2. Beauty is pain ladies and these epitomize both. Bandage your third and fourth toes with some medical tape, removes pressure from the nerves. You’ll hold out longer.

3. INSOLES for these brand of heels are a MUST. I didn’t realize how much of a difference they made until I did not wear them. HUGE HUGE HUGE difference.

4. When you are walking, be aware of your posture. If you’re an SB then your posture should always been good, in or out of heels. That being said, in these heels relocating your weight to your heel with an erect back makes it less painful. If you’re not used to this then this would feel awkward but you’ll get used to it - I promise. 

How to Protect Your Red Bottoms 

Yes, I like saving money. However, I chose not to go to the cobbler because they wanted to charge me 70 for the base. And, they would not have been able to protect my babies in time. You can do this for under $12, without any damage to the red after. 

Buy the ZAGG InvisibleShield Military Grade Screen Protector (I recommend this brand only because it’s the only one I know that will NOT damage the red.)  

You will want to buy the OG iPad case just in case you mess up, you can do it more than once. OK, so what you will do is clean the bottom of your shoes with a damp cloth and then outline them on the non-sticky part of the protector. DO NOT ACCIDENTALLY BUY THE GLASS PROTECTOR. Now, it is arts and craft time and you will cut out the base the outline of your shoes. Peel the plastic away, spray spray spray your shoes with the provided solution and slowly apply the sticky face, while being aware of air bubbles. You will want to use your windshield wiper thing to remove as many of the air bubbles as possible.

These are my protected So Kate that I have worn so many times and they still look perfect. It may have costed me more time but saved me a little bit of cash money. DISCLAIMER: If you are walking on floors in a kitchen/restaurant that could be greasy then you will want to be EXTRA careful. When you scruff the bottom, you get the real grip of these shoes. But when the bottom has the protector on then there is a little less traction. 

This is how you date.

1. Treat your significant other with respect. This is key. This is essential, and this is way overlooked. When they are in the car with you and they are playing their favorite music, don’t, DON’T YOU DARE tell them their music sucks or that you’re “sick of listening to this shitty music”. Let them be happy. Let them smile. If they are into watching a show that you just can’t get into, don’t insult it. Don’t put a person down just because you don’t get it. Watch the happiness int their eyes as they watch and listen to things they love. You’ll watch that disappear after you chose to insult their likes.

2. Talk. Communicate. Share memories. Share stories. Share songs that make you believe in love. Share movies that inspire you. Tell them what’s going on. You failed your test? lets talk about it. You’re mad at your mom? Why? Talk about your past, but don’t forget to ask what they hope for in the future. 

3. Establish a good relationship to the people that they are close to. Meet their family. Hang out with their siblings. Be friends with their friends. Take their dog on a walk around the neighborhood with them. 

4. GO ON DATES. This is underrated but essential. Take them places. Go on adventures. Take them to dinner. Go do something fun. Show them off. That’s your person, embrace it. Hold their hand at the mall. Cuddle them close at a scary movie. Kiss their forehead at the park. Walk hand in hand at the beach. Compete against each other in laser tag. Go to a drive in movie theater to do something new. 

5. But also take those nights in too. Cuddle up and watch a movie on netflix. Kiss while you’re playing a video game. See who’s more strategic at a game of chess. Laugh as you play a game of jenga and the entire thing falls down. Bake cookies and sing and dance to your favorite songs. Sure, going out and having something to do is fun, but nights in with your babe are irreplaceable. They aren’t boring if you don’t make it boring, or if worst comes to worst, be bored together. 

6. Help them grow. Don’t judge them. Everybody is different. If they are having a hard time in school, don’t yell at them, but encourage them to do better. Be there as a helping hand and a good influence to help guide them. People get lost sometimes, and it’s important that if they feel lost, they do not feel alone. Support their decisions even if the career they want doesn’t make $80,000/year.

7. Don’t compare them to other people. Do not say that you regretted choosing them over somebody else. That hurts, and when you hurt somebody in that kind of way you’ll never get the same person back. Don’t talk up somebody of the opposite gender to make them sound better than you’re boyfriend/girlfriend. Make your bf/gf feel most important. 

8. Show affection. It’s not  old school. It’s not gross. It’s not over done. It makes the relationship. Make your boyfriend/girlfriend feel happy to be with you. Make them smile. Make them laugh. Make them blush. Give them compliments often so they don’t question their worth to you. If they are important make them and their feelings a priority. Don’t be afraid to hold their hand or kiss their cheek if somebody is watching. Don’t underestimate the power of appreication, because it goes a long way. Issues in a relationship will disappear if you remind them of the little things you like about them. Build them up. That’s your baby. Never be afraid to make them feel good.

9. That’s your boy/girl. Period. Don’t leave room for the opportunity to make somebody else make them feel better than you do. Don’t let another man tell your girl she looks beautiful today before you tell her. And ladies, don’t let another girl have the opportunity to tell your man how sexy his new haircut looks before you do. 

10. Lastly, love them unconditionally. Love them even if they break down and cry sometimes. Be there and calm them down during an anxiety attack. Be there for them at 2 in the morning when they’re falling apart and need somebody to talk to, but be there for them when its 3pm and they love thier life. Love them even if they sing a little loud in the shower. Love them even if they find stupid tings entertaining for funny. Love them if they need help with homework. Love them if they fail a class because they don’t know what they are doing. Encourage better, but don’t not love them because of it. They are hard enough on themselves, especially those who have a hard time loving them self. Love them. Love them even if they overslept and missed church on Sunday morning. Love them even if you’re fighting. Love them if their hair is a mess. Love them in the morning before they put make up on or btrushed their hair or teeth. Love them even if they accidentally burn the toast in the morning. Love them when they don’t love themself. Love them if they get a speeding ticket. Love them and give them everything you have. Love with your whole heart or not at all. 



And this, is how you should be when you date somebody.

10 steps to flirt like a pro:

By the end of this lesson, you will totally be a flirt sensation, I follow these tips myself and it totally works! So if you want to know how to flirt like a pro; keep reading! Here we go!

Step 1: Talk to them!
I know it seems obvious but have you actually opted to say a quick hello and spark up a light conversation? If not this is a good way to start haha!

Step 2: Laugh, laugh and laugh some more!
Everyone likes to think that they are funny - just throw them a bone and laugh along (not too hard you don’t want them to think you’re too crazy!)

Step 3: Use your eyes
If you avoid eye contact, your crush is never going to know that you like them! So make sure to give a few meaningful looks - use the old “look, look away, look again” technique, it does wonders! Make sure you don’t stare though. And if you find it hard to look someone in the eye; look in between their eyes at their nose, they won’t know the difference!

Step 4: Smile!
Pair that look with the beautiful smile I know you’ve got!

Step 5: Compliment them
A few subtle words can make a major difference on how a person sees you. If you give compliments you are going to be more likeable as a person. It doesn’t have to be a long explanation of how everything about them is perfect; it could be as simple as “you look nice today” or “I like your shoes”. The simpler, the better.

Step 6: Think of them!
If you are watching the match of your crushes favourite sport or even if you see the funniest youtube video you know they’ll love, TELL THEM! It will give them the idea that they are on you’re mind, which is obviously completely true!

Step 7: Body language
This is key! Body language reflects how you feel, so if your feeling awkward it will show. Just relax. Do things like leaning in a little bit when you are talking to your crush, lightly brush past them or even maybe touch their arm in mid conversation. All these things will hint your into them. (Warning: sitting on their lap may be too far).

Step 8: Social media
This is perfect if you are shy or you just want to be in contact with your crush at home and outside of school/work. Like a few photos or statuses, send funny links to each other or even just strike up a conversation. Don’t be too stalkerish!

Step 9: Ask for their opinion
Whether it’s about homework or an outfit or if you should eat an apple or an orange… opinions matter! Asking for you crushes opinion will not only hint that you like them but will show that you care what they think. This will give them a confidence boost and also get you a step closer to making your crush a reality! It’s a win win!

Step 10: Be yourself!
Don’t be willing to change for your crush too enormously as that shows you don’t think your good enough, which is completely not the case. If your crush is genuinely interested in you they will like you for who you are. So be confident, be unique and most of all just act like you always do! If you are happy with yourself this will reflect in your presence - and think what kind of message that sends your crush!

You are now the most flirty flirt I know, go try it out on your crush and let me know how you go!

crush–advice

Mr.Global is Amazing

He texted me and told me he reserved a room for us at the Mandarin Oriental for the night. Now keep in mind this is our first time getting together since discussing the arrangement on our meet and greet. I arrived at the hotel 30 minutes late because the GPS took me to the Management office. He didn’t care though, he just wanted me to hurry up and get there. I valet my car and walk into the bar and there he is waiting on me. The look in his eyes told me he’d already started drinking without me. He’s like “Order whatever you want and if you want food get that too.” So we’re drinking and we’re talking and he has so many questions. Mostly about my hair. He was shocked when I told him about sew-ins lol. He had no idea what they were. He also was curious as to why I got into sugaring. I answered all of his questions and I was honest and I think that just made him like me even more. He kept looking me in my eyes and telling me how pretty I was and how he liked my cheek bones (I was contoured by the Gods themselves). He just seemed so happy. He wouldn’t stop smiling. He kept telling me I was so nice and professional and that he didn’t know if I was acting or being real. I told him I really like being around him and that he’s a breath of fresh air. I say that because he listens to me. If I tell him something he recites it weeks later. He truly listens. I love that about him. He gives me a menu and suggest that I order for him because I know what he likes, I order a club sandwich and we both tore that sandwich up lol, yeah we shared it. We finish up and we go upstairs to our room and it was beautiful. I had a few drinks so I was little tipsy. I was ready to rock his world though, but he didn’t want sex. Yes…you heard me he didn’t want sex. He wanted to sleep next to me and cuddle and just hold me. I took my clothes off (stayed in my bra and panties) and got in a satin robe and lied down on the bed. He comes over and he starts rubbing me on my legs and kissing my feet, telling me he would be so devoted to me and that he just wants to take care of me. Anything that I need to let him know. He asked me if I ever fell in love with one of my SDs and I told him no. He said well it’s possible that I can with him because he is so lovable. He gets out of the bed to grab a pink envelope off of the table and says I think this is for you and hands it over to me. I open it up and it’s a card from him with a gift card to one of my favorite stores. On our first date I told him if he ever wanted to just make me happy Sephora and Ulta are my favorite stores. HE GOT ME A GIFT CARD TO SEPHORA!!! I wanted to fuck him last night because I was just so pleased by how good he had been to me. But he’s not rushing it so neither am I. I mean last month I got my allowance after our meet and greet and didn’t see him until this night and he was okay with that. I’m his first SB and I am loving this. I had a ring on my ring finger that I picked up from F21 and he thought I was married. I told him no way!! I said if I was it would be cooler than this and much bigger. He said you’re right. What’s your ring size? Whoa!! I’m a size 7 baby. We ended our night by falling asleep in one another’s arm. It was so beautiful. He really looked so happy. He even smiled in his sleep. I can’t wait to see him again.

Date these SDs

I’ve never done ppm. I’ve never done “x allowance for y meets per month”. I wouldn’t do them now. If you really want a guys financial attention long term, make them care about you. Let them take care of you. Don’t let them know they’re paying for it. It doesn’t matter if he told you he loved you, that’s lust. Once it gets too expensive or the new shiny bauble comes by, you’re history.

If you want that to last, you need to make yourself indispensable to these men. You need them to think that you’re a one and only. You also need them to forget they’re paying you. Most men will quickly grow tired of their wallets being the only way to get his attention. Yes by then you might have gotten a lot of cash out of him, but think about how much more you could have gotten.

I’m not saying be clingy, i’m not saying be lovey dovey, i’m saying be special. become an integral part of their life, so those bank transfers feel normal, like paying bills, not like paying this girl to be nice to me. Don’t do nice things because they buy you stuff or give you cash. You might think that’s counter-intuitive but consider it. (Most of) These men aren’t stupid. they can tell that you only stay over when you get offered a gift. They can tell that you only responded to them when they said they’d send you a gift card. They can tell you only care about the money. And, unless he’s a financial submissive, he’s gonna drop a girl after a while if all she values in him is his cash.

That’s why I encourage you girls to get off these sugar sites. I’m not saying you can’t make money off them, i’m just saying the payoff to how much work you have to do is low. most SRs these days are just long term escort client relationships. Don’t be afraid to break the mold and actually date these dudes. You get so much more money when you actually mean something to them and aren’t just another piece of ass they have to pay for.

Dating these dudes is why I retired, its why I’m starting multiple businesses, it’s why I can comfortable stop working completely and not have my bank account go low. Spoiled GF gets you the most buck for your bang. 

Always remember who helped you during the hard times, and be forever thankful that they were there for you. After all, where would you be today if it weren’t for their never ending support?
—  Nicole Addison @thepowerwithin
Online Platonic Sugar tips

The best sugar you can get is when you don’t have to give up yours. 

I love to get gifts, flowers etc by men online. The best is to online sugar in countries where there is a culture of men spoiling women, then use hot pictures and put a profile up on dating sites. Look for men that looks like losers. The more desperate man the better. Use either your own pictures or others. I’ve tried both. You lead men on to believe that they will meet you. I use lies like ‘I’m going for an exchange year at [Insert his city/country here] next semester!! Then let the games begin and gifts and presents pouring in. Dont talk on skype or phone with these people. Stick to texts for security reasons.

I personally recommend to receive max 1-2 gifts per guy, then leave it there. I’ve had stalkers before and I’m really uncomfortable with the thought that it might happen again. 

This is obviously not my main occupation, its rather something I do by the side if I have time.

Girl Code Tip #198

Sometimes guys (or girls) will tell you that you are their everything and they will love you forever.

Sometimes that’s true.

Sometimes they’ll leave the next day and you’ll never know why they left or what went wrong.

The best advice for those situations is to take a step back and find yourself again. In finding yourself you’ll find what you need to move on peacefully.


Girl Code.