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Communication, Baby

Title: Communication, Baby
Category: Hockey RPF
Genre: Alternate Universe - Always a Different Sex, World Cup of Hockey 2016, Friendship
Pairing: Jack Eichel/Connor McDavid, Ensemble
Rating: Teen
Summary: The ladies are having the time of their lives at the World Cup of Hockey.
Or: Steph’s a flirt, Dani’s so done with everything, Geno’s the only one who gets Sid, Auston’s just trying to adjust…and oh yes. Jack and Connor have a thing (Dylan and Noah despair).

Preview:

these hearteyes r dumb.

You should reign him in, Stromer.

i’m offended on behalf of canada.

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These are some of my girl rules when regarding and writing female characters:

  • Girls have authority. Show leaders that are female and show leaders that aren’t female taking advice from women and girls. Every other piece of media and the world around us is sure to impress that girls don’t have authority- we don’t need it in media we create.
  • Girls are subject to reality. There are enormous expectations on girls every day in every way, but our media tends to omit everything but an image of what girls ‘should’ be. For every beauty queen, there is their time spent and money devoted to makeup and clothes. For every lifestyle, there is the support of said lifestyle. Girls have homes, have chores, have jobs, have families, have triumphed, and have made mistakes. They pay understandable penalties for their actions, and enjoy success as applicable. They have a context just like male characters and we need to show it, because for some reason in much of our media girls seem to emerge from the ether fully formed, fit, toned, shaved, styled, with money in a wallet, super awesome karate powers, nice clothes– and no shown lifestyle or background to support it.
  • Girls defy gendered expectations. In light of the above, we also have to identify what actually isn’t 'reality,’ but society and what we feel is normal but is not set in stone. Girls can have any job and any background boys can, can look the same or have the same body type as any boy can, can perform any feat a boy can. There are female firefighters and female wrestlers and female loggers and female construction workers– and they are just as good at their jobs whether or not they have the same body type as their male peers. I don’t want to see any more women put on a cool crime fighting team and said 'well they can be the spy or the scout because women are smaller than the muscular men.’ Women don’t have to be small, spies can be large, and a small woman can use her body to achieve the same results as a male bruiser. The same goes with women in any other profession- what qualities aren’t actually reality, but are just our expectations?
  • Girls define themselves. In our culture, femininity is often perceived as a lack of, or a contrast to, masculinity– but this is a terrible idea and renders female characters dependant on male ones to have an identity. If a character says she’s a girl, no matter what she looks like, sounds like, seems like, she is a girl, and her traits are traits that belong to a girl. We can categorize traits as traditionally typical for cis males and cis females ('masculine’ and 'feminine’) but traits that belong to a character, are the property of that character. Girl power is just as much butch as it is hard femme. Girls define themselves, and are not to be defined by others.
  • Girls have agency. Girls want stuff, and girls get stuff. They aren’t along for the ride, or are just one of a set: they have their own strong opinions and motivations for their actions. They’re able to decide what they want and to change their situation without judgement or being thought of as 'inconvenient’ or 'a nuisance’ by others. If they need something, they should be allowed to seek it or ask for it or even demand it, without being considered a burden. Girls can say 'no’ to anything, at any time, and not have that be taken as a reflection of their worth, or an opinion to be persuaded.
  • Girls are not mysterious. There is nothing mystical or wondrous about femininity. It is an identity. Girls do not act in 'mysterious’ ways, there is no 'female intuition,’ and women are not 'impossible’ or 'unfathomable’ or more difficult than men are. When we respect the ideas, the feelings, the speech, and the motivations of others, these 'mysteries’ of women vanish entirely: a falsehood enforced by male privilege not understanding that women face different realities, implications, and social problems than men. We shouldn’t enforce a 'mysterious’ or 'mystical’ or 'special’ femininity in our media, either- women are half the human population, not puzzles or unicorns.
  • Girls are not tools. No plot should depend on someone being female. A female character can have something depend on her abilities (a cis woman’s ability to bear a child, for instance) but that says nothing about her femininity- no more than her ability to win a tournament or lead an army.
  • Girls are not limited in their interactions. Girls talk with girls about anything they want. Girls talk with boys about anything they want. Girls talk with anybody of any gender or lack thereof about anything they want. They are not merely conjured up when they have something only the designated girl can say, or when they plot demands girly things. There’s no reason for girls not to be present at all times, involved in any conversations nearby. They don’t go on a shelf while others are talking.
  • Girls are fun. They’re fun to be around, are interesting, are clever, are animated, and they have a lot to say that’s both meaningful and entertaining. Too often female characters and their arcs are more detailed, yet also more 'serious’ or 'tragic’ than the arcs of some of their peers. Often this seriousness has to do with a male character’s influence, arc, or demise. No thanks! 

Of course, these rules apply to any gender, and nongendered individuals too. But female characters are often denied these things in media that we both consume, and media we personally create. Coded cis male characters do these things constantly, at length. Non-males? Not so much.

EDIT: I forgot a rule. It’s here.

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Another girl rule that I forgot to mention, that is just as important as the others:

  • Girls don’t need to be explained or justified. You don’t need to excuse the presence of girls, not anywhere, not doing anything. There is no reason that any given character can’t be a girl. Likewise, a girl doesn’t have to be somehow directly the key mover of the plot or to have a special involvement to be important.
    Girls often are framed as ‘so and so’s girlfriend,’ to explain why they are there, or as 'the mystical maiden with magic powers’ to make them important to the story. This in of itself wouldn’t be bad- except that girls in other circumstances are often excluded where unrelated male characters tag along all the time. A girl doesn’t need her own subplot to justify her existence, or to be tagged onto some other character to give her an excuse to be there. This often overlaps with 'girls are fun’- a lot of these plots have a tendency to suck the fun out of female characters.
    As a result, casts of stories tend to look a lot like job interviews. The female characters show up with a fancy pantsuit and four degrees in plot entanglement and angst and barely squeak into being hired, and the male characters show up with a half-page resume and wrinkled slacks and somehow five of them get the job.

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