Well, it seems to me that the best relationships - the ones that last - are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is… suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with.
Happy 49th Birthday Gillian Anderson - 9th August 1968
“She’s a funny creature, Gillian Anderson. I warm to her for various reasons. She’s got a nice line in non sequiturs. She’s un-grand. She’s wearing an eccentric pair of white patent leather heels, a tatty old pair of combat trousers and a violet jersey. She swears brilliantly. She gets excited when a waiter carries a tray of puddings past, and races off to feed the parking meter so she can have the lemon tart brulee (‘and please get the sticky toffee pudding’). She doesn’t have a watch. She’s capable, even on a day like today, of moments of almost painful candour. Last but not least, I like her because when the interview is over, she will say goodbye and attempt to leave the restaurant not through the door, but through one of the plate-glass windows. She is, I think, not altogether cool.” (x)
“If you find yourself about to do something that might cause you harm, ask, ‘Would I do this to someone I love?’ If you find you’re berating yourself for a mistake, ask, ‘Would I talk like this to someone I love?’ If you find you’re ‘comfort’ eating or spending money you haven’t got, ask yourself, ‘Would I want someone I love to do that to themselves?’ It takes time to establish new behaviours, but do your very best to interrupt any negative habitual responses that you notice as often as you can”. -
Gillian Anderson and Jennifer Nadel on WE: A Manifesto for Women Everywhere.
For years I was very self-centered and focused on my body, my weight, and it caused so much sadness. That really moves me now, just how much of my younger life I missed out on because I was so focused on my thighs or my outfit; it was such a waste of time.
Gillian Anderson, on her own struggles with body image (x)