There are women who make other women feel awful because of their own insecurities. They practice cliquishness and alienation. They choose to belittle and slut shame and gossip and practice passive aggressions when they should be looking at their own pettiness and understanding where it stems from. To these women, I say, ladies, isn’t it bad enough that there are men out there that are a very real and present danger to us everyday that we must make enemies of each other too? Must we break each other down and destroy each other’s self esteem when we should be building each other up, becoming a sisterhood, so we can eventually become an army?
Do not allow him to consume you. If he does not call, go to sleep. If he does not message, put your phone away and have a fantastic day anyway. If he acts distant when you are with him and refuses to tell you what is wrong, don’t wait for him, go home and do something you love. If he tries to insinuate you do not need your friends now that you have him, spend more time with your friends. If he tries to teach you a lesson through the silent treatment, ignore him completely.
If he plays with your feelings constantly, walk away from him. If he acts like your body is his entitlement when you are not ready, walk away from him. If he says terrible, unforgivable things and threatens to leave you after every argument, walk away from him. If he forbids you from doing anything you love, walk away from him. If he claims ownership of your accomplishments, walk away from him. If he demeans you or disrespects your being a girl and refuses to stop when you tell him it hurts, walk away from him.
I cannot stress this enough, you live for yourself first. He is a secondary character in the story of your life. Do not allow him to turn you into a secondary character in your own book.
Nikita Gill, Advice for Teenage Girls Finding Their Way Through Love.
There is something moon soaked and dawn flavoured about her. Something kissed by the wild and loved by lightning. She looks like Artemis after a night of storm hunting. She looks like the sun as it rises after kissing the dawn.
A little de-stress doodle of what I wore the other day when it was still in the 50′s and not in the 90′s. I hate summer. -_- I’m moving in a week!! Holy crap, so much to do… I’ll probably be pretty absent for the next two weeks as I finish up projects, pack my stuff, unpack my stuff, and buy a new art table (I currently work at my kitchen counter - can’t take that with me!)
Sorry for being so quiet lately - I’ve been busy with freelance projects. But here’s a preview of my piece for @lightgreyartgallery‘s upcoming Camouflage gallery show, opening May 26th! Check my instagram for process shots!
One in every three women is abused violently in a physical or sexual way in the course of their lifetimes. Sixty eight percent of these crimes go unreported to the police. Ninety eight percent of these perpetrators will not see a day in prison. It isn’t the stats that are terrifying. It is the question: how many of us know and trust a man who has justified choosing not to stop when a woman has begged him to stop hurting her?