Just began reading Palo Mayombe: The Garden of Blood and Bones by Nicholaj de Mattos Frisvold, himself an initiate into the religion. I’m about 50 pages in and have learned more than anything else I’ve ever seen online about the subject in what’s so far an amazing read. I’m currently in a phase where I’m obsessed with learning about Diaspora/African Traditional belief systems. I’m especially interested in African traditions that not only survived the Middle Passage, but thrived in the Americas.
This Is the Reason Why You Need to Define the Relationship
times you’ve asked yourself, what are you? Friends? Couple? Best Friends? Or
what? You’re so confused. You don’t know where you should place yourself. You
don’t know what’s going on between the two of you. You don’t know if it’s
really a mutual understanding or a misunderstanding.
enjoyed being with him. You both love the same things like coffee, theatrical
plays, volleyball, books, and museums. You two cannot stop talking, there were
just lots of things to talk about. You even have those late night conversations
because both of you were just so comfortable with each other. It’s so natural
that it feels like it’s meant to be but maybe not because you don’t know who
you are to him.
two went out too many times, you two talked most of the time, maybe he even
held your hand too, you were getting attached to him but he never ever
mentioned to you if he has intentions to pursue you.
you still remember those late nights when you can’t fall asleep because you
feel too much? You were very happy because he makes you feel very special yet
you were so sad as well because he makes you feel dumb by letting you guess who
you are in his life.
him, now! Let him define the relationship not because you doubted him but
because you respected him. You want to continue to respect him by telling you
what you need to know. But girl, be ready. This is a make or break scenario.
This might fall to laying his intention to you or telling you that you are just
a very good friend to him.
bet you are so tired of assuming or guessing things around. You are tired of
relationships you are not-so-sure about. Then, let it be defined. It’s a choice
you should make. Do it now!
do not ever settle for less. God has intended to give you the best relationship
so don’t let this “no-label relationship” keep you from it. Let the guy lay his
intention to you and love you the way God wants you to be loved. Don’t let
confusion make you suffer when you can have a clear and intentional
relationship with someone. Raise your standards. Don’t let anyone reach your
standard because you adjusted it, because you were afraid you might not find
anyone else. Let him reach it because he can afford it. You should stop being
afraid of losing him. He doesn’t deserve you if he confuses you. Leave him.
Wait and pray for the guy who will give you the clarity and best relationship
God has planned for you.