Cari and Lauri Ryding, a couple in Massachusetts, came home from vacation recently to find their house had been egged and their rainbow flag stolen.
So more than 40 houses in their neighborhood put up rainbow flags in a show of solidarity.
Neighbors got the flags from the Rainbow Peace Flag Project, a local organization that gives away free rainbow flags to area residents. Cari and Lauri had originally hung the flag after the Orlando shooting.
“It just happened so quickly — the whole neighborhood said, ‘Get me a flag. Get me a flag. Get me a flag,’ ” said Penni Rochwerger, who lives around the corner from the Rydings. “If we can stop whatever hate is out there, I think that’s really important.”
“We said, ‘Why don’t we all have the flags? They can’t take them from all of us,’” said Dennis Gaughan, whose wife, Maura, helped organize the rainbow response. […]
As jarring as the initial crime was, Lauri Ryding said, the response has helped restore their faith in their community. “Somebody’s fear called them to action,” she said. “But our neighbors’ support and love called them to action, and love conquers hate. Love wins. We win.”
My (bio) sister offered to help me get a “Smash The Partriarchy” t shirt and as much as I appreciate the effort like do I look like some cis femme ‘lady type’ who has a bearded “mostly het” boyfriend who drinks craft beer over here??!?
This Labor Day, September 5th 2016, all visitors to the Lewis Ginter Botanical Garden will receive free entry. The garden is open from 9am-5pm.
From 1-4pm, in front of the Bloemendaal House, DJ Lonnie B and Kelli Lemon will mix contemporary hip hop and R&B. The free entry includes entry into the ButterfliesLIVE Exhibit (line for the exhibit will close at 3:30pm), and to the Nature Connects: Art with LEGO Bricks exhibit. The garden will also be purchasing Pokemon Go lures for the various PokeStops on the premises.
This SUNDAY in Oakland!
37th annual Xicana Moratorium Day
5am Sun rise ceremony
10-12 Dana Azteca
12-5 Festival featuring
FREE food, kid’s activities, vendors and performances…
At San Antonio Park (18th+Foothill)
#Oakland #sanantoniopark #xicanamoratorium #community (at Tu Tienda Azteca)
She kept her gaze on him as he continued to look
upward. “I know it’s a little
weird, but we can start a new tradition.
We don’t have to blacklist the holiday anymore.”
She watched as his body tensed.
He swiftly glanced down at her and widened his eyes. “I know. And Annie and I have discussed it. It’s important for the hobster. Not that she really understands now, but she will.”
He gave an exaggerated shrug, cleared his throat, and
resumed his study of the ceiling tiles.
Dorie took a deep breath and patted his arm. “It’s important
for you too.”
He shrugged again.
She let her hand linger on him as she said emphatically, “It
is. I’m very proud of you. The way you’ve taken things on with
Sophie. It’s very nice for me to
see you like this. You’re nothing
Thank you for humanizing men and caring about us. I believe if more women adopted your loving and positive attitude things would be a lot better and less hatred towards men would exist! You're literally one of the few good ones that actually uses her brain. I enjoy following your blog, Well done!
I really want to believe that this was sent in earnest but the language U use here is troubling (”[T]hings would be a lot better”) and frankly incredibly patronizing (”You’re literally one of the few good ones that actually uses her brain … Well done!”) – either way, let this be a lesson to U:
the ultimate problem here is not women’s hatred and fear of men; the problem isn’t that women refuse to humanise and love men – the ultimate problem here is men’s violent and dehumanising modes of behaviour and thinking, which give women reason to hate and fear men
what men never seem to be able to fully grasp or internalise is that the masculine identity itself exists in relation to femininity and womanhood – it is dependent on femininity and womanhood for its own existence, and is not something separate from them; violating and dehumanizing women is an essential identity-making process for men, it is something necessary for and central to masculinity – just as being open to violation, dehumanization, and commodification is what femininity is centred around; masculinity is designed to make use of this designed openness in femininity to sustain itself; the existence of masculinity/manhood itself as an identity and a social location is detrimental and is meant to be detrimental
what U imply here is that men can continue to exist as-is, and that all that is required for “things [to] be a lot better” is for women to love and humanise them – what I don’t think U understand is that the relation between masculinity/manhood and femininity/womanhood necessitates that kind of behaviour from women anyway, just as it necessitates violence from men – it is not in spite of our loving and humanising U, but because of it that U hurt and kill us
women should not be obligated to, but more importantly literally cannot do the work of fixing/healing men – should not, because it is difficult to do so without re-inscribing the existing power relationship between masculinity and femininity (i.e., where women do emotional labour for men); cannot, because women do not have the kind of perspective needed to do the work of shifting men out of masculinity – only men and people who have insight into the subjective experience of masculine socialization/trauma can do that
so it is up to men in their respective movements, men who are indebted to feminism [particularly Black feminism] for the insight it has provided into the nature of masculinity, to change themselves and each other – ultimately, only men are able to do this work; only men have the kind of perspective, location, and resources necessary for the healing and transformation of men – so, for all of U men who have been silently watching this blog and who have found comfort in what I have acknowledged, particularly those of U who identify as leftists: this is your work; this is integral to the work U are already doing; we are all waiting for U to do it; take responsibility for yourselves and your own; nourish, heal, and validate yourselves and each other in the way that no one else can
The (former dapper genderqueer, now “femme as a gender”) lesbian comic who I know who basically only talked abt dating men when I saw her perform and called her shows shit like “man haters” is now back to dating (‘real’) men and inaugurated it w a cissexist joke on fb so that’s fun