“If you don’t love yourself for your flaws and imperfections, you can’t expect anyone else to either. We are each made differently, so find whatever flaw or imperfection you have and start embracing it because it’s part of you. Be proud of your originality. There’s no one else in the world that’s like you.”

I have the most vivid memories of being seven years old and my mom picking me up from my grandmother’s house. There were the three of us, a family tree in an ombré of mocha next to the caramel complexion of my mom and light-skinned, freckled me. I remember the sense of belonging, having nothing to do with the color of my skin. It was only outside the comforts of home that the world began to challenge those ideals. I took an African-American studies class at Northwestern where we explored colorism; it was the first time I could put a name to feeling too light in the black community, too mixed in the white community. For castings, I was labeled ‘ethnically ambiguous.’ Was I Latina? Sephardic? ‘Exotic Caucasian’? Add the freckles to the mix and it created quite the conundrum. To this day, my pet peeve is when my skin tone is changed and my freckles are airbrushed out of a photo shoot. For all my freckle-faced friends out there, I will share with you something my dad told me when I was younger: ‘A face without freckles is a night without stars.’

I’m barely halfway through The Age of Spin episode of Chappelle’s Netflix comedy special, and unless he’s being ironic, which I don’t think he is, I can’t say I’m very comfortable with the homophobic and transphobic comments being made. Also, I understand that masculinity is a very complex issue, but to basically say that America has bombed “real men” out of existence in other countries, which is why we ought to give homophobic boxers passes, because they’re not white and not American… well. I dunno what to say about that.

I tuned in thinking Chappelle would use his razor wit to dissect a lot of what is happening in America right now. But his stance on the above topics took me by surprise. His comeback is being lauded as the return of greatness, when I just feel like someone opened up a time capsule preserving outdated viewpoints, and Chappelle stepped right out of it.

Guess I got some sensitive SJW snowflake issues if I didn’t and don’t find it funny.

okay but like shawn mendes is such a pure soul, this is an 18 year old boy singing about how we “wants” this girl but he’s not going to do anything without her consent, who made a song which could be read as about being in the ‘friendzone’ but the music video shows an accurate portrayal of an abusive relationship + the national hotline number for domestic violence, who cried performing a song about his dad like honestly. this kid

C: So Karrueche got a restraining order on y'all boy. Riddle me this: How long did it finally take some of you to understand that Chris Brown is fucking trash? I’m not understanding the shock, surprise or fake anger. He’s literally been showing y'all who he is since ‘09, but y'all blamed Rihanna, consistently saying “none of us were there that night.” Stop coddling these grown ass men.

C: So I guess if Samuel L. Jackson is saying that an American black man would added more to the role of “Get Out” than a British black man, can we then retract Don Cheadle’s involvement of Hotel Rwanda since he never experienced the genocide of Rwandans? Or can we erase Morgan Freeman’s involvement of Invictus since he never experienced Apartheid like Mandela did? Since, you know, an actor has to ethnically match the role they’re playing. Maybe J. Lo shouldn’t have played Selena, either.