The first Google result for Giancarlo DiTrapano is his Though Catalog biography (Ha!) in which he describes himself as “straight-acting.” I think we’ve covered how silly and offensive the term “straight-acting” is before, right?
We’ll its mostly silly when you describe yourself as such, but gets offensive when you argue that the entire gay rights movement should start presenting itself as “straight-acting,” which DiTrapano pretty much does.
First of all, he criticizes the gay wedding featured on Conan last week for being a Jewish ceremony (yikes!), then argues Conan should have chosen, “the most conservative-looking, most middle American couple he could find. ‘OHIO’ written across their foreheads in black Sharpie would not have hurt.” Because, he theorizes, “sometimes people need to be eased into a new idea so that they are not even further, and irretrievably, repelled from it.”
First of all, show me this straight-acting, all American, Christian God-fearing Gay couple, who would even entertain the idea of being walked down the aisle by Toby Keith or Terry Bradshaw, as DiTrapano suggests. Show me where they exist! And if they do, and they seriously would get married, do you think they would actually let their wedding be broadcast on national tv in a highly publicized ceremony with out fear of having, like, their great-grandmother or former high school football teammates find out they’re gay? The thing about straight-acting bros is that they’re the least likely to, you know, act anything less than straight in public.
But Dude thinks this is necessary, because gay marriage opponents need to see “a wedding that looks closer to home. People fear the unknown.” But I’m not so sure Gay marriage opposition is so simple. How many anti-gay politicians have we seen now caught up in gay sex scandals? Even if it was just some brief flash of desire brought on in a fit of horniness, for how many gay marriage opponents is homosexual attraction actually that unknown? Isn’t part of the problem that these people actually believe homosexuals can “recruit” and threaten to turn straighties gay? Would featuring two “straight-acting” dudes in a national televised gay wedding actually ease the problem?
The Conan wedding actually made me do that thing that I’m capable of doing which is the closest thing I can do to actually tearing up. Did I identify with either men involved aside from our sexual orientation? No, not really. Did seeing two people finally allowed to legally commit themselves to each other emotionally affect me? Yeah.
The joyously nervous body language before the wedding was exactly what you see before a straight wedding. The kiss afterwards was exactly like the kind you’d see at any other wedding. The happy looks on the family’s faces afterwords were exactly what we’re use to see at a wedding. Aside from the fact this took place on a show with a masturbating bear, the emotion involved shouldn’t have been that “unknown” to middle Americans. And isn’t that the whole point of the gay marriage fight? It shouldn’t matter who’s involved in the wedding, but that everyone is entitled to that level of commitment and emotions?