Some members of the fandom always complain about Touka being too “mean” to Kaneki, but it’s one of the things that I love most about her – and their relationship.
Touka is that she is one of the only characters in the series to always be upfront with Kaneki. She has always told it to him straight, while other characters have glossed over his issues and secretiveness, or just never brought it up (especially when he was the leader of his little group). Touka was even the first person to come out tell Kaneki that he was being selfish through his self-sacrificial actions as he fought a pointless and endless battle. Kaneki is such a good actor, that even he isn’t aware of his own true motivations, telling himself lies that he believes. That is, until Touka is the first person to hit the nail on the head.
Touka doesn’t sugar coat – and she doesn’t treat Kaneki with kid-gloves. Even Kaneki later admits that what she said was entirely accurate. Even after his revelation during his torture, he was still doing the same thing as his mother did – trying to sacrifice himself for others just so that he wouldn’t feel alone. Becoming the person who was hurt.
Even during the infamous, “Are you a virgin?” conversation, Touka confronts Kaneki about his actions. She has certainly gained more tact over the years, but she is just as blunt as she always is. She tells him that she’s afraid that he’s going to disappear and asks him why he has left her behind on important missions.
and time again, Touka is one of the only characters in the manga to
call Ken out for what he has done wrong. She demands accountability,
where as other characters have let “bygones be bygones,” even about
situations that demand accountability from Kaneki. Despite what some of
the fandom likes to think, Kaneki has done a few things wrong – being a
survivor of abuse does not excuse him from accountability of his
actions, even if his past does explain his actions.
It’s what I love about her.