get-out-of-your-comfort-zone

But, what if you can?

As her BOTM, Harmony ( mybigfatfitlife ) invited me to write a post about something I’m passionate about. I considered a few different things – keto, yoga, Jazzercise, being a carb addict … but, honestly, I feel like I’ve talked about those a lot in the past, so I thought I’d talk about something different that I’ve grown more and more passionate about on this journey:

WHAT IF YOU CAN?

When faced with new challenges or opportunities, so many of us first think: “What if I try and fail?” or “What if I can’t do it?”

I want to challenge you all to change that question to: 

“WHAT IF I CAN?" 

I missed so many opportunities in my life to try new things, to have fun with friends, to explore and find adventure, because I was always afraid I would fail. I had to be perfect at everything, and if it was outside my comfort zone, if I had never tried it before – at home where I could fail alone – then I would decline.

To this day I don’t know if I can roller-skate, because I wouldn’t try it at the friend’s skating birthday party I went to when I was about 10. I didn’t have skates at home that I could use to try it there first, to practice first by myself, so I wouldn’t try it out in public for the first time with an uncertain outcome. I might fail. I might look like a fool. 

This need to be perfect, this fear of failing, has held me back and cut me off from many experiences in my life.  But I’m changing this outlook. It’s a bit late, but better late than never! 

If you see someone being brave, trying something new and adventurous, what do you think about them?  Do you wish you were that brave? What if they fail? Do you really think any less of them for trying? I’m gonna say the answer to that is ‘no’. We admire people who put themselves out there, who try new things, who embrace adventure, who make themselves vulnerable to ridicule, who don’t even have a comfort zone. 

Be that person! Take the leap. Take the job that frightens you. Take the trip the scares you. Start your own business. Pack up and move to France if that’s what you want to do! Follow your dreams, live your life outside your comfort zone.

WHAT IF YOU FAIL?

A better question is: What is worth doing even if you fail?

Following your dreams, living without regrets, never wondering 'what if’. Whatever that means for you, THAT is what is worth doing even if you fail. Failure is not the end. Failures are stepping-stones to success. No successful person ever got there without many failures paving their way. Allow yourself to fail. Learn. Grow. Laugh. Try again. 

WHAT IF YOU CAN?

The next time you find yourself afraid of some new opportunity — be it a skating party or a 5k race or a yoga class or a job offer that would require you to move to Japan for two years or the chance to study abroad — WHATEVER IT IS that makes you wonder: "But, what if I fail?” I challenge you to turn that around and ask yourself: “What if I succeed?”

OPEN YOURSELF UP TO THE WORLD. IT’S AN AMAZING AND WONDERFUL PLACE FULL OF ALL KINDS OF ADVENTURES. DON’T SIT ON THE SIDELINES TOO AFRAID OF FAILING.  

TRY.

GET IN THE ARENA.

WHAT IF YOU CAN?

If you’d like to explore this idea more, I urge you to read the book:

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead” by Brene Brown

壁の内側に居ればとても安心する。でも壁の陰に居て目に映るものは? 壁しか見えない。

“When I’m behind my walls, I feel very safe. But when I’m behind a wall, what do I see?
A wall.”

Challenge yourself and break out of your wall. It’s the only way you’ll ever find or learn something new.

Just some words of encouragement for your day. :-)

So I know that introverts get an inordinate amount of attention on tumblr because we’re kind of the majority here, and because we often feel like the overall culture does not recognize introverts that much (at least in the US)

But I think we all need to appreciate our extrovert friends, too

  • Extrovert friends who will talk on the phone for you
  • Extrovert friends who introduce you to new people who they think you’ll get along well with
  • Extrovert friends who help you to go outside your comfort zone on things they know you’ll enjoy
  • Extrovert friends who can always help you out in a social setting when your brain goes into introvert-panic-mode
  • Extrovert friends who get you to have fun at parties, but are also chill with hanging around the house quietly all day
  • Extrovert friends who can coach you on how to professionally network and make new friends
  • Extrovert friends who will always back you up when social drama goes down
  • Extrovert friends who do the talking when you travel together
  • Extrovert friends who can be the buffer between you and a crazy and/or big party
  • Extrovert friends who love you for being an introvert, and who love showing you new ways of looking at the world
  • just
  • extrovert friends