get rid of yourself

gay person, minding their own business: i like gay stuff

some clown, inevitably: this is why we need to get rid of labels, you clearly have no personality other than calling yourself gay. i, on the other hand, have a fascinating personality and refined tastes, such as pictures of gengar wearing the deal with it sunglasses

Grounding, a quick how-to

i like to think of grounding as the magical equivalent of a jogger stretching their legs before and after a run. it focuses you and gets you ready to get stuff done. grounding is the process of ridding yourself of negative/stale/stagnant energies, and pulling in new, fresh, powerful energies, and connecting with the energies around us.

here is a short list of ways/options of how to do it.


literally shake it out. stretch, crack your knuckles, etc. breathe, roll your neck around, clench your fists and  then stretch them wide open.

visualization / the tree method

imagine tree roots growing out of your feet and into the ground, and branches growing out of your arms/head into the sky. pull energy into yourself through the roots/branches


you can invent your own ways to ground. as long as it involves pulling energy into you (from whatever source, it doesn’t just have to be the earth) and connecting with the sources around you.

With the New Year 2017 knocking at our door it is time for a brand new start.
Decide to manifest your most amazing life now!!!
Get rid of mediocrity.
Allow yourself to risk it all.
Be strong and courageous.
Breathe and overcome fears.
Excel in leadership by Loving what you do.
Stay true to yourself and speak your truth.
Live with passion.
Laugh a lot and cry when you need to.
Be creative and innovate.
Simplify your life by doing what you do best and delegate the rest.
Adore mastery and aim for genius.
Be humble and be kind.
Under promise and over deliver.
Shatter your limits.
Exude Love that is full of passion.
Transcend everything that holds you back.
Inspire others by your greatness.
Dream big, but most of all take action.
Be the force for good and be the world changer that you are.
2017 is your year to manifest your true purpose and destiny.
We believe in you.
—  mardybryant 

sunnysideofheaven  asked:

Hi Carrie, do you have any advice on getting over a break up please? I can't stop thinking about my ex girlfriend and I don't know what to do or how to cope. Xx


Firstly, delete everything. Delete their number, their pictures, their social media…get rid of their face and their attachment to everything you associate yourself with daily. Absolutely NO need to torture yourself. 

Secondly, give yourself some time to feel like crap for a while! You cared about something and now it’s gone so of course it’s going to hurt. The more you push it back, the worse it’ll be when it inevitably pushes forward again.

Thirdly, surround yourself with love. You have people around you who love you and people and things you love. Smother yourself in them like there’s no tomorrow. 

Let time do it’s magic. Each day further away, the less it’ll hurt and the more you’ll be able to look back without flinching. 

Much love,



Getting rid of the follow/tumblr buttons on YOUR OWN BLOG

Okay, so a bit of fiddling brought it to my attention that this was appearing on two of my sideblogs but not on two others. And I looked around and found the settings were different. 

To make the annoying “follow_______” and “tumblr” buttons disappear from your blog for now, from your dashboard do the following:

1. Navigate to your settings. You don’t want the global ones, you want the ones just for that particular blog. Find the option to Edit Theme. Choose this.

2. Your Theme editor will open. Scroll down to the bottom of the black sidebar in the editor, choose Advanced Options. 

3. Where the option is set to “promote tumblr”, make sure the switch is off (white not blue). This will remove the follow______ and tumblr buttons from YOUR BLOG ONLY. 

I don’t know where the other controls went, but these controls there now are the ones that display for those not currently logged in (meaning tumblr somewhere thinks you’re not logged in even though you are - it’s fine it’s just confused probably and everything else is still working). If you’re not “promoting tumblr” it won’t give you these options. 

Whatever they’re doing with the iframe controls in the meantime is anyone’s guess. They’ve disappeared. 

There’s nothing I can do to fix this for other people’s blogs. You can only affect your own, but at least you’ll stop being asked to follow yourself (and all those on your blog will stop seeing it too - checked from the independent other account).

How to be more confident! 9 ways & tips!

1. stop comparing yourself to others - What you see isn’t always real.
you are beautiful and unique in your own way!
Making comparisons is damaging and not necessary.

2. get rid of anything that make you feel bad about yourself - these might be negative thoughts, clothing that no longer fits or even mean friends that are bringing you down.

3. Identify your talents - everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, and then focus on your talents.                                Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Express yourself, whether it’s through art, music, writing, or dance.

4. Put care into your appearance and take care of yourself - take a shower on daily basis, brush your teeth, wash your face and brush your hair, you’re worth caring about!

5.  Dress for confidence - How we dress affects both how we feel about ourselves and the way others perceive us.
Don’t be afraid of some color! the color red will make you stand out and the color yellow will make you feel happy and shiny!

6. Learn - The more knowledge you acquire, the more confident you will be. Knowledge is power, and the more powerful you feel, the higher your confidence will be.

7. Take risks - great achievments involve great risks.
try to push yourself by doing risky things, go out from your shell, from the place you feel safe.                                                                                                       you will get no where if you will always be in the same place.

8. instant ways to boost your confident! - 

Stand up as tall as you can, like you’re a puppet and somebody just pulled the string that’s attached to the top of your noggin. 

Pull your shoulder blades down and back as far as possible. 

Pick your chin up and look straight ahead - stop looking down while         walking around, there’s a whole world out there for you to see.

9. Look in the mirror and smile - by looking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run. This will also help you feel happier about your appearance, and to accept the way you look.

i hate when people on tumblr just say shit like “just surround yourself with positive people!!!! dont keep negative people in your life!!!!” like it’s not easy to just drop friends you’ve known for years and magically find a new gang of friends that you can trust so stop making it sound so simple

I’m so proud of everyone on my dash. 

Whether you’re going to college, applying for a job, becoming more confident with yourself, getting rid of some negativity in your life, writing a story, or simply getting out of bed in the morning and making yourself a cup of coffee. I’m so proud of everyone’s achievements, big or small. You’re all so special. I’m glad that I get glimpses into your lives because it makes me happy to see you all prosper. 

New things to do or try

- New lunch plates

- Try different outfit colors 

-Change hairstyle or hair color 

-be more healthy 

-exercise more 

- drink more water 

-say no 

-try new things to do with 

-change your sheets more often 

-clean up you room to get your mind off things

-try different kind of teas 

-read more books 


-go outside more often

-be patient 

-relax more often 

-get rid of people that make you stress 

-be more confident of yourself 

-be positive 

-rest well 

-try new activities

-eat healthy snacks

-dress how you feel comfortable 

-motivate yourself more 

-wake up early to watch the sun rise 

-watch a movie late at night 

-make new friends 

-be happy 

Mind, Self & Society (George H. Mead):

“The unendurableness of pain is a reaction against it. If you can actually keep yourself from reacting against suffering you get rid of a certain content in the suffering itself.

What takes place in effect is that it ceases to be your pain. You simply regard it objectively.

Such is the point of view we are continually impressing on a person when he is apt to be swept away by emotion. In that case what we get rid of is not the offense itself, but the reaction against the offense.

The objective character of the judge is that of a person who is neutral, who can simply stand outside of a situation and assess it.

If we can get that judicial attitude in regard to the offenses of a person against ourselves, we reach the point where we do not resent them but understand them, we get the situation where to understand is to forgive.”

1. Don’t feel bad for getting rid of the things that make you sad. Surrounding yourself with toxicity prevents you from following the life you dream of living. You deserve to live that life. They’re the ones that lost you. They didn’t realize how lucky they were.

2. Bad things happen. You can’t prevent things from going wrong. You can’t control everything and keep it in place. Things follow their own path. You have to let them. They help your recognize your strength. You will get past it. It’ll be over soon, I promise.

3. Goodbyes are hard. They’re not good at first glance. I never really understood why they were called “good”-byes until now. Sometimes we can’t help that we drift away from people. Push them away or they just choose to follow a different journey that doesn’t include us. We have to let them go no matter how much it hurts. Goodbyes lead to hellos after all. Let new people in. They will share a whole new world that is right at your fingertips, if you let yourself move on.

4. Not everything is a competition. There will always be people who are better than you at something. But remember, you will be better than them at something too. We all poccess different talents and abilities. We shouldn’t put others down for being good at something. Spread love and appreciation. Encourage each other.

5. Forget the suppression. Rise above it. You are better than those people purely because you choose to radiate love instead of hate. Kindness instead of ignorance. They’re already below you.

—  5 thoughts on forgetting the bad things in life ~
“...Probably carrying around all that metal doesn’t help.”

A spell to get rid of negative vibes/subconscious gunk; a first step towards healing yourself of bad habits/negative experiences that you might not even realize or want to admit are there.

You will need:

  • a polished/tumbled hematite stone you’re willing to part with (they’re very inexpensive, I found one for $1)
  • something to enclose the stone in after the ritual, preferably made of earth.
  • a candle (optional)

Light a candle, if you wish. The main scene that I’m drawing inspiration from took place in front of a fire and I just like lighting candles in general. 

Stand or sit comfortable. I prefer to stand because it feels more like “actual” bending, but others might prefer to sit. 

Plant your feet and breathe, setting the stone in front of you. 

Picture the negative energy/spiritual gunk inside you is a semi-solid silver sphere in your chest. You’ve made steps to recover from most of it, but there is still some stuck in there, to your bones, to your muscles, to your soul. You need to get it out, you need to accept that there are still things left to change. 

 Draw your arms close to your chest and back out in a circle. Move your arms back and forth, up and down, as you see fit. Imagine yourself pulling that toxic energy along, up from your chest to your shoulders and arms and finally off your fingertips into the stone in front of you. 

As you draw your energy out, imagine what it is that’s been holding you back. Picture it, in your mind. Picture yourself moving past it. It can’t hurt you anymore, you’re taking steps to heal. You’re admitting that this is something that has been holding you back and has been keeping you from your goals.

Take the stone and seal it off in an earthen jar or lump of pliable clay. Bury it somewhere off your property.

In the series proper, Korra removing the mercury was only a physical measure to healing, there was still a lot of psychological issues to work through. This is only the first step in your journey to becoming a better you or getting rid of a bad habit or a buildup of stressful and negative energy. Fixing bad habits or dealing with trauma might take a professional help like a doctor or psychiatrist or therapist. This is just making it easier for you to do so with a clear head.

10 Ways to Simplify Life

1. Don’t try to read other peoples’ minds and don’t expect others to be able to read yours. Communicate if it is important to you.

2. Don’t expect to be friends with everyone. We all are different – and we all like different things. Instead, invest your time in a few good friends. That’s all you really need to feel happy and fulfilled.

3. Create a budget and live within your means. Accruing debt will only cause you to feel stressed.

4. Get rid of the monster of jealousy – and only compare yourself with yourself.

5. Organize your clutter and get rid of some stuff. It will leave you feeling calmer, and will save you lots of time!

6. Stay on the sidelines and don’t get drawn into pointless dramas in other peoples’ lives (unless it’s a crisis – and you know you ought to help).

7. Finish what you’ve started - and then do something else.

8. Treat every person you meet with respect, and err on the side of being patient and kind.

9. Accept there are things that you can’t change or control – and focus on those things that you can change or control.

10. Don’t be too proud to apologise. Admit that you were wrong, then say you’re sorry, and move on.

anonymous asked:

How do you deal with people who make you feel like you can't be yourself around them?

get rid of them, they’re hindering your growth, there will always be more opportunities for friends and companionships but you should never sacrifice a chance to be yourself

scruffy is still smoking.

i’ve been doing little things to make it as annoying as possible.  cutting up cigarettes, throwing out lighters..  i’m not convinced he wants to quit.  i just haven’t seen the want or the motivation yet.  

the other day i brought up that people recommend setting a date.  so you can mentally prepare to quit.  either be weening yourself down, or just getting rid of things by then or even smoking as much as you want until then.  

he said he’d set one.  when, i don’t know yet.