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Since this is becoming a thing with people I am close to:

So this seems to be happening a lot lately—where people get down in the dumps, and then suddenly, I have people coming to me (because I know the person upset) and asking me to ‘go make them happy’ and they’ll tell others to join in.

♥GUYS, PLEASE—STOP THIS.♥

I know your heart is in the right place, but your mind is not.

If I come to you—you, and you alone—and talk to you about something personal (even if it’s talking of suicide or even a disease I might have or a death in the family), it shouldn’t be your responsibility at that moment to go tell everyone what we just discussed and blast it on the airwaves. A community should support one another as one, and I certainly get that, but sometimes we just need that ONE person to talk to and to listen to.

When we get a bunch of strangers talking to us, it can get weird, feel overcrowded, and make things worse; especially, depending the situation and the country in which that person lives.

I was born and raised in America, so I have rights and freedoms that other countries do not have. I didn’t realize how useless and not to mention, stupid, my support and ideas to address this one friend’s problems in another country halfway across the world sounded until I spoke to someone a bit more ‘in the know’ about that countries’ policies and how they handle things this morning. I found out, things are a lot more dire than I realized, and what I should be doing is just being there to try and distract their mind from the problem and hope that the pieces will fall where they may. (Seriously, I wish them the best, and I offer my support best I can as their happiness means a lot to me).

But in the end, I feel that if someone wants their problems to be public, they will make them public. It is not up for you, especially not as a friend, to decide that for them. What you may see as just a ‘oh, it’s fine to tell people about this’ moment could be super personal and upsetting to the person you’re talking to.

If I tell everyone that I am feeling like shit, mostly, it is to let you guys know why your questions have not been answered, why there’s no update, or why I seem to be avoiding people in the private messenger system. People around me seem to assume more than realize what’s going on, and I’d rather the news be there for you to see than nothing at all.

Truthfully, there are only THREE people I trust with my feelings right now, and those three will be the main women I go to during such low times—nobody else. I could be dying, and I would feel it is better they know over anybody, because I am the closest to them, and I feel that death would most impact them.

So please, guys—I am begging you all, in the future, to be respectful and mindful of the people you call your friends. Don’t just jump the gun because you’re upset they’re in a bad spot; think of them first and foremost before doing something irrational.

anonymous asked:

To the one who skips work Because she's too depressed To get out of bed. I love you. To the one who stands in front of the mirror Unable to fight the tears as they Criticize every inch. I love you. To you who reads this letter, whoever you may be, wherever life may take you, always remember that someone out there loves you.

^^^^^ A thousand billion times yes.

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my favorite thing
  • person watching Star Trek for the first time: It can't be that gay
  • same person ten minutes later: holy shit

One day you will be happy. Not constantly, but it will become a theme in your life. You will have days where you feel sad and that’s normal. But eventually you can wake up with a smile on your face even if there isn’t a reason. You’ll see yourself through a clearer lens. You’ll think of the best case scenarios. You’ll find people who you can share your happiness with. You’ll settle into your own body and mind with a sense of security.

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Sometimes you cannot control how you feel or react. It’s okay. You’re okay.

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Even + Isak’s sweatpants

vimeo

Part 3 of Yuri!!! on Ice but with text-to-speech voices and pretty awful writing.

Part 2: Viktor’s Lament // Part 3: Pip Pip Yurio // Part 4: Eye of the Tiger

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Where am I supposed to go? I can’t go back to the attic. No. You don’t have to, Polly. And don’t worry about my mom, Betty, she’ll want to help.

Dear parents of autistic children,

No, your child doesn’t do weird things “for no reason”. They do it for a reason, you just don’t know it yet. You have different brains, different perspectives, so sometimes things that are obvious to them are a mystery to you. But you don’t have to ignore it and blame it on them. You can make an effort, reach out to them and figure out the reason.

Do they scream in public when it looks like everything is okay? Well, there’s probably a reason for that. Maybe the situation is overwhelming to their senses, it’s too loud, to bright, to crowded, and they need some space and time to recover. Maybe they can’t stim because other people keep telling them it looks weird, so they end up exhausted much faster. Maybe you are breaking their routine by being outside at this time. Or maybe you are going through the supermarket “the wrong way”, not how you usually do it. Maybe they forgot their comfort object at home, and just realized that. Maybe they are in pain and can’t communicate that. Maybe they are very hungry and don’t realize that yet because it’s hard for them to recognize their needs and emotions. Maybe it’s a combination of those, or something different altogether.

Either way, they probably don’t do it “for no reason”. You just don’t see the reason. Make an effort to communicate. If they are verbal, ask them. If they can’t speak with their mouth at the moment or ever, use alternative methods of communication. If they can’t explain it, consult other autistic people, including autistic adults who probably have a bunch of ideas as to why your child does that weird thing. Don’t dismiss it, don’t complain about it, don’t blame your child for doing it. Try to see the world from their perspective. Respect their needs and feelings. Learn more about autism from other autistic people.

And life will be much better and easier for both you and your child.

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camisado // panic! at the disco

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