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anonymous asked:

Hi! what do you think about a relationship between an older woman and an younger guy? (when both are legal ofc) Do you think is problematic? Because a lot of people think is something weird and even disgusting sometimes

They think it’s disgusting because there is an age difference or because it’s the woman who is older?  

I have this female friend who was meeting guys from internet dating sites.  A few times she met guys who said they were much younger in their profile than they are in real life.  Example: They say they are 30 when in real life they are 40.  These guys told her that they felt like they had to lie about their age because they wanted to date girls in their 20′s but they would be discriminated against if the girls knew their real age and they wouldn’t even get a chance to date them and prove themselves first.  You know… because these guys only wanted to date younger women.  How do they not see the irony in this??? Some people are seriously fucked up.  The point being that some men feel that younger women are the only people worthy of their attentions and actively discriminate against women their own age or older.  This has been going on forever and is deeply embedded in many cultures. It’s been a long standing tradition that no one bats an eye at an older man with a  younger woman, but those same people flip out if it’s an older woman with a younger man.  It’s kinda pathetic.

But in real life, people are attracted to other people based on qualities that may not have anything to do with age.  I think it makes sense that people’s instinct is to try to find a mate close in age to themselves, mostly because you would be at a similar stage of life and likely have more in common than with someone significantly older or younger than yourself.  But the older you get, the less these age differences matter.  A 20 year old dating a 30 year old feels like a massive age difference.  But that same 10 year gap feels less significant if you talk about a 35 year old dating a 45 year old.  Or a 55 year old dating a 65 year old.  

And a lot of time, when you first start dating someone, you don’t know how old they are.  In Korea, they might ask you how old you are as soon as they meet you… but in most of the western world, that would be rude to ask.  So sometimes you find yourself with someone that you’ve been dating a few times and then realize “Crap! This person is way younger than I thought he/she was!”  I was on a second date with someone and only realized that he was significantly younger than me when I started piecing together when he talked about how long he had been working at his job and that it was his first job after graduating university.  A colleague of mine in her early 50′s found herself with a guy in his mid 20′s and neither one of them realized how old the other was until after they slept together the first time.  They both knew that she was older than him, but no one stopped to figure out exactly how much older.  Ultimately, he was cool with continuing dating but she called it off because she was freaked out by dating someone close in age to her own children.

I also know plenty of people who are in successful relationships where the two parties have an age gap.  I don’t care what the sex or gender of the people are.  Older man,  younger woman.  Older woman, younger man.  Same sex couples. If both parties are in the relationship because they truly enjoy each others company and they are happy with their situation, then it’s nobody else’s business what the age difference is.

“The cocaine made me feel important. I thought I was always right. I was fighting a lot of people. I was cheating on my wife. I felt like I had superpowers. I was hiding my addiction from everybody. Nobody knew I was using until I had a breakdown. I stayed up doing coke for three days, and became convinced that the television was speaking to me. I tried to get through the front door of the largest television station in Brazil– screaming that I was Jesus. They put me in a clinic for eighteen days. That was three years ago. I don’t mind talking about it. I’m embarrassed by it, but it happened. And it caused me to get clean. It was humiliating, but it’s also the reason I’m able to sit on this bench– calm, relaxed, and not thinking about drugs.” (São Paulo, Brazil)

Drew this as part of a package I sent to @spinetrick and now that she’s gotten it in the mail I can finally post it. <3

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Mirai Nagasu’s new FS in the ladies’ final round at Skate Detroit. She attempted 8 triples, including a 3F3T and 3A (downgraded).

at this point, anyone not into power rangers should definitely blacklist it because i’m not holding back anymore and this blog is now Real Power Rangers Trash.

Giving In

In which Harry and y/n are too impatient to wait until Valentines Day…

A/N: Shoutout to @stylesunchained for the title because I was seriously stumped.  Anyway, HAPPY VALENTINES DAY MY LOVELY FOLLOWERS! This is probably the filthiest thing I’ve ever written so… enjoy. 

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Okay hear me out: Montparnasse can cook. But only fancy food

Eggs? Boiled like stones. Toast? Burned. Pancakes? Yeah, no, ask Gueul if you want them to be edible. But when it comes to Gruyère soufflé, chanterelles in red wine sauce or roast venison with rosemary, Montparnasse is your guy. Because spending so much time and money on food and serving it on monochrome plates is pretentious and decadent and Montparnasse is an indulgent snob of a gourmet and no one will convince me otherwise.

dear evan hansen 

  • is about the exploitation of suicide 
  • promotes a really disgusting attitude towards victims and survivors of addiction 
  • makes a joke of gay people for a whole song 
  • uses homosexuality as a punchline frequently 
  • has a protag that coerced a traumatized girl into a relationship after stalking her and lying to her about her abuser to get her to forgive him
  • and then, after all that, it’s supposedly okay because “they needed to be lied to in order to get better” or something like that

if you’re all about it, think about what you’re so invested in.
if you can’t even do that, don’t come near former/current addicts, suicidal people, victims of loss, gay people, or me. 

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Been rewatching a lot of Inuyasha lately, I almost forgot how much I love Sesshomaru’s beautiful ass.

All my silver wigs have dark roots so I thought I’d just go for black haired Lord Sesshomaru 💕✨

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make me choose@minyoongihoseok asked: jimin or taehyung [x]

genderqueermercury  asked:

hi, could I have a tiny jumpsuit karamatsu??

This tiny kara is an absolute plants lover! He will spend all his time outside to bring you all the most beautiful flowers. He will take care of your plants and grow blue roses especially for you so he can offer them to you, as a way to show his unconditionnal love. He wont mind getting his clothes dirty if he sees a nice flower to give you, even if it’s hard for him to reach it out because of his size.