gentleman things

duckswearhats  asked:

Hi, I read that you've dealt with with impostor syndrome in the past, and I'm really struggling with that right now. I'm in a good place and my friends are going through a lot, and I'm struggling to justify my success to myself when such amazing people are unhappy. I was wondering if you have any tips to feel less like this and maybe be kinder to myself, but without hurting anyone around me. It's a big ask, I know, but any help would make my life a lot less stressful

The best help I can offer is to point you to Amy Cuddy’s book, Presence. She talks about Imposter Syndrome (and interviews me in it) and offers helpful insight.

The second best help might be in the form of an anecdote. Some years ago, I was lucky enough invited to a gathering of great and good people: artists and scientists, writers and discoverers of things. And I felt that at any moment they would realise that I didn’t qualify to be there, among these people who had really done things.

On my second or third night there, I was standing at the back of the hall, while a musical entertainment happened, and I started talking to a very nice, polite, elderly gentleman about several things, including our shared first name. And then he pointed to the hall of people, and said words to the effect of, “I just look at all these people, and I think, what the heck am I doing here? They’ve made amazing things. I just went where I was sent.”

And I said, “Yes. But you were the first man on the moon. I think that counts for something.”

And I felt a bit better. Because if Neil Armstrong felt like an imposter, maybe everyone did. Maybe there weren’t any grown-ups, only people who had worked hard and also got lucky and were slightly out of their depth, all of us doing the best job we could, which is all we can really hope for.

(There’s a wonderful photograph of the Three Neils even if one of us was a Neal at http://journal.neilgaiman.com/2012/08/neil-armstrong.html)

pretty. odd.: real song titles
  • We're So Starving: we wrote this in 45mins can u tell (also we're definitely not the same band)
  • Nine In The Afternoon: the moon eye song
  • She's A Handsome Woman: gOOOOOOOOOOOOo oooooOOoonnnnn
  • Do You Know What I'm Seeing?: i'm seeing drugs
  • That Green Gentleman: no. things changing isn't ok. fuck you.
  • I Have Friends In Holy Spaces: hEY GUYS LOOK LOOK BRENDON WROTE A SONG
  • Northern Downpour: fucking cry you bithc
  • When The Day Met The Night: let's play "tease the fans"
  • Pas De Cheval: french just sounds that much cooler on a rock song
  • The Piano Knows Something I Don't Know: god bless spencer smith
  • Behind The Sea: Ryan's Song™
  • Folkin' Around: holy shit he wrote 2. two. guys. T W O S O NGS
  • She Had The World: no one knows who this is about. also what does this song fucking mean
  • From A Mountain In The Middle Of The Cabins: ryan & jon taking the "if you're going then go" slightly too literally
  • Mad As Rabbits: gay? gay.
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this is late orz @leojiweek day5: AU: Soulmates/College
the Red Thread of Fate

shout out to Saria ( @leoji-prompts ) because her “guanghong wearing leo’s clothes” was what eventually led to this lol.

Panic! at the Inbox: Pretty. Odd. Edition

We’re So Starving: What was the last thing you ate?

Nine In The Afternoon: When do you usually sleep/wake up?

She’s A Handsome Woman: What famous person do you find the most aesthetically pleasing?

Do You Know What I’m Seeing?: Describe the weather where you are right now.

That Green Gentleman [Things Have Changed]: How are you different from how you were 2 years ago?

I Have Friends In Holy Spaces: Have you met any famous people? Who?

Northern Downpour: When was the last time you cried?

When The Day Met The Night: Do you prefer sunset or sunrise?

Pas De Cheval: If you could have any animal for a pet, what would you pick?

The Piano Knows Something I Don’t Know: Do you play any instruments?

Behind The Sea: What was your last dream?

Folkin’ Around: Would you say you have a regional accent? If so, what kind?

She Had The World: If you could go anywhere in the world during any period of time, where would you go?

From A Mountain In The Middle Of The Cabins: Ever been camping? Did you like it?

Mad As Rabbits: What does “reinvent love” mean to you?