I’m reading My New Gender Workbook by Kate Bornstein, and there’s a gender aptitude quiz in it. Basically the higher your score, the more sexist/homophobic/transphobic/generally ignorant and conservative your answers were. This is the highest set of scores possible.

I am…… appalled lmfao

In what world would a 23rd century person have views aligned with 21st century prejudice?? There are literally 50 year-old TV episodes that portray the future as a less hateful culture than it is now.

Captain Kirk would NEVER be so ignorant in his answers. How DARE you say that he would. Jim would be devastated if he knew that’s what people thought of him. I am devastated. The whole UNIVERSE is devastated.

The Big List of Trans Books

Fictional with an FtM Character  

  • Beautiful Music for Ugly Children by Kirstin Cronn-Mills
  • F2M: The Boy Within by Hazel Edwards and Ryan Kennedy 
  • I Know Very Well How I Got my Name by Elliot Deline
  • Jumpstart the World by Catherine Ryan Hyde
  • Man Enough by Beth Burnett 
  • Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides (intersex but assigned female)
  • Parrotfish by Ellen Wittlinger
  • Refuse by Elliot DeLine
  • Sacred Country by Rose Tremain
  • Silver by Scott Cairns 
  • Trumpet by Jackie Kay
  • Vintage Toys for Lucky Boys by G.R. Richards 

Fictional with an MtF Character 

  • 10,000 Dresses by Marcus Ewert
  • Adventures of Tulip, Birthday Wish Fairy by S. Bear Bergman
  • Almost Perfect by Brian Katcher
  • Annabel by Kathleen Winter (intersex b assigned male)
  • Being Emily by Rachel Gold
  • Breakfast on Pluto by Patrick McCabe 
  • The Butterfly and the Flame by Dana De Young
  • Danish Girl by David Ebershoff (intersex but assigned male) 
  • Freakboy by Kristin Elizabeth Clark
  • Gamenight: A Role-Play Novel by Leela Ginelle 
  • Luna by Julie Anne Peters
  • Rain by Jocelyn DiDomenick 
  • She’s My Dad by Iolanthe Woulff
  • Transgression by Theo Fenraven
  • Who I Am and What I Want by David Michael O'Quinn 

Non-Fiction General

  • Bisexuality and Transgenderism: Intersexitions of the Others by Fritz Klein Karen
  • Gender Outlaws: Men, Women, and the Rest of Us by Kate Bornstein 
  • How Sex Changed: A History of Transsexuality in the United States by Joanne Meyerowitz
  • In A Queer Time and Place: Transgender Bodies, Subcultural Lives by Judith Halberstam 
  • Invisible Lives: The Erasure of Transsexual and Transgendered People by Viviane Namaste 
  • My Gender Workbook: How to Become a Real Man, a Real Woman, the Real You or Something Else Entirely by Kate Bornstein 
  • Nobody Passes: Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity by Matt Bernstein Sycamore 
  • The Riddle of Gender by Deborah Rudacille
  • Sex Changes: The Politics of Transgenderism by Patrick Califia 
  • Sexual Metamorphosis: An Anthology of Transsexual Memoirs edited by Jonathan Adams  
  • The Transgender Studies Reader edited by Susan Stryker and Stephen Whittle 
  • The Riddle of Gender by Deborah Rudacille 
  • Transgender 101 by Nicholas M. Teich 
  • Transgender Rights edited by Paisley Currah, Richard M. Juang and Shannon Price Minter 
  • Transition and Beyond, Observations on Gender Identity by Reid Vanderburgh 
  • Transgender Voices: Beyond Women and Men by Lori B. Girshick 

Non-Fiction FtM Specific 

  • A Circus Mirror Day by Corin Ash
  • Becoming a Visible Man by Jamison Green
  • Body Alchemy: Transsexual Portraits by Loren Cameron
  • Both Sides Now: One Man’s Journey Through Womanhood by Dhillon Khosla
  • From the Inside Out: Radical Gender Transformation, FtM and Beyond edited by Morty Diamond
  • FTM: Female to Male Transsexuals in Society by Holly Devor 
  • Hung Jury: Testimonies of Genital Surgery by Transsexual Men and edited by Trystan T. Cotten
  • Just Add Hormones: An Insider’s Guide to the Transsexual Experience by Matt Kailey 
  • Letters for my Brothers edited by Megan M. Rohrer and Zander Keig
  • Real Man Adventures by T. Cooper
  • Self-Made Men: Identity and Embodiment among Transsexual Men by Henry Rubin 
  • The First Man-Made Man: The Story of Two Sex Changes,One Love Affair, and a Twentieth-Century Medical Revolution by Pagan Kennedy 
  • The Mirror Makes No Sense by Mark A. Cummings
  • The Phallus Palace: Female to Male Transsexuals by Dean Kotula 
  • The Testosterone Files: My Hormonal and Social Transformation from Female to Male by Max Wolfe Valerio 
  • Transmen and FTMs: Identities, Bodies, Genders and Sexualities by Jason Cromwell 

Non-Fiction MtF Specific 

  • A Sort of A-Z Thing by Lily Savage
  • A Personal Autobiography by Christine Jorgensen
  • Branded T by Rosalyne Blumenstein 
  • Dress Codes of Three Girls: My Mother’s, My Father’s and Mine 
  • Feminizing Hormonal Therapy for the Transgendered by Sheila Kirk, M.D.
  • Four Ways to be a Woman by Sue Reidy 
  • Mom: I Need to be a Girl by Just Evelyn 
  • Redefining Realness by Janet Mock
  • Right Side Out: In Tune Within to be in Harmony with the World by Annah Moore
  • She is my Son: The Adrienne Clark Story by Beverly Holland 
  • The Life 1979-1999: The Diaries of Yasimu Quaife by Yasimu Quaife
  • The Woman I Was Not Born to Be: A Transsexual Journey by Aleshia Brevard 
  • Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism and the Scapegoating of Femininity by Julia Serano 


  • Gender Born, Gender Made: Raising Healthy Gender Nonconforming Children by Diane Ehrensaft 
  • Helping your Transgender Teen: A Guide for Parents by Irwin Krieger 
  • She’s Not the Man I Married: My Life with a Transgender Husband by Helen Boyd 
  • Trans Forming Families: Real Stories about Transgender Loved Ones edited by Mary Boenke 
  • Transitions of the Heart: Stories of Love, Struggle and Acceptance by Mothers of Transgender and Gender Variant Children edited by Rachel Pepper 
  • True Selves: Understanding Transsexualism - For Families, Friends, Coworkers and Helping Professionals
  • The Transgender Child: A Handbook for Families and Professionals 

If you know of any books not on this list please let me know and I’ll add them in :) 

pingnova  asked:

Hello, I've just found this blog and I'm really liking it so far, it's a wonderful resource for a bookworm like me. I'm working with my high school library to incorporate more LGBTQ literature into their stock, and while fiction is fun, they really need more nonfiction books about gender and sexual identity aimed at teens. Do you have a list or a few recommendations of books like that?

So first: apologies for how long it took me to answer this question. I started writing an answer months ago that got deleted, but this week I’m trying to address some of the 100+ messages in my inbox. If it’s not too late, here are a bunch of non-fiction books for teens!

By-Youth For-Youth




Best of luck!

A Woman’s Place Library

This is a super long post, but strap in, ‘cause it’s a pretty important one, too.

From A Woman’s Place about page:

“A Woman’s Place (AWP) is the only 24-hour supportive residential services in San Francisco offering emergency shelter and long-term treatment programs to women and transgender women with special needs due to mental disabilities, sexual or domestic violence, drug and alcohol abuse, and HIV+/AIDS-related issues.

A Woman’s Place also accepts victims of sexual assault and domestic violence as well as transgender women and elderly individuals with special medical needs. Some of the specialized programs include a shelter program, an 18 month transitional housing program, the CARE program for primarily African American women and transgender women with HIV, and a substance abuse program.

Services also include health care, mental health counseling, case management services, and money management. The facility serves all women, catering to the chronically homeless who are most at risk and serving individuals other agencies turn away. Emergency housing is provided to single women without children, the LGBT and HIV/AIDS communities, those who experience mental illness, domestic violence, and substance abuse. AWP serves adult women of all ages and ethnicities who feel they have nowhere else to go. At A Woman’s Place, individuals receive the structure and support needed to attain permanent housing, a stable income, and if possible, gainful employment.


Doesn’t that sound like a place you wanna support?! Help them build a library for their trans clients. They’re seeking donations of books, zines, & other media relevant to trans experiences and trans women of color in particular.

From their donation request:

“We are currently asking for book, zine, or media donations that have to do with transitioning, being a trans person, books/zines on the intersectionality of being a transgender woman of color. Also, books on becoming, gender identity development, being genderqueer, or gender non-conforming would also be greatly appreciated. Any movies or documentaries that you have would also be greatly appreciated.

Some of the books we are looking to add to our library:
-Redefining Realness by Janet Mock
-Ceyenne Doroshow’s Cooking in Heels (2012)
-Ryka Aoki’s Seasonal Velocities (2012)
-Toni Newman’s I Rise (2011)
-The Lady Chablis’s Hiding My Candy (1997)

You can drop-off or mail donations to
Atten: Blake Summer
A Woman’s Place 1049
1049 Howard St.
San Francisco, CA

We offer tax credit for any donations made.”

There is an email and phone number to contact with any more questions. I would be happy to pass that on upon request.

I know I was just saying “books” yesterday. Books are my thing! I love 'em and I love sharing them. Are movies your thing? I don’t know ANYTHING about movies, so you’d be a big help! This a super easy thing we can all do (or not, we don’t have to make a mountain of books and DVDS, even a small handful is something where nothing once stood.) Pass this along, take 10 minutes out of your day to put that pristine copy of My Gender Workbook your aunt gave you in a box, and make the world just a little, little bit better.

《september 26 2016 // 2:47pm》

sociology of gender is such a fun course. it’s a nice distraction from all the stress i get from taking anatomy, orgo, and physics all in one semester. my new gender workbook by kate bornstein is definitely a great read, especially if you’re questioning or exploring your gender. i hope all of you are having a lovely day!

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anonymous asked:

I'm not sure about my identity. I thought I was trans but my environment was so toxic that when I was outted I was ridiculed by my own parents until I said the whole thing was just a joke. I don't really know if I'm trans or cis or whatever and I don't really know what to do. I know there are probably better people to ask but I really don't know who. Can you point me in any right direction?

Oh, sweetheart, I’m so sorry you went through that; and so glad you found the resilience to keep questioning.

First and foremost: It’s okay not to be sure. You might not ever be sure: there are people for whom the discovery that they’re trans is an absolute, certain, fixed realization; but I think that for a lot of us, it’s a lot muddier. Life is an ongoing process of working out who you are and who you’ve become since you last looked; and retroactively seeing patterns you could only have caught in hindsight. And even then, the only person who gets to decide what those mean is you. Who you are is real and valid and worth exploring even if it’s wobbly or spills outside the lines. Especially if.

SO. Here are some things I would recommend pretty much no matter what:

Find a trans-friendly therapist. It sounds like gender identity is wrapped up in a lot of other difficult stuff for you, and sometimes it can really help to have a professional to help you work through those tangles. You’ll want to ask a lot of questions, and make sure you end up with someone who respects that you’re still figuring stuff out, and doesn’t treat trans identities as either/or binaries or subscribe to born-this-way-or-not-at-all absolutism. If you’ve got a local queer community center, they may be able to help with referrals; otherwise, I’d recommend googling around for trans resources in your area.

Look for other people’s stories, and look for pieces of yourself in them. Understand that you’re probably not going to find a perfect mirror; but you will find toeholds, bits of commonalities that’ll help you find the language to piece together your own experience. (This is something that’s particularly important to me: I have a really hard time conceptualizing and articulating my feelings until either I have a substantial pattern to work from or I see them reflected somewhere else.)

By the same token, you might find it helpful to look up some books. Kate Bornstein’s My New Gender Workbook is a classic–I’ve not read it personally, but I know and trust enough people who speak highly of it to feel pretty comfortable recommending it. Folks reading: if you’ve got any other resources or recommendations for anon, please reblog or respond and let them know.

Look for the things that feel like home. There’s a common fallacy that trans narratives are all based in trauma, in a sense of not fitting, and I think it’s easy to forget that sometimes the experience of positive self-recognition can be really damn powerful. Try identities on. See what’s comfortable. See what fits. See what throws you, as a person, into sharper focus, what feels like reification of self.

And, again: allow yourself space and time to feel this out. Gender is a big part of identity, but it’s also only one piece of a much larger picture; and it’s possible that you’ll get a clearer sense of its shape as you piece together the rest.