cristalgim  asked:

hi! biologically im female and do go by female pronouns, but sometimes i wish to go by they/them or he/him pronouns (however, i dont want to go by he/him offline in public until i can make my appearance and voice more masculine). ive heard of the gender "nonbinary", but im confused as to what it actually means... could you please explain to me what it is? and would it be best if i identified as nonbinary or genderfluid? thank you~

Being non-binary is pretty much to where you don’t feel like you’re in the gender binary spectrum so that is literally anything that doesn’t 100% either feel like a guy/ girl or mix of the two. Genderfluid is where in the gender binary spectrum, you go between male and female, and sometimes you feel androgynes, sometimes you feel hyper masc., some times u feel hyper fem., and it really sometimes depends on the person. I do feel from the information you’ve given me that non-binary, and maybe multi-genders might be something you could look mor into.

I hope this helps! Be safe!




If you are upset, angry or uncomfortable with me over the clothes I choose to wear…

I am not the one who needs to change. But perhaps you need to reevaluate your feelings and why my personal style is contributing to your own dissatisfaction or discomfort.

Do not chastise me because I like to wear skirts and make up.
Do not rebuke my existence because I look damn good in a dress.
Do not reproach me with your concerns over my wardrobe because I do not get dressed for my day with you in mind.

You can berate me as much as you like, but I wont change.
There was a time when I had no choice but to conceal my true self to continue living alongside someone or multiple people. Thankfully, I am past that point in my life.

If you have yet to reach a point in life where you feel 100% free to be yourself, now is the time to figure out how you can change your life in a positive way that allows you such freedoms. For younger individuals, this is the hardest because all you can do is wait it out until you reach an age where your parents can no longer control you and society can’t stop you. I know what that is like, I have been there! Remember, I am only 22 years old! It wasn’t until about 3 years ago when I obtained such freedom for myself.

Never give up on yourself though.
Never forget the person you want to be when you finally get the chance to.
I sure didn’t.

-Elliott Alexzander


Last Summer!

I have been super busy lately with so many things. Music, filming, etc!
Unfortunately, I don’t always have as much time to catch a couple photos of my outfits and post them on here daily, like I used to.

However, I realized that I have not published a photo set of some of my outfits from last summer! My look has changed over and over again since these photos were taken, but they are still my favorite Summer looks!

-Elliott Alexzander

why ruby rose is important

ok you might’ve seen this person called ruby rose because she’s in the latest season of orange is the new black. and you might be thinking that yes, she is hot as fuck. but ruby rose is so important you don’t understand.
ruby rose identifies as a genderfluid individual. aka she’s nonbinary. and she’s important as fuck to the nonbinary community. we are told time and time again that our identity isn’t valid because there’s only male and female. we don’t have very many nonbinary role models in the media, we usually have to hold onto people who are trans and look up to them. ruby rose may have not helped me realize that there’s a nonbinary spectrum in gender, but i can look up to her and use her when people tell me identifying as a nonbinary boy isn’t a real identity. look at ruby rose. she’s real. she’s valid. her identity is real and valid. I’m real and valid. every nonbinary identifying individual is real and valid.
ruby rose is important. not just to the lgbt community. but us nonbinary kids who finally have a role model of our own


Interactive Map: The History of Gender Diversity

This interactive map from PBS is a good starting point for people who would like to learn the history of gender diversity around the world. Although the information isn’t anything I would cite directly or take without a grain of salt, it’s a testament to the fact that gender categories are nowhere near as universal as many seem to believe they are. It also isn’t complete-there are many more peoples, cultures, and genders to explore beyond the map as well.

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Where I am at with understanding gender as a spectrum and where the different aspects of my gender are among that spectrum.

I think being able to view gender as a spectrum is vital when it comes to expanding your mind on all the possibilities.

When people ask me “What does Genderfluid mean” I used to give them a basic definition, but the truth is, that only confuses people who poses a binary view of gender. It’s my opinion that in order for somone to truly grasp the concept of gender identities beyond cisgender, they need to grasp the concept of gender as a spectrum first.

For those that are confused, here is a diagram. It’s not the best diagram and doesn’t list every known gender idenity, but it serves as a VERY, VERY basic example of how gender identity is much more of a spectrum, instead of a binary. I couldn’t really grasp the idea of different gender identities until I understood that gender is a spectrum of possibilities, followed by different aspects of my gender.

For myself personally, I identify as Genderfluid. However, there are different aspects to my gender identity, such as my gender expression. When it comes to my gender expression I am typically most comfortable presenting on the feminine Genderfluid side of the spectrum, but not always.

By understanding my gender as fluid, and understanding gender as a spectrum, aspects of my life became entirely different. The clothes I wear, my choice of pronouns (She/He/They) and how I educate others on Gender has changed. 

I am also learning that aspects of my gender do not always have to align with each other.

In other words, although I am transitioning my body through hormone therapy to better suit my gender expression, this will not change my gender identity. I will still be Genderfluid, even after my transition. I used to think that if I transition my body in any way that it would make me entirely transgender, but I don’t believe that. I am Genderfluid, I always have been even before I had a label for it. Being on hormone therapy is only helping me achieve my gender expression, but does not have to effect how I understand my gender identity.

The subject of gender and all it’s aspects are a challenge even for me sometimes. I grow a little bit more understanding of myself each day as long as I try to keep an open mind to the possibilities. The better I understand myself, including my gender, the more confident I am in myself. But this is only an account of my own understanding.

How I feel about gender may not be exactly how someone else understands gender, and that is OKAY!

I don’t think that I will ever have a perfect grasp on how gender applies to myself or others. I say that because I am constantly changing. I am not the person I was 5 years ago and I don’t expect to be the person I am right now 5 years into the future. That being said, knowing what I know to be true for myself, I feel free to change or develop into whoever I might become in the future. I don’t feel as though I have to maintain myself according to a binary gender system or adhere to any specific gender roles. This alone was one of the most freeing realizations.

-Elliott Alexzander

Get The Look:
High Waist Pants | Crop Top | Wide Fedora | Sunglasses | Boots | Cardigan

And what would it be like if instead of describing our children as “all boy” or “just so girly,” we talked about how much our kids love being in charge, how they love to draw, and swim, and have picnics in the park? …

Instead of trotting out the same old stereotypes about what girls and boys are like, we could talk about what our children do; how they move through the world. We could talk about all the ways they are human, and how great it is just to be a part of it.

Over here just trying to make the best of this masculine body of mine.

It is interesting to live here in the south during a time where much of the world, especially the younger generations, are transitioning away from the idea that gender is a binary. Slowly, I believe the society here in my home town will recognize individuality as something that can be expressed beyond our biological obstacles. Take myself for example…

-Elliott Alexzander


Using Photography to Explore What It Means to Be Masculine

Portraiture is, by nature, intimate. It invites the viewer into a private moment shared by the photographer and subject. In her latest work, “Every Breath We Drew,” Jess Dugan invites the viewer to reflect on her vision of the masculine identity. She also asks a more fundamental question about identity: How much of it is informed by our relationships to other people?

“I think that comes a lot from my own experience in the world in that I’ve always looked very masculine,” said Dugan. “I’m part of trans community; I’m not a lesbian and I’m not a gay man but I hang out in those spaces. I think I’m hyper aware of how my identity changes in different contexts.”

The work in “Every Breath We Drew”—which will be published as a book by Daylight this fall—also questions the collective idea of gender and sexuality—specifically what it means to be a man.

“These gender roles are failing everyone, not just trans people,” Dugan said. “We need to unravel that and give everyone some breathing room.”

Dugan chose subjects who redefine the idea of masculinity and, in doing so, she was able to put herself into a variety of situations in which she could measure her own sense of self.

“It made me think a lot about authoring your own identity and this slippery moment where there is a time when someone else sees something in you that is reflective of who you are but it’s not necessarily visible to the larger world,” she said. “I was interested with this world: What does it really mean to be seen by someone not just on the surface with all of these external identifiers but really on a more intimate level and how can that exchange go back and forth.”

“I was trying to make something more universal than just showing a group of people who share a similar identity. I wanted people to reflect on that process for themselves, and how we connect with people.”

To read more about Dugan’s fine art career, head over to

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