gender studies

Me Asking A Man, “What Is A Ho?”

Aysha Bee : What is a ho?

Man : Any woman who. .

Aysha Bee : Whoa, Whoa, Whoa. Slow down. Why gender specific?

Man : What?

Aysha Bee : A ho. Why be gender specific?

Man : Because only a woman can be a ho.

Aysha Bee : Explain why.

Man : I mean, I don’t know. That’s just how it is.

Aysha Bee : Can a man be a ho?

Man : No.

Aysha Bee : Why not?

Man : Because he is not a woman.

Aysha Bee : Right but let’s try to get me to understand this. Why can’t a man be a ho but a woman can?

Man : Because there are certain things that a man can do sexually that a woman just can’t do.

Aysha Bee : Is it that she “can’t” do it as you so put it? Or is it that she shouldn’t do it, in your opinion?

Man : I mean, she can do it…but she shouldn’t.

Aysha Bee : Okay so what is the difference? Please be clear.

Man : Well, damn. Isn’t it obvious?

Aysha Bee : No it’s not for me. Please help me understand. I want to learn from you.

Man : Okay. Well only a woman can be a ho because there is a certain way a woman should carry herself. Men are sexual beings and women are not. It’s just who we are.

Aysha Bee : Interesting. Who do you usually have sex with?

Man : What?

Aysha Bee : I mean, gender wise.

Man : The fuck? I have sex with women.

Aysha Bee : Right. I got you. So are those women sexual?

Man : What do you mean?

Aysha Bee : Are those women sexual? You know, when they’re having sex with you.

Man : …Yeah, obviously.

Aysha Bee : I’m really learning from you. So your earlier statement was

that women aren’t sexual. I mean, not like men are. Correct?

Man : Correct.

Aysha Bee : But you also said that the women who have sex with you are sexual. Correct?

Man : What is the point of all these questions?

Aysha Bee : You’re right. I don’t want to stress you out because I’m really learning from you so let’s move on. We have established that only women can be hoes. Good. So what about a woman will make her a ho?

Man : That’s easy. If she has sex with too many men.

Aysha Bee : Sex with too many men. Got it. You’re really insightful. Thank you. Do you have a quantity?

Man : A quantity of what?

Aysha Bee : A quantity of how many men is too many men for a woman to have had sex with.

Man : Why?

Aysha Bee : Because you are really educated on this topic so I figured you would know. How many?

Man : I mean …I guess I’ll just say twenty.

Aysha Bee : Twenty men?

Man : Yeah.

Aysha Bee : Any woman who has had sex with at least twenty men is a ho. Noted. What about a woman who has had sex with nineteen men? Gosh, that’s pretty close but she just missed the mark huh? I would say she isn’t a ho. Not yet. What would you say?

Man : *Shrugs*

Aysha Bee : But one more man and she is an awwwwwffulll hoe, would you agree?

Man : Yeah.

Aysha Bee : I’ll make sure that I never have sex with more than nineteen men. I respect myself.

Man : I mean…I don’t know if that makes sense.

Aysha Bee : What doesn’t make sense?

Man : A ho is a ho.

Aysha Bee : Now you just wait one minute because now you’re being unfair. You said that a ho is a woman who has had sex with twenty men.

Man : Yeah.

Aysha Bee : Now just why can’t I have my nineteen men like the wholesome woman that I am?

Man : Because that doesn’t make sense. That’s still a lot of men. Okay just forget the number. A ho is a woman who will fuck a lot. Fucks everyday. Just always fucking.

Aysha Bee : Interesting. I’ll take that. I’m really learning a lot from you. So if a woman has sex everyday, she is a ho.

Man : Yeah because she is always fucking. Like a man.

Aysha Bee : I never want to be a ho. So I’ll make sure that if I ever get married, I will rarely have sex with my husband.

Man : Why would you not have sex with your husband? You are supposed to.

Aysha Bee : Yeah but not everyday! I mean, I’m not a ho.

Man : If I had a wife, I would want her to fuck me everyday.

Aysha Bee : So you plan on marrying a ho?

Man : What?

Aysha Bee : A ho. A woman who fucks everyday. A ho.

Man : Awww stop playing. There are exceptions to the rule obviously.

Aysha Bee : What are the exceptions? You’re a very bright guy. I’m learning a lot from you.

Man : If she is having sex with a man who she is married to, it’s cool.

Aysha Bee : Are you married?

Man : No.

Aysha Bee : Do you have a girlfriend?

Man : Yeah, why?

Aysha Bee : Does she have sex with you?

Man : Yeah.

Aysha Bee : Wow, what a ho.

Man : What? Aye, chill on my girl. Another exception. If a woman has sex with a man she is dating, that’s cool too.

Aysha Bee : Is your girlfriend sexual?

Man : She gotta be sexual to be with me. I only date sexual women. I’m a freak.

Aysha Bee : Only men can be sexual.

Man : What?

Aysha Bee : I’m really learning a lot from you.

Man : Okay look …

Aysha Bee : How many women have you had sex with?

Man : I don’t know. I lost count.

Aysha Bee : This has been really helpful. But I feel that a lot of information has been debunked throughout this conversation. So if I can ask you one last time, what is a ho?

Man : I don’t know, yo. Ain’t no ho. Shit.

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The lesson to be learned here is that women should not be judged for our sexual decisions with our bodies. Nobody should. Everyone should be free to exercise their sexuality as they see fit.

Just got into Chicago to speak at the American Studies Association conference! Hit me up if you’re in town. 👍
I like to pretend I’m above getting nervous when doing public speaking, but when most people in the audience are a few decades older than you, cis, and tenured, it can still be hard. I’ve done public speaking at least a hundred times but there’s always an underlying aspect of it that can make me worried about my performance. Everybody gets nervous. However, we can remind ourselves that if someone judges you based on your public speaking ability, they’re overlooking what’s really important: what you’re actually saying.

“It takes but a slight shift in focus… to see the numerous cases of violence against women not as pathological and idiosyncratic events, but as the normal pattern in a patriarchal society.”

- Dale Spender, from For the Record: The Making and Meaning of Feminist Knowledge

Is the wage gap real?

In order for the wage gap to be real, it would mean every company who has women on their payroll are deliberately breaking the law which means every woman can go out tomorrow and sue her employer for breaching both the Equal Pay Act and the Sex Discrimination Act. 

It would mean companies throughout the country are losing billions of dollars by paying men more money to do exactly the same job as women. 

It would mean every economist is lying when they research the wage gap and conclude there is no proof of gender discrimination. 

It would also mean you believe there is an invisible oppressive entity of patriarchal men subconsciously forcing women to choose gender studies or sociology over anything credible so when these women leave college, they have no real skills, no career prospects or qualifications except for their degree which resembles a child’s participation certificate. 

Is the wage gap real? Only if you’re a gullible idiot who refuses to hold women to the same standard and expectation as men. 

Judith Butler (b. 1956) is a philosopher and theorist who has had a great shaping influence on political philosophy, as well as feminist and queer theory. She is a Professor of Literature at the University of California, Berkeley, and the Hannah Arendt Chair at the European Graduate School.

Some of her most famous and significant works are Gender Trouble and Imitation and Gender Insubordination, which challenge traditional notions of gender and sexuality. She has also brought significant contributions to fields such as cultural and performance studies. She has been active in the LGBT rights movement, and served as Chair of the board of the International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commission.

I’m Going On Record

Feminism is cancer.

Islam needs to be reformed.

There is no justice in “social justice.”

America is amazing & the greatest nation in the world.

There are only two genders.

Vaccines are safe and save lives.

Global warming is real, ongoing, and accelerated by man.

Men are awesome.

Not only is “reverse-racism” a bullshit phrase, but you can be racist against whites, and if you try to deny this, you are being racist.

Facts Trump feelings.

Russia had nothing to do with the American election. Democrats lost by A) Putting Hillary forward and B) shitting on those she needed to win.

Abortion should never be used as a contraceptive, but should still be legal.

The only type of gun regulation that makes any sense is mandated education for safety.

The only types of gun control that makes sense are bipods, tripods, and both hands.

Human guided genetically engineering is not only natural (humans are part of nature, silly and so is what we make), but they are safe.

Veganism/vegetarianism are not only unnatural, but also unhealthy. Humans are omnivorous. We need meat.

America is not only the first nation to fight slavery, but it didn’t have it as long as other nations did, and still do.

Saying or writing “POC” or “Person(s) of Color” is no different than writing “Colored People.”

Having dysphoria doesn’t make you transgender, actually transitioning does. At the same time, not having dysphoria, does also does not make you trans.

There are only three sexualities.

When someone says being gay, bi, or trans means you’re abnormal, they are not saying that it is wrong, they’re saying it is not the average. 

90% of the human population is straight and 99% of the human population is cis. The means “heteronormative” is typical. 

Bitching about Hollywood casting 99.9 percent of its characters as straight and white, but ignoring Bollywood for casting 99.9% of it’s characters for being straight and Indian is hypocritical. 

 If you want more non-whites and non-straights in your entertainment, make your own. No one is under any obligation to make things to fit your ideals.

Whining about being offended simply says, “I can’t control my own emotions. You must do it for me.”

Evidence trumps feelings.

“Organic” is a marketing gimmick.

Tossing “Big” in front of something in an attempt to demonise it tells everyone you don’t really have any evidence of your claims, and so you’re relying on emotion to push your (usually) bullshit agenda.

Solar, wind, coal, oil, natural gas and hydro generators are more harmful to the environment than what you might think. The cheapest, cleanest, safest and most cost efficient type of power generation is nuclear.

Gender studies, and other liberal arts degrees are a waste of time and money.

And finally, anyone can join the so-called “One percent.” The first step to doing so is to change how you think.