If you are upset, angry or uncomfortable with me over the clothes I choose to wear…
I am not the one who needs to change.
But perhaps you need to reevaluate your feelings and why my personal style is contributing to your own dissatisfaction or discomfort.
Do not chastise me because I like to wear skirts and make up.
Do not rebuke my existence because I look damn good in a dress.
Do not reproach me with your concerns over my wardrobe because I do not get dressed for my day with you in mind.
You can berate me as much as you like, but I wont change.
There was a time when I had no choice but to conceal my true self to continue living alongside someone or multiple people. Thankfully, I am past that point in my life.
If you have yet to reach a point in life where you feel 100% free to be yourself, now is the time to figure out how you can change your life in a positive way that allows you such freedoms. For younger individuals, this is the hardest because all you can do is wait it out until you reach an age where your parents can no longer control you and society can’t stop you. I know what that is like, I have been there! Remember, I am only 22 years old! It wasn’t until about 3 years ago when I obtained such freedom for myself.
Never give up on yourself though.
Never forget the person you want to be when you finally get the chance to. I sure didn’t.
From a breakout ‘Thrasher’ part to signing with Nike, how a California girl grew up to be one of the best skaters on the planet
With a shaved head and androgynous look, Baker, 25, is known in skateboarding as much for her outspokenness against the misogyny of the corporate industry – which she has called “a bunch of dudes making decisions and judgments” – as her technical finesse on a board. And both as a queer woman and a person who doesn’t necessarily identify with a traditional view of femininity, she’s brought a rebellious approach to a sport that has largely become accepted by the mainstream, becoming one of skateboarding’s youngest outsiders. Yet with a kind manner and an infectious sense of humor, Baker’s got a focus and drive that make her a beloved figure within the scene. “She’s a ball of joy, so much fun to be around,” says Vanessa Torres, her teammate on Meow skateboards. “Her talent is undeniable.”
And a big shoutout to all my a-spec pals, you are valid! Even if you are questioning, or unsure if you count, you are amazing, awesome, fantastic, fabulous, magnific, marvelous, and wonderful! Don’t stop being yourself!