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So I was tagged by my buddy unafraidcas (go follow her she’s awesome) to do the 6 selfies thingy. ….here. Have my gay face. Since I don’t have many friends on here I’m going to tag at random & my faves ! porcelain-buttterfly punk–prxnce dean-bangs-cas-in-the-impala vodkacas mundanecas padalequeen charliebradburyme

uhhhh my mum walked into the room and watched the rest of I Am Cait with me….she was rlly accepting and seemed to be paying a lot of interest to what Cait was saying??? then she asked if i was a boy and i said i was gender non conforming which is the closest i can come to saying im genderless, without her blowing her brains.Then she said how the family is acceptiong of me no matter what and that i can tell her anything. i am so ready to come out as asexual but still a little afraid. its like she knows something is up!!

lazydad replied to your post “I am Cait" - thoughts?”

Agree that keeping the convo going is good, unfortunately, Cait comes across as being shallow & self-serving to the detriment of the community that she has little knowledge of or connection to. She’s a carpetbagger who likes shopping, IMHO.

For another take on Caitlyn Jenner’s current place in the spotlight, here is lazydad‘s response to my post. I do not fully agree, but I think there are some very valid concerns expressed here.

I think one in particular is whether or not a fairly privileged, wealthy, white, conservative later-life transitioner is the face the trans community needs right now. Particularly given that some of the most significant challenges faced by the trans community are the ones faced by the underprivileged, poor or middle class, and trans/gender non-conforming people of color. I am glad there are people calling her on this, but ultimately folks like Janet Mock have (and continue) to do a better job of talking about these topics because they more deeply understand (and have actually experienced) intersectional issues that Cait has not.

I think the real question is after the docuseries is over, what next? Assuming she remains in the spotlight, which I expect will happen, I hope she will be thoughtful in how she continues to use that prominence. We will see what happens.

‘Caring For Gender Non-Conforming Young People’

http://www.nlmscontent.nesc.nhs.uk/sabp/gv/

This is a link to an interactive page that I found through the NHS website. It is aimed at the teachers, parents, guardians, carers etc of gender non-conforming young people- including non binary people.

It discusses the importance of being supportive, the respectful use of preferred pronouns and names, the value of advocacy, the rights of gender non-conforming young people, and includes interviews from trans men, trans women, and non-binary trans people. Additionally, it puts emphasis on self-identification and communication.

This could potentially be a good resource to have ready if you plan on coming out, if you feel it helps explain and describe your experience. 

- Mod B

I don’t know if anyone else has noticed this but Facebook now gives the option of preferred pronouns and a gender other than male/female!
This is progress, it may be small, but the world is accepting non-binary, gender non-conforming people more and more every day!
Stay positive.

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Portraits of Women Living as Men to Escape Oppression in the Balkans

Photography by Jill Peters

‘Sworn Virgin’ is the term given to a biological female in the Balkans who is chosen to take on the social identity of a man for life. Dating back hundreds of years, this was necessary in societies that lived within tribal clans, followed the Kanun, an archaic code of law, and maintained an oppressive rule over the female gender. The Kanun states that women are considered to be the property of their husbands. The freedom to vote, drive, conduct business, earn money, drink, smoke, swear, own a gun or wear pants was traditionally the exclusive province of men.

As an alternative, becoming a  Sworn Virgin, or ‘burnesha’, elevated a woman to the status of a man and granted her all the rights and privileges of the male population. In order to manifest the transition such a woman cut her hair, donned male clothing and sometimes even changed her name. Male gestures and swaggers were practiced until they became second nature. Most importantly of all, she took a vow of celibacy to remain chaste for life. This practice continues today but as modernization inches toward the small villages nestled in the Alps, this archaic tradition is increasingly seen as obsolete. Only a few aging Sworn Virgins remain.—Jill Peters

via Feature Shoot

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What is gender?

Is it the clothes I wear?
Is it the way I walk and talk?
Is it determined by my birth certificate?

No.

Gender is an identity, a method of relating.
But relating to what exactly?

Most would say that gender is a method of relating to the outside world or
“fitting in” if you will.

Personally I understand gender identity as a method of relating with myself. A way of understanding my past, living in the present and plans for the future.

So ask yourself, do you truly identify with your choice of gender identity, or are you just fitting in? Then ask yourself, what’s more important?

Xoxo
-Elliott ALEXZANDER

P.S. Did you know the House launched its campaign for GENDER FLUX? Be sure to check it out! Grab yourself one of these t-shirts too, like the one I am wearing! GENDERFLUX.COM

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Hey guys I have top surgery in 4.5 months and I’m getting close and closer to having all my funds for surgery ($5,800)
I still need about $2500 more until i have reached my goal. With that being said if you wanted to donate and help me get top surgery go onto http://www.flavnt.com and snatch a great looking tee or sweater and while at checkout write “CADEN” in the “notes” section so 15% of your purchase can get donated to my top surgery! Your support and donations mean so much to me and I thank everyone who has stuck by my side, much love 💙👍✌️

I really just wanna hug all the young GNC girls out there and let them know it’s gonna be ok. You don’t have to be what everybody else wants you to be. You are awesome just as you are. It’s awesome that you have short hair and don’t wear make-up and you’d rather play sports or build things than go shopping and talk about boys. Being GNC doesn’t make you manly. You are still a young woman, and you are awesome. Take up space, speak your mind, don’t ever back down. You have absolutely nothing to apologize for. 

So, I’ve been working all quarter as one of the coordinators for a trans* and gender non-conforming student group on my campus.
We’ve been doing a lot of education and awareness this quarter for this “trial run” of gender neutral bathrooms, where if we get enough positive feedback this quarter, after a hearing with the board of facilities, we can hopefully make the gender neutral bathrooms permanent.
I just wanted to share this because, up until a few days ago, the signs for the bathrooms were just paper that said ‘gender neutral’ taped over the 'male/female’ symbols. But a few days ago, these more permanent signs got put up, and I’m so excited. It’s not completely official yet, but it’s so close! 
The sign-age is still problematic in my opinion, but it’s a step in the right direction! It’s so great to see all our work paying off. I really can’t wait 'til these are a sure thing :]

Watch on skwagger.tumblr.com

ATTENTION TRANS/QUEER PEOPLE AND THEIR ALLIES:

As my top surgery approaches, I have realized just how lucky I am to soon be comfortable in my body. My partner and I have started this campaign to fund trans and gender non-conforming people with their transitions and journies to finding themselves. Our one goal is to give back to the community! 75% of proceeds will be put into a fund to help those who are unable to afford packers, binders, bras, makeup, or whatever it may be!

In the near future we are also looking to launch a clothing line that will fund transitions for trans individuals. The other 25% of profits from this campaign will go to starting that line up! Thus, 100% of proceeds will be towards funding and supporting trans and non-binary folks! YOUR HELP IS ESSENTIAL! Can’t afford to donate and buy a shirt or hoodie? PLEASE, please, share this post! We love you all! Thank you!

http://teespring.com/standfortranslives

P.S. - HOODIES ARE ONLY $25!

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The right kind of balance.

Before discovering that I was gender fluid, I had all of these emotions that I knew were valid, but I didn’t exactly know what to call them or how to describe them. Being able to describe my gender identity comfortably was a huge milestone for me. However, even after this self discovery, I found myself left with more emotions that I needed answers and explanations for.

I knew I was gender fluid, but what did this mean for my personal style?
Should it mean anything, or effect my personal style? How do I avoid feeling uncomfortable with myself? What are my boundaries with style? Do I need boundaries?

… These are all valid questions I had about myself, for myself.

I have been blogging for 2+ years and I have tried A LOT of different styles. What I realize now is that I was never searching for the perfect dress or the perfect pair of shoes. I have been searching for ways to understand my gender expression all along.

Now, thanks to HRT, a spring cleaning of my wardrobe and some time to understand all the different aspects of my gender expression…
I am starting to find balance.
I will always blog about fashion and explore new way’s to dress myself, but I can confidently say that I feel beautiful in my own sense of the word. I am no longer searching for an explanation to how I feel or why I feel that way in terms of my gender identity and gender expression.

I think each and every person deserves the opportunity to discover themselves in the same kind of ways. But in our society, the binary theory of gender deteriorates the notion that this kind of self discovery is important. In my opinion, being able to discover and understand yourself can save your life. Countless statistics state that people who identify outside of the gender binary are more likely to take their own lives due to pressure by society to conform their gender, especially their gender expression.

Feeling like you have the freedom to represent yourself in a way that truly suits who you are can literally be the difference between life and death for some individuals.

I think a binary understanding of gender can be blamed for so many of the lives lost to suicide. I feel that’s why a deeper look into personal growth and understanding is NECESSARY for society.
Especially societies children.

Xoxo
-Elliott Alexzander


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Xoxo

I would totally set up an etsy store where I would sell custom t-shirts with different gender identities written on them using fabric paint or tie dyed with the gender’s flag colours or with little sayings on it like ’t boy’ or ‘ace’ or 'here and queer’ bc I would love to make shirts like that and sell them to make money for my top surgery but I feel like no one would want to buy them

Historically, word of mouth has been the best resource in finding safe healthcare.

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