Trauma and Transness: Why I Didn't 'Always Know' I Was Transgender
It’s impossible to talk about my trans identity without talking about my struggles with mental illness.

There are a number of transgender people who have known, from a very young age, that they were a gender other than the one they were assigned at birth. Their stories are encouraging, interesting, and important. Their stories are also not mine.

๐Ÿ’™๐ŸฐI love it when people ask me what I identify as.๐Ÿฐ๐Ÿ’™

It makes me feel good, they are honestly wanting to know, and are genuinely interested. For those of you who don’t know I am bigender (although I don’t like referring to myself as such, I refer to myself as androgynous, because I feel comfortable with that term.) I identify as both a gay male, and a straight female. I am also what people would call “traditionally feminine”. Although I have been known to dabble in things that people would otherwise consider “traditionally masculine”, but that is very rare for me. In otherwords….

Originally posted by troyesboyfriend

If someone tries to cram you or your gender identity into that tiny box labeled “Norm” for their own comfort and ignorance, bust the HELL outta that thing and show them WHO YOU ARE!!!

Trans Activists, Don’t Throw Mad People Under The Bus!
Ed. note: This post was originally published on the Community site. This article was written in collaboration with mad pride activist and SSHRC postdoctoral fellow Jijian Voronka.

Recently, the Canadian Centre for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH) in Toronto shut down its Child Youth and Family Gender Identity Clinic (GIC), fired its head, the prestigious and highly controversial Dr. Kenneth Zucker, and removed him from his post as Psychologist-in-Chief of CAMH. Critics of the GIC have argued that its methods were tantamount to anti-trans reparative or conversion therapy, an approach which has long been discredited for gay people. CAMH denies this, but it does accept, in more muted language, that the GIC’s activities were not aligned with current and emerging best practice in the field.

We should be clear that the closure of the GIC is a major victory, not just within Canada, but worldwide, for campaigners against the dominion psychiatrists and psychologists assert over trans people’s lives, a dominion they enforce by gatekeeping access to hormones, surgery and often legal name and gender changes, as well as by leveraging the gullibility or prejudice of cisgender parents.


"Fat FTM" on Facebook
"A closed Facebook group for bigger, chubby, cubs, bears, fat, fluffy, or however you personally identify your body. It is simply named “FAT FTM” both for easy search ability and to embrace a a word we sometimes get scared by."

A note from the creator:

Hey guys, just wanted to share a new group on Facebook that we started (130+ members curently). It’s a group for bigger, chubby, cubs, bears, fat, fluffy, or however you personally identify your body. It is simply named “FAT FTM” both for easy search ability and to embrace a a word we sometimes get scared by. This is a CLOSED group (your friends can’t see what you post, and it isn’t listed on your profile). It is a body POSITIVITY group that is full of guys of varying ages and body types some of which are happy where they are, some who have lost significant weight, and some who are planning on losing weight. All transguys are invited. We may be less represented in the community, but do not let that discourage you; you are amazing just the way you are!”

Soooo, I wanted to do a comparison like this for a long while. Unfortunately, I haven’t been able to, however, yesterday I took a selfie that had an almost identical pose and facial expression to a selfie I took Almost 4 years ago. It was back in my rather pissed off days, as you can no doubt see. Looking at the two pictures right next to each other shows how subtle changes can really do a lot when transitioning. One feature that really jumps out at me are my eyes, they look a lot bigger. No doubt the eyeliner helps, but my hooded eyes are less hooded now as the fat in my face has moved around. My cheeks and chin/jaw have reshaped a bit too, but I feel my nose has hand a big change like my eyes. It’s a lot thinner, and almost looks perkier(?) maybe. Before HRT, my nose was very thick and somewhat hooked downward, unlike now with it being thinner and a little perky. I’ve rambled enough. What do you all think? Pretty amazing, right? :) HRT is Magic!

Important PSA

All genders are valid. Yes even the “”weird”” ones. Stargender? Valid. Nan0gender? Totally valid. Plantgender? If that’s how you experience your gender, hell yeah its valid. 

Any pronouns you wanna use for yourself in relationship to that gender is valid too. he/him for demigirl? If thats what you wanna do. Vi/voi/vim for your cool space gender? Hell yeah. name-self pronouns? Gimie a conjugation chart and I’ll start using them for you right away.

All genders and all pronouns are valid.

New York City unveils new rules on gender discrimination
New York City’s human rights commission is rolling out new enforcement guidelines that could lead to fines for business owners, landlords and employers who discriminate against people based on their perceived gender identity.

The new guidelines, to be released by New York City’s Commission on Human Rights on Monday afternoon, are aimed at making it clear that the city’s gender discrimination law also applies to discrimination against people who identify as transgender and those who consider themselves gender non-conforming. The guidelines were provided to The Associated Press ahead of the official release.

“Far too often, transgender and gender non-conforming individuals suffer discrimination, harassment and violence on a scale many cannot imagine,” said Carmelyn P. Malalis, New York City’s Human Rights Commissioner. “New York City does not and will not tolerate discrimination on the basis of gender identity or gender expression.”

Those caught violating the city’s human rights law could be fined up to $250,000 if officials can prove the violations were based on willful or malicious conduct. Under the city’s human rights law, it is illegal to treat someone “less well than others” because of their gender. It also is unlawful for an employer to refuse to hire or promote people who identify as transgender and illegal to fire or give different work assignment or benefits to someone because of their gender.

The guidelines also warn that businesses cannot enforce rules about dress codes, uniforms or grooming standards that are different because of sex or gender. For example, officials said it is illegal to require employees of one gender to wear a uniform or to require men to wear ties in order to dine at a restaurant.

Haruhi Fujioka (Ouran High School Host Club) is agender

(English subtitles for the original Japanese)
“You’re a girl?”
“Biologically, yes. Senpai, if you think of me as a boy, then that’s okay with me, too. My feeling is that any awareness of being a boy or a girl falls lower than that of being a person.”

(English dub)
“So, you’re a girl?”
“Biologically speaking, yeah. Listen, senpai, I don’t really care whether you guys recognize me as a boy or a girl. In my opinion, it’s more important for a person to be recognized for who they are rather than what sex they are.”

Not so friendly reminder:

Just because something isn’t important to you doesn’t mean it’s not important. If you’re privileged enough to not care about your gender/sexuality/anything else, fine, you’re lucky. That doesn’t mean everyone else has your privilege.

My gender matters to me. My sexuality is important to me. And if you care about me, those things should matter to you.

Stop telling me I shouldn’t care about things that affect my life.

All New York City single occupancy bathrooms now required to be gender neutral
New York City Mayor Bill de Blasio’s administration will use a 2002 civil rights law to accommodate transgender people in several areas.

New York City Mayor Bill de Blasio’s administration issued a report last week explaining how they will interpret a 2002 civil rights law to accommodate transgender people. The New York Commission on Human Rights document explains the way the city will enforce the law. One of the biggest changes listed is the requirement that all single occupancy bathrooms be clearly marked as gender neutral. Several other cities have similar bans on sex segregated restrooms unless they are meant for multiple people at a time.

The law explicitly states that it is illegal to deny a transgender person access to bathrooms, locker rooms, and other single-sex facilities. It also requires police, employers, and landlords to use a person’s pronoun and name of choice regardless of the name and gender marker on their identification.

“The [New York Civil Rights Law] requires that individuals be permitted to use single-sex facilities, such as bathrooms or locker rooms, and participate in single-sex programs, consistent with their gender, regardless of their sex assigned at birth, anatomy, medical history, appearance, or the sex indicated on their identification,” the document reads. “The law does not require entities to make existing bathrooms all-gender or construct additional restrooms. Covered entities [such as landlords, city agencies, and employees] that have single-occupancy restrooms should make clear that they can be used by people of all genders.”

“Some people, including, for example, customers, other program participants, tenants, or employees, may object to sharing a facility or participating in a program with a transgender or gender non-conforming person. Such objections are not a lawful reason to deny access to that transgender or gender non-conforming individual.”

The entire document is available for download online [pdf].