gender equality is a myth / / @Jaded_culture

Bisexual Myth 6

Myth: Bisexuals love threesomes

Fact: Just because you know someone that is bisexual, that does not mean you have hit the holy grail of threesomes. Bisexuals are often thought of eager or willing to participate in threesomes since they are potentially attracted to individuals of different gender identities. People (hetero cis-gendered men) have turned an occasionally delightful and exciting experience into a nagging bombardment of requests for threesomes just because the other person is Bi … they basically dehumanize them in this process too.

So no, not every bisexual wants to have a threesome. Nor do they want to be treated as the one-stop, quick shop of threesomes that you can just hit up when you want. / /@jaded_culture

Proof that “rape culture” is a feminist myth

The nation’s largest and most influential anti-sexual-violence organization is rejecting the idea that culture - as opposed to the actions of individuals - is responsible for rape.

“Rape is as American as apple pie,” says blogger Jessica Valenti. She and her sisters-in-arms describe our society as a “rape culture” where violence against women is so normal, it’s almost invisible. Films, magazines, fashion, books, music, humor, even Barbie - according to the feminist activists - cooperate in conveying the message that women are there to be used, abused and exploited. Recently, rape-culture theory has migrated from the lonely corners of the feminist blogosphere into the mainstream. The White House asserted that we need to combat campus rape by “[changing] a culture of passivity and tolerance in this country, which too often allows this type of violence to persist.”

Tolerance for rape? Rape is a horrific crime, and rapists are despised and put in prison. We have strict laws that Americans want to see enforced. Though rape is certainly a serious problem, there’s no evidence that it’s considered a cultural norm. Twenty-first century America does not have a rape culture; what we have is an out-of-control lobby leading the public and our educational and political leaders down the wrong path. Rape-culture theory is doing little to help victims, but its power to poison the minds of young women and lead to hostile environments for innocent males is immense.

On college campuses, obsession with eliminating “rape culture” has led to censorship and infantile hysteria. At Boston University, student activists launched a petition demanding the cancellation of a Robin Thicke concert because the lyrics of his hit song “Blurred Lines” allegedly celebrate “systemic patriarchy and sexual oppression.” (The lyrics may not exactly be pleasant to many women, but song lyrics don’t turn men into rapists. Yet, ludicrously, the song was banned at more than 20 British universities.) Activists at Wellesley recently demanded that administrators remove a statue of a sleepwalking man: The image of a male in his underwear could “trigger” memories of sexual assault for victims. At Harvard Law School, feminist students demanded that their professors must not teach any laws concerning rape or sexual assault. Works such as The Great Gatsby, Metamorphoses and Mrs Dalloway have all been banned from university reading lists simply because some self-absorbed students find the content emotionally challenging. 

Meanwhile, a growing number of young men find themselves accused of rape, named publicly and brought before campus judicial panels informed by rape-culture theory. In such kangaroo courts, due process is practically nonexistent: guilty because accused. They are not allowed to know who has made the accusation against them, they are not entitled to any defense. Yet many of these cases eventually turn out to prove that the male student is innocent but by then it is too late, his life has already been ruined and he will continue to face the stigma of a rapist. 

Rape-culture theorists dismiss critics who bring up examples of hysteria and false accusations as “rape denialists” and “rape apologists.” To even suggest that false accusations occur, according to feminists, is to engage in “victim blaming.” But now, rape culturalists are confronting a formidable critic that even they will find hard to dismiss.

RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) is America’s largest and most influential anti-sexual-violence organization. It’s the leading voice for sexual-assault victim advocacy. Indeed, rape-culture activists routinely cite the authority of RAINN to make their case. But in RAINN’s recent recommendations to the White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault, it repudiates the rhetoric of the anti–“rape culture” movement:

In the last few years, there has been an unfortunate trend towards blaming “rape culture” for the extensive problem of sexual violence on campus. While it is helpful to point out the systemic barriers to addressing the problem, it is important not to lose sight of a simple fact: Rape is caused not by cultural factors but by the conscious decisions, of a small percentage of the community, to commit a violent crime.

RAINN urges the White House to “remain focused on the true cause of the problem” and suggests a three-pronged approach for combating rape: empowering community members through bystander intervention education, using “risk-reduction messaging” to encourage students to increase their personal safety and promoting clearer education on “where the ‘consent line’ is.” It also asserts that we should treat rape like the serious crime it is by giving power to trained law enforcement rather than internal campus judicial boards.

RAINN is especially critical of the idea that we need to focus on teaching men not to rape - the hallmark of feminist activism. Since rape exists because our culture condones and normalizes it, feminists say, we can end the epidemic of sexual violence only by teaching boys not to rape.

No one would deny that we should teach boys to respect women. But by and large, this is already happening. By the time men reach college, RAINN explains, “most students have been exposed to 18 years of prevention messages, in one form or another.” The vast majority of men absorb these messages and view rape as the horrific crime that it is. So efforts to address rape need to focus on the very small portion of the population that “has proven itself immune to years of prevention messages.” They should not vilify the average guy.

By blaming so-called rape culture, we implicate all men in a social atrocity, trivialize the experiences of survivors, and deflect blame from the rapists truly responsible for sexual violence. RAINN explains that the trend of focusing on rape culture “has the paradoxical effect of making it harder to stop sexual violence, since it removes the focus from the individual at fault, and seemingly mitigates personal responsibility for his or her own actions.”

Moral panic over “rape culture” helps no one - least of all, survivors of sexual assault. College leaders, women’s groups and the White House have a choice. They can side with the thought police of the feminist blogosphere who are declaring war on music, magazines, statues and children’s dolls. Or they can listen to the sane counsel of RAINN, as they don’t listen to anyone else.

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