gender as a spectrum

Reasons fat/chubby boys are gr8:

  • There’s no such thing as a bad hug
  • Big belly = Big pillow
  • Snuggling is really soft and warm
  • Pudge of all quantities is cute as fuck
  • Did I mention belly pillow
  • Stretch marks, which are beautiful and strong <3
  • Good at being both the big spoon or little spoon
  • BIG BELLY
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Wardrobe.

If you are upset, angry or uncomfortable with me over the clothes I choose to wear…

I am not the one who needs to change. But perhaps you need to reevaluate your feelings and why my personal style is contributing to your own dissatisfaction or discomfort.

Do not chastise me because I like to wear skirts and make up.
Do not rebuke my existence because I look damn good in a dress.
Do not reproach me with your concerns over my wardrobe because I do not get dressed for my day with you in mind.

You can berate me as much as you like, but I wont change.
There was a time when I had no choice but to conceal my true self to continue living alongside someone or multiple people. Thankfully, I am past that point in my life.

If you have yet to reach a point in life where you feel 100% free to be yourself, now is the time to figure out how you can change your life in a positive way that allows you such freedoms. For younger individuals, this is the hardest because all you can do is wait it out until you reach an age where your parents can no longer control you and society can’t stop you. I know what that is like, I have been there! Remember, I am only 22 years old! It wasn’t until about 3 years ago when I obtained such freedom for myself.

Never give up on yourself though.
Never forget the person you want to be when you finally get the chance to.
I sure didn’t.

Xoxo
-Elliott Alexzander

Can I just say

THAT THESE

ARE NOT CHARACTERISTICS OF A GIRL

PRESENTATION DOES NOT EQUAL GENDER IDENTITY

LET MEN BE “FEMININE”

LET MEN BE BEAUTIFUL

LET MEN BE MEN

passive aggressive reminder that more than two genders and transgender people have existed for millennia

reminder that colonialism forced native societies to revert back to their gender assigned at birth or be killed

reminder that there has been Mahu in Hawai’i until it was forcefully taken and colonized by white america

reminder that there were Hijra in South Asia until britain colonized it and forced every Hijra person into concentration camps the same time the german holocaust was happening

reminder that We’Wha was lhamana who served as an Ambassador to the Zuni people in 1886 to Grover Cleveland and was arrested for witch craft

reminder that in ancient Egypt there were people who were transgender and Egyptologists say that it was just people who were “buried wrong”

reminder that there are thousands of societies and cultures lost because of white colonization and we will never hear their stories

reminder that when this isnt taught in school it erases the history of people of color and queer people 

The Cis: there are only two genders! read a 5th grade biology text book!

scientists: actually both sex and gender exist on a spectrum and as a rule almost nothing in the universe is binary

The Cis:

GENDER IS CONFUSING

SEXUALITY IS CONFUSING

FEELINGS ARE CONFUSING

EVERYTHING IS CONFUSING

Unpopular Opinion: Don’t play gate-keeper for the LGBTQIA+ community. No one person can decide who is or isn’t allowed to be a part of it. Once you start excluding people, you start creating discrimination within a group that has enough outside discrimination. “No straight people” excludes heterosexual trans people. “No cishet people” excludes intersex individuals who identify as cisgender and heterosexual. We don’t win by excluding people. No one in the LGBTQIA+ community deserves to be excluded because of bad wording or lack of empathy by other community members.

Huffington Post’s definition of queer, just in case you thought it still meant anything (source).

Queer includes all us queer folks across the spectrum of sexuality, gender, physical ability, presentation, and anatomical gloriousness. But it isn’t only us. Because truth is, in the current political climate, if you aren’t a straight, white, patriarchy-loving religious zealot, you’re queer too.

Hey to all my NB siblings! 

I’m planning an illustrated zine project exploring and celebrating nonbinary genders. I’d love to include the voices of as many NB people as I can gather- I want to hear about your gender, your experiences, and what being nonbinary means to you! I’d also love to draw some of you, because you’re all beautiful.

I’m looking for submissions of anything from a couple of sentences to about 500 words on what being nonbinary means to you, your gender identity, your experiences, what you love about being nonbinary, and anything else you want to share! And if you’d like a little sketch portrait of yourself included along with your words, attach a selfie and I can draw you. 

Some clarification- I’m not looking for art submissions at the moment, but I’ve had lots of interest from awesome artists so I might either change the framework of the book to see if I can accommodate guest art, or try and organise an anthology of art by NB artists in future!

If you’re interested in contributing a few words and/or having your portrait included, anonymously or otherwise, please contact me here or at jayrsimpson@gmail.com. I won’t include anything in the zine without your consent, and I’ll check with you before it’s printed! I’m hoping to be able to send all contributors a PDF copy. 

Currently I’m planning to have the zine finished by September! More info on the content and some sample spreads coming soon.


Can’t wait to hear from you all! Keep being wonderful xxx