gender as a spectrum

anonymous asked:

The funny thing about all those fake genders is the fact that I, a straight male, could identify with many of them if I truly believed all of them would be considered genders or sexualities. Except I do not believe feelings = gender. It just shows to me that people apparently feel a deep need to be oppressed or something, just so they can fit in on Tumblr.

Well, I’m not a big fan of genders that are adjective/noun based (e.g., autismgender), but I do believe that genders that derive from the male/female spectrum of things are all valid.

I know it’s annoying to hear people talk about all these “made up genders” but try not to let that shut your mind completely to new views on things.

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Wardrobe.

If you are upset, angry or uncomfortable with me over the clothes I choose to wear…

I am not the one who needs to change. But perhaps you need to reevaluate your feelings and why my personal style is contributing to your own dissatisfaction or discomfort.

Do not chastise me because I like to wear skirts and make up.
Do not rebuke my existence because I look damn good in a dress.
Do not reproach me with your concerns over my wardrobe because I do not get dressed for my day with you in mind.

You can berate me as much as you like, but I wont change.
There was a time when I had no choice but to conceal my true self to continue living alongside someone or multiple people. Thankfully, I am past that point in my life.

If you have yet to reach a point in life where you feel 100% free to be yourself, now is the time to figure out how you can change your life in a positive way that allows you such freedoms. For younger individuals, this is the hardest because all you can do is wait it out until you reach an age where your parents can no longer control you and society can’t stop you. I know what that is like, I have been there! Remember, I am only 22 years old! It wasn’t until about 3 years ago when I obtained such freedom for myself.

Never give up on yourself though.
Never forget the person you want to be when you finally get the chance to.
I sure didn’t.

Xoxo
-Elliott Alexzander

Shoutouts to all the genderfluid people, glittering stars

Shoutouts to all the aces and aros and agendered people, absolutely amazing and angelic

Shoutouts to all the pan people, perfectly phantasmagorical

Shoutouts to all the demi people, definitely dreamy

Shoutouts to all the people who can’t figure out what they are yet, you’re cool too, so very cool, unlimitedly cool

reading articles about transgender issues for video research and hOLY shITTT does the media not know how to talk about trans issues

- not all trans people are “born in the wrong body”

- trans people don’t identify as the “opposite gender” because there is no opposite gender because gender is a spectrum and not a binary

- trans women are not “biologically male” and trans men are not “biologically female” the term you’re looking for is assigned male at birth (AMAB) or assigned female at birth (AFAB)

- use a person’s correct pronouns…. always…. even if talking about them pre-transition

- not all trans people want to have all the surgeries under the sun and that’s okay, having surgery is not a qualification for being trans

- the parents did not lose a daughter and gain a son. they never had a daughter to begin with (or vice versa)

- probably more but im mad and that’s what i’ve noticed after reading only like 3 articles jfc

You are allowed to correct people on your pronouns and your name - no matter how they react, no matter all the eye rolls and sighs and slip ups, you’re valid. You are allowed to correct and educate people on the gender spectrum, but you’re also allowed to decline comment -  your identity doesn’t make you a walking talking information point. You are allowed to tell people what they’re saying or doing is offensive to you. You are allowed to express your existence in this binary centric world, and I’m proud of you for doing so.

Huffington Post’s definition of queer, just in case you thought it still meant anything (source).

Queer includes all us queer folks across the spectrum of sexuality, gender, physical ability, presentation, and anatomical gloriousness. But it isn’t only us. Because truth is, in the current political climate, if you aren’t a straight, white, patriarchy-loving religious zealot, you’re queer too.

Reasons Yuuri Katsuki is the most relatable anime character ever

• Deals with an anxiety disorder

• Chronically low self-esteem

• Completely inept at socializing with people

• Doesn’t realize when people are flirting with him or are trying to be his friend

• Confused about gender roles

• Romantically inexperienced bi

• Probably on the aroace spectrum

• When asked to think about sexual pleasure his mind goes directly to food

• No sense of fashion

• No such thing as a casual hobby; his interests consume his entire life

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Yurio Plisetsky, прима-балерина.

This is how I imagine him.

“Both men and women should feel free to be strong. It is time that we all perceive gender on a spectrum not as two opposing sets of ideals”, by Emma Watson.

I want to use this drawing to say a few things I’ve been thinking lately. I don’t care if it ends up with 1 note or more, I just want to rant about it. I hope I won’t offend anyone with my lack of english and knowledge. 

  • Boys can wear make up. And skirts. Boys can change their hair, use it long or short. Boys can have no hair too. Boys won’t be less boys for that. 
  • When I draw I don’t think about genders, about sexuality, about anything to be honest. When I draw I think about making people happy, it makes me happy when someone smiles what I did because ehy maybe they are having a bad day and at least I made them 1% happier. I’m aware my art is not the best so if you dislike it, it’s okay. If you have any critic my ask is full open I’ll hear you and thank you for pasing by (for real). But if you dislike it because you thought that was a girl and become aware it’s actually a boy and you find it wrong or offensive, then Jeez, I have no words man, more than: I can’t believe it, what kind of civilization is this?
  • I don’t know what I am, I don’t care what I am but, from the bottom of my heart. I’m really sorry some of you are living hell because of this fucking nonsense world, 
  • You are beautiful, trust me. 
  • You are strong. You will be fine. And,
  • you are not alone.