hey so i’ve totally been ghosting on this account but important point i need to make real quick:
if you’re involved in drag (whether you’re a cis mlm or a trans mlm, because a huge part of drag culture is gbp men) it’s on you to:
not perpetuate racism in the drag community (blackface, racist caricatures, etc)
not perpetuate transmisogyny in the drag community (using slurs, calling yourself a “tr*p”, “clocking” trans women or commenting on their ability to conform to a cisnormative society by “passing”)
hold your peers in the drag community responsible for their actions. if your friend’s being racist or transmisogynistic, you absolutely 100% should call them out on it if you’re physically safe/mentally able.
no, being scared of upsetting your friend is not a legitimate reason to not do so, because trans women and poc are being actively hurt by transmisogyny and racism (or the intersections thereof) in current drag culture.
i get you might be scared, but it’s your responsibility as you’re in a place of privilege to protect trans women, people of color, and especially trans women of color
drag queens and drag culture has, in the past, been a huge part of the lgbt movement, and a huge way for people to defy gender norms, or for trans women to comfortably experiment with femininity, but drag culture nowadays is turning into a fucking shithole
if you’re involved with drag and it makes you happy, hell yeah, go for it!!!
however, it is your responsibility to actively be anti-racist and anti-transmisogynistic in your drag, and to educate others who may be incorporating racist or transphobic elements into their performance.
drag should be fun and safe for everybody. please do the best you can to transform drag culture back into the fun, great, radical thing it should be and has been in the past
actually no it’s not don’t ask mlm about who tops and who bottoms, it’s don’t talk about it AT ALL. discussing who tops and who bottoms is not okay and fandom always reverts to stereotypes and it’s fucking gross. not to mention for the majority of gbp guys that is NOT how our experience works so just stop doing it and especially don’t bring that shit near us because we’re tired
just do not come near us at all if you’re going to try and tell us you have a preference for reading a sexual experience you do not take part in. this is not your experience and i don’t care about your preferences